How to understand that a man's boss likes you?

It's hard to hide your feelings in the office. People are around you all day long and show their affection in one way or another. Even men, whom belonging to the strong half of humanity obliges to be restrained, secretive and silent, still declassify themselves with certain actions, words and behavior. Authoritative leaders vested with office power are no exception. How can you tell if your male boss likes you? Special signals will definitely tell you about this. You can recognize them if you are a little more attentive to what is happening around you. And I’ll give you a little hint on where to look.

Intuition and its absence

Intuition is a voice from the unconscious, an incomprehensible feeling that pushes you in the direction of certain actions. Perhaps when a woman is trying to determine whether a man who is her boss likes her, intuition will serve as a good clue. It helps to determine the sympathy of another without unnecessary words and actions on his part: these are invisible sparks flying between you, the attractive energy of a person, which evokes pleasant emotions and sensations. This is a certain space that only appears when you are nearby.

But you should be careful, because you can easily confuse your inner voice with your own blinding desire to be close to someone who touched the strings of your soul. Rippling hormones and the euphoria of falling in love sometimes create mirages, and you see something that is not there. The man showed gallantry and opened the door for you, and you took it as a marriage proposal, wanting it yourself. Compliments from him also do not necessarily indicate that he is in love: it is quite possible that a man behaves this way in the presence of any woman, simply trying to be polite.

Flirting

What does it mean if your boss flirts with you? On the one hand, this allows you to find out that he cares: he really likes you. No man will waste himself in front of a girl who has absolutely no interest in him. But it's also worth paying attention to how he behaves towards other women in the work environment and outside of it. If the behavior of the alpha male does not change, he flirts with almost all the representatives of the fair half - before you is a hero-lover who amuses his vanity by flirting with every young lady he likes.

Whether he flirts only with you or with everyone in turn - he likes you in any case. But it is impossible to talk about the seriousness of his sympathy and long-term relationships in the second situation.

Showing sympathy depending on the type of temperament

However, a man’s demonstration of interest depends on his psychotype:

The choleric person will be happy to help with work, showing feelings with a bit of assertiveness, but the development of events will happen very slowly. He will not show violent emotions; he will constantly monitor the situation around the object of sympathy.
The phlegmatic will demonstrate his special attitude with the help of secret glances and sighs. He will choose a way to be closer to himself, becoming his best friend and assistant, but he is unlikely to admit his tender feelings or will not do so soon.
A sanguine person with an active lifestyle will prefer movement. A sign of his sympathy is cute signs of attention, childishness. He will constantly try to make the girl he likes laugh. Lost from embarrassment, he will speak and gesture even more actively than usual.
A melancholic person will behave as secretly as possible, but his emotions (unnatural facial expressions during a conversation, nervous movements of his fingers, trembling in his voice) will give him away.

Calls or SMS for no specific reason

As a rule, managers are busy people, and even if you have friendly communication, no one will call you every day to inquire about your health or inquire about some minor detail that you can handle on your own. A director in love behaves in such a way as to be closer to the one he cares about. By proximity we mean not only physical distance, but also calls, SMS, emails. These could be work issues that “urgently” need to be clarified on a weekend or later. A man will try to remind himself often under any pretext. And the more ridiculous these excuses are, the higher the likelihood that they want to get closer to you.

Boss constantly gives you one-on-one or late work meetings

There's nothing special about being asked to stay after hours to finish a project together, says employment expert Taylor.

“But if you start to notice that you are the only one left and after-hours meetings last late into the night or the number of individual meetings exceeds the required number, the boss is probably trying to take your communication outside the office space,” the specialist adds.

Keep in mind that if you feel uncomfortable in these meetings but continue to attend, the situation may get worse.

Language of the body

It is possible to read sympathy from a man’s body: speech can be restrained, but bodily manifestations unconsciously convey real attitude. So, what you should pay attention to:

look at how he holds his posture. If his back is straight, his shoulders are straightened, he stretches out his whole body, trying to appear taller - these are clear signs that they want to please you;
hands can also tell a lot: a man who wants to be attractive will constantly adjust his tie, shirt collar, and smooth his hair. And manipulations in the peri-groin area (tugging at belts, pockets, buttons) indicate sexual desire;
to understand a man’s intentions, pay attention to his feet: the feet pointing in your direction will give away a caring boss;
the interested person will try to minimize the distance with the object of interest to him, will strive for “accidental” touches: hold his elbow, hold him by the back or shoulder;
another beacon from the unconscious: the one who wants to be liked will mirror the actions of his counterpart. Straighten your hair and he will do the same to himself, take a certain body position - the man will repeat it. The human psyche is designed in such a way that we are drawn to those with whom we have the most similarities.

What does a look tell you?

To begin with, you can observe which parts of your body his gaze lingers on most often and for the longest time. This method will tell you whether the boss is really showing signs of sympathy.

if the focus is on the chest, this means that the person experiences sexual desire and is prone to short affairs limited to physical contact;
sensitive, romantic, ready to love natures look at lips;
men who look straight into your eyes are interested in your intelligence;
if he is more interested in arms and shoulders, this indicates that the man has not had sexual contact for a long time, or he is very concerned about it;
aggressive, passionate, sadistic individuals look at the neck and décolleté;
female hips are a symbol of childbirth. Therefore, if a man often looks at them, this is a sign that subconsciously he views you as the mother of his children;
does your gaze wander down your legs? Here is a “collector” who chooses a beautiful cover with which he is not ashamed to appear in public.

It is important to note that the signs described above relate only to the male psyche. Women who sympathize fixate on other parts of the body and the interpretation of the female gaze is different.

Indulgences

An indication that a man’s boss likes you will be his more loyal attitude compared to other female employees. A man in love will one way or another try to protect, protect, help, cover up the woman for whom he has feelings. Perhaps you really do a great job and deserve some slack. But if you understand perfectly well that you are an average employee and the director’s concessions are not entirely appropriate, sympathy on his part takes place in your relationship.

Here it is necessary to add the following: if you are not interested in your boss, as in a man, then you should not follow his lead and accept undeserved rewards in the form of praise, bonuses, etc. Otherwise, in the future it may end badly for you: alternatively, having failed to achieve reciprocity, the angry man will begin to take revenge, and you will lose your job. Dotting the I's in time will help avoid unpleasant consequences.

Wife's perspective

No matter how hard a man tries to hide his love, his wife is sensitive to the cooling of her person and the appearance of a rival. How does a married man in love behave?

He becomes attentive to his appearance: body hygiene, perfume, wardrobe items. If a husband, who was not previously known for his love of sports, suddenly begins to regularly visit the gym, this may well be an alarm bell. Does he watch the caloric content of his food and exchange his worn-out T-shirts for stylish things? Got a new haircut? Something is clearly wrong here.
He often stays late at work, works overtime on complex projects, and began going on business trips. If such zeal for work does not in any way affect your family budget, it means that he is either saving money for a pleasant surprise, or you have a new expense item.
He forgets important family dates, avoids holiday feasts, joint weekends, breakfasts, dinners, and also avoids emotional conversations.
He suddenly became generous with gifts, helping around the house and performing those duties that he usually refused. Perhaps he is tormented by guilt for cheating.
Your love bed has become a place to sleep. He is tired, dissatisfied, irritated, wants peace, anything but sex.

If you notice one or two signs, you should be wary, but under no circumstances panic. Perhaps your suspicions are wrong. If all the symptoms are combined into one complete picture, the conclusion suggests itself. It's up to you to decide how you will act in this love triangle.

Making you stand out from others

If a boss shows great trust compared to others, then he is probably secretly in love with a subordinate. He may not show any signs of attention in the form of courtship or flirting, but will initiate into the “holy of holies” of the company, talk about secret information, access to which is closed to ordinary employees. It is possible that he is very uptight and embarrassed to express himself like a man, and this is the only way to get closer. But there is a high probability that you are valued as a professional who can be consulted in the affairs of the enterprise.

Also, a male director who is not indifferent to an employee can take advantage of his position and promise her a higher position in order to somehow arouse her interest in him. Often this trick is pulled off by those who want to achieve sexual contact, after which the woman, as a rule, will not see either a promotion or a marriage proposal. Therefore, you need to be extremely careful and careful here.

Working moments

You can also tell whether a male boss likes you by his behavior at work. The director is endowed with great powers and has the opportunity to express himself in relation to the object of sympathy in a special way. Signals indicating his obvious concern are:

various kinds of concessions: you are not scolded, like others, for being late, you are constantly given the most interesting tasks, and your requests to leave work early are never ignored;
patronage: the manager gradually promotes you, your salary grows, and bonuses are given to you whenever possible; perhaps this is not a tribute to professionalism, but a manifestation of sympathy;
individual requests: sometimes the manager asks you to stay after work or go on a day off; at these moments he definitely pays attention to you: discusses professional issues, perhaps jokes or tries to start a conversation about personal things;
standing out from other subordinates: the boss lets you in on some corporate secrets, asks for advice, talks about the company’s prospects.

Pastime outside of work

An invitation to a cup of tea after work is a fairly common and harmless phenomenon in relations between employees of one company. This statement is true provided that this happens rarely, only business issues are discussed at the meeting, and all other signs of falling in love are absent.

But if you often catch a man’s eye, hear compliments from him, your conversations concern not only work issues, but also everyday life, then an invitation to tea can be interpreted as a desire to get to know each other even better in a pleasant cafe setting.

Sudden change of image

When a person falls in love, he is under the influence of hormones of happiness and pleasure. He sees the world around him in rainbow colors, he wants to be better and more beautiful. One who flies on the wings of love begins to change in appearance: his gait, mood, clothes may change - everything becomes more sexual in nature. The Soviet-era film “Office Romance” demonstrates this perfectly: having fallen in love, a prim and inconspicuous boss turns into a beautiful and attractive woman.

This hint, together with others, will help you understand whether the director likes you: pay attention to whether the man has changed in appearance. Perhaps he began to smell somehow differently, he changed his hairstyle or joined the gym.

Behavior

The behavior of people in love also changes noticeably. The following changes will help you understand whether your male boss likes you:

he becomes incredibly gallant with you - he lets you go ahead, opens the door for you, offers his hand;
when talking to you, his gaze, timbre of voice, pace of speech changes;
messages and calls outside of working hours regarding work matters are not excluded;
next to an attractive colleague, the manager is clearly worried: he fiddles with his tie, rubs his palms, perhaps even blushes and stutters; although in other circumstances this person is an unshakable rock;
the boss strives for contact: he puts his arm around the shoulders or waist at corporate dances, he holds his hand longer than expected when you hand him a folder or a cup of coffee;
a man always tries to keep the woman he likes in his field of vision: he will look for meetings, initiate situations when you need to work together, establish eye contact;
Surely the director will try to start a conversation with the person he is interested in on abstract topics in order to find out the details of her personal life, learn more about your interests and hobbies;
in the eyes of the boss who is “switched on” to her pretty colleague, she is perfection itself; therefore, the director will laugh at her unfunny jokes and call even the employee’s ridiculous ideas interesting, that is, give an emphatically positive reaction to her actions.

Details that clearly indicate the boss’s special interest will not escape an attentive woman. But how to proceed further is another question. Office romances, especially when it comes to a manager, have both pros and cons.

You can learn even more about the secret signals that men send us at my trainings and seminars. This information will help you understand that your male boss likes you, and in general it is better to delve into the nuances of male psychology. Important knowledge will allow you to become alluring and attractive to the most worthy men and build strong, harmonious relationships.

Jealousy

You can find out that your boss is in love by tracking the manifestations of his jealous feelings towards his subordinate. Of course, this will not be so clearly noticeable, because there are no mutual obligations between them, and therefore such emotions are at least inappropriate. You can understand that the director is jealous by certain criteria in his behavior:

he will listen to your telephone conversations, especially if there is a male voice on the other end. Frowning eyebrows and a generally dissatisfied face at such moments are a clear sign of jealousy;
Observe how the director reacts when you interact nicely with employees of the opposite sex. Most likely, in such situations you will receive stern verbal comments;
the manager may “casually” be interested in your marital status or personal life, as if testing the waters for further action.

Gives gifts

He gives you flowers, explaining that he is in a good mood. The cabinets on your bedside table are bursting with chocolate and sweets. During the holidays, you receive the most luxurious gifts from the company and from the manager personally. And even a vacation package from the company, although there have been no such incentives since the day it was founded. Be careful! Your boss may think that by accepting all these gifts, you are agreeing to something more serious than flirting. He will wait for reciprocity. Envy and gossip from colleagues, especially if you work in a women's team, will not allow you to work peacefully.

Too much and too much laughter

A sense of humor is a separate topic when studying male strategies in winning over a woman. Every man, consciously or not, will strive to make the object of interest to him laugh in order to arouse mutual sympathy. To do this, he will joke a lot and at the same time laugh at any of your witticisms.

Scientists have proven that a laughing person becomes softer, kinder, more accommodating and evokes positive feelings from others. It was also found that men with a good sense of humor have greater success among women compared to those who cannot joke.

By the way, as for the ladies: a girl will laugh at any joke of the gentleman with whom she is in love, even if it is not funny at all.

Signs of love on the part of a married man

“Love will come unexpectedly when you least expect it...” is a classic that is known to many married couples. Indeed, it flares up even where, it would seem, it is no longer possible, where relationships are formed and life is predetermined. And as divorce statistics show, getting married does not mean loving the same person all your life! Today we’ll talk about the male part of the population: how can a woman understand that a married man has feelings for her?

Violating your boundaries

The boss is definitely in love with you if he tries to go beyond professional boundaries in the relationship. This can be understood by the manner of communication, which clearly does not correspond to work. Irony, perhaps sarcasm, jokes with a touch of sexuality - all this is a veiled attempt to move to a more intimate level, more confidential. For example, a phrase such as “I know you” or “Yes, I know you!” talk about a person’s unconscious desire to be closer. The man thus shows - “you are under control, I am watching.”

An offer to give you a ride home or, conversely, bring you to work will also be an invasion of personal space. Offering to resolve any issues or problems outside the office is also about this. For example, the director suddenly wants to help you transport furniture or take your car to a service station. The desire to participate in your everyday life may even seem intrusive, especially when you cannot reciprocate the person’s feelings.

A man in love will try to quietly take control of your entire life in order to help, protect in time, react to the appearance of other representatives of the stronger sex and get rid of them safely.

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