Demonstrative behavior in modern reality is not only not condemned by society, but is also a measure of social success. While some people dress completely normally, behave quite modestly and try not to attract the attention of others, other individuals do everything possible and impossible to be in the center of everyone's attention and demonstrate to other people their individuality, authenticity and uniqueness.
Demonstrative behavior that does not go beyond the bounds of decency is quite common. Thanks to this behavior, which, according to experts, is characteristic of most women and leaders with a charismatic personality type, you can easily and simply solve many life problems and tasks.
If a person, regardless of the desires and needs of the people around him, commits unreasonable, illogical or stupid actions in order for these very people to pay attention to him, then such demonstrative behavior cannot be called the norm. Very often, destructive demonstrative behavior becomes the reason that a person for whom “the whole world is a theater, and the people in it are actors” becomes disappointed not only in society, but also in himself! Such an individual, trying to find the meaning of life and attract the attention of others, begins to violate social norms and over time can turn into a cynical nihilist, offended by the whole world.
What is demonstrative behavior? What personality type is characterized by demonstrative behavior? How does demonstrative behavior manifest itself in children and adolescents? In this article we will look at these and some other important issues regarding demonstrative behavior and its impact on our daily lives.
Definition of hysteria
Hysteroids are those individuals who have emotional instability and a tendency to demonstrate, through which they seek everyone's attention. Often such people have hysterical psychopathy. This personality disorder has pronounced symptoms, namely: defiant behavior, emotionality, sudden mood swings, and suicidal tendencies.
Women with a hysterical personality type have leadership qualities, so they strive to show their superiority in everything. They are accustomed to showing perseverance and determination, not only in work, but also in their personal lives. To get what they want, they often make unconventional decisions and commit desperate acts.
The hysterical girl loves to communicate and can quickly find a common language with many people. When meeting her, many seem to be a cheerful, positive person who is not afraid to seem funny, is ready for bold actions and frankly expresses her point of view. But after talking longer, harshness and some inadequacy of reactions to various situations become noticeable. A hysterical girl can suddenly start freaking out, crying, screaming. It should be noted that this behavior is demonstrative and appears only if there are a number of people around.
"Bragging Competition"
An adult invites the children to hold a braggart competition. “The one who boasts the best wins. We will not brag about ourselves, but about our neighbor. It's so nice to have the best neighbor! Look closely at the person sitting to your right. Think about what he’s like, what’s good about him, what he can do, what good deeds he’s done, what you might like about him. Don't forget that this is a competition. The winner will be the one who boasts better about his neighbor, who finds more merit in him.”
After such an introduction, the children in a circle name the advantages of their neighbor and brag about his merits. In this case, the objectivity of the assessment is not at all important - whether these advantages are real or invented. The “scale” of these advantages is also not important - it can be a loud voice, a neat hairstyle, and long (or short) hair. The main thing is that children notice these characteristics of their peers and are able not only to positively evaluate them, but also to brag about them to their peers. The winner is chosen by the children themselves, but if necessary, an adult can express their opinion. To make the victory more meaningful and desirable, you can reward the winner with some small prize (a paper medal for “Best Braggart” or a badge). Such a prize arouses even the most selfish child’s interest in his peer and the desire to find as many merits in him as possible.
Age stages
The first manifestation occurs at the age of 2-3 years. At this time, the child makes demonstrative scenes, cries in public and tries with all his might to achieve what he wants. He needs hysteria to get a toy or sweets.
A real hysterian always remains like this. Children of primary preschool age are characterized by a desire to speak in public, but this gradually fades away. This does not happen with a pathological personality type.
The second stage occurs during adolescence
At 13-14 years old, a child will try to look unusual and bright. This may also apply to behavior
Children smoke, drink alcohol and try their best to attract attention
It is rare for an adult to show the first signs of hysteria. Usually this character is visible from an early age. With timely help from a psychologist, behavior can be corrected. To do this, they use the recommendations of a specialist, and work on themselves every day. Sometimes group therapy helps, allowing people to understand each other better.
"Princess Nesmeyana"
An adult tells a fairy tale about Princess Nesmeyana and offers to play the same game. One of the children will be a princess who is sad and cries all the time. The children take turns approaching Princess Nesmeyane and trying to console her and make her laugh. The princess will try her best not to laugh. The one who can make the princess smile wins. Then the children change roles.
Such games promote the formation of community with others and the opportunity to see friends and partners in peers. When a child feels the joy of common play, of what we do together, when he shares this joy with others, his proud self will most likely stop demanding praise and admiration. A sense of community and interest in others are the foundation on which only full communication between people and normal human relationships can be built.
Rules of communication
Dealing with a hysterical person can bring certain problems, especially if such a person works in a small team. When interacting with such an individual, you need to remember that he is self-centered and likes to exaggerate his feelings.
When communicating, you need to ignore emotional attacks and mitigate conflicts. You can influence a hysteroid through his desire to be ideal. For example, in case of conflict, you need to point out that now it looks ugly.
If you need to communicate for a long time, then you should not remind about mistakes and mistakes, otherwise this will lead to serious worries and problems. Also, you should not try to convince him of something - it is useless, since such people are always confident that they are right.
Communication with a hysterical psychopath requires high stability and immunity from other people. Not everyone can withstand such emotional swings.
Is it possible to overcome the competitive position of a preschooler
Recently, the formation of positive self-esteem, encouragement and recognition of the child’s merits have become almost the main methods of social and moral education. This method is based on the belief that positive self-esteem provides emotional comfort to the child and promotes the development of self-confidence. Such upbringing really reinforces and strengthens positive self-esteem, the confidence that “I am better than everyone else.” As a result, the child begins to perceive and experience only himself and his attitude towards himself. And this, as shown above, is the main problem of demonstrative children. Such focus on oneself and one’s own merits does not allow one to see the other, turning him into a competitor and adversary. Therefore, the absence of evaluations and comparisons of children (who is better and who is worse) should be one of the first conditions for overcoming demonstrativeness.
Adults should strive to save the child from the need to assert himself and prove his superiority. A child, even without constant praise and evaluation, should feel respect for himself and the love of close adults. Only then will he feel the pricelessness of his personality and will not need constant encouragement and comparisons with others.
It is also necessary to abandon the competitive nature of games and activities. Competitions, competitive games, duels and competitions are very common and widely used in education. However, all these games direct the child’s attention to his own qualities and merits, generate an orientation towards the assessment of others and towards demonstrating his advantages.
To overcome demonstrativeness, the main thing is to show the child that the assessment and attitude of others is far from the most important thing in his life , and that other children are not at all focused on his person. They have their own interests, desires and problems, which are no worse or better, but simply different.
Of course, it is useless to explain all this in words to a preschooler. You can “move” a child away from such fixation on himself by opening him up to new interests, switching to cooperation and full-fledged communication . Traditional activities for preschoolers - drawing, modeling, design and, of course, playing - open up rich opportunities for this. A child should experience the pleasure of drawing or playing - not because he does it best and will be praised for it, but because it is interesting, especially if you do it all together. Interest in fairy tales, songs, and looking at pictures distracts the child from evaluating himself and thoughts about how others treat him. Other children should not become a source of resentment for him, but partners in a common cause. He must understand that other children do not exist to respect and praise him. They have their own interests and desires, which are not at all related to his person. To do this, it is important to create situations and organize games in which children can experience community and involvement with each other in real interaction. These are primarily role-playing games, round dance games, simple games with rules, etc.
Here are a few games that will help you better see your peers, appreciate them and experience a sense of community with them. From 2 to 6 children of senior preschool age (5-6 years old) can participate in these games.
Women
This girl's house is always clean. Her worldview should not be polluted by an unwashed dish in the sink or a sock that fell out of the closet. She is sociable, has many friends, often finds herself in the center of attention of the entire company, and easily joins a new team, but character flaws do not always allow her to fully retain the interest of the public.
The makeup, jewelry and clothing of these ladies are always on point and fully correspond to the latest fashion. Flashy clothes, a lot of acquaintances, the ability to adapt to others - all this is done on her part only in order to find herself in the center of everyone's attention. Often she does not get the desired result.
If a new acquaintance begins to admire her, then she will become close to him, but if over time this person emotionally cools off towards the “hysterical” woman, then she will not only move away from him, but will even begin to experience a feeling of hatred.
Ladies of this type of character are very feminine, but at the same time quite bold.
Ready to get involved in adventures and persevere. But all this is again due to the need for general interest. They are always noticeable in the crowd - they laugh loudly, cry bitterly, actively swear. Relationships with men are not easy for them. Due to the lack of a sense of responsibility, these girls often get divorced.
Responsibility in the family
Recommendations for parents on instilling a sense of responsibility (they are given by those who have extensive experience raising adopted children):
- Encourage initiative. Does your child want to wash dishes with you? Place a stool nearby and wash together! Do you want to clean the house? Hand him the vacuum cleaner. Naturally, the process will drag on, but let the child feel like an adult and be proud of his achievements. Let him feel responsible for the order in the house.
“It is important that the instructions are achievable, otherwise the result will only be tears.” Personal example is better than many words
When teaching responsibility, control your actions, behavior and words, because the baby will definitely copy everything. You won’t be able to always be with your child, but it is quite possible to explain how to act in a given situation.
— Parents’ recommendations on the topic of responsibility also affect relationships with elders. Don't scream because mom is sleeping, don't make noise because grandma has a headache.
It is important that the child understands that not only should he be taken care of, he should also give his love to loved ones and others
- Give each action an appropriate explanation. “You scattered it, you clean it up”, “Did it break? It’s a shame, but we won’t be able to buy this toy again.”
— Explain to your child that you need to approach your promises very responsibly. Don’t forget to confirm this with your own examples.
- Always give an alternative, a choice in a given situation. Offer this or that: porridge or cottage cheese with sour cream for breakfast, trousers or jeans for the street... The truth is simple: a sense of responsibility is formed through examples, and the child must be responsible for the decisions made himself. As a result of many years of practice, a responsible person will grow up who will be able to answer for his actions in life.
Reasons for the formation of a psychotype
Most often, the hysteroid type is formed during puberty. At this time, the teenager is defining his ego and sexuality, and all measures of parental education are not perceived as a main subject worthy of attention. However, it is precisely the omission on the part of the parents that can become the reason that provoked the emergence of hysterical accentuation.
Therefore, in the future, a matured child will unconsciously enter into a destructive struggle with the opposite sex and try to seize total power over its representative.
Another drawback in raising a child that can create a hysterical personality type is associated with the parents’ desire to suppress emerging sexuality. They subconsciously want their child to always remain a child, and therefore they impose on him a characteristic model of behavior. At a certain stage of development of the adolescent’s psyche, this manner of upbringing has the opposite effect, which is consolidated and leads to the formation of a hysterical psychotype.
Also, hysterical psychopathy can develop already at puberty, and they are caused not only by upbringing and individual mental characteristics, but also by life circumstances:
- stress, negative news, an accident with one of your loved ones can specifically affect a person’s worldview and mental development;
- dissatisfaction at work, conflicts with colleagues, constant dissatisfaction with management - all this can cause the formation of hysterical disorder;
- bad habits, namely the abuse of alcohol, tranquilizers, antidepressants, sleeping pills, play a huge role in the formation of the psychotype.
Types of addiction
Addiction that occurs in adolescents is similar to adult addiction. There are chemical and non-chemical. The first is associated with the use of substances that affect the nervous system, causing saturation of pleasure centers. Such means include:
- alcohol (see Effect of alcohol on the brain);
- substance abuse;
- cigarettes;
- hookah smoking;
- medications.
Non-chemical addiction consists of any activity that leads to the destruction of mental health. This includes:
- gaming addiction;
- gluttony;
- workaholism;
- sectarianism;
- sexual behavior;
- masochism;
- listening to specific music.
The emergence of addiction can lead to the development of asocialization, as well as to the emergence in a teenager of:
- bipolar associative disorder (manic-depressive psychosis);
- psychosomatic pathologies;
- homicidal or suicidal tendencies;
- paranoid schizophrenia;
- degradation;
- sociopathy.
What is hysteria?
Many people confuse the concepts of “hysteria” and “demonstration”, considering them synonymous. But it is not so. In psychology, sometimes, to simplify the terminology, “hystericality” is called “demonstrativeness,” although in general the concept of demonstrativeness does not reveal the full meaning of hystericality.
The hysterical personality type is characterized by demonstrative behavior and the release of all emotions.
, but this is not the only feature. Such people not only show off their emotions, but also have labile emotionality, that is, they are very mobile in their emotions. In this regard, they are characterized by frequent mood changes.
Hysterical personalities place high demands on the people around them
, they constantly feel the desire to please everyone, and therefore are very afraid of mistakes. That is, these people will never take on difficult tasks, since failure will be the subject of alienation from those around them in relation to the “hysteroid”, at least that’s what he himself thinks.
Due to the fear of not being liked, this person often fakes his sincere feelings.
At the same time, the “hysteroid” is quite open in his own feelings: if he finds it funny, he laughs, if he is offended, he will definitely express this feeling through reproaches.
Even outwardly, these people try to look in such a way as to impress others.
They are elegant, clean from toe to toe, their clothes have an unusual cut and are usually very bright in color. The face is distinguished by lively facial expressions, which allows you to win over your interlocutor and involve you in your conversation. Often these people stand out at holidays - they actively participate in competitions and can be presenters. They are characterized by charm, charisma, and extraordinaryness, for which they receive the love of the public that is so necessary for them.
"The Connecting Thread"
Children sit in a circle, passing a ball of thread to each other so that everyone who was already holding the ball takes up the thread. The passing of the ball is accompanied by statements about what the children would like to wish to others. The adult starts, thereby setting an example. He then turns to the children, asking if they want to say anything. When the ball returns to the leader, the children, at the request of the adult, pull the thread and close their eyes, imagining that they form one whole, that each of them is important and significant in this whole.
Correction
Hysteroid and psychosomatic disorders are closely related. Therefore, a person does not need to delay solving the problem, otherwise he may get chronic diseases.
The best treatment method is psychotherapy. During it, the hysterical person works through his complexes, fears, and problems. She learns to feel and understand other people.
Important! Psychiatry is only needed when the client has serious problems with the nervous system. Drug treatment is prescribed for insomnia, anxiety and other disorders
Sometimes you need the help of a family psychologist, who allows you to develop tactics for behavior with your partner and save the relationship.
Drug treatment is prescribed for insomnia, anxiety and other disorders. Sometimes you need the help of a family psychologist, who allows you to develop tactics for behavior with your partner and save the relationship.
Correction of a hysterical personality psychotype is carried out with the help of exercises and trainings. This is a slow process and requires complete dedication. Therefore, there is no need to delay treatment when the first symptoms of hysteria appear - the further it goes, the stronger the personality deformation.
Without timely help, a person dooms himself to constant conflicts.
It is impossible to say with certainty which therapy will be effective. In each case, the specialist chooses a special tactic of influence. Some people benefit from cognitive behavioral therapy, others from psychoanalysis.
Sometimes it is useful for a person to analyze examples of his behavior and realize what exactly he did wrong. This analysis allows you to better understand your problems.
A hysterical character can be both an advantage and a disadvantage. People with this personality type are capable of love and friendship, but only after correct correction of the perception of the situation.
Demonstrative behavior in adults
Demonstrative behavior in psychology means actions and actions that are clearly expressed in their manifestation, determined by the desire to attract attention and interest in one’s personality, regardless of the desires of society. This behavior can manifest itself in various psychopathological symptoms. So, for example, a depressed person will demonstrate a loss of interest in everything, a loss of meaning in life; a subject with delusions of grandeur will demonstrate his dominance over others, the value of his thoughts and ideas. Often the terms “hysterical personality” and “demonstrative personality” are used as synonyms for the term “demonstrative behavior.”
The main reasons for this behavior in adults may be the desire to obtain or demonstrate their personal status in society or the desire to be better than others (a kind of competition). This can manifest itself in the purchase of expensive accessories, demonstration of one’s skills and knowledge.
The main property of a demonstrative character is the enormous ability to displace a rational, critical view of oneself, as a result of which demonstrative or “acting” behavior occurs.
The main features that characterize an individual prone to demonstrative behavior are: boundless egocentrism, craving for increased attention and recognition, the need for any emotional manifestation in relation to oneself (emotional manifestation can be either positively or negatively colored). Such people cannot stand indifference to their person.
Many psychologists have come to the same conclusion that the essence of a demonstrative personality is determined by the anomalous ability to repress, the selective selection of impressions about the world in general and about one’s personality in particular. Such individuals will be pleased by what is aimed at embellishing them. And, conversely, everything neutral or opposite will simply be forced out of their consciousness and memory. Demonstrative behavior may be characterized by a conscious and intentional violation of the rules and norms of behavior accepted in society.
General information
A person with a demonstrative personality type likes to fantasize and embellish reality.
A demonstrative personality type is a type that exhibits demonstrative behavior, mobility, and is characterized by artistry and emotional liveliness.
Such individuals are prone to lies, pretense, and often fantasize. Moreover, these actions occur not due to the fault of an evil nature, but because of the desire to rise in the eyes of others, to embellish something. It costs him nothing to lie at any moment. He himself is confident in the veracity of his words at the moment
A person may be aware of his lie, however, he will not take it seriously, his conscience will not gnaw. These individuals are also characterized by the ability to forget moments of their life that they do not want to remember. This is called repression. The individual will strive to be in full view of everyone; it is important for him that there be increased attention to his person, he wants to be praised. This type of people is characterized by emotional lability. Also characterized by high adaptability. There is a negative quality - inconstancy.
Such individuals may be liked by others for their extraordinary thinking and unconventional actions, but they are also able to repel people by the fact that they pay a lot of attention to themselves, and also by the fact that their words can rarely be trusted. Such a person is one of the few who is capable of generating conflicts in his environment. At the same time, she herself does not understand that she is an irritant to the people who surround her. She does not recognize that she is the source of conflict. This individual, as a rule, is self-confident, vain, and these qualities are not supported by anything real. Such individuals want to be leaders and have exclusive rights. Such an individual is usually egocentric. It is important to her what impression she makes; she is ready to use any tricks in order to increase her importance in the eyes of other people. However, these tricks can be exposed, which will provoke disapproval and bewilderment on the part of the environment. The personality has a sufficient level of adaptation, does not plan anything in advance, and is more guided by an influx of emotions rather than an analysis of the current situation. An employee with this type of personality resists loneliness, is not painstaking, and will behave extravagantly in order to attract the attention of colleagues. He may exaggerate, for example, health problems. When visiting a doctor, he will talk about symptoms that are not even close. A person needs to be pitied. He can prove himself to be excellent in a certain area, in particular, service. For example, being behind the counter of a store, a demonstrative person will be able to choose an approach to each customer. This is achieved through the ability to play the role that will be most pleasant for the opponent. For example, when communicating with a shy buyer, the seller will behave actively, with a confident one - modestly. Such individuals can balance relationships in difficult situations. For example, a marriage can be successful if one of the partners knows how to adapt.
"Echo"
An adult tells the children about Echo, who lives in the mountains or in a large empty room; you cannot see it, but you can hear it: it repeats everything, even the strangest sounds. After this, the children are divided into two groups, one of which depicts travelers in the mountains, and the other - Echo. The first group of children in single file (in a chain) “travels around the room” and takes turns making different sounds (not words, but sound combinations), for example: “Au-u-u-u”, or: “Tr-r-r-r” , and so on. There should be long pauses between sounds, which are best regulated by the presenter. He can also monitor the order of pronounced sounds, i.e. show which of the children should make their sound and when. Children of the second group hide in different places in the room, listen carefully and try to reproduce as accurately as possible everything they heard. If Echo works asynchronously, i.e. does not play sounds simultaneously, that's okay
It is important that it does not distort sounds and reproduces them accurately
"Magic glasses"
An adult solemnly announces that he has magic glasses through which one can see only the good that is in a person, even what a person sometimes hides from everyone. “Now I’m going to try on these glasses... Oh, how beautiful, funny, smart you all are!” Approaching each child, the adult names one of his virtues (someone draws well, someone has a new doll, someone makes their bed well). “Now let each of you try on glasses, look at others and try to see as much good as possible in everyone. Maybe even something I hadn’t noticed before.” Children take turns putting on magic glasses and naming the virtues of their comrades. If someone is at a loss, you can help him and suggest some virtue of his friend. Repetition is not a problem here, although if possible it is advisable to expand the range of good qualities.
