Who is a phlegmatic person: his characteristics, pros and cons of character

Author of the material:

Svetlana Smyshlyak

philologist, writer, lyric poet

Why is the advice of even the most popular and recognized authors or bloggers not always helpful when it comes to the art of seduction? Probably because they are too generalized and aimed only at average guys. But what happens if you select methods of seduction for a specific type of temperament, for the personality of your particular lover? How to conquer a man if he is an active choleric person, a calm phlegmatic person, a perky sanguine person or a melancholic esthete?

general characteristics

Among all types of temperament, the most balanced is the phlegmatic. He is distinguished by unshakable calm, slowness, restraint and inertia. He is absolutely not characterized by mood swings and emotional outbursts. He hides his emotions well, so even close people cannot always recognize by his face what is going on in his soul.

A phlegmatic person does not adapt well to changing conditions. He is a conservative and prefers not to change anything in his existing way of life. Before making a difficult decision, he will thoroughly weigh everything, carefully consider the possible consequences, and only after that he will take a risky step. Or he won't, which is most likely.

The worst thing for a phlegmatic person is to leave his comfort zone. That's why he doesn't like to travel. And if he still has to leave home, then he tries to choose conditions for himself that will most closely resemble his home environment. In particular, he rents an apartment and will never eat exotic, unfamiliar food.

So, phlegmatic people have the following qualities:

restraint;
equanimity;
equilibrium;
thoroughness;
slowness;
consistency in preferences.

By psychotype, a phlegmatic person is predominantly an introvert. Unlike an extrovert who is open to the outside world, a phlegmatic person does not show his feelings and tries not to reveal his true emotions. At the same time, a person of this type is always ready to listen and understand the feelings of another person, provide support and lend a shoulder. His prudence and calmness help a lot here.

However, such situations take a lot of energy from a phlegmatic person. He prefers to recover alone - meditating, reflecting on life and simply dreaming. He definitely won’t share his experiences or show them off.

A phlegmatic person has an excellent memory, an analytical mind and extraordinary intelligence. Therefore, among people of phlegmatic temperament there are many researchers and scientists. So the following famous personalities are phlegmatic:

Immanuel Kant;
Galileo Galilei;
Antoni van Leeuwenhoek;
A. P. Borodin;
A. K. Lyadov;
G. A. Zyuganov and others.

Phlegmatic people love monotonous routine work. These are the most scrupulous, diligent, efficient, neat and efficient people in the world. Many employers even specifically determine the type of temperament of a future employee in order to find a phlegmatic person. After all, he will scrupulously complete tasks and not get tired of it. And the phlegmatic person himself is happy if he has a permanent job, which is repeated day after day and does not require business trips or movement around the city. This kind of work gives him peace of mind and a sense of security.

Here is a short list of professions that are most suitable for a phlegmatic person:

accountant;
Researcher;
archivist;
librarian;
economist;
psychologist;
medical worker.

However, despite all the positive qualities, the self-esteem of a phlegmatic person is often low due to lack of self-confidence. And this does not allow him to reach career heights and become a leader, despite his innate colossal abilities. He refuses to participate in various events, avoids public speaking and communicating with strangers both in public places and at work.

In a work team, phlegmatic people observe more than take active action. They enjoy watching their sanguine colleagues who love to be the center of attention. At the same time, phlegmatic people also have a good sense of humor and at the right moment they can tell a fairly funny and accurate joke, as well as cheer up a sad comrade.

Some psychologists argue that in addition to behavior, a person of the phlegmatic type can also be recognized by appearance. So, for example, they are characterized by a tendency to be overweight, a smooth gait, and slow and measured speech. Even a thin phlegmatic person often has a massive physique.

In any case, before judging a person's temperament by his appearance, observe his behavior. Before you is a 100% phlegmatic person if he:

calm as a boa constrictor;
reasonable;
speaks smoothly and measuredly;
practically does not gesticulate;
it is impossible to read emotions on his face;
does everything slowly and has difficulty switching to another type of activity;
difficult to adapt to new conditions.

Here is a brief description. True, it is very difficult to find an absolute phlegmatic person. We all most often have a mixed type of temperament, in which one will dominate.

Main features

Who is this phlegmatic person? A person who is able to hide what is going on in his soul. Even close people do not always know the true mood of their loved one, all emotions are so hidden. A phlegmatic character manifests itself in the inertia of the nervous system. Because of this, the person is calm and reasonable. To evoke negativity and a storm of emotions in him, you need to try. But even if you knock a person off balance, don’t expect him to stay there for long. Within a short time, the phlegmatic person will return to his calm state. A very good sign of nature is loyalty to friends and life partners.

Pros and cons of character

A phlegmatic person has many undoubted advantages.

The ability to get along with absolutely everyone, regardless of temperament type. A diplomat by nature - a phlegmatic person - will always find a way out of a conflict situation and choose the right words to come to an agreement with his opponent.
A strong nervous system that allows you to remain calm and reasonable in stressful situations.
Reliability and selflessness. A phlegmatic person is the most faithful and reliable friend to whom you can entrust any secrets. He will never betray, will not weave intrigues and will always keep his word.
Persistence, determination, hard work. If a phlegmatic person has made a decision, it means that he will definitely complete the work he has started.
Analytical mind, good memory, thoughtfulness and intelligence.
Constancy in attachments.

Along with an impressive list of advantages, a phlegmatic person also has disadvantages.

It takes a very long time and is difficult to adapt to changing external conditions. That is why he is afraid to take responsibility.
It is difficult for him to make new acquaintances and communicate with unfamiliar people.
His inertia, slowness and self-doubt interfere with self-realization.
He is prone to apathy.
He is absolutely unable to express emotions and therefore seems indifferent. And this has a bad effect on personal relationships.
It can “explode” from accumulated negative emotions so much that it doesn’t seem like much.

Conclusion: different temperaments are not a death sentence

Opposites attract. Timid people admire leaders, pragmatists are drawn to romantics. If you like a person with a different view of the world, that’s great. Don't be afraid to build a relationship with him, but be prepared to work on yourself.

For example, interesting studies are given in the online course “Secrets of Women’s Happiness.” Here you will understand how to communicate and seduce guys with any type of temperament, find out what stages each couple goes through, learn how to influence men and get the key to finding happiness.

In the meantime, share in the comments: do you think different temperaments with your husband (or wife) can become a problem? Maybe you have such experience?

Phlegmatic man

A phlegmatic man is calm, silent, balanced, and has a strong character. This is how he charms women. In general, a phlegmatic man is an ideal family man. He is not jealous, does not make scandals, does not cheat, goes to work regularly and brings his entire salary to his wife, always returns home on time, happily eats the same soup every day.

At the same time, you should not expect romantic surprises, unforgettable adventures and sexual experiments from him. He is very conservative and stingy with emotions. Giving flowers to his beloved girl is practically a feat for him. Stability in everything is the motto of a phlegmatic man.

A phlegmatic man is characterized by concentration, restraint and excessive seriousness. He tries not to participate in discussions, but at the same time he will never avoid a direct question and express his point of view. By the way, his behavior does not change even when he is intoxicated.

Grounds for returning the claim

According to Art. 135 of the Code of Civil Procedure of the Russian Federation, the court will return the claim and documents when:

the plaintiff violated the pre-trial procedure for resolving the dispute, which is mandatory by law. For example, the return of the statement of claim will follow if the plaintiff has not filed a claim for termination of the contract. In order to avoid the return of the application on this basis, the applicant needs to clarify whether a pre-trial procedure is needed in his relations with the defendant. Moreover, such a situation is possible not only when the plaintiff has not taken measures to resolve the dispute out of court. But even when, along with the claim, he did not provide evidence of compliance with the conditions of pre-trial resolution of the dispute (if necessary)
Instead of a lawsuit, an application for a court order should have been filed. For example, a claim for alimony is less common than a court order on the same issue
violation of rules of jurisdiction. Since the person bringing the claim has the right to appeal only to the court authorized to consider this category of cases
violation of the rules of jurisdiction (the case must be considered by an arbitration court)
the claim was filed by an incapacitated person. Such persons, by virtue of the law, do not have the right to take independent legal actions, including the right to bring a claim in the absence of their guardians (trustees). This case does not apply to an application for recognition of legal capacity.
the plaintiff himself filed an application for the return of the claim (before it was accepted for proceedings)
the claim was not signed by the plaintiff (his authorized representative if there is such a right in the power of attorney)
there is already a claim in court proceedings (including arbitration) regarding the same dispute
after leaving the claim without progress, the plaintiff did not provide an application to correct the shortcomings of the claim.

The court will apply the latter basis after the expiration of the procedural period established for correcting the deficiencies. The court will indicate the shortcomings themselves in the ruling on leaving the statement of claim without progress. In this case, the plaintiff can send an application to the court to extend the procedural period when he does not have time to carry out all the actions. Or maybe not direct. And then the court is obliged to return the claim and documents.

Phlegmatic woman

It is difficult for men to woo a phlegmatic woman because she is guided by reason, and not by feelings and intuition. If she is offered marriage, she will think about the answer for quite a long time. At the same time, by answering in the affirmative, she will become the most faithful and balanced wife who does not throw tantrums or create scandals.

Smooth gait and movements, low and quiet voice give her a special charm. And what makes her mysterious is her gaze, from which it is impossible to understand what she is thinking or feeling. Her appearance is always impeccable, which can arouse the envy of other representatives of the fairer sex.

At work, a phlegmatic woman is rather slow, but at the same time very diligent and persistent. She will definitely finish the job she starts. He gives preference to monotonous and routine work, so most often he becomes an accountant, clerk, or librarian. She is also no stranger to professions related to helping people, for example, psychologist, pediatrician, therapist and others.

What professions are suitable?

A person’s work activity plays a huge role in his life, and not only in terms of finances. A job you don't like is boring and doesn't bring you satisfaction. Professional activity that allows an employee to assert himself, move up the career ladder, and realize his own importance gives a lot of positive emotions and has a beneficial effect on his mental and physical state.

From the recommendations of scientists it follows that when choosing a profession one should be guided by the character of a person and the type of his temperament.

The main qualities of sanguine people:

stress resistance;
the ability to quickly switch from one subject of activity to another;
quick completion of assigned tasks;
leadership skills;
inability to cope with routine work.

Sanguine people will not make assembly line workers, weavers, spinners, or seamstresses. A restless type of temperament will not allow a person to remain an accountant, archivist or clerk for long. Routine work can only be temporary.

The most suitable professions for sanguine people are those based on creativity and at the same time associated with constant human communication.

The full potential of a sanguine person will be revealed in leadership positions that require orientation in various areas of corporate activity. They make excellent lawyers, teachers, preschool teachers, and personnel selection specialists.

Reaction speed brings success in the journalistic field, as administrators and managers. Oratory skills make sanguine people good specialists in the field of trade. Eloquence promotes the sale of any goods on the most favorable terms.

In his place, a sanguine person will feel himself in such creative professions as a director, event organizer, or tailor.

Phlegmatic child

A calm and balanced phlegmatic child is a joy for his grandparents. He never gets into trouble, doesn’t climb fences and construction sites, doesn’t fight, doesn’t act up. However, the danger lies in the fact that he can grow into a lack of initiative, infantile and lazy adult who does not have his own views and beliefs.

This child loves tasks that require him to sit and think. Even a four-year-old child enjoys solving puzzles, putting puzzles together, and playing chess. To keep your child occupied for an hour and a half, just give him a thick picture book. He will look at her with interest. Phlegmatic children also love to listen to fairy tales.

At school, teachers dote on such a child, because he is quiet, calm and diligent. Most excellent students are phlegmatic.

A phlegmatic child is mostly calm, but tasks that require quick reaction and speed unsettle him. And if you also try to urge the baby on, then the matter may end in neurosis.

Also, a phlegmatic child is nervous because of a change in situation, regime, or environment. Therefore, such children have difficulty adapting to kindergarten or school. This takes them much longer than all other children.

Some parents, seeing the sluggishness and slowness of their phlegmatic child, try to stir him up. Threats and shouting are used. And this is their huge mistake. The child begins to get even more nervous, his mental tension increases and nervousness develops, but this does not make him any more agile. Quite the contrary - it acts even slower.

Another popular mistake some loving parents make is over-care and help. When they see their phlegmatic baby trying to do something with great effort, they immediately rush to do it for him. As a result, the child develops self-doubt, a desire to avoid any active actions and a lack of independence.

It is necessary to develop the activity and mobility of a phlegmatic child consistently and measuredly, adapting to his pace. Once he has mastered the basic skill, he can move on to the next stage of training. The main thing is not to rush yourself and not to rush the child.

If you, dear parents, recognize your child in this description, then I want to share with you some recommendations for parenting.

Do not reproach your child for being slow and do not rush him. Otherwise he will become nervous and complex.
Introduce your child to active activities gradually. Play ball, badminton, tag, etc. with him. But don’t scold him if he doesn’t have time to react in time. Remember that your child will need a little more time to master the skill.
Play role-playing games with him, during which you play out different situations. For example, a bear and a bunny quarreled. Invite your child to figure out how to reconcile them. Subsequently, it will be easier for the child to communicate with peers.

I also recommend watching a short video with advice from a psychologist.

Flaws

If we talk about shortcomings, then, of course, there are some. These women adapt very poorly to new places and new surroundings. Phlegmatic people are always categorical about moving to a new place of residence or to a new city. They can only decide to do this as a last resort, and they will settle in the new place for a very long time, trying to recreate the very home comfort that they lost.

These women love to listen, but do not know how to show their emotions at all. Of course, this character trait can be considered a shortcoming, since the lack of emotionality sometimes greatly interferes with their personal life. Excessive sacrifice is another character trait that prevents them from living. Phlegmatic people are ready to sacrifice everything in order to help a loved one. But unfortunately, sometimes it happens that some people blatantly take advantage of this. Moreover, such women cannot always distinguish what kind of person is in front of them, how sincere he is, what goals he pursues.

See below about the character traits of phlegmatic women.

Relationships

Phlegmatic people are unique in that they can get along with almost any person, regardless of their type of temperament. It is almost impossible to meet a phlegmatic person who will be the first to start a quarrel, provoke a conflict, or raise his voice at his interlocutor. In relationships, he is always calm and restrained, so you definitely shouldn’t expect violent manifestations of feelings from him. But in both love and friendship, a phlegmatic person will become faithful and devoted like a dog.

For clarity, I have compiled a table of the compatibility of a phlegmatic person with other types of temperament.

Temperament type	Character traits	Compatibility
Choleric	Explosive, irritable, strives for dominance.	Good - both will balance each other.
Sanguine	Cheerful, sociable, superficial.	Low - a phlegmatic person will be nervous because of the sanguine person’s inconstancy.
Melancholic	Vulnerable, withdrawn, deeply emotional	Average - they will quickly get bored of each other.
Phlegmatic person	Calm, balanced, slow	Ideal - no contradictions.

As can be seen from the table, a phlegmatic person has good compatibility with a choleric person. The first will calmly react to the emotional outbursts of the second and be fueled by his energy, and the second will calm down faster.

A phlegmatic person is unlikely to have a long-term relationship with a melancholic person. A sensual and vulnerable melancholic person will suffer from the indifference and indifference of a partner who simply does not know how to show emotions. And the phlegmatic person will quickly get tired of the increased sensitivity and emotional instability of the second.

The union of a phlegmatic person and a sanguine person may seem quite successful at first glance. A cheerful and cheerful sanguine person will charge a quiet phlegmatic person with his irrepressible energy. And the second will give his partner his loyalty and reliability. However, representatives of the sanguine type of temperament adore new experiences, cannot sit in one place and do not tolerate routine, which is vital for a phlegmatic partner. That is why it will be extremely difficult for them to get along with each other.

The ideal is the union of two phlegmatic people. There will be no contradictions and disagreements in this pair. However, it will be difficult for two introverts to get to know each other. They can only get together if a certain situation brings them together.

Good sense of humour

Everyone knows that men are big jokers and not everyone wants to be in a relationship with a dull and boring girl. Moreover, if you are determined to live together, be sure to take this feature into account.

Choleric: strengths

Emotional sphere
Choleric people are born leaders, dynamic and active, constantly in need of change. They always consider it necessary to correct other people's mistakes; they have a strong will and determination. They are independent and self-sufficient, unflappable, it is difficult to deprive them of self-confidence, and they spread this confidence to others. Capable of taking on any task.
As a parent
Confidently takes a leadership role in the home, defines goals and motivates family members to take action to achieve them, always finds a way out of any situation, and organizes the household.
At work
Focused on results, thinks big and is not distracted by details, copes well with organizational work, looks for the most practical solutions to assigned tasks, quickly moves from theory to action, knows how to correctly distribute responsibilities, is focused on productivity, sets goals for the entire team, stimulates activity, needs competition.
On friendly terms
Does not depend much on friends, takes upon himself the organization of any group activity, plays the role of a leader, is often right in any matter, and has excellent self-control in emergency situations.