You know, in the past, for me, relationships with married men were strictly prohibited. After all, from childhood we are taught that we should not touch someone else’s things. But unfortunately, life sometimes dictates its own scenarios, and even the most persistent rules crumble under the weight of circumstances.
This happened to me too. Dizzying falling in love, a moment of relaxation and that’s it: the mark of a mistress came from where they didn’t expect it. How to behave in such a situation? Should we hope for a successful outcome? Today I will reveal some tips obtained through trial and error.
His personal life is not your jurisdiction
“My motto is not to worry, but to excite!” (Marilyn Monroe)
We girls are very curious and meticulous creatures. Therefore, we do not hesitate to bombard our beloved with questions about his wife, children, mother-in-law, grandmother and other family members. We are interested in knowing everything - from intimacy to evening gatherings in front of the TV. Remember, you can’t do this!
First, most likely, you will not hear the truth. They will tell you a heartbreaking story about an evil toad who does not appreciate an ideal man, and in the end they will also demand pity and consolation.
And, secondly, there is a risk of hearing unpleasant information that will pass through the heart like a sickle and leave unhealed wounds. Curiosity is not a vice, but in this case it is not worth showing it.
Tactics of a woman’s behavior depending on the situation
There are many situations when a woman falls in love with a man who is married. Depending on his position, status, financial resources, behavior will be different. Let's look at common situations.
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If it's a colleague
Situations when a woman becomes interested in a work colleague are more common than others. Four reasons for this:
- Daily meetings. The couple sees each other every working day, and there are also corporate events and delays due to work obligations.
- At work, among his colleagues, a married man looks more respectable. He is well dressed, calm thanks to the awareness of the rear in the form of his wife at home.
- A woman at home and at work is also very different. In the office she looks well-groomed, behaves more relaxed, and flirts.
- If an employee is higher in status, this proves his intelligence and ability to show his worth. If a woman holds a higher position or colleagues are at the same level, she notices winning qualities in business and other aspects.
When feelings come consciously, it is better to abandon the idea of an office romance. Relationships with colleagues are short-lived and spoil your reputation. After this, difficulties arise with promotion, since incontinence of feelings does not characterize the employee from the best side. Therefore, try to distract yourself by flirting with other men.
Boss
It’s not scary to fall for an ordinary co-worker. However, the case when a man is the boss is more serious. A young worker will certainly be seduced by experience, tranquility and status. Because of an outburst of feelings, a girl can indulge in flirting, which a young man will notice. After that, if he decides to respond to advances, he won’t be able to refuse - it will ruin his career. When the boss is reputed to be an exemplary family man, then being in the office can also be called into question.
You need to behave with restraint and not respond to non-verbal signs, even if the initiator is not a girl. If you agree to an affair with your boss, be equally prepared for both promotion and dismissal.
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A true family man
The destruction of a family, as well as a short-term relationship, is not included in the plans of such a man. This is a good worker who understands the topic. Girls often become interested in such young men, but there is no chance of continuing the relationship. Such guys know what they want to get from life, and will not exchange these goals for the unknown in the arms of a young woman.
Ex-husband who started a new family
A relationship with an ex-husband is a priori impossible, because the marriage has broken up. However, many spouses who have received a divorce often have feelings for each other. If this happens, clarify the motives:
- New sensations. This is at the same time a studied person, with whom I had to be in many unpleasant situations. However, now he is married to another woman, so the thought of a possible connection is exciting. Allow one-time intimacy, but do not flatter yourself - this is a man with the same shortcomings that caused the family to break up.
- Regret for past times. When meeting after a divorce, spouses see each other and feel sad, remembering the years they spent together. This happens especially often after two or three years after the divorce, when the worst moments are forgotten. Do not succumb to the provocation of memory, concentrate on the shortcomings that a person has.
- A conscious desire to return. The new companion disappointed, the understanding came that the ex-wife was the best thing that happened in the life of a divorced man. Then let him demonstrate that he is ready to change, because lost trust must be earned.
Wealthy married man
A rich and promising young man in marriage is a tasty morsel for careerists and women who are hungry for money. However, find out where the income comes from. If this is a fortune passed on by inheritance or, which is not uncommon, received through marriage, then it is foolish to count on part of the wealth. Behind the man are powerful people who can deprive him of everything. If this is a person who has achieved everything himself with hard work and intelligence, then you can try your luck.
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Both have family
This is a morally complex issue. If a married woman falls in love with a married man, the union has no chance. For one, the issue of divorce can be resolved, but the second in such a union, as a rule, hopes for pleasure. And it is not always a man who plays the role of the latter. However, more often there are situations when both understand the short-term nature of the relationship, which leads to mutual pleasure and quick separation without complaints or resentment. Everyone understands the situation and is not ready to change it.
Friend's or sister's husband
A man who is married to a woman close to him is considered forbidden, so any consideration of him from such a point of view is impossible. However, such a connection does exist. But when agreeing to double betrayal, first weigh whether the game is worth the candle. After all, to get sex, a man can lie, and then go to his wife and confess.
Judgment from a friend or sister who turns the family against her is a big problem.
Don't forget that your wife always comes first
No matter how wonderful, exciting and loving a girl you are, for a married man, your spouse will always come first. Yes, perhaps now they have some differences in their relationship. Probably, intimate life in the family is the same as before. But they are united by years of family life, during which they got to know each other down to the smallest detail.
They are connected by a common life, children, friends and familiar conditions. Statistically, in most cases, a man is not ready to sacrifice his comfort for the sake of a fleeting adventure. And, having enjoyed your company, he will gladly return under the wing of his wife.
Pros of a married man
