Many women, and not only young ones, experience embarrassment and fear at the mere thought of visiting a gynecologist. This is usually associated with upbringing, those taboos that surround the genitals and everything related to intimate life from childhood. How to stop being afraid? After all, fear is a bad advisor. Many advanced women's diseases are its result.
The puritanical attitude towards the body causes a reluctance to expose its intimate parts in front of a stranger. Of course, he is a doctor and has seen female genitalia thousands of times. However, the young patient is doing this for the first time in her life. It is very difficult for her to overcome fear and embarrassment.
The essence of fear
Sometimes young girls wonder how to stop being afraid of the gynecologist. The very thought of having to visit a female doctor worries them. However, an inspection must be completed. The thing is that timely examination by this specialist allows you to identify cancer and some other health problems at an early stage.
Where to complain
If a doctor insults or hurts, and polite requests to stop do not work, you need to protect yourself. But don’t get personal, and especially don’t use physical force. You can complain about a doctor to his management or the Ministry of Health in writing.
You can change the doctor at both the clinic and the antenatal clinic. How to change medical institutions in general. These possibilities are enshrined in Article 21 of Federal Law No. 323-FZ “On the fundamentals of protecting the health of citizens in the Russian Federation.” True, this can only be done once a year.
To change the doctor, the patient writes a statement to the head of the organization, and in it explains the reason for her request. The reason could be any - inconvenient time, loss of trust, unacceptable behavior. There you also need to indicate your phone number and email for contact.
The heads of the medical organization must respond to the application within three days; this is also prescribed by law. The head physician will provide a list of available specialists from which the patient can choose anyone. The new doctor must also agree to treat you.
If an application for a change of doctor is not accepted, you can contact Roszdravnadzor, Rospotrebnadzor or the prosecutor's office. These departments have online receptions.
Young
Are you very afraid of the gynecologist? What to do? Many young girls worry that before a specialist they will need to expose most of their body, showing their genitals. It can be confusing the first time. Some girls are frightened by the prospect that a doctor may discover that they are not virgins.
But it is important to know that the doctor will under no circumstances disclose this fact. He does not have the right to do this, and it would be a violation of the law. Neither the parents nor any other relative will know this from the doctor.
The main purpose of a gynecological examination is to treat and check health, and not to determine the fact of virginity, to judge or read morals. Such behavior is an abuse of authority. This is punishable by law.
For fear of being examined by a gynecologist and being judged, it makes no sense to hide facts of intimate intimacy - this is confidential information that remains between the doctor and the patient. Hiding any facts from the doctor primarily harms the patient herself. After all, if a sexually transmitted disease is suddenly discovered, treating it in advanced stages will be much more difficult than in the early stages.
Excitation
Are you afraid to go to the gynecologist? What to do? It is important to note that during the examination, a female representative should not experience pain. Of course, discomfort may occur, but the doctor is obliged to select the instruments in such a way as to eliminate it.
But some women feel awkward at the thought of being aroused during an examination. Sometimes this is the reason that they do not want to visit a specialist. It is important to remember that the examination is unlikely to be associated with pleasure, but also do not be ashamed of natural processes. In addition, fantasy is responsible for arousing a person, and another will never know what exactly aroused someone. The cause of arousal can be anything - a recently watched erotic video, or memories of something. This is a natural process that happens to all people, and the gynecologist knows this. It is important to note that women's vaginas are always wet inside, regardless of the level of arousal. That's nature.
Symptoms
Before visiting a gynecologist, people prone to phobia experience standard symptoms from the autonomic nervous system, including panic attacks.
- dizziness;
- tachycardia;
- blood pressure surges;
- pallor or redness of the skin;
- hyperhidrosis;
- frequent urination;
- irritable bowel syndrome;
- nausea;
- tremor;
- dyspnea;
- weakness in the legs;
- loss of consciousness.
Such symptoms of fear can occur immediately after the news or decision to visit a gynecologist, or some time before directly entering the office. In some women, symptoms worsen only when they are in a chair. In extreme cases, girls have hysterics.
Preparation
Which specialist should I contact? It makes no sense to think that illiterate specialists work in public clinics. This is nothing more than a delusion. Both private and public clinics employ a variety of doctors with different qualifications.
Are you afraid of the gynecologist? What to do? Before visiting a female doctor, you need to take personal hygiene measures. It is recommended to wash the genitals; periodic removal of hair will not be amiss - the whole point is that excessive hair provokes the proliferation of fungi and bacteria. Underwear must be clean. Such procedures will give the girl confidence. To make the examination more comfortable, you need to empty your bladder before coming to the doctor. After this, you should use intimate wet wipes. It is not recommended to visit a doctor during your period.
At the reception
For those who have never been to this specialist, but are wondering how not to be afraid of a gynecologist, the recommendations below will be especially relevant. There are several fundamentally important points during the reception.
The doctor will record personal information in the medical record. In order for it to be filled out correctly, you must answer the questions truthfully. If you hide some data at this stage, they will still emerge during the next examinations, when the young girl has already relaxed.
Doctor intimidates with diseases
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From the very beginning I had very painful periods, with the inability to walk and fainting. Due to the Soviet upbringing of my parents (“all women endured, now you too”), I did not turn to doctors with this question, and there was no normal specialist in the small town. And this would have continued if I had not rushed to the ambulance with acute pain in the lower abdomen at the age of 19. <…> The gynecologist, having learned that I was not a virgin, took a huge mirror, scratched the entire perineum and vagina, roughly pulled my legs and said that people like me had not lived to reproductive age before. After looking at the ultrasound specialist’s report, she categorically stated that I would NEVER be able to carry a child and that sooner or later my tubes would be cut off. When I burst into tears right on the chair, she said that I should have thought earlier when I spread my legs in front of someone who didn’t know. Needless to say, I was hysterical on the way home... Later it turned out that the cause of my pain was a cyst, the appearance of which had nothing to do with my lifestyle.
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During a simple examination, I was told that I would not have children due to a curvature of the uterus. As they explained to me later, such terrible conclusions cannot be drawn from a simple initial examination.
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I had a pelvic ultrasound. The doctor looked at the ovaries and, without tests, without anything, said: “But this smacks of infertility.”
Predictions like “You have a couple of years left to live, give birth urgently” are very frightening, especially from the lips of a person whom you consider an expert. One of the reasons for this fortune-telling is ignorance of modern recommendations and treatment protocols. Ministries of health of countries regularly collect up-to-date and verified information in various fields of medicine and compile guidelines for doctors. Russian recommendations in gynecology are close to international ones, and doctors should be guided by them.
But not all doctors follow this. For example, in Russian practice they often diagnose cervical erosion, or ectopia, and then offer cauterization and scare about the possible development of a cancerous tumor. In fact, ectopia requires treatment only if it causes severe discomfort. It is not associated with cancer or other conditions that can lead to it.
