The desire to discuss the topic that I want to touch upon today came somehow completely unexpectedly. Although it has a very real basis: not so long ago, the “great migration” in the form of moving from one big city to another happened in my family. This event took place for family reasons. More precisely, first of all, it was dictated by the desire to help loved ones and relatives (to be closer to my daughter and grandchildren).
I’ll say right away that it was not easy in every sense: physical (due to age), psychological, moral and material. But motivation and purpose (for the sake of which this move was started) in this case helped to overcome difficulties and make a difficult decision: to leave a good apartment, an established life and a measured, quiet life that suited us completely.
What else helped? A certain strategy was developed: moving should not worsen the quality of our life. This was a very important condition for all family members. Apparently, this had some inexplicable magical effect on the events taking place, which in most cases worked out for us in the best way.
In part, this is quite reasonable selfishness. And also, so that later you wouldn’t reproach yourself for altruism (a completely viable point of view) and one day, somehow in your hearts, in a moment of resentment, a completely banal phrase wouldn’t come out of your mouth, like: “we (parents) gave up everything, sacrificed ours.” peace and even health to help you (the children), but you don’t appreciate it.”
And it is likely that the joy of moving, which shortened the kilometers between loved ones, could very quickly turn into mutual grievances, disappointed expectations and disappointment.
Financially, the proposed move without worsening living conditions was unprofitable for us, as it implied large additional expenses. I won’t hide it – there was often a desire to abandon our strategy and buy something worse, to settle down with less comfort.
But the firm conviction that you can help your loved ones morally, physically and financially much more effectively when your life is comfortable and organized (or at least no worse than in your old place), did not allow this to be done.
And yet, having started such a difficult task as moving to another city, you need to be prepared for the upcoming difficulties and understand that not only advantages await us in a new place, but, sometimes, very significant disadvantages.
Such psychological and moral preparation, of course, will not affect the number of problems (sometimes, not even obvious, until the move has started). It is unlikely that there will be fewer of them. But a realistic look at the events taking place, and not through rose-colored glasses, will help you survive them more easily, withstand and not break (based on personal experience, even in the absence of any big shocks and problems, sometimes it was a little difficult and there was a feeling that you you're about to fall apart).
Well, perhaps, there are enough lyrical digressions, it’s time to move on to the essence of the issue. Talk about the difficulties and problems that arose when moving to another city, about your emotions and experiences, about the mistakes that were made, about new experiences, about what was acquired and what is missing in the new place and about much more in relation to my situations.
It was decided to somehow streamline and systematize the experience gained during the move and the new knowledge gained (due to current circumstances). Perhaps this will be useful to someone and will help in organizing this difficult and troublesome event, and will help avoid mistakes and unnecessary actions. Although, of course, each of us has our own move, and everyone experiences it in their own way.
How to decide to move?
Analyze what motivates you - emotions or logic. To do this, write down the pros and cons of the solution on a piece of paper. Think about what you gain and what you lose by changing your place of residence.
. To decide to move to another city, you need strong arguments in favor. For example:
- You have been offered a new job, with career prospects that do not and will not exist in your current place of residence.
- You live in a city where specialists of your profile are not in demand or are paid very little.
- There are no good schools, universities and, accordingly, no opportunity to give children a decent education and a start in life.
- There are no prospects, everyone is leaving where you live now.
- Others significant
causes.
Perhaps not all your family and friends will support you. Be prepared for this and remember that it is your choice and life. Deciding to move to another city is not easy - it involves global changes and the unknown. But sometimes changing your place of residence is the only option to grow professionally and financially, to improve the life of yourself and your family.
Finance
This is the main question, the answer to which will make it clear whether you are ready to move or not.
Of course, the Internet is full of stories of how people with 10 thousand rubles in their pockets and one suitcase boarded a train, in another city lived on a mattress in an abandoned building, and then achieved greatness. And for some reason everyone pays attention to the happy ending, but forgets about the enormous difficulties at the beginning. Money is important, especially if you are used to living in comfort. They will help solve most problems that you may encounter. It also happens that job searches take longer. Then savings will allow you not to grab the first offer that comes your way, but to approach your choice more meaningfully. Therefore, it is better to first calculate how much money you will need, save a little more than this amount, and then move.
At a minimum, you need to have money for these purposes:
- Buying tickets and transporting things.
- Housing rent: estimated monthly rent multiplied by three. In the best case, you will find an apartment without outside help and additional expenses. In the worst case, you will have to pay the owner for the first and last months or make a deposit, and also give up to 100% of the rent to the realtor. And it is better to have enough money for the second option.
- Rent temporary housing while you look for permanent housing. There are not many chances that you will go to a rented apartment from the train station or from the airport.
- Household arrangement. Your new apartment may not have familiar things, or you may feel the need to replace them. Even if we are talking about a toilet brush and a shower curtain, this is still an expense.
- Daily expenses - groceries, cleaning supplies, travel on public transport. It's good to have at least three months' supply.
- Airbag - you never know what can happen.
It’s good if there is an opportunity to save on something. For example, relatives or friends are ready to shelter you while you are looking for an apartment - minus one expense item. But when making calculations, it is still better not to take the minimum numbers. Moving is already a huge stress. And if there is constantly not enough money even for the necessary things, life can turn into sheer suffering.
Pros and cons of changing residence
Change often opens up new opportunities, but it also has a downside.
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A good reason to move will outweigh the negatives. We have long been planning to change our place of residence to be closer to our eldest daughter. Therefore, they were not afraid to move to another city - there was a clear understanding of why this was being done. When you describe for yourself the advantages and disadvantages of a decision, you will logically justify the need for change. And there will be fewer emotions.
How to persuade relatives (husband, wife, parents)?
We didn’t have to persuade each other - we left closer to the children. Both dreamed of living closer to the sea, changing their lifestyle and work. But it happens that you need to persuade your husband or wife to move to another city. In this case, you should calmly and respectfully present your arguments. You may need to return to the conversation several times.
We had a question with our parents. After our departure (thousands of kilometers away), my husband’s mother would have been left without relatives in a small town. Of course, we wanted to persuade my mother to move to another city together. The pros and cons were given. There were more advantages. The arguments in favor were as follows:
- She won't be left alone.
- The eldest granddaughter has lived here for a long time.
- My son in Moscow, who used to come once every 4 years, will also be closer.
- The youngest grandson is 11 years old, for him moving is an emotional event. Grandma will support when mom and dad go to work, and the child goes to an unfamiliar school.
- A mild climate and a more developed healthcare system in the new region.
The husband's mother accepted the arguments and agreed. We took care of the costs and affairs (selling the house, paperwork, transporting things, buying tickets, organizing the trip), and everything went well.
Search for rental housing
In the first version of the plan, this item was missing, because it was planned to immediately move into a finished apartment with finishing touches. But since the move to our own home was postponed, the need arose for rented housing for this time. This means it was necessary to allocate the required amount to pay for it. In addition, it was necessary to find an apartment before the final move, preferably without furniture or with a minimum amount of it (because I had a lot of my things).
Everything worked out well here; a suitable option was found in a house that was located directly opposite our house under construction. A realtor who had previously looked for housing for us to buy helped. I consider it advisable to address this issue specifically to professionals. Having a fairly large database, they will help you realistically assess the market and guide you on prices.
This gave us a great opportunity to watch every day how our house was being built, which is what we did for 5 months of agonizing wait. And later, when moving from rented housing to our own, it turned out to be very convenient. We moved almost all the things ourselves from entrance to entrance. Only the largest and heaviest items were left with the movers.
How to prepare for moving?
Important things to do:
- Check if the documents are in order. Change your driver's license or foreign passport if it is time to do so.
- If you do not have a foreign passport, it is advisable to apply for and receive one, including for children (validity at the main place of residence - 1 month), if you move and it is impossible to immediately register at your new place of residence, valid for up to 3 months.
- If something is lost or personal data has changed (SNILS, INN, etc.) - change or restore.
- Take all documents with you: identification, education, certificates, certificates, awards, etc.
- When looking for a job in a new place of residence, you can prepare and send out a resume in advance indicating the time of arrival. And having already moved to live in another city, go through interviews. You can also find remote work without being tied to your place of residence or master a profession that allows you to earn money via the Internet.
- Collect medical cards from the clinic (at the reception desk, write an application addressed to the chief physician and receive a card).
- Get your real estate documents in order. In case of sale they will be needed. If you are not going to sell, it is better to make a power of attorney for disposal, delivery and possible sale.
- Pay utilities, pay off debts.
- If you quit your job, write a statement at least two weeks before your planned departure. Notify the accounting and administrative departments so that they prepare the papers to be handed over to your receiver. Check that the entry in the work book is correct. At the same time as your employment notice, you will be given a dismissal order, a certificate for accruing sick leave and unemployment benefits, and a 2-NDFL certificate and character reference.
- Take a reference and an extract with grades from school (for school-age children).
- Make a certificate of no criminal record (through the MFC or your personal account at State Services).
As you can see, in order to prepare for moving to another city, you need to get things in order. And only then – sort things out and distribute unnecessary items. You will get to things at the packing stage.
A little exercise
[adsense1] If you still can't decide and hesitate between two positions, try this exercise. I will give 2 lists: one will contain the pros of moving, and the other will contain the cons. If you think the plus is strong enough, bend your finger. After all the items on the list, count and write down the number of bent fingers so you don’t forget. The same operation must be carried out with disadvantages. At the end, compare how many fingers are on the pluses and how many are on the minuses and determine who wins.
This exercise will help you weigh the pros and cons, and you can use this information in subsequent discussions. You will have arguments either to move or to live a quiet life in your city. Let's finally get started.
pros
- You will become completely independent
- You will gain life experience
- You will become independent
- You can start your life again
- Friends will see you as an example of a brave person
- You will have something to tell your grandchildren about
- You can make great connections
- You will earn more
- You will join the rhythm of the big city and feel the taste of life
- Your children will receive a better education
Minuses
- We'll have to start all over again
- Difficulties in legal terms (registration, re-issuance of papers)
- Difficulty finding a job
- Lack of friends
- Lack of family support
- Nostalgia for home
- Noise, crazy rhythm of life
- Prices for real estate and some services
- Ecology
- Worse living conditions
How to organize a move?
Try to write everything down. You will need to do a lot of things in parallel and not miss anything. The following tips will help you properly organize your move to another city:
- Make a to-do list. Cross out the completed items and add the necessary ones.
- If you are traveling by train or plane, buy tickets in advance - you will save a lot.
- Sort things into 2 categories. The first ones are those that you will take on the road and that will be needed on site at first. The second ones are those that will need to be sent by a transport company. It’s worth taking warm clothes with you (not in your luggage, but in your hand luggage) even in summer.
- Dress in layers. If it gets hot, you can take off your windbreaker and sweatshirt and stay in a T-shirt.
- Think over a list of medications needed during the trip and adjusted for your family members.
- If you have children with you, take food that can be stored without refrigeration. Children are unpredictable. It is unknown when they will want to eat and how they will react to store-bought food.
- If you are flying with transfers, make sure that they are not tiring. We could not find such a flight. Therefore, we included in the trip a visit to relatives in Yekaterinburg. The trip turned out to be longer, but more comfortable and joyful.
- To move quickly, set a departure date for another city. This will help you clearly plan the things that need to be resolved before leaving.
- If there is no housing where you are moving, book a hostel, hotel or rented apartment in advance.
How to send things to another city?
Some take with them only money, documents and clothes for the first time. Some transport everything from furniture to souvenirs. We decided to move to another city with our things. Here's an algorithm on how to do it.
1. Choose a company that will send your items. There are many companies and individuals offering such services. Read reviews and compare rates. Identify one or more “candidates,” contact them, ask questions. Based on how the communication goes, it will be clear with whom it is better to conclude an agreement.
2. Pack your things. Pack everything in accordance with the requirements of the transport company. Send the company representative a photo of the first boxes assembled. Let him see if you are doing the right thing. Each package must be numbered and what is contained there must be written down.
Here's how it was for us:
- We chose two companies and submitted an application. In one they did not answer, in the second they called back and answered the questions in detail. We turned to the second one.
- We agreed on a deadline for submitting an application. We received a contract, a cost estimate, and requirements for packing things.
- When we found out the specific departure date, we contacted the company again. The manager called back, who was then constantly in touch: from the beginning of the journey of our things to unloading.
- Things were packed in boxes and bags. Each one was numbered and included in a list indicating what was in each package. This list was given to the driver who picked up the cargo. Each box and bag was additionally wrapped in film.
Items arrived without damage, including computers and dishes.
What is the first thing you need to do in a new place?
- Register at your new place of residence. Go to the management company (some have migration department employees) or to the MFC with your passport, birth certificate and documents for residential premises. If the premises do not belong to you, then its owners must come with you. If you decide to check out when moving to another city, then register in the new place no later than 7 days so that there is no fine. But it’s easier not to be discharged, because when you register in a new place, you will be discharged automatically.
- Attach yourself to a clinic. Go to the registration desk and find out what is needed for this. Usually an application is written addressed to the head physician.
- If you moved to another city with a child, choose a school or kindergarten. Take the documents (preferably with registration) and go to the administration. Find out if there are free places and whether you can place your child there. If your child has attended extracurricular activities, ask if there are any at the new school.
Finding suitable housing options
In parallel with the search for buyers for my apartment, the real estate market in the areas of interest in the new location was studied. And although the initial plan was to buy a home in a new house, all options were considered: both new buildings and secondary housing. And not only within the city, but also in the nearby suburbs.
Along the way, we had to make adjustments to the estimated cost, location and choice of area. As a result, after a buyer for our home was found, the apartment was purchased not exactly where it was originally planned, and under an agreement of shared participation in a house under construction, the delivery of which was scheduled in 5-6 months. This option was initially categorically rejected for many reasons. In particular, due to the risk of being left without money and housing.
Useful tips
2 more sketches from our story: transporting a snail on an airplane and an estimate (how much it cost us to move to another city).
How to transport Achatina
We took a large snail (Achatina) with us. No rules or recommendations for transporting such animals were found. It was assumed that there might be difficulties during inspection at the airport. We bought a plastic container with holes and put the snail in it. The container was placed in a backpack. During the inspection, no questions arose, and the pet flew away safely with us.
How much did it cost to change your place of residence?
Our family moved not just to another city, but to another region - from the Altai Territory to the Kaliningrad Region. Three adults and one child 11 years old plus luggage.
| 1 | Car from your place of residence to the railway station (360 km.) | 6000 |
| 2 | Train tickets Barnaul – Ekaterinburg | 25397 |
| 3 | Airplane tickets Ekaterinburg – Kaliningrad (with luggage) | 35122 |
| 4 | Sending things by transport company (3 cubic meters) | 48000 |
| Total: | 114519 | |
Plus the cost of food, clothing, taxis and other expenses. If you count everything, it turns out to be about the same amount as large expenses.
We hope our experience will be useful to readers. When moving, the main thing is accounting and planning. The peace of mind at the end of this marathon depends on how well you plan everything.
Author: Articles from readers (KadrofID: 10782) Added: 10/17/2021 at 19:33
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