Human relationships are ornate and multifaceted in their retrospect. Young people of opposite sexes who have been friends for a long time often become one happy family. They can carry friendship from childhood through their entire lives and then ultimately understand that they cannot find a better candidate for the post of spouse. Love does not come immediately; it can burst into friendships with lightning speed and become the reason for one person’s dependence on another. But, unfortunately, in this case it is not always mutual. How to hint to a guy about a relationship if he is your longtime friend?
Love “happened”: what to do next?
Life is so unpredictable, so sudden in its random impulses and manifestations, that it is difficult to predict its next attack. You never know in advance what will happen tomorrow. Especially in matters of the heart: you are never sure who your choice will fall on, since everyone knows that you cannot order your heart. You can fall in love with a person who is simply physically unattainable, not to mention reciprocal love. You can lose your head over the cute new tenant of your house, who recently moved in from a neighboring city. Or you can fall in love with your own friend, suddenly realizing that the feelings of friendship experienced earlier gradually grew into feelings of love. And then how to hint to a guy about a relationship?
Firstly, you should let off steam and think about your further actions. Sitting silently and hiding your emotionally unstable state is not a very good choice, since sooner or later patience and silence will crack and result at the most inopportune and inappropriate moment for this. Therefore, you should initially think about how to hint to a guy that you want a relationship and crave reciprocity from him.
Secondly, sometimes you need to hear an outside opinion. Advice from friends who have already found themselves in a similar situation or the help of friends of the object of their adoration can significantly contribute to establishing a favorable atmosphere and preparing the ground for further actions in the mission of carefully disclosing your feelings to your loved one. What methods help give a guy a hint about a relationship?
Vague hints
Dear girls, our hints can be so vague that guys simply can’t make them out. You have built a logical chain in your head, which in theory should help you achieve your goal. But men ignore your verbal hints, not understanding what you are trying to achieve.
Thus, representatives of the fair sex in many ways complicate both their lives and the life of the person to whom they send their signs, taking offense at him, or even breaking off the relationship altogether. Therefore, learn to hint correctly so that the man understands your message and does what you want from him.
A hint of feelings through a friend
One of the most effective and reliable steps to “taming the obstinate” is to influence the object of your adoration through his friend. That is, in other words, in order to successfully confess your love to a guy, you need to enlist the help of his friend in this matter. But here you need to be careful: in 99 percent of cases, immediately after receiving information about the liking of a pretty girl for his friend, the young man will not fail to immediately notify his friend about this with a phone call or message on Twitter. Therefore, you need to insist on confidentiality or show him the benefits of his silence in the form of help in a student test or help in developing a project at work - by any means you need to force him to keep this sacrament secret.
Thanks to communication with a friend of a potential pet, you can find out his personal status, understand whether he is in a relationship with someone, test the waters regarding his interests, hobbies, preferences in appearance and internal qualities of girls. Being armed, it is much easier to develop a further strategy for taking the “Bastille” called a man and come up with a plan on how to hint to a guy about a serious relationship.
Initially, you need to understand whether he has sympathy for you...
In a state of love, beautiful creatures are ready to literally pray to the object of their adoration, calling it their destiny. I am, of course, no exception. Is it worth talking about the photos posted all over the room that depict HIM?! If you also sin with such “cute” activities, stop immediately! First, you need to understand whether he likes you. And it’s better to do this until the moment when your apartment turns into a house-museum named after HIS.
How can you find out about a man’s attitude if he behaves like a secret agent on a mission? That's why we are women, to expose any James Bond! There are three methods that will allow you to find out if a guy likes you:
- Talk.
Trite? I agree, but this is the first step, so to speak, for prudes. Find an opportunity to exchange at least a few words with the guy. And it is advisable that they are not about the weather. Chat about a movie you recently watched, discuss common interests.
In parallel with this, of course, you need to smile unobtrusively (just don’t overdo it!). If the conversation goes, as they say, like clockwork, it is very likely that your sympathy is mutual.
- Offer to go for a walk.
This method is more risky, but nevertheless much more effective. If a guy willingly agrees to sit in a cafe or on a park bench, know that he cares about you. If he fusses, muttering something about an old grandmother who needs help, you don’t have to continue, everything is clear.
- Tactile contact.
This is the final and, at the same time, the most risky method. You can check if a guy likes you by simply touching him. Remove the lint from his cheek (which is completely optional) or do something similar.
I hope your actions will be within the bounds of decency - too bold manipulations can scare away even the most desperate guy. If your actions are perceived positively by a guy, he definitely likes you.
A note with a hint of love
Very often, shame prevents people from acting. A certain embarrassment, fear, and excitement overwhelms you and prevents you from further impulses and desires to do anything. Especially often such a stupor happens to a person who is in love. When his object of affection appears, he becomes numb, first experiences confusion, and then terrible excitement, which does not allow him to adequately think and express himself. What can you advise in such a situation?
A love letter or note is the simplest hint to a guy about a relationship. The question is: what to write in this note and how to express thoughts and feelings so that they hook and force you to react in the most favorable way for the author? Again, the notorious embarrassment sometimes goes off scale even in silent communication with a young man pleasing to the heart, so many girls use anonymity to express their feelings through a love letter. So, without much fear, you can express your confession on a piece of paper and quietly throw it on your desk or in the pocket of the man you like.
How to show a man that you are available for a relationship: 7 signals
What postures and body movements will help you say: “You don’t need to be afraid of me. I won't bite"? I coach women to use the following availability cues. If you're a man, learn to read these signals so you can find partners who show you that you can have a conversation with them without fear of unpleasant consequences.
Don't take up too much physical space. This means that you should not spread your bag and coat on chairs, take up the entire cafeteria table with your personal belongings, and should not stand or sit with your legs too wide apart. This is understandable: too much occupied space is perceived as a sign of strength and superiority.
Turn your feet slightly inward. When standing, men usually place their feet 15–25 centimeters wide. Turning your feet in or out corresponds to your status in the social hierarchy. Feet turned outward say: “I am strong.” Feet turned inward say: “You can approach me.” Wide stance of the legs and turning the feet outward create an impression of strength and can be perceived as a signal of readiness to attack.
Women usually place their feet ten to fifteen centimeters wide. If they want to show that they can be approached without fear, then they should spread their legs no more than fifteen centimeters, and if they notice a man nearby who interests them particularly strongly, and want to make him feel that approaching them will not cause problems, then you should turn your toes slightly inward.
So go ahead. If you carefully look at how you walk in different shoes, you will notice that some types make you walk like a duck, forcing your feet to turn outward. Under no circumstances should you appear in them where you want to interest someone. Turning your feet outward when walking is a warning signal “Hands off!” Interestingly, such a gait is often caused by excess weight or pregnancy - conditions when the attention of strangers, single men is not particularly needed.
How shoes can enhance your attractiveness
If you're a woman, try walking in every pair of shoes you own to see how they affect your posture and gait. Ideally, this should be done in front of a large mirror. Flip-flops, clogs, and other types of flat shoes are comfortable, but they can cause you to shuffle your soles and walk in what is known as a cavalry gait, with your feet wide apart and bent. Some types of shoes can cause you to slouch or walk like a man, sticking your belly out instead of swinging your hips smoothly. High heels can increase the range of motion of your hips, but if the grimace on your face says, “These stiletto heels will kill me,” then they are unlikely to enhance your attractiveness.
Smile. Even if this is obvious, it still doesn’t hurt to remind you that in a state of tension we cannot smile sincerely and openly, and when we try to put on an air of importance, we often don’t smile at all. Smiling is an international signal of friendliness. That's why the half-smiles and half-smirks on the Joker's face in the Batman films look so scary. Such expressions are unusual on the faces of normal people, in whose world a smile signifies safety, not threat.
You probably remember many times when a man asked you why you weren't smiling. The fact is that when you smile, men find it easier to approach you.
Shrug your shoulders. When something frightens us, we try to protect our head by raising our shoulders towards our ears and retracting our head. A quick and short movement of your shoulders up, accompanied by a glance towards the man you are interested in, tells him about your pliability.
I've seen women master the art of shrugging. They perform this movement with sensual, downright feline grace. They see a handsome man, give him a brief appraising glance, and then shrug.
Tilt your head. Bowing the head is not a purely feminine gesture, but it is more commonly used by women and is generally considered a signal of submission.
The tilt of the head symbolically exposes the neck. It resembles the head movement that wolves make when the leader of the pack approaches them. This movement says: “I reveal my most vulnerable place to show you that I know that you can tear me apart. So let’s not start a fight for supremacy.”
In addition, head tilts serve as a nonverbal signal of attentive listening. Your ear moves closer to the speaker to symbolically say, “Pour more of this fascinating information into me.”
Note to men reading this: If a woman has stopped tilting her head, she may not want you to continue talking.
Open your crossed arms. They can serve as a protective wall. If you need to make a man want to approach you, you have to let that wall fall—or at least lower the drawbridge. If you need some degree of security in order to open up, take a glass of drink in your hand.
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Hints about relationships through social networks
Today's society's dependence on the World Wide Web is truly great and significant. Work, study, shopping, paying for services, making utility payments, business, financial transactions, media, communication and communications - absolutely everything today is reflected in Internet communications. And one of the most powerful resources of the Internet is the social network. Through this application you can exchange messages, calls, information, photos, videos, posts and other data. It’s no wonder that social networks are the ideal bridge between a girl and a guy she likes.
How to hint to a guy about a relationship? “VKontakte”, “Odnoklassniki”, “Instragram”, “Viber”, “Whatsapp”, “Twitter”, “Mail.ru” - a huge number of various websites provide the opportunity today for a girl to give a guy a hint about her feelings and offer to join relationship in a more unobtrusive way than in a face-to-face meeting. Draw fancy graffiti on the wall, send a love “GIF” or picture, post a romantic audio recording on the wall - in any way you can make yourself known, being a confident user of social networks.
An important indicator can be an unusual hint to a guy about a relationship - status. Here you can express all your thoughts directly or veiled, openly or between the lines, with or without subtext. An attentive man will be able to discern in it a phrase intended for him personally.
Phrases
To invite a guy to meet by correspondence or while walking, you can use phrases that encourage action and can hint at a relationship. Phrases like these will help take your communication to the next level. They don’t have to be said directly; they can be beautifully veiled. For example:
- “I enjoy spending time with you so much, I hope this is not the last evening when we will be alone?”
- “When you get home, call me so that I don’t worry”
- “Secretly, I’ve been looking for a reason to be alone with you for a long time, I hope everything will change in the near future, and I won’t have to wait so long.”
It happens that a guy needs to be told it like it is “to the point”, then phrases with direct wording are suitable. For example:
- “I have a serious conversation with you, how long can you tolerate this, let’s meet?”
- “You don’t really understand hints, I’ve been wanting to propose to you for a long time, how do you look at this?”
- “I like you, will you be my boyfriend?”
- “I think you guessed why I called you here, let’s save time and I’ll ask you just one question - will you date me?”
You can add diminutive words like: bunny, honey, sun.
A gift with a declaration of love
If a guy and a girl have been communicating for a long time, are work colleagues or friends at university, neighbors or visitors to the same sports club, a competently presented gift to the young beauty will help him express his feelings. With or without a reason, on a holiday or on an ordinary gray Monday, a romantic craft created by a girl with her own hand, or a figurine with two lovers, or a heart-shaped pillow - anything that will help her convey her feelings and emotions in a small symbolic gift without further ado. Any man will like such a warm surprise and will be at least pleasant. And if he is as favorable towards the girl as she is towards him, everything can work out.
Love magic and prayers
Many girls despair and decide to resort to the power of magic, hoping that it can help them in love affairs. If you have tried all the available ways to influence a guy, but he still hasn’t paid attention to you, then, of course, you may be attracted to one of the following conspiracies.
Conspiracy to get a guy to ask you out on a date
For this ritual you will need a photo of your lover. Now you can easily get a photo by going to the page of the object of your sympathy on a social network. After printing its image, get down to business. Place the photograph on a flat surface and light a candle next to it.
Look at the appearance of your chosen one through the flame of a candle and say the following words:
“I, the Servant of God (my own name), call on the Servant of God (the guy’s name) to come to my house on the threshold and find my heart here. So that his thoughts call to me, so that his heart speaks about me, so that his feet obediently carry me to me. When he comes to me, he won’t knock, but will come right in. Yes, let everything be as I said. Amen."
In general, there are many similar conspiracies on the Internet, and if you believe in the power of such rituals, then you can use one of them.
Conspiracy for reciprocity and love of a man
There is a lot of information on this topic. One very remarkable ritual is popular among some women. First you need to buy an apple, cut it and take out the core, in its place you should put a small piece of paper. On this small piece you need to write the name of your lover and draw a heart pierced by an arrow. After this, connect the two halves of the fruit (the paper should remain inside it). Place the apple in the sun (on a windowsill, on a balcony, etc.). Now all you have to do is wait. According to experienced conspirators, as the fruit changes, the chosen one will increasingly be overcome by thoughts of you.
Periodically approach the apple and say the following words:
“As my apple will dry, so the Servant of God (boyfriend’s name) will dry for me, the Servant of God (your name).”
Prayers for the return of a loved one
Some women sincerely believe in the power of prayer, thanks to which you can return your lover. The Internet is replete with such conspiracies, and you can easily find the one that appeals to you the most.
However, many are skeptical about such methods of returning relationships and finding personal happiness. As a rule, in order to keep your loved one close, you first need to work on yourself and your relationship.
Creative impulse with a hint of relationships
How to hint to a guy about a relationship, being a creative person? It is very beautiful to share your feelings for a young man with everyone through chants. A karaoke bar or the stage of a local restaurant will help a girl show her sincere attitude towards a young man through sensual and tender words sung in the notes of melodious music that is pleasant to the ear.
An equally frank declaration of love and a hint of a relationship is the poetic form of a love letter. A person who knows a lot about poetic reading, or simply a guy who has a keen sense of the emotional background of such creativity, will always appreciate the step that a girl has decided to take by reading him her favorite passage from a rhymed poem by a famous writer or from her own love essay.
How to hint to a guy so that he invites him to go out or ask him out on a date
Interesting places
In personal communication or during correspondence, you can mention some new establishments or simply interesting places that you would like to visit. Note that you usually go for a walk with a friend, but in the coming days she has other things to do, so you don’t even know whether to wait for her or find another company. For a young man, this will be a clear hint that you are inclined to go for a walk together.
His tastes
Find out where your chosen one likes to spend time and show interest in his choice. For example, he likes skiing. Say that you have never done this or can’t learn, but you would really like to. Or he may state that he likes a certain genre of films that he periodically goes to see. You, in turn, can answer that you are also interested in such films, but your friends do not share these tastes, and you yourself do not want to go to the cinema.
Direct hints
Write or tell the young man that you are very interested in communicating with him, and it would be nice to take a walk together sometime. You can find a specific reason. For example, you told your interlocutor about some place he has never been to. Mention in passing that you will definitely show him this establishment “someday.” If he wants to meet, then your statement will be a good chance for him to take advantage of the situation and invite you for a walk or a date.
Voice message revealing feelings
You can confess your love to a guy using such a simple gadget as a telephone. By leaving an SMS message or sending a voice message with a text about how things are in the soul of a girl in love, you can get rid of exhausting thoughts about how to make a declaration of love to him as simply and sincerely as possible. Recording on a voice recorder all those words that I wanted to say to him for so long, but there was no opportunity and I didn’t have enough strength - this is the ideal solution for a shy and timid young lady.
Reducing the distance
How to shorten the distance:
- Don't be afraid to touch. After joking, lightly push him on the shoulder. Invade his space slowly but surely. Stay within arm's length as often as possible.
- Arm yourself with humor. Kind jokes will help defuse the atmosphere if there is an awkward pause in the conversation. Making fun of a guy's appearance will also make him more interested. “After all, if a girl notices a wrinkled T-shirt, it means she’s not indifferent to me.” The main thing is not to offend the guy with barbs.
- Be weak. Ask a man for help, even if you can handle the problem yourself. Destroy Windows on the laptop and ask the young man to install the system again.
- Hide behind the guy's courage. Cling to his hand while watching a horror movie or don't let go of his hand in a dark park.
For a man, even a young one, there is nothing sweeter than a demonstration of his own strength.
