She gets emotionally invested.
If a girl loves you, she worries and cares about you. She cares about how your day was. She wants you to share your problems with her. You are now a part of her life. Keep in mind that she wants to ask questions not because she sticks her nose everywhere. She shows that she loves you.
Note that this means that she is thinking about you and is worried.
Emotional investment is a very important and revealing factor.
Don't get angry if a woman asks you for the second time if you'll come soon. This is not control. She's just worried and waiting for you.
Stages of falling in love in girls
Falling in love comes suddenly. Planning for it is as unrealistic as feeling sincere joy or sadness. Chemistry, magic, intuition - this is how they speak about this feeling. Conventionally, when girls fall in love, there are three stages:
- Flash. The surging feeling is still hard to wrap my head around and evokes many conflicting emotions.
- Awareness. Feelings become concrete, and the girl begins to show sympathy.
- Euphoria. In the case of reciprocity, the girl is in bliss, which gradually turns into addiction. If there is no response from the partner, a loss of strength occurs and depression develops.
The state of falling in love does not disappear without a trace; it is the basis of relationships, in the development of which there are 7 stages:
- Love. A dangerous stage characterized by loss of critical thinking. The girl is under the spell of her partner, fascinated by his signs of attention and emotions from spending time together. For her, her beloved is ideal; she categorically does not notice his shortcomings. According to psychologists, lovers see in each other those whom they themselves have invented, and practically do not know each other for real.
- Becoming. Harsh everyday life sets in, romance turns into routine. Common sense returns, helping the girl to really evaluate her chosen one. This stage serves as a boundary for couples at which they break up, having had enough of each other, or maintain the relationship after creating a couple.
- Negation. Not all lovers are able to bypass this stage. The partner’s shortcomings became very noticeable, and the advantages palpably faded. The girl tries to change the habits and manners of her beloved, running into his stiff resistance. Quarrels and scandals are inevitable.
- Peace and humility. The stage of realizing that the beloved is a separate person with his own character.
- Partnership and service. Thinking at the previous stages only about satisfying their interests, the partners finally came to the readiness to interact and submit to each other.
- Friendly relations. The girl becomes a true friend to her partner and stops acting like a woman in love.
- Tough love. Passions and emotions stopped boiling over. Relations became calm and measured.
She doesn't flirt with other men.
As soon as a girl begins to feel in love, another thing automatically turns on - fidelity.
She doesn't look at other men or try to flirt with them. There are no others for her anymore. Only you.
It is important for her to be close to you, and only to you. In the company of other men, she will not take her eyes off you. Girls always want to please everyone, but the one in love will focus on you. This is the most obvious sign by which you can determine the depth of her feelings.
How to understand that a girl loves you
Often a girl hides her sympathy for a guy, afraid of finding herself in an awkward situation (being rejected). But it happens like this:
- she is afraid of a new novel, since the previous one ended badly;
- does not want a relationship because of problems in the family or at work;
- is embarrassed to show feelings (due to inexperience in love relationships, lack of self-confidence)
You can find out that a girl is in love by her behavior (unconscious signs of jealousy, calls, SMS, manner of speaking). Non-verbal signs – gestures, glances – will also help.
Behavior
A girl who hides her love unconsciously strives for the object of her desire. But then, when reason turns on, she begins to demonstrate pseudo-indifference. It looks like this: a lady asks about her lover, comes to where he is, tries to stand closer, and when the man notices this, she moves away and starts a conversation with other people. Other oddities in a woman’s behavior that indicate she’s in love:
- The girl is interested in the same things as her object of sympathy (watching his favorite films, reading books, mastering the hobbies of her loved one).
- Strives to help, shows care and sympathy.
- Gives gifts (a woman does not show such signs to others).
- Laughs or giggles cutely at all jokes (even if they are not funny).
Another sign of falling in love is a change in mood. If the man she loves is not around, the girl is thoughtful and sad. In his presence, he perks up, begins to joke, laugh, his eyes light up.
Jealousy
Jealousy is an uncontrollable feeling that is difficult to hide. If a girl is in love with a man, she will be upset when she sees him in the company of a beauty. She will begin to treat this lady aggressively. During a personal conversation, the guy will also see symptoms of jealousy: if the conversation turns to another woman, the interlocutor’s face will change, she will speak unflatteringly about her rival.
Sight
If a man constantly catches a woman’s gaze on himself, this is a sure sign of her love. When the lady notices the return glance, she averts her eyes, but soon begins to spy on her lover again. With prolonged eye contact, you can notice signs of mild arousal - this is indicated by dilating pupils. In response to signs of attention, the eyes of a girl in love begin to glow (at the same time, compliments from other people are pleasant to her, but do not cause sparkles in her eyes).
Gestures
The main non-verbal signs of love in girls are characteristic gestures. When they love a man, then:
- Tries to touch a handsome man more often than other guys.
- Removes hairs and threads from his clothes, straightens his hair.
- During a conversation between many people, the girl’s feet are directed towards the person she likes most (while her head and body can “look” in the other direction).
- Signs of excitement appear: straightens his hair, straightens his clothes.
- Signs of flirting are observed: a woman, looking at the object of her love, licks her lips and twirls a curl of hair with her finger.
It has been noticed that people in love try to copy the facial expressions and posture of the object of their passion. In psychology this is called “rapport”.
Calls or SMS
Telephone conversations and correspondence can reveal that the interlocutor is in love. Firstly, she answers calls and SMS faster than usual, as if she was waiting for them. The tone of the conversation becomes soft, the girl giggles a lot. Other signs of sympathy are the following phrases:
- Compliments and excessive support (for example, a guy says: “I’m being called to the boss tomorrow,” and in response he hears: “Everything will be fine, because you’re so smart”).
- Questions about plans (as if trying to discreetly find out where the man will be in the evening or on the weekend).
- Questions about personal life (carefully tries to find out if the interlocutor has a lover).
She trusts you.
If there is no trust, then there is no intimacy.
She doesn't get into your phone if you're late at work. She doesn't monitor your social networks and doesn't eavesdrop on conversations. She believes you and understands that since she chose you, she must cast aside all doubts.
In turn, she can share her experiences with you. For her, you are the closest person.
These are the main symptoms of whether a girl loves you. Hope they help. If the article was useful, share it with a friend. Help him improve his personal life.
You just need to be a little more attentive.
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Love is not one of the most understood and studied things, even in its seemingly simplest components. Very often it is impossible to catch even the most basic signs of whether the “same” person feels something towards you (despite the fact that there are feelings). So, how can you tell if a girl is in love but is hiding it?
Her look and eyes
It is believed that the eyes cannot lie and this really is the case. They are a mirror of a girl’s soul and first of all these feelings give her away:
- The main signal of the eyes is the gaze; more than once you could feel someone else’s gaze on you. So, a girl on a subconscious level in a large company will constantly look at you. But don't confuse staring with regular peeping. Having noticed the gaze and attention on yourself, try to count how many times the stranger will look at you. If more than five times per meeting, then you definitely interested her.
- More pronounced, which makes it clear that a person is in love - the dilation of the pupils when looking at a loved one. This is simple physiology and it is impossible to argue with it. However, it only works with females with light eye color. On dark eyes it is very difficult to recognize changes in the size of the pupil and you can easily confuse your chosen one.
- When she turns her gaze to her, she abruptly turns away and pretends that she wasn’t looking. The surest sign of falling in love, she looked at you, but when you paid attention to her, she immediately became embarrassed. This means that she is in love and is afraid of being misunderstood.
How to check her feelings?
If you still doubt whether a girl loves you, try breaking up for a while. If your chosen one really loves and takes you seriously, she will really miss you and wait faithfully. Nothing will change during the period of time you spend apart. What is important is not only whether she will wait or not, but what she will do in your absence. If, in order to pass the time waiting for your return, she goes to a party and walks in a noisy company of friends and young people, then we can safely question the veracity of her words and the sincerity of her feelings. Temporary separation will put everything in its place, so this method of checking is the most reliable.
No matter how mysterious and incomprehensible a girl is by nature, it is still possible to understand what she feels.
We also recommend watching an interesting video on the topic:
Sign six – time7
I want to spend a lot of time with my loved one. So many. I love any free moment. And don’t wait for him to call you somewhere. The girl will initiate communication only with those who are interested in her. The greater her passion, the more she strives to communicate. She will write, call, come. He will offer to go to the cinema, to a cafe, to the park - anywhere, as long as we are together.
She understands perfectly well that she needs you, so she won’t wait for the weather by the sea. Risks being left behind. Therefore, he will put his principles of “girls don’t call first” aside and will fight for his happiness.
Married girl in love
Often, husbands are very restrained in their feelings and do not show excessive emotionality, while they do not know how to understand that a woman is in love, they want to know if their spouse has cooled off towards them. This can be determined by the following signs:
- when communicating with other men, he does not flirt and keeps himself within the bounds of etiquette, without showing the slightest interest in them and without provoking jealousy;
- she worries about her husband’s health, strives to please him, creates comfort and coziness at home;
- shows care, supports her husband, shares his victories and defeats with him;
- plans evenings and weekends together;
- accepts her spouse completely, with all his shortcomings, and is willing to compromise in case of disputes;
- She completely trusts her husband and is honest with him.
If your wife is increasingly cold, she has begun to avoid sex and behave secretly, most likely she has fallen in love with another man. There may also be reasons for this:
- excessive freedom when everyone has their own life;
- the relationship had become obsolete - the wife tried to support them, but the husband was indifferent to this;
- feelings have faded due to regular quarrels, the couple is looking for an outlet on the side.
You can understand whether your wife has an affair on the side by the following signs:
- she is always in high spirits, despite disagreements with her husband;
- the woman became absent-minded and dreamy, the smile never left her face;
- her phone is always with her, all social media pages are closed;
- She began to take better care of herself, and ignores her husband’s compliments.
Sympathy is the first stage
A girl’s appearance is what a man pays attention to first. Physical characteristics, a sweet smile, a slender figure - these are the criteria by which the opposite sex is assessed. Moreover, the representative of the stronger half of humanity has his own personal preferences regarding girls. Some are attracted by legs, others by a charming face, a snow-white smile or gait. Sometimes a man doesn’t even realize what’s so special about the girl he likes; if he finds her attractive, we can say that the first stage of love has arrived - sympathy.
Sign five – mood6
A loving woman will not only demand, she also knows how to give. She will arrange pleasant surprises, give gifts with or without reason. She just likes to please you. At the same time, she will not wait for the answer “honey, I bought you a new shaving gel, maybe you can give me another perfume?” Nooo, this is not about love, this is extortion.
If a woman has the approach “Well, I’m a girl, that means you need to give me flowers on Fridays, take me to a restaurant on Saturdays, a movie on Sundays, shopping on Wednesdays,” then there is no talk of any love here. And if everything is supported by phrases like “Don’t you love me? Do you feel sorry for me to buy a new handbag?”, then you definitely need to run. And change your phone number just in case.
Changes in appearance
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If a woman is in love, her image changes, she tries to look better - these are the main signs. The appearance of a girl in love changes due to internal changes: a sparkle appears in the eyes, a pleasant smile, facial features become softer. A woman in love often has her head in the clouds, her muscles relax, and her face becomes friendly.
A girl can change her clothing style and wear dresses more often, even if she previously preferred jeans. Suddenly you may have a desire to change your hairstyle or hair color, or do makeup. All this in order to win the attention of the object of sympathy.
Girl putting on makeup
In the presence of a man, the fair sex wants to look perfect, sometimes this goes beyond the bounds of reason. She can go overboard with cosmetics and jewelry, and wear high-heeled shoes where this is not appropriate.
Note! Often girls in love attract the attention of not only the object of their affection, but also other men. The lover radiates warmth, her movements become light, one gets the impression that she loves everything around her. It is this state that attracts the opposite sex; another man may like her.
Erotic love7
If physical intimacy plays a primary role for a man and a woman, there is something to think about. Sex is a wonderful part of a relationship, but it serves as an unstable foundation for other important elements: common interests, communication, etc. Although, everything has its exceptions. There are many couples who prioritize sex, since the desire for physical intimacy perfectly stimulates all other aspects of family life.
Trying to look good
A girl who cares about you will try to look good for you. Even if your meeting is planned to last a few minutes and no one will see your significant other except you, she will still use cosmetics and make sure that her hair is clean. And she will also try to choose clothes that will emphasize her sexuality and hide her flaws.
Loving girl tries to look good
The first sign is fidelity2
A loving woman will always be faithful to her beloved. And it's not so much about betrayal as such. A woman is absolutely not interested in other representatives of the stronger sex when her entire insides are absorbed by one and only one. She will not allow herself to flirt with anyone at a party, even while under the influence. She won't flirt with anyone. She will not even tolerate the thought of looking at anyone else as an object of desire.
Distance, time - nothing can force a truly loving woman to betray her beloved man. If the chosen one has gone far and for a long time, but he will definitely return, then she will wait. We are not talking about a day or two, and not about a week, or even a month. We are talking about fairly long periods of time – six months, a year. For example, he was drafted into the army and left for another country. In the end they imprisoned me. A woman will find a lot of things to do to distract herself. He will bury himself in his work, start attending some clubs, learn to sew, knit, watch TV series in any free time, but will not allow himself to go in search of another man.
Sign three – change4
Any progressive relationship consists of movement. In order not to reach a dead end, a person must develop. Similarly with feelings - if one loves, then he is ready to change for another. But the golden mean is important here - for example, learning to cook a man’s favorite dish is a positive change, but having facial plastic surgery that a woman doesn’t need, but a man needs, is overkill.
Over time, relationships (of any kind) begin to fade, so you need to add more wood to the fire. A woman who loves will try to be desired by her man. It will pique his interest.
Altruistic love3
Women know how to love not for something, but in spite of it. Therefore, having tender feelings for a man, they are able to sacrifice something in the name of love without hesitation. Most often it’s career, personal interests, communication with friends. They give themselves completely to relationships, leaving not a drop of energy for anything else. Such altruism is certainly commendable, but sometimes it indicates negative tendencies.
Altruistic love is typical for couples with pronounced patriarchy, where the man chooses the role of leader. This often leads to a woman openly tolerating her partner’s antics, unfavorable living conditions, and his company. Because of this, a girl’s true love turns not into joy, but into a heavy burden.
Sign four – being close5
Love forces you to be with a person not only in joyful moments, but also in difficult times. The woman will try to help you or at least support you. There are situations when your soul sucks, everyone is up in arms against you, and she will be there. As in that joke - he will stand behind you and hand out cartridges.
She will not run away from you the moment you are upset about something. Will help you survive the loss. She won’t be buzzing around your ear “well, when are we going to go on vacation” during a period when you are having financial difficulties. She won't blame you for ruining your vacation because you broke your arm. A loving person will understand and support.
