Qualities of a man - bad and good character traits, what to cultivate in yourself

They say that appearances are deceiving.

I would add that the inner world of any person does not always tell the truth.

In any case, not all at once and not all of it.

Sometimes it takes years to understand a loved one, but what can we say if we have known him for only a few weeks or months.

On the other hand, there are character traits that manifest themselves in behavior that can tell us a lot, a lot. The main thing here is not to rush to conclusions and not to mess things up.

In one of the previous articles, I described the character traits of a woman, especially not loved by men.

In this article I will talk about the character traits of men that most often end up on blacklists of female attention.

I don’t think that I will write much new here; countless words have already been said and written on this topic.

However, it is worth talking about. After all, the character traits and personality traits listed here and in the previous article most often become a stumbling block in relations between the sexes. Although, for some reason, they are the ones who are overlooked at the very beginning of this relationship.

And again, I note that the problem is not the presence or absence of negative traits in a man’s character, but the degree of their expression. The more pronounced the trait, the more it repels a woman.

Many men well compensate for the presence of one or even several negative traits included in this “black list” by developing positive qualities in themselves that attract women. Thus, they weaken the negative manifestations of their character.

It is very good if at the same time a man knows how to control his negative traits, making them almost invisible to others, then his problems with women are reduced to a minimum.

So the presence of the traits listed below in a man’s personality is not a death sentence, otherwise he is guaranteed to have chronic problems in relationships with the opposite sex.

And here is the “black list” itself:

Who is the ideal man

The phrases “ideal man” and “dream man” are found so often that they are no longer given much meaning. No one knows exactly what this ideal looks like, what its character is, and what qualities it possesses. Everyone puts their own meaning into these words.

For any woman, the standard qualities of an ideal man include high intelligence, wit and respect. Everyone dreams of seeing next to her a handsome and fit chosen one who will give gifts, preferably with his own apartment and car. He must have beautiful eyes and a charming appearance. All this looks like a description of a prince from a fairy tale, but not a description of a real man.

According to family psychologists, the main qualities of a man should include:

• Kindness is the first quality that all girls talk about when describing their ideal. A kind person will come to the rescue, love his children and value his family;
• Reliability. This can be called a person who will not change his opinion and will do what he promised;
• Ability to care. Everyone wants to see a chosen one next to her who will take care of her and say pleasant words;
• Responsibility. A man must realize that he is the head of the family, the woman and his children depend on him;
• Loyalty. Every woman wants to be sure that her husband will not leave her or exchange her for another.

Note! All girls are partly right when they describe real masculine qualities in their character, but many of them are exaggerated.
For example, having a car is an absolute plus, but if a guy with a car turns out to be an infantile egoist, he can hardly be called an ideal.

Examples for different professions

When indicating the weaknesses of a person, it is necessary to choose those that will not contradict professional activities. Let's look at examples for different types of work.

For sales consultant

To obtain a vacancy as a sales consultant, you can select two or three characteristics from the following list:

• excessive sociability (in this case, such a quality can turn from a disadvantage into a positive aspect, since working with clients requires communication);
• scrupulousness (working with money requires you to be careful);
• distrust and an inflated sense of responsibility;
• the need for constant motivation.

For sales representative and sales manager

A sales professional has to constantly be in contact with clients. Its negative side may be:

• increased suspiciousness;
• hyperactivity;
• emotionality;
• self-confidence;
• excessive sociability.

For a lawyer

A lawyer may have such characteristic features as:

• a heightened sense of justice;
• persistence;
• increased anxiety;
• desire to speak in front of an audience;
• straightforwardness.

For an accountant

The work of an accountant involves documents, so weaknesses in a resume may include:

• distrust;
• slowness;
• increased anxiety;
• pedantry;
• modesty;
• difficulties in communication, establishing contacts with strangers;
• self-esteem;
• excessive scrupulousness;
• inflated sense of responsibility.

Writing a resume is not an easy task. Only a successful and competent application form will help you find a good job. Therefore, you should not copy standard solutions, but apply a personal approach to a specific vacancy. When listing your weaknesses, you should follow a few tips:

1. All specified characteristics must be true. Any deception is revealed during the interview.
2. There is no need to list all your shortcomings. Limit yourself to two or three characteristics, but only in relation to the profession.
3. It is important that the resume is properly formatted, that there are no errors, and that it is in stylistic order.

PS Add your negative qualities to the list, relating them to your profession in the comments