How to quickly learn anything: 6 main rules

• Accept criticism
• Sincerely apologize
• Value your own time and distribute it correctly
• Politely refuse
• Empathize
• Be friends
• Maintain a budget
• Cook food
• Wake up on time
• Being alone

In order for a person to enjoy life and be happy, he needs to learn some important things.

Accept criticism

It is criticism (if it is adequate) that helps a person grow and develop. People with low self-esteem react with rudeness and irritability in response to criticism, perceiving comments as a personal insult. If you feel that your self-esteem is suffering, then this is the first thing you need to work on. If a person loves and values ​​himself, then he is able to adequately perceive appropriate comments and work on his mistakes.

Adequately perceived criticism addressed to oneself as a sign of healthy self-esteem

Develop creativity

Of course, what is worth learning is the creative profession. Perhaps creative skills will not allow you to earn big money, but there should be something for the soul, right? Try learning to draw. Even if you have never held a pencil in your hand and the most you can do is draw a flower with five petals, it doesn’t matter. Video tutorials on YouTube will teach you about basic drawing techniques. Who knows, maybe soon you will be able to draw a horse yourself.

Don't want to draw? Try your hand at photography. The world around is so beautiful that you want to stop a moment by capturing it on film. Find an object of inspiration and practice, someday your photographs will be the centerpiece of the best exhibitions in the world.

It doesn’t matter what you choose: designing, creating a masterpiece from matches or illustrating on a computer. The main thing is to approach this methodically, conquering new heights step by step.

Be friends

Often friendships stretch from childhood and it is important that trusting relationships are maintained. A person needs a friend who can listen and give advice. If there are no old friends, learn to find new ones. Meet people, live in society, be open to communication.

Learn to communicate and make friends to feel like a full part of society

Learn the basics of design

Not everyone is born with a sense of style, but it can be developed. Of course, everyone's tastes are different, so what's good for some may seem terrible for others. Start with the basic classic design types and combinations. Try to improve the design of your home based on what you have learned.

Perhaps this skill will help you in your future work. In the end, aestheticism in any endeavor is never superfluous. Now there are many computer design programs that you can master on your own. And if you want to go further, sign up for courses where, under the guidance of professionals, you can develop and improve your skills.

Being alone

Some people simply cannot be alone and are always surrounded by other people. Situations can be different, for example, if a person moved to another city where he doesn’t know anyone. In this case, he will be forced to be alone for some time. It is important to be able to survive such a time without becoming depressed or panicking. Anyone who feels comfortable alone is always at peace of mind.

The ability to feel comfortable alone as a way to avoid emotional worries and fears

Believe in yourself and your strengths, be optimistic and open, don’t be ashamed to ask for help, be honest with the people around you and with yourself. Live and learn to enjoy life.

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Other important skills

All applicants are now subject to the same requirements: “We need hard skills / soft skills !” – and put forward a huge list of personality traits and patterns of behavior in the company. But a great specialist must have not only “hard” and “soft” skills, but also practical and professional ones, and not forget to remain a Human.

Example of hard skills and soft skills

Above I described the most important skills for a person, but there are also skills that people also really need. They were not included in the top, but are also necessary for a person to have a productive social life:

1. Stress resistance - here it is important that a person controls his emotions in force majeure circumstances and finds quick solutions. This skill helps you finish what you start, no matter how difficult it may be. Stress-resistant people are valued at any job and in the family.
2. The development of charisma is the brightness of a personality that can evoke emotions in others. This skill allows you to infect everyone with positivity, love for life, and establish contacts with any people. The behavior of these people reminds me of a pulsation - life pulsates in them, they are like fireworks.
3. Confident work on a PC - now any enterprise cannot do without this skill. All processes are so computerized that without confident work on a PC, you will either pay a lot of money to specialists, or spend weeks doing the amount that can be done in a day. This skill saves time and money.
4. A healthy lifestyle is a personal matter, whether to lead a healthy lifestyle or not, but without this skill you will quickly die. A healthy lifestyle involves not only proper nutrition, but also taking care of your physical fitness (exercise, training) and psychological comfort. In fact, this is a big topic that can be discussed for a long time, the main thing is to take care of yourself.
5. The ability to defend your point of view is a good skill; it helps you not to get lost among the opinions of others and to be respected in society. To defend your opinion means to be able to formulate it and present reinforced concrete arguments. This skill is important for absolutely everyone, since in any dispute the one with the most arguments wins.
6. The ability to abstract yourself and rest on time is a skill to “forget everything” in time in order to preserve your health and nervous system. They say that in order to work well, you need to rest well - that’s the point! When the brain is clean and bright, strength has accumulated, then all situations are perceived differently and you want to live!
7. The ability to motivate yourself and others is a skill a bit like developing charisma, but the goal is important here. This skill is very important when working in a team. When a person finds the right words, takes specific actions, stimulates those around him to work together and achieve results.
8. The ability to work in a team - and this skill is often included in different structures of a person’s skills, since it is important for all of us to learn this. It develops in a person sociability, the ability to establish good relationships with everyone, lack of conflict and other important and valuable qualities.
9. Fixation of attention - for a modern person, a big problem and happiness at the same time is a huge flow of information. To achieve results in any area, it is important to be able to focus on what is important and necessary. Concentration is the most important skill for each of us.
10. Conducting constructive negotiations - a cultured person is visible by the nature of communication and the ability to negotiate without conflicts. If you master the rules of constructive negotiations and develop this skill in yourself, you will be worth nothing in the workplace!
11. The ability to analyze - it is important not only to accept the information received by you, but also to analyze it. Analysis will help you draw the right conclusions and make the right decisions.
12. The skill of constantly developing and improving is a skill of rich people who do not waste time for nothing, but are constantly developing, trying new things, improving the skills that they already have. This is the constant dynamics of a person, constant demands on himself, a kind of bar that gradually rises, making a person more and more successful.
13. The skill of reading people (empathy) is a skill that helps you learn basic information about a person within a few minutes of communication with him. This is empathy, that is, an understanding of what a person is feeling now, what his emotional state is. A very useful skill, especially if you want to check whether you can trust your interlocutor or not.

Where do I begin?

– I was hooked by the word “sensitivity” - recently it has become important to me: it was the reason to switch to decaffeinated coffee, for example. What ways do you know to develop sensitivity and finally understand something about yourself?

– There is a joke on this topic: “We live actively!” “No, you don’t live actively, you bustle tirelessly.”

If we talk about the Eastern meditative approach, then contemplation and attention to detail, attention to the moment are elevated to a cult. You can make a spiritual practice out of everything: you cut out bunnies or process rice, read books or give lectures. If you approach everything carefully and be sensitive to what is happening, take your time...

The development of sensitivity begins with the body. To the point of banality – we often forget to breathe. In the art of public speaking, one of the most important things I learned was: 1) pay attention to whether you are breathing, 2) pay attention to how your body feels. Even just in a conversation with someone, it would be good to catch: what is happening to me now? how does my heart beat? Am I worried? can I feel the floor under my feet?

All practices, from oriental to running, perfectly develop sensitivity. Of course, you can rush like a moose through the thicket, thinking that you have to run 8 kilometers today, otherwise you will not fulfill your plan.

– It’s “running for a heart attack,” as another friend of mine says.

– Yes, yes, but you can do it in a completely different way: run and listen to what your body is telling you, feel this rhythm that your heart and your breathing allow you. When you do something in accordance with your body, it can be very slow.

But at some point you can catch the feeling that your head is empty and all that your attention is focused on is how a wonderful mechanism works: your body. Amazing car! And you can run for a very long time, observing how your breathing, heartbeat, and muscle work are in harmony.

There is a city practice that can turn your head upside down: you are in a hurry to get somewhere, moving with the flow of people. But try to stop and go at the speed at which you really want to go. Yes, it may be a little inconvenient for others. Yes, this may be unusual for you, and immediately all the cockroaches that you have in your head come out - that you must meet other people’s expectations, be comfortable for everyone. But there is your own speed.

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It's the same with food: start eating when you're hungry and stop eating when you're full. When you take your time, everything is possible. You don't have to overeat. Start on time, don’t wait until you start to go into a hungry coma, so as not to fill your stomach to the very top with all sorts of junk food.

Dance movement therapists say a great phrase: “Trust the floor.” Paul isn't going anywhere. This is something you can trust. Once you have learned to ground yourself, you begin to catch some more subtle things about what you feel: are you sad, are you scared, are you anxious, are you happy?

From these small, small things, something more global is woven: where do you want to go, what “rings” to you. In this regard, my idol is the clown Slava Polunin , he spoke at the Moscow TED about happiness. The quintessential Ikigai man. He is lucky; he has long been able to listen to himself.

Sports, performance and games

1. Do a fire show. Hone your technique of working with classic poi, staff (or even double, dragon staff), try out the rope dart. Don't want to waste time on technology? Okay, it will be easier with fans, and the viewer often loves them more. There are fire theaters, fire troupes and individual fire performers in all medium-sized and large cities, and in small ones there are always a couple of enthusiasts. And don’t forget to visit several fire fests in the CIS, most of them take place in the summer. Well, look at the performances of Ivan Gorbunov (Mel) on YouTube - it’s impressive!

2. Chess is a game of intellectuals. Finally learn how to play them! And not just rearrange the figures, but actually see the whole picture of the game and calculate the move; you will surely thank yourself when the opportunity arises to show off such a skill.

3. Waltz, polonaise, sirtaki, Argentine tango, zumba - there are a lot of popular types of dances, you will surely find something to suit your taste. The benefits of dancing are obvious: physical activity, keeping fit, improving body flexibility, and having fun. This is something everyone can learn in 3 months!

4. Contact juggling is not the easiest thing to do if you want to make a real performance out of it, but how unusual it is!

5. For fun, you can learn to walk on your hands, do the splits, do the Grand Jetée ballet jump (aka the split in the air), and juggle. For what? For fun!

6. Bridge is the only card game recognized as a sport, according to Wikipedia. So master it! How to learn to play bridge?