Every man has experienced a strong attraction to a girl at least once in his life. Moreover, sexual desire can appear for a woman even if the man is in a relationship with another and is absolutely happy. For some, sexual attraction becomes a pleasant surprise and an opportunity to enjoy life.
Others really suffer because of him. But in both cases, we can say with confidence that coping with a strong sexual desire towards a particular girl is very difficult.
Determining the essence of the problem
A period of prolonged sexual abstinence can begin in a person’s life for a variety of reasons. For example, the lack of a permanent partner or the reluctance to have sex without feelings with a “random” person. Often, for some time, you don’t want physical intimacy at all, especially after the end of a long-term relationship, and then there comes a moment when the desire awakens, but how to realize it is completely unclear. So, if the problem is of a moral nature, it needs to be solved comprehensively. One-time sexual contact is unlikely to change anything and help you feel happier. You need to learn to build close relationships with likeable people. There are often situations when it is clear why you constantly want sex, but nothing can be done about it. We are talking about those who prefer to maintain their virginity until marriage, or about girls waiting for their loved ones to return from the army. Sometimes sexual intercourse is prohibited by doctors, for example, when treating sexually transmitted diseases or during pregnancy. How to overcome the basic instinct in this case?
Common problem
It’s not for nothing that girls are called charming creatures, because sometimes men literally lose their heads over the beauty of this or that person. According to various sociological surveys, it turned out that the first thing that the entire strong half of the human race pays attention to is the appearance of the person they like, and only then everything else. It would seem that if you liked a girl, then it’s worth getting to know her. But the same surveys confirm the fact that young people are often afraid to simply approach, let alone introduce themselves.
This is what happens at work, in the office. Many people complain that, thanks to a new, head-turning employee, they cannot efficiently carry out management’s tasks, since all thoughts revolve only around her person.
Men's and women's discussion sites are filled with requests for help in overcoming their suspiciousness, embarrassment and uncertainty. Here is what 23-year-old Igor from Krasnodar writes:
“I work in a good company that produces diesel engines, and recently a new girl came to us. My name is Katya. I can’t work at all and I can’t even come close, but I liked it so much that it takes my breath away. I have never been good-looking, but my position is not low, do you think this is important? Actually, what should I do, can anyone give me some advice?”
And here is the request of 24-year-old Pavel from St. Petersburg “Guys, I’m faced with the following problem: I’ve been wanting a girl at work for half a month now, but I can’t meet her, I’m still waiting for an opportunity, but it still doesn’t come. She is beautiful and I see how other men constantly get acquainted with her, have lunch together, but I am not able to even smile at her, because I am afraid of some kind of reluctance on her part, we just say hello, I’m not sure that she knows how My name is. By the way, I can’t work at all, because she constantly comes into our office and asks something. What should I do and what should I do? I understand that the problem is in me, but maybe there is a way to overcome this desire? Otherwise it’s some kind of torture”
“Armchair psychologists” and “pick-up artists” are actively involved in the discussion, which does not help at all; judging by the responses of young people, often the advice does not work in favor of the young person.
Independence never hurts
Any teenager knows the answer to the question: “What to do if you want sex, but you can’t have it?” It's simple - satisfy your need on your own. Men are more accepting of masturbation. But many women have too strong beliefs that this is immoral and dirty. If this sounds like you, it’s time to get rid of such complexes. Try to relax as much as possible and choose a time when no one will disturb you. Explore your own body, and to create the right mood, you can even watch an erotic film or light candles and incense throughout the apartment. This option will also help if you want sex during your period. Virgins can also caress themselves, because clitoral orgasms are the most vivid, and you can get them without risking your own innocence at all.
Avoid complex hints and ambiguities
Briefly, the main rule: the girl must understand you correctly and give active consent to sex (only “yes” said with enthusiasm in a sober state is considered active consent).
A hint of intimacy with a girl is a very delicate moment. Asking a direct question can be awkward and scary, but we strongly recommend avoiding ambiguity. Examples of bad and extremely vague phrases that should NOT be said: “Would you like to come see a movie with me?”; “How about we chat in a quieter environment?”; “Do you want to play with my pet hamster?”
Even if it seems to you that the hint is quite transparent, try to be even more direct. It is advisable to say the word “sex” as there is always a risk of being misunderstood. Make sure that the girl really wants to have sex with you, and not just go to your house to watch a movie.
When asking a direct question, remember that only “yes” means “yes.” Moreover, said with enthusiasm in a sober state. It's time to stop considering some “special” behavior, flirting, clothes, makeup, the words “maybe” or “I like you,” as well as silence, as a sign of consent. And once again, just in case, about alcohol: in a state of severe intoxication, people cannot make informed decisions, so we strongly do not recommend offering sex to a girl who has drank alcohol or used drugs.
Help of modern technologies
Today, a whole industry of a specific industry is working in order to improve sex and allow it to be done well alone. Be brave and visit an adult store. The consultants of such a salon will not be embarrassed by the visitor’s statement: “I really want sex.” They will probably tell you what to do in this situation in the brightest colors. And don’t think that in a sex shop you can only find male simulators of all sizes and colors. There are many other interesting items here. If you are afraid to go to such a store and are embarrassed to communicate with sellers on personal topics, the online market will help you out. Many online adult toy stores deliver throughout Russia. Such stores also care about the customer’s reputation; your order will arrive in neutral packaging, and no one around you will know about its contents until you open the box at home.
What do you really want
Imagine: you enter any establishment, see a pretty girl, approach her, take her hand, and take her to your home.
At your home, you quickly take off your clothes, have sex, and the girl leaves to visit her friends in a taxi. Or - as an option - you take her there. Do you like this option for spending the evening?
I know what I like. Personally, I spent several years learning how to seduce a woman quickly and at any time. And for me it was a question of efficiency. I didn't want to waste time on courtship, cafes and movies. I wanted to come quickly, see, seduce. And I succeeded. It was possible to learn. Later, I was very successful in using my skills to get a woman if I needed it. For example, you come to another city on a business trip. And in the evening you spend the night not alone, but with a pretty aboriginal woman. The price of the issue is a trip to a local bar where girls relax in the evening.
Of course, you need to learn this, and, in addition to the ability to communicate with girls, you will need to be able to do a lot of things.
I’ll tell you about all this now.
Well, if you don’t want to know how to quickly seduce a girl, just close this site. Or start reading another article.
What should expectant mothers do?
During pregnancy, a woman's body undergoes rapid hormonal changes. One of its external manifestations is an increase in the sensitivity of erogenous zones and an exaggerated desire to have sex. In fact, during a normal pregnancy there is no problem. Sexual intercourse is not prohibited, and in some cases it is even beneficial. The most difficult thing is to choose a comfortable position without the risk of injuring your stomach. But sometimes intimate relationships are strictly contraindicated. The reasons for the prohibitions are different: the threat of miscarriage or other pathologies. So what should you do if you want to have sex during pregnancy, but you can’t? The answer is still the same - engage in self-satisfaction, which does not carry any harm. You can also involve the future dad in this process; such games will certainly bring a lot of pleasure to both spouses and will be remembered for a long time.
What causes attraction? i
The traditional version of the mechanism of sexual desire is hormonal. This is what the vast majority of scientists adhere to. Hormones act as a mediator that controls the brain, so it is true that sexual desire originates in a person’s head. In men, the main hormone responsible for desire is testosterone.
The higher its level in the body, the stronger the desire. There are many fans of a less traditional version of the emergence of desire, which says that desire is an intangible “something”, something that is given from above. Regardless of the reasons for the emergence of sexual desire, one thing is certain: for one girl it can be very strong, for another – none at all. At the same time, a woman’s appearance does not always play a decisive role.
Sex on the Internet?
Another interesting way of self-satisfaction is virtual sex. It is best suited for those who have a good imagination and cannot get some release alone. Some couples practice virt during a long separation. But you can also find a new partner. There are even entire sites for fans of such high-tech entertainment. So, what to do if you want sex? Find yourself a partner (on a thematic forum) or propose such a bold idea to your soulmate who is far away. Next, describe all your fantasies during correspondence or even demonstrate something clearly during a video conference session. And these are not all the options; don’t forget about sex by phone or via SMS messages.
Ask her what she likes
Briefly, the main rule: find out her preferences in sex in advance. Don’t be afraid of direct questions, they don’t kill your mood, but on the contrary, they warm it up! Such a conversation can become part of the foreplay.
So, the girl clearly and clearly expressed her interest in intimacy with you. What else is worth discussing before you head to bed? To give each other maximum pleasure, it's a good idea to discuss your preferences in advance. This, by the way, can be a good and teasing foreplay. You may ask:
- “What is your favorite place to kiss?”;
- “What turns you on the most about sex?”;
- “Do you have a favorite position?”
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You can also share your preferences with the girl. However, we strongly advise you to use general phrases, without references to specific sexual experiences. Let's give an example of an unsuccessful approach: “When my ex kissed my neck, I went crazy with pleasure.”
Instead, it would be more appropriate to say, “I love being kissed on the neck.”
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Talking about previous partners is a “killer” of sexual mood, so don’t go into details of your previous intimate encounters and especially don’t brag about your victories. Saying “All the girls had their biggest orgasms with me” is completely redundant, even if it’s true. Instead, try to show her your skills through deeds rather than words.
Where to find a partner for one time?
If you want sex all the time, and nothing helps, you should think about having it yourself. Single people who do not want to start a serious relationship are quite normal about relationships, so to speak, for one time. Don't forget about safety and purchase a supply of contraceptives in advance. To be sure of your protection after contact, you can use a special antiseptic at home. The easiest way to make acquaintances is at a party or club. A popular alternative is dating sites. But keep in mind that searching for a partner on the Internet can be dangerous. Firstly, there is no guarantee that the person you chose based on the photo will show up for the meeting. Secondly, we must not forget about the likelihood of meeting people who are not entirely mentally healthy. If you decide to have such a meeting, be sure to tell a close friend or friend about the upcoming date. Do not be lazy to indicate the address of the hotel or apartment where you will be invited, and the license plate number of the car if your partner promises to pick you up by car. Also agree on a time when friends should start trying to contact you and find out if everything is okay.
Advice from psychologists2
First, a man needs to stop idealizing the girl herself, promise himself not to elevate her above others, and understand that she is the same down-to-earth person as he is. It is worth looking at it directly, without the “rose veil” and intelligently calculating its shortcomings. Then force yourself to do something, realizing that if you do nothing, then in the best case, she will quit and will never get in the way again, after which the man will reproach himself for the missed opportunity, in the worst case, the girl will have an affair with someone then for others it will be unbearable to look at. Action is better than inaction; it won’t work until you try.
Psychologists specializing in the field of relations between women and men argue that, first of all, in such situations it is urgent to raise the objectivity of one’s self-esteem. Those who cannot speak to a stranger should start with this. You need to clearly find out what exactly you don’t like about yourself and try to work on it. Complexes always contribute to tightness. For example, if you have excess weight, which is critically annoying, the gym will help correct this; the slightest change in your figure for the better and frequent physical activity make you believe in yourself and significantly increase self-esteem.
You shouldn’t seek advice from “pick-up artists”; you need to start learning the art of communication. You should read more books and try to use the acquired knowledge on all people, and not just on those you like. It is worth developing your self-expression, engaging in self-improvement and self-knowledge. Look for your own business, be passionate about something. Expand your range of interests and work on yourself. Such a person will never have problems with communication, since there will always be something to talk about.
Just three seemingly elementary tips will help not only get rid of the obsession with a new employee, but also, in principle, transform a man. It won’t be difficult to achieve this particular girl, or any other one, since you will have faith in yourself and your own strengths, and self-confidence, a sharp mind and versatility are what attracts women.
Relationships without obligations
As you can see, one-time sex does not seem safe. A permanent lover is a completely different matter. Intimate relationships without commitment are not that common these days. More often than not, everything begins spontaneously, somehow a romance began, but the partners have no common plans for the future. So why not give each other pleasure, without the torment of jealousy and everyday problems? If you are satisfied with this option, it’s time to start looking for a suitable candidate. What to do if you want sex and are ready for free love? First of all, you should take a closer look at representatives of the opposite sex who do not hide their sympathy for you. You can try to find a partner on the Internet. Then all that remains is to maintain the relationship at the level you need.
Secrets of unconscious attraction 2
There are many reasons why representatives of the stronger sex have a strong attraction to a particular woman, and one of the main ones is appearance. No wonder they say that men love with their eyes. Indeed, most men pay attention to those girls whose appearance matches their sexual preferences. At the same time, everyone has different tastes, so someone may be attracted to one type of woman, while other men may be attracted to the completely opposite.
Another factor that awakens a strong attraction to a girl is female pheromones. There is a lot of data and research that suggests that unconscious body odors can affect the subconscious mind and male desire. An impressive study that confirms the ability of odors to lead to changes in the body was conducted back in 1998 by physiologist Martha McClintock. Thus, we can safely say that pheromones directly affect a girl’s sexual attractiveness in the eyes of a man.
We can also say that men often have a strong attraction to women with opposite psychological properties. For example, a homebody, accustomed to a measured and planned life, experiences sexual desire for an active and unpredictable girl.
Harmful or beneficial?
You should choose a way to quench your thirst for sexual adventures yourself. It all depends on the specifics of the situation, your capabilities and principles. Regular intimate life helps improve your mood and well-being. Even doctors talk about this. But if you need to remain faithful to “the one,” and self-satisfaction is not of interest to you, try playing sports or being creative. It’s a completely different matter if the desire for new exploits does not disappear during an intense sex life with a regular partner. In this case, it makes sense to visit a sexologist and ask him: “Why do you always want sex?” It is likely that the problem is more serious than it seems, and it will require months of psychological correction to resolve. Now you know what to do if you want sex without it, but with everything else it’s better to consult a specialist.
Play a game with her where the topic of sex comes up
Briefly, the main rule: try to find out the girl’s attitude to sex in principle and to sex on the first date before moving on to direct proposals.
All people have different attitudes towards sex. Just like guys, girls practice one-night stands, others consider it appropriate only in long-term relationships, and there are still those who need an exclusively platonic connection; asexual romantics are not such a rare sexual identity.
Therefore, before you start wondering how to hint to a girl about intimacy, try to find out her attitude towards sex. One way to unobtrusively learn this is through a game like Never Have I Ever. You will find questions for her (including “hot ones”) in a separate material.
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When your communication with the girl becomes confidential, you can ask her: “When do you think is the right time for couples to start having sex? I wouldn’t want to miss this moment :-).”
If you want to propose sex to a stranger you met at a bar or club, you can ask her how she feels about sex on a first date or one-night stand.
Massage with erotic elements
Touching allows you to learn secrets about a woman’s individual erogenous zones. In order to leave a pleasant feeling, it is recommended to do a massage in an appropriate atmosphere. Dim lighting and relaxing music will help create it. Important recommendations and procedures:
- Hands should be warm. Treat them with moisturizer.
- Massage your neck with soft touches, then slowly move to your back.
- The area between the shoulder blades requires special attention, massage it gently and smoothly.
- Go down to your waist and buttocks. There is a large amount of soft tissue on the buttocks. Stimulation here can be intense: rubbing, patting.
- Lightly stroke down the back of your thighs to your feet. Their massage will not only relieve fatigue, but also ignite the fire of passion.
- Pay attention to your breasts and nipples. This is one of the strong erogenous zones.
- Accompany your touches with kisses, so you can quickly achieve the desired effect.
- When the woman's desire is obvious, move on to genital massage.
- If the woman is not yet excited enough, you can repeat all the manipulations from bottom to top.
During an erotic massage, focus on your partner’s sensations to determine what she liked most and what was less pleasant. Experiment so you can learn how to excite your wife.
How to seduce your spouse
To fill a relationship with passion, you need to restore the emotional connection. We hope you find the following recommendations and tips useful:
- Show your beloved signs of attention: flirt with her, give flowers and gifts, make surprises. This will help revive the relationship.
- Show care and help her, including with housework. A woman who is tired at work usually “rests” in the evening at the stove, ironing, cleaning, or doing homework with the children. Unload your missus. And you will see how she will thank you in bed.
- Bring a little romance into your relationship: invite her on a date to some unusual place. For example, where your first meeting took place. She will be pleased to know that you remember this. The roof of your house is suitable for a romantic evening. Arrange the area: decorate it with balloons, think about the lighting, prepare a light dinner and champagne. A few sincere compliments and a declaration of love, and you will see that her eyes will again sparkle with joy and happiness. She will definitely enjoy walks in the autumn park or winter forest, where she can go ice skating, skiing, and sledding. Perhaps she doesn't mind extreme sensations. A trip to a trampoline park, flying in a wind tunnel, diving lessons, even at a local swimming pool will certainly add new experiences for both of you.
- Organize an evening of memories for her, because women are very sentimental. Family photos and videos will help you. Rest assured, this idea will have the desired effect.
- Spend more time together. Try to share her hobbies. If she goes to fitness, yoga, dancing, it will not be so difficult. If you are interested in creativity, show interest in her “masterpieces.”
- Go on a journey together. You can even limit yourself to a trip out of town, going out into the world: visiting a restaurant, concert, cinema, exhibition or museum.
Focus on your finances, her preferences, and let your imagination tell you methods that will return harmony to your relationship. We propose to get down to business and present 6 effective ways to win over your wife in bed.
The best aphrodisiac foods
Aphrodisiacs owe their name to the goddess of love, Aphrodite, revered in Ancient Greece.
A properly adjusted diet will help increase a woman’s sexual activity. The effect of special products is associated with their influence on increasing blood flow to the pelvic organs, which helps to increase their sensitivity. The following can be distinguished:
- The generally recognized leaders in this rating are red and black caviar, oysters, mussels, shrimp, squid, octopus and other inhabitants of the deep sea.
- Dark chocolate increases endorphin levels, which gives a feeling of relaxation and pleasure.
- Fruits and berries - avocado, mango, pomegranates, citrus fruits, figs, cherries supply the body with vitamins and phytohormones. Bananas and pineapples - sources of serotonin and potassium - increase the level of pleasure, contain the enzyme bromelain, which increases desire.
- Celery has long been a valuable product on this list. It improves blood circulation and increases libido. Used for salads and drinks.
- Another effective recipe for a “hot” lunch is any nuts, seeds and honey. They are rich in minerals and can enhance sexual function.
- Herbal aphrodisiacs deserve special attention. These include tonic and strengthening stimulants lemon balm and angelica, and damiana, which improves the functioning of the genital organs.
- Among the spices, cayenne pepper stands out, which speeds up metabolism, dilates blood vessels, and fills the body with energy.
The use of aphrodisiac products in combination with moderate physical activity normalizes hormonal levels, charges a person with the energy he needs, and has a beneficial effect on the functioning of all organs.
