“I have apathy” - how often can you hear this phrase from those around us. Everyone has moments in life when they don’t want to do anything, there’s no need for communication, and nothing around them makes them happy. There is only one desire - to lie down, curl up in a ball, so that no one touches or bothers you.
Before asking the question of how to get rid of apathy, you need to know what it is, its types, symptoms, causes. Someone will smile, but in vain. Apathy is a disorder of a person’s mental health; it does not just arise out of nowhere. If this condition does not last long, then there is nothing to worry about. It is much worse if the illness becomes protracted and, which is very dangerous, gradually develops into a severe form of depression. And in this case, only a qualified specialist can advise you on how to deal with apathy. You shouldn’t risk your health and wait – the consequences can be unpredictable!
Symptoms of apathy
In order not to miss the moment and seek help in a timely manner, get acquainted with the symptoms of apathy.
- inhibition of movements visible to others;
- causeless boredom - nothing that was previously close to the heart makes you happy;
- indifferent attitude towards oneself, towards others, towards the world;
- there is no desire to make plans for the future and dream;
- there is no desire to do something - laziness, don’t want anything;
- constant desire to be alone;
- speech becomes monotonous and inexpressive;
- complete lack of initiative, new ideas;
- normal activity is replaced by isolation.
Why do you give up?
There are times in life when nothing succeeds, everything falls into disrepair and falls out of hand, all sorts of obstacles arise and you feel as if the whole world has turned against you.
At such moments, because of any trifle, be it an accidentally broken favorite mug or a ruined blouse at dinner, you can become completely despondent: failed attempts to continue the matter lead to the fact that you completely give up and don’t want to do anything.
So, no matter what happens, no matter how difficult it is now, you need to try to prevent such a state of mind.
Even real leaders and the richest people in the world have a moment when they give up and have no more strength. Unfortunately, things don’t always go the way we want, and sometimes the dark streak drags on and leads to hopelessness. Why does this happen and what to do in this case?
It doesn't matter how successful you are. Success will not give immunity from humanity. Each new decline is a starting point that will open up new horizons. The main thing is to give yourself a rest and the sooner the better.
Control your thoughts and feelings. You don't need to go into detail about WHY this could happen. You must understand HOW to correct the current situation.
What to do when you give up? Perhaps, having started to “walk”, you noticed that it is not always possible to follow your intended direction, that you do things the same way again and again: again, all the housework is on you, and it is still difficult for you to refuse others.
What do you think is the difference between self-care and selfishness? Yes! Absolutely right. Selfishness is when you do it for yourself, to the detriment of others, and self-care is when you do something for yourself in order to be less offended by loved ones, feel better, relax more and do what you love.
And when you infringe on yourself, you again become irritated with your husband, with your children and with yourself. But now you are dissatisfied with yourself with renewed vigor, since everything you did did not bring success. Time and effort are wasted, there is no result, one gives up.
And your relatives and friends reproach you for doing some kind of nonsense, because in their opinion everything is normal anyway. Maybe it really isn't that bad after all. Beloved husband, children are healthy, the job is not bad, but there is not enough joy, the eyes are dull, a certain inadequacy is felt.
It's time to start reviewing what happened, how many times and how great you felt when you took care of yourself and, with respect for others, refused what was not useful for you. How your voice rang when you had time to communicate with your husband and children.
Therefore, it is simply necessary:
Start all over again and don’t give up under any circumstances. Set a specific goal for what you will do, how, and how many times a day you will consciously take care of yourself. Find support for yourself, those people who are also interested in getting more pleasure from what appears in their life, improving, setting new goals and achieving them.
This usually happens if you don’t notice how, day by day, you are gradually losing energy, joy, and interest in the business you are doing. You just droop and fade like an autumn leaf...
What to do in such a case? Who should I contact for help? How to get yourself out of this state? Why did this happen to me?
Perhaps the reasons why you give up lie in the following points:
1. Focus exclusively on quick results. Does the motto “everything at once” mean anything to you? If this is your case, then congratulations: you will give up halfway much more often than everyone else. Reality makes its own adjustments to every plan (even the most thorough and detailed), so there will definitely be inconsistencies with what was planned. This must be accepted as a fact. And just move on, but taking into account new circumstances.
2. When there is no self-confidence. There are efforts, but still no results. So what happens is that a person gives up and stops moving in the chosen direction. He believes that he took the burden beyond his capabilities, or this is not a working scheme, so it is better to refuse it. But most often he just needed to wait.
3. Constantly “stuck” in the past. This happens very often. It can be difficult for a person to move away from the usual “life pattern”, so he continues to live with those hopes and thoughts that were relevant many years ago.
4. Fear of change. Wanting to achieve something, many are not ready to change themselves. At the moment of realization, hands give up, and fear defeats ambition.
5. Constantly replaying your mistakes. Having made a mistake once or twice, a person begins to think that he is doing everything wrong. And he gives up, leaving unrealized opportunities for someone else. And you only need to take experience from failures in order to later be at the top.
6. Self-pity. At the very first difficulties, a person feels weak and defenseless. Pity appears, which immediately develops into uncertainty. It is unacceptable to perceive failures as your own weakness, but it is necessary to see in them only obstacles that can be overcome over time, which will not in any way interfere with the achievement of a global goal.
7. When life is perceived as the motto “everyone owes me.” And it doesn’t matter what the situation is. Debtors can be the state, a colleague, a business partner, or even a neighbor on the landing. When disappointment comes in people who do not want to put up with the status of a “debtor,” they give up.
8. Fear of failure. This is even worse than accepting real failure. Even the fantastic possibility of defeat can make a person let go of his goal and simply pass by. It is necessary to clearly understand that failures will happen in any case, and you will have to “break” not the situation itself, but only your attitude towards it.
9. Low self-esteem. A biased perception of one’s capabilities often becomes the reason for abandoning the intended goal. If there is such a problem, we urgently need to find like-minded people who will “restorate justice” with their enthusiastic cries.
10. Overly inflated self-esteem. The problem is exactly the opposite. But the solution is similar.
11. Fear of losing what you have already achieved. Very often, some people do not want to part with something that brings them a certain, albeit not large, living wage. Work, own business that does not bring in sufficient income, personal savings. But you need to explain to yourself that everything is temporary, and without movement there will be no success. There will be expenses, because failures are inevitable, but they cannot be considered the end of the world, but just a short respite before the next stage.
12. Very little work. Lack of effort always delays the final result. And people, realizing the futility of their attempts, simply give up.
13. Too much work. This happens as often as the previous situation. After performing a series of manipulations and spending a lot of vitality on them, a person becomes disappointed in his abilities and stops.
14. The misleading feeling that problems are unique. Everything has already happened to someone before, so thinking that this has not happened before is quite ineffective. Such behavior will only lead to the fact that attempts are abandoned halfway. But if you understand the situation more thoroughly, the uniqueness of the events very quickly evaporates.
15. Banal fatigue. The most common reason, although it is listed last on our list. Moreover, fatigue can be not only physical, but also moral, after which you simply don’t want anything. In this case, you need to rest and slow down a little, restore your potential and get back into action.
It must not be forgotten that there are not as many truly hopeless situations in life as it seems in the fevered imagination. And to help yourself, you just need to analyze the reasons for your temporary defeat (from the list above) and adjust further actions in time.
Causes of apathy
Scientists have named the main reasons that can plunge one into apathy:
- age crisis, especially middle age;
- failures in love and family life;
- the end of a certain period of life when everything went according to a well-established rut, for example, studying at the university;
- change of place of residence where you have lived for many years;
- change of place of work where extensive work experience has been accumulated;
- the end of a long period that required great emotional costs;
- excessive “burning” at work;
- insufficient amount of vitamins in the body - vitamin deficiency;
- suffered a serious illness,
- presence of psychosomatic illness;
- stress caused by some negative event;
- an event that is excessive and intense in terms of emotional costs;
- pregnancy period.
How to get out of a deadlock
You all know what needs to be done, you read smart books on this topic, but still nothing works out for you. What to do?
- Review your aspirations. Perhaps you have taken on an unbearable burden and are now suffering. Reconsider your priorities, maybe you can moderate your ardor
- Look on the positive side of the problem. After all, it made you stronger, so it became not as scary as it seemed before.
- Perhaps you are standing at a crossroads in life. See where you should turn.
- Think about why laziness, fatigue, and blues are given to a person. This is just a defensive reaction and time for recovery.
- Recover and move forward. The main thing is not to give up.
A prayer of thanksgiving is the best way out of an impasse
Go to church, confess, let go of grudges. By the way, grievances stuck in the soul hurt your health, especially your heart and liver. Cancer also causes resentment against family and friends.
Thank the Almighty for every moment you live. A prayer of gratitude, even in your own words, will change your whole life. You will see, and indeed, there is so much beauty around: the sky, running clouds, flowers, a river, people.
Yes, everything is fine! You just need to rejoice that God gives you the opportunity to see all this and live in this paradise.
Take cues from people who have overcome even greater difficulties
Jim Mathers, founder of North American Energy Advisory: In my first business, I was getting kicked in the teeth every day for three months before I received my first payment from a client. During the launch of my most recent venture, signing the first contract took nine months. I'm okay with this. Because I know that many more successful people have overcome much greater obstacles than I have. I study the solutions of successful entrepreneurs and they inspire me. I know I can do it too.
Think about your loved ones
Tom Shih, Director, Crimcheck: When I think about my purpose and the purpose of my existence, this thought motivates me to move forward. I think about my three children, that every day I have to show them an example of courage and devotion. I think about my wife and what she dreamed of as a little girl. I think about my ambitions and try to realize them. I think about my parents and brothers and what they had to sacrifice to immigrate to another country. It's my duty to make them proud of me. I think about my employees who have to work hard and how my decisions affect their families. This is the most powerful motivation.
Translation from English. Source: huffingtonpost.com
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Fears
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Fears are shackles that physically constrain you: you cannot say a word in public, dance in a crowd to your favorite music, or go to the gym because professional athletes will laugh at you.
It is enough to understand: fear does not exist, the subconscious is at work here and defeats you. Try not to feel fear, monitor and control this process. Talk to yourself, say: yes, I am worried, and this is normal, these experiences depend on me, and this is also normal, but I am in control. Believe me, if a person is not afraid, he is capable of much.
Daily routine and proper nutrition
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A clear daily routine includes good sleep, healthy food, pleasant traditions such as reading or a hot bath. This schedule gives you strength to achieve your goals and helps you stay healthy.
Also, the hormones that are produced during sleep are responsible not only for reactions and mood, but also for the feeling of hunger or craving for sweets. And proper nutrition and detox allow you to get rid of everything that leads to intoxication and decreased energy levels.
