What to do when you feel bad: advice from a psychologist. Cats are scratching at my soul, I want to cry

is a subjective feeling of lack of energy in everyday situations. Complaints of weakness usually arise when actions that were previously familiar and natural suddenly begin to require special effort.

Weakness is often accompanied by symptoms such as dizziness, confusion, drowsiness, headaches or muscle pain.

Fatigue at the end of a working day or after performing a long or complex job cannot be considered a weakness, since such fatigue is natural for the body. Normal fatigue goes away after rest; healthy sleep and well-spent weekends help a lot. But if sleep does not bring cheerfulness, and a person, having just woken up, already feels tired, then there is a reason to consult a doctor.

Causes of weakness

Weakness can be caused by a number of reasons, including:

• avitaminosis. Weakness is often caused by a lack of vitamin B12, which is essential for making red blood cells (RBCs) and preventing anemia, and is also important for cell growth. Vitamin B12 deficiency leads to the development of anemia, which is considered the most common cause of general weakness. Another vitamin whose deficiency leads to weakness is vitamin D. This vitamin is produced by the body when exposed to sunlight. Therefore, in autumn and winter, when daylight hours are short and the sun does not appear often, a lack of vitamin D may be the cause of weakness;
• depression;
• thyroid diseases. Weakness can occur with both increased thyroid function (hyperthyroidism) and decreased function (hypothyroidism). With hypothyroidism, as a rule, there is weakness in the arms and legs, which is described by patients as “everything falls out of hand”, “legs give way”. With hyperthyroidism, general weakness is observed against the background of other characteristic symptoms (nervous excitability, hand tremors, elevated temperature, rapid heartbeat, weight loss while maintaining appetite);
• vegetative-vascular dystonia;
• chronic fatigue syndrome, indicating extreme depletion of vitality;
• Celiac enteropathy (celiac disease) is the inability of the intestines to digest gluten. If at the same time a person consumes products made from flour - bread, pastries, pasta, pizza, etc. – manifestations of indigestion develop (flatulence, diarrhea), accompanied by constant fatigue;
• diabetes;
• diseases of the cardiovascular system;
• oncological diseases. In this case, weakness is usually accompanied by low-grade fever;
• lack of fluid in the body. Weakness often comes in the summer during hot weather, when the body loses a lot of water, and it is not possible to restore the water balance in time;
• some medications (antihistamines, antidepressants, beta blockers).

An attack of weakness can also occur in the following cases:

• trauma (with large blood loss);
• brain injury (in combination with neurological symptoms);
• menses;
• intoxication (including infectious diseases such as influenza).

Organize your holiday

What to do when you feel bad? What to do? According to psychologists, creating a festive mood is an extremely effective solution for eliminating feelings of endless sadness and suppressing anxiety. If there are no significant events planned in the near future, use cash savings. Go to the mall and pick out the things you've always dreamed of.

Attend interesting events. Go to the premiere of a good film, attend a concert of your favorite performer, go to the theater. Consider spending time in a sauna. Complement your pleasant, relaxing experience with a massage. It is only natural that enjoying such activities is much more fun in the company of friends.

Perhaps it's time to take a break from everyday work and go on vacation. Discuss the situation with your superiors. If you don’t have enough money, borrow some money from your loved ones and go on vacation as far from home as possible. Leave behind everything that is associated with a bad state of mind.

Weakness and dizziness

Dizziness quite often occurs against a background of general weakness. A combination of these symptoms may occur in the following cases:

• anemia;
• cerebrovascular accidents;
• a sharp increase or decrease in blood pressure;
• oncological diseases;
• stress;
• in women - during menstruation or menopause.

What should be the temperature in the apartment?

The Resolution of May 6, 2011 No. 354 “On the provision of utility services to owners and users of premises in apartment buildings and residential buildings” states that “the provision of utility services to the consumer is carried out around the clock (utility services for heating - around the clock during the heating period), that is uninterruptedly or with interruptions not exceeding the duration that meets the requirements for the quality of public services.”

The resolution assumes only minor interruptions in heat supply. Permissible heating interruption duration:

• no more than 24 hours (in total) within 1 month;
• no more than 16 hours at a time - at an air temperature in residential premises from +12 °C to standard temperature (18-20 °C);
• no more than 8 hours at a time – at an air temperature in residential premises from +10 to +12 °C;
• no more than 4 hours at a time - at an air temperature in residential premises from +8 to +10 °C.

Residents usually don’t know what to do if the heating in the apartment is weak. If the problem is not that the regulator on the batteries is incorrectly configured, only a specialist can fix such a malfunction.

Weakness and drowsiness

Patients often complain that they want to sleep, but do not have enough strength for normal life activities. The combination of weakness and drowsiness is possible for the following reasons:

• lack of oxygen. The urban atmosphere is poor in oxygen. Constant stay in the city contributes to the development of weakness and drowsiness;
• decrease in atmospheric pressure and magnetic storms. People who are sensitive to weather changes are called weather dependent. If you are weather dependent, bad weather may cause your weakness and drowsiness;
• avitaminosis;
• poor or unhealthy diet;
• hormonal disorders;
• alcohol abuse;
• chronic fatigue syndrome;
• vegetative-vascular dystonia;
• other diseases (including infectious ones - in the early stages, when other symptoms have not yet appeared).

Requests for help Write your story I have been feeling very bad for the last 5 years. It’s like there’s a lump of dirt stuck in my chest and eating away at me from the inside. I haven't wanted anything for 5 years now. No sex, no work (which I simply no longer liked), watching movies, walking, talking and, in the end, living too. Every day I come to work, communicate with my workmates, pretending that everything is fine, smiling in their faces, joking with them, and when I come home, I turn on music and lie and listen. I just listen and dream of dying or being born in another century. But there is no one to tell the truth. Parents have been divorced since 2010. Relations with them are as cold as ice. My father demands a lot from me, what I don’t want, I don’t like. But I have to do it so as not to disappoint him, and in the end I still make a mistake somewhere and disappoint him. Maybe I lack love or something else that I don’t see or realize? At home too, I just stopped cleaning, I live as... well, I just live as I live. I don't care about anything. I want to scream so loudly that someone on the other side of the universe can hear. Why does it hurt so much? Why so bad? What is wrong with me? I’m 28 years old, and I feel like I’m 80. I’ll say this if it weren’t for Mom and Dad, I would have committed suicide <ed.mod.>... Lord, how bad my soul is. I would like to write so much here, but I doubt it will help me in any way, I doubt it will instill in me the spirit and strength to live on. People will read what I wrote and many will think about it. What a moron. Or they'll just sympathize with me. And I just won't care. I want to be free from life. I want to jump from a plane and just fly down with my eyes closed and know that just a couple more moments of the flight and I will be free. I have no one to complain to, no one to tell how bad I feel, no one to cry on, and this is probably sad from the point of view of a normal person. I understand that suicide is not the answer. And it won’t make it any easier for the family. But I didn’t even care about my family. I'm scared by these thoughts. This is probably the first and last time I write something on the Internet.

Sasha, age: 28 / 05/23/2017

Responses:

Hello. It seems to me that it would be right to remember when you began to have such an attitude towards life. It was five years ago - what happened to you then? Maybe some unfavorable events that affected You so much. And all this time you are struggling with their consequences. Think about it. Perhaps the reason is generally in Your work. It was at that age that he began working. The responsibilities you perform can be very exhausting. Relationships with management or team. At first glance, everything may look good, but in fact it is a source of discomfort. I know from personal experience how powerful this can be. Working in one organization, my soul was heavy all the time and I didn’t want to do anything after work. There was always something wrong with my health, despite my young age. After some time, the organization moved and I had to leave there. And, as time shows, it was right. In the place where I work now, everything is completely different. Much easier than before, emotionally. In addition, I had free time from work to help other people. And this is actually very interesting and not at all difficult. Additional motivation when you feel that you are bringing benefit to someone. Think about it, maybe you should decide to change something in your life. And then the desire and strength to live will appear.

Mikhail, age: 28/05/24/2017

Hello, Sasha. You wrote: “I want to write so much here, but it’s unlikely that it will help me in any way...” But I think that if a person has a need to express more than he says, this need must be satisfied. Perhaps it is in the unspoken words that you can understand something and find a way out of your difficult situation. I think we need to take advantage of this chance. I also realized that you have no one to talk to, try to see a psychologist, don’t isolate yourself. Happiness to you, Sasha, may a ray of light shine in your life.

Olga, age: 35 / 05/24/2017

Sasha, how come you didn’t think of seeing a doctor, a psychiatrist! It seems to me that you are suffering from depression, which means you need to treat it and recover. Your whole life is in front of you. The joy of life, the enjoyment of life will still be available to you.

Madame, age: 55 / 05/24/2017

Hello Sasha! Depression is a disease. And she needs to be treated. And it can be treated in different ways. It is imperative that you have a purpose and meaning in life. We can advise you to start your own family. According to my observations, people who get married cope with depression more easily. Or turn to God, become a Christian, this path has given many people joy and meaning in life. Or turn your attention to other people who really need help. It also gives you a desire to live when you understand that other people need you. And if all this does not suit you, then contact a psychologist or psychiatrist, it depends on the severity of your depression. But since you are in long-term depression, then you probably need to see a psychiatrist. But you have to live. We have to fight. We must win.

Arina, age: 27/05/24/2017

Dear! There is no need to be discouraged. It's difficult to advise. First of all, you are not alone. We are all living people and can lose motivation. There is a slight depression on the face. There is a positive. You are young, healthy, functioning normally - going to work, i.e. slight depression. You do not have the burden of incapacitated relatives, wife, children. This is positive, because hands are untied. For example, it’s easier for me to be lonely, and having a family is stressful. Come home from work and turn on not music, but some satirical speech, read something funny, for example. Visit your primary care physician. Find some hobby or passion. Lots of dating sites.

Kolobok, age: 47 / 05/24/2017

Hello. Sasha, it looks a lot like prolonged depression, so don’t put off visiting a psychotherapist. Take your vitamins, they will give you strength. And another piece of advice - fall in love! Start a family, every man needs care, guardianship, attention, feminine affection, and you are no exception. I think your mood will change, you can’t go against nature, as they say))) Good luck to you!

Irina, age: 29/05/24/2017

Dear Alexander, I would like to warn you that by freeing yourself from life in this way, you will not become free, since this is an unforgivable sin. Try to slowly figure out what’s wrong, try to figure out the meaning of a person’s suffering, why they are sent to him, maybe just if everything was fine, then you wouldn’t think about what you need, maybe it’s time to pay attention to what’s really important for each of us. This is to establish a relationship with God. Unfortunately, we people remember Him only when we feel bad. With the Lord in your heart, then death will be real freedom, but only when your time comes, when God decides so. And thoughts of suicide are being sent to you by the enemy of our salvation, drive them away! True freedom is in the Lord, because He is the Truth. I hope my message will help you, don’t give up, and then you will see how wonderful life is) I also had such a terrible state, I understand what you mean... but if you don’t give up, then everything will start to get better, look for the main thing this very Truth, get to know it... Take care of yourself. *** Life is beautiful in all its images: Speaking in everyday prose; In the descriptions of poets, figurative; In black clouds and in pink clouds... And she rushes - madly!.. Strikes with blows - crushingly! So that we forget to live sublimely... So that life is painful for all of us! I will make every effort, To touch eternity with my heart, To make life sparkle with its edges, Taking me into the world of infinity!

incognito, age: 26/05/24/2017

Sasha, there is always a reason for such a state: sometimes these are somatic reasons, sometimes it is an event for which you suppressed feelings, drove them inside yourself and it seems that you survived, but it comes out in the form of such an unwillingness to be. Maybe you do a lot of things that you don’t feel like doing. It’s good that you wrote here - this is at least some step to help yourself. When you can’t figure out the reasons, it’s best to consult a psychologist (not just anyone, by recommendation). It is clear that you have such a need. Normally, a person should be happy - this is his normal state. I wish you to find yourself again, the one who smiles when you wake up in the morning.

Anna, age: 36 / 05/24/2017

Great, why are you depressed? I read your letter and you can’t even imagine what a happy person you are. Let's break it down: 1. Your health is good 2. You have a job, you have income 3. You have family and friends 5. You are young, you can outshine everyone Here I have listed your main wealth. You're a grown guy, oddly enough, people have times when they want to die. So, I’ll tell you this is your life and only you can fix it, become happy. Stop becoming despondent, because despondency is also a human sin. Just get out of this state with the help of God and start living without looking back. What will help you is faith. You don’t need anyone to cry, all the strength and faith is already in you. Talk to God, because He is always with us. Ask for help, repent, start thanking and I’m sure changes will begin in a good direction. Everything is temporary, be patient and grateful, my brother. Happiness to you.

Just a guy, age: 23/05/24/2017

Hello Sasha! I'm very, very glad you posted here! And I’m glad that I saw it too and can write to you. The most important thing I want to ask you is to try, if you don’t accept it, then understand: either we control our thoughts, or they control us. When I accepted the second option, I felt about the same as you. Therefore, let me tell you WHAT NOT TO DO, so that you don’t get scared by your thoughts later. 1. Try not to listen to music while thinking about something. No matter how strange this advice may seem, it is very important. If you don’t go deep into medical terms, but to put it simply, then you are simply “twisting” yourself, cultivating a state in yourself that is then so difficult to recover from and so difficult to control. 2. No matter how pointless it may seem, do some things. In fact, this is also a good way to take a break from heavy thoughts. Moreover, when we understand that we are useful to someone (and you can help your parents), strength appears for other things that are useful to you directly - communication, walks, sports. 3. Communicate! Communicate!!Communicate!!! Treat communication as a cure for your condition: take (for now) twice a day))) That is, in the first half of the day you talked to someone, and in the second. 4. I could be wrong a thousand times, I’m sorry if that’s what you think, but such despondency can be due to a lack of understanding, acceptance, non-judgment, faith in the best in you, sincere support. Even one word can give all this, if it is from the heart and sincere - perhaps it’s worth looking for a psychologist, if not face-to-face, then at least on the Internet, you can find a free one. And you’re unlikely to go wrong if you talk to the priest - in any Orthodox church church (this is from personal experience, this moment in my recently hopeless life was key). 5. Watch videos about compassion. It’s so easy to google it - it’s difficult to explain what happens when you approach this topic, even passively. 6. Know about yourself that you are a good person. Know this firmly, and when doubting yourself: to do or not to do, say to yourself: “I will do as a good person would do.” 7. Don’t even doubt that this condition will pass! It is not necessary that all problems will suddenly disappear, but you will definitely be able and in the mood to solve them and at the same time enjoy life! Often only hormones are to blame for depression - so maybe this aspect is also worth thinking about? Hold on!!! Everything will definitely get better!

Natalia, age: 35 / 05/24/2017

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Weakness: what to do?

If weakness is not accompanied by any disturbing symptoms, you can improve your well-being by following these recommendations:

• provide yourself with a normal amount of sleep (6-8 hours a day);
• keep a daily routine (go to bed and get up at the same time);
• try not to be nervous, relieve yourself of stress;
• exercise, provide yourself with optimal physical activity;
• spend more time in the fresh air;
• optimize your nutrition. It should be regular and balanced. Avoid fatty foods. If you are overweight, try to get rid of it;
• make sure to drink enough water (at least 2 liters per day);
• quit smoking and limit your alcohol consumption.

Don't let negative thoughts enter your head

Draw an exclusively positive picture of the future in your mind. Often experiences are associated with a premonition of something bad in the future. To maintain peace of mind, the main thing is to prevent the emergence of negative emotions that have nothing to do with the objective reality of the current moment. It has been proven that thoughts about bad things act as a kind of magnet for similar events. If you worry all day long about possible troubles in the future, then problems will certainly become a reality.

When should you see a doctor if you feel weak?

If weakness does not go away within a few days or, moreover, lasts more than two weeks, you should definitely consult a doctor.

You should not hesitate to consult a doctor if weakness is accompanied by symptoms such as:

• dyspnea;
• cough;
• fever, chills, increased temperature;
• stomach upset;
• sudden weight loss;
• mood changes, apathy, depression.

Avoid loneliness

When a person is left to himself for a long time, the soul becomes more and more vulnerable. A person is constantly subject to self-analysis. My thoughts are in complete chaos. The vector of possible events changes in opposite directions. Self-pity layers negativity. A subconscious feeling of resentment, fear and anger arises.

What to do when you feel bad, but there is no way to avoid loneliness? Avoid spending most of the day in bed, remaining in silence. It’s better to turn on your favorite music loudly and watch inspiring and funny films. Cleaning looks like a good distraction from problems. Start rearranging your home. Changes in the interior will refresh the boring reality and allow you to tune in to finding solutions that can change the situation for the better.

Which doctor should I contact about weakness?

If weakness is the main complaint, then it is best to consult a general practitioner (general practitioner or family doctor).

If you have stomach problems due to weakness, you can consult a gastroenterologist.

If weakness is accompanied by pain or discomfort in the heart area, you should consult a cardiologist.

Be prepared for the fact that you may be referred for consultation to doctors of such specialties as a hematologist, oncologist, neurologist, endocrinologist, or psychotherapist.

Look at the problem from the outside

If your heart is heavy, what should you do? Advice from psychologists speaks of the need for a sober, impartial assessment of the situation. Think about how dire the future or existing circumstances are. Take a look at your immediate surroundings. Many people probably have to deal with more serious problems. However, no one stops fighting. It might be worth chatting live with people who have similar problems, or starting a correspondence on social networks.

How quickly should the accident be resolved?

As can be seen from the list above, if the air temperature is 12 °C and above, the problem must be solved within 16 hours; if the temperature is from 12 to 10 °C, then in 8 hours; and 4 hours in advance if the thermometer drops below 10 °C.

If you encounter interruptions in heating, then you must recalculate the payment for the corresponding period. For each hour of deviation of the air temperature in a residential premises over the permissible duration in total during the billing period in which the specified deviation occurred, the amount of payment for utility services for such billing period is reduced by 0.15% of the fee determined for such billing period.

How to do artificial respiration?

To perform mouth-to-mouth artificial respiration you need:

– place the victim on a hard, flat surface; – place a tightly rolled roller under the shoulders so that the patient’s head is thrown back strongly; – use your fingers to push the lower jaw upward; this is necessary so that the victim’s tongue does not sink in and block the airway; – pinch his nostrils with your fingers;

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