- you can pay utility bills without leaving your home;
- you can get documents, for example, a passport, much faster;
- you can quickly find information on any issue;
- order food at home;
- or buy a cute dress;
- and much more.
And, of course, you can find your love or just have a good time with an interesting interlocutor. But not everyone, unfortunately, knows that there has long been a culture of communication on the Internet, just like in any other place. Therefore, in this article we will talk about how to communicate correctly on the Internet so as not to look stupid or downright vulgar. And (which is extremely important) to avoid getting into a very unpleasant and even dangerous situation, but this is possible.
The article was written based on the vast experience of living on the Internet =) I have time here to work, communicate, and go shopping too.
Internet communication culture
This is a reference to the culture of communication on the Internet. She is, yes! Only schoolchildren and poorly educated people do not know about this. Because as soon as you observe these two categories of people, you can cry from frustration and shame. The latter falls more into the second category.
I just want to ask the especially gifted, do they think it’s normal, when they come to the clinic, to curse the person they’re talking to in line with a good, selective curse? Or a cashier at a store? Or someone on public transport? No? Or is this normal for you? If it’s normal, then it’s a very, very pity, and there’s nothing to talk to you about. Sorry.
But what if not? If in real life, you never allow yourself to be rude or obscene towards others, but on the Internet you easily respond to your opponents with such obscenities that would make the shoemaker Uncle Petya from the village of Malye Petukhi embarrassed?
Tell me, what difference do you see? Is it that, excuse me, they can’t kick you on the Internet or something worse? Does this loosen your tongue? Nobody sees you in the eyes, and therefore you’re not ashamed? How, in general, can one not be ashamed of behaving this way?
Personally, I don't understand. I'm ashamed of you! You read such pearls, look at the avatar, and there is a seemingly decent girl, a mother of two children, but she behaves... disgustingly. What can such a person teach children?
I'll tell you some secrets:
- Such communication does not show your coolness, but on the contrary.
- You do not in any way scare or offend your interlocutor. Moreover, if your opponent answers you softly, censoriously, but extremely sarcastic or even sarcastic, then you are most likely communicating with a top troll. His only goal is to bring you into negative emotions, make you disgrace yourself, and assert yourself at your expense. He can also screenshot your correspondence and show it somewhere, with appropriate comments.
- Do you think nothing will happen to you? Everything is anonymous on the Internet! Alas and ah. The Internet is now regulated by law just like other “public places.” You need to think about what you say and write - you will be held accountable for even less. And they will definitely find you if the subject of the dispute raises questions among law enforcement agencies. Even from a fake page.
And this is just a small part. Many people make fools of themselves. I would like to remind you once again that the Internet is the same place as a park, a store, a games room, a cinema, and so on. And here, too, you need to behave civilly and decently.
The article is almost on the topic of how to come up with a nickname. We have listed examples and ways to choose a cool online nickname.
First, fill out your page correctly
On any dating site, you need to correctly fill out your personal page. Here you need to indicate not only age and other banal facts. The main thing is to interest the guy you like, so you can beautifully describe your hobbies or life positions.
On VKontakte
Today, one of the most popular social networks is VKontakte, so you can start looking for your prince right here. The main thing is to fill out the “About Me” section correctly. Here you should describe only your merits and best qualities. But don’t go too far, so as not to push the man away. Especially for you, we have selected several successful examples.
- Cute and fluffy. I love walks in the fresh air and films about love. I'm looking for a man in whose arms I can fall asleep every evening with a smile on my face.
- I am an ambitious girl who knows exactly what she wants from life. Brave and decisive, so if I like you, rest assured, I will write first. Okay, just kidding, I just want to wrap myself in a blanket and eat cookies.
- I work as a professional wedding photographer. During my career, I have seen many happy couples and I hope that sooner or later I will become a bride myself.
In fact, filling out the “About Me” section is not that difficult. The main thing is to sincerely write what you want and what you expect, so as not to waste time with men who are not suitable for you.
On Instagram
To meet a man, you can choose Instagram. But again, without a correctly filled out “About Me” field, the chances of success may be minimal. You must fill out this section in an original way. We'll tell you what to write.
- I love strong men and strong coffee. And when a strong man brings strong coffee in the morning, I love it even more.
- Kind and responsive. Always ready to help her friends. But unfortunately, no one ever helps me, so I’m also fragile. How you want to find a man behind whom you could feel like behind a stone wall.
- An athlete, a Komsomol member and simply a role model. Don’t use phrases for boring introductions, use your imagination.
Further communication will depend on how much your page can interest a man, so try to think through everything to the smallest detail.
On thematic forums
Here everything is a little more complicated, since there is no column that you can simply fill out and wait for your gentleman. Here you need to act according to a specific plan.
- You need to intervene in any conversations where you notice a handsome and smart man.
- Even if you don’t quite understand the question posed, you can improvise and answer sweetly and tenderly so that the man pays attention to you.
- If someone from whom you have been waiting for decisive action for a long time speaks to you, then you should not immediately describe how long you have been waiting for this. Let him know that you are interested in him, but he still needs to try to earn your sympathy.
Of course, everything will depend on what topic the forum relates to and what topic was touched upon, but you can get acquainted in any situation.
How to communicate online: basic rules
The most important thing is not to lose face and behave like a human being. Well, this is already clear to most, and therefore I will no longer focus on it. But there are other rules:
- The phrase “Hello” in one single message is evil. Because it is not clear what the interlocutor needs. Maybe he wants to talk, maybe he has a request, maybe something else. For example, I will answer “Hello” in the same way, and very often the conversation will end there. Write in detail: “Hi, I just remembered that you have a good detective library. Maybe you can give me a couple of books to read?”
- Your messages do not convey intonation. Therefore, you can mislead your interlocutor and even offend him with a simple “Well, ok.” Usually, emoticons or an ordinary bracket give the intonation color to the message.
- Don't overuse emoticons and stickers. This irritates many people. In addition, it impairs the readability of the text. And, of course, don’t even think about inserting emojis into business correspondence.
- It is not very decent to WRITE IN CAPS. On the Internet, this is the equivalent of raising your voice. And, again, reduces readability.
- If you can’t answer now, say so. It is better to immediately say that you are a little busy than to pretend that you did not notice the message. Believe me, the interlocutor knows that you are ignoring him and may be offended.
- No need to split messages. Because
very awkward to read
part of the meaning is lost
and generally speaking
do not you know
What part of the message can you already respond to?
- Re-read messages before sending! Because sometimes the built-in dictionaries do not write what you want. And in a hurry, you can type something unclear, and your interlocutor will have to guess what you meant.
- Try to write correctly. Don't ignore punctuation. They influence the meaning of the message. Remember the role of just a comma: “Execute, you cannot have mercy” or “You cannot execute, but have mercy.” Agree, the difference is significant.
- There is no need to write at inconvenient times. For example, at night. Unless you are sure that your interlocutor is not sleeping.
Event
Do you still remember that an event means being together in one room, at a general training, forum or any other event with someone? And this circumstance is the glue that binds you. Imagine that you went to a business conference and during the coffee break you found yourself at the same table with a stranger.
Start questions:
- Doesn't it blow too much for you? Maybe turn off the air conditioning?
- Is this your first time at this training/exhibition/performance?
- How do you like the forum? How are the speakers?
How to chat with a girl online
Popular question. We have already answered this in the article on how to meet a girl on the Internet. There were also examples of correspondence and weak points. Here we will only slightly supplement it with safe topics for communication.
Hobbies
. An eternal topic on which you can communicate, if desired, indefinitely. After all, almost every person has some hobbies. Maybe there is no full-fledged hobby, but in any case, we all somehow relax.
Relationship
. You can always carefully ask what kind of men a girl likes. Just build a dialogue without vulgarity and do not insist on this topic at the very beginning of your acquaintance.
Music, cinema, books
. This is also one of the win-win topics; you can always discuss the latest movies. Talk about your favorite films and musical groups. And if a girl loves to read, you can always discuss your favorite literary genres and authors.
Travel and leisure
. You can always discuss your past vacation or holidays. Talk about the places you want to visit. Or you can plan a weekend together.
Favorite places in the city
. If you are from the same city, you can always talk about your favorite parks, cafes, cinemas, and so on.
Animals
. Almost all girls love animals, many have favorite pets, and you can chat about them. I’ll say right away, for example, I can chat about cats for hours =)
Work or study
. Another eternal and neutral topic. In addition, you can always ask the girl how her day was. It will look cute and with a touch of care.
Study the questionnaire/profile
So, the first and basic rule is that you need to get to know the person before you enter into a dialogue with him. Check out his profile. Look at the photo - what is shown on it, what photo was chosen, read about his hobbies, pay attention to the spelling, whether he indicated his marital status and other facts. After you make your first impression of a stranger, use what you've learned to start communicating. If you have found common hobbies and interests, then half the battle is already done, all that remains is to write a message and start a conversation, you definitely have something to talk about, at least in the first three sentences.
Proper communication with a guy
In fact, communicating online with a girl and a guy has a lot in common:
- many topics (see above);
- unobtrusiveness and originality;
- and so on.
constructing questions (ask open-ended questions);
However, you can add a few more items to the general list.
- Firstly, and this is important. Be yourself, don't try to make the guy like you.
- It is important not to look sad and talk about how bad the day was, how cloudy the weather was, and in general, everything is decay. Guys don't really like girls who are always whining.
- Try not to look vulgar and frivolous. You will only lose reputation points in the eyes of a man.
- Guys like to know who they are talking to. Therefore, if he doesn’t yet know what you look like, don’t torment him.
Have you been wondering for a long time whether a guy likes you or not? We will help you find out.
Classic
When in doubt about how to start a conversation, go back to the basics: ask what the person does, why they came to this meeting, or simply extend your hand and say hello.
1. “Hi, I don’t know many people here, so I’d like to introduce myself. I’m (name) and I work for (company).” Well, that’s all!
2. “So, what do you do?” Now the interlocutor can talk about himself first, and you can think about how to take the conversation further or how you could cooperate.
3. “What brings you here today?”
4. “How was your day?” This is my “key” to any situation, and it has never let me down. It's simple and always effective, especially if you smile.
How to communicate with foreigners?
There is one subtlety in the topic of communicating with foreigners - are you expecting something specific from this communication? That is, if you want to marry a foreigner and go abroad for permanent residence, this is a separate issue. Girls write entire manuals on how to lasso a handsome guy from the Florida coast. We will not focus on this, we will list only the basic things.
Firstly, the biggest difficulty when communicating with foreigners is the language barrier. It’s good if you and your interlocutor know at least a little one language. For example, I always ask if a person knows English, if so, then there will be half as many problems in communication.
If you both speak completely different languages and have nothing in common, then only a translator will help in communication. Moreover, you should not always rely on Google translator. He very often distorts the meaning.
However, if the purpose of your communication is to practice a foreign language and nothing more. Then it’s worth switching from communicating on social networks to special sites - language social networks:
- www.lingq.com
- lang-8.com
Visualization helps a lot when communicating with a foreigner. For example, turn on Skype. If both interlocutors are forced to communicate in different languages, with the help of translators and fragmentary knowledge of certain words that are understandable to everyone, then video communication will be a tangible advantage. But there is no need to abuse this; such communication is very tiring for some.
As for the rest, the same rules apply. Culture, friendliness, literacy and suitable topics for conversation.
Even more unusual phrases for online dating
There are many great ways to start a conversation without seeming boring or obnoxious.
It's all about a personal approach to each specific girl.
1) Ask an interesting question
The best opening phrases for online dating include a question.
This shows that you need more interaction and encourages you to ask a counter question.
The question can be serious or stupid:
- “How do you feel about seafood on pizza?”
- “What can make you truly happy?”
- “I drink too much coffee. What is your biggest flaw?
Topics to avoid when communicating
There are a number of topics that are considered indecent to discuss with strangers. This doesn't just apply to the Internet. But for some reason, it is in it that the rule of the taboo is sometimes forgotten. So, on what topics is it better not to ask questions, and in general, skip them at first:
- family,
- former relationship,
- sex,
- material well-being,
- health,
- policy,
- religion,
- nationality,
- personal troubles,
- war and violence,
- death.
As you can see, some of these topics are too personal, some have a pronounced negative connotation, and some affect the worldview of the interlocutor. Without knowing a person, it is very easy to offend him or bring him into the negative, even without meaning to, by touching on this or that topic from the wrong side.
Opinion
You and I live in a country of Soviets. They are given to us all the time, on our own initiative, in pursuit, and even when we don’t need them.
For example, young mothers will understand me perfectly. Once you give birth, you will receive so much unsolicited advice that if each of them were equal to a dollar, you would easily become dollar millionaires.
A secret: we don’t need advice at all. We know everything ourselves. But teaching others is easy. And therefore, use it: ask your interlocutor for advice on life or professional issues. He will respond with pleasure, and all you have to do is listen.
Start questions:
- Please tell me how to solve this problem […].
- You were recommended to me as a specialist in the matter […]. What do you think is the best thing for me to do?
- Do you think this dress suits me?
- I didn't quite understand what the lecturer/speaker/teacher said. Can you explain it to me?
- You performed so well! How long did it take you to prepare?
