How many times a week should men and women have sex?

Absolutely any self-respecting woman will not voluntarily give up full communication with a man. Of course, if she is of normal orientation and does not suffer from any psychological trauma.

At the same time, there are certain time periods in every woman’s life when she needs a man the most. This article will tell you about these periods in more detail.

The benefits and harms of sex for older women

When talking about the age at which a woman needs men, we should consider the problem as a whole.
A decrease in libido is most often caused by changes that occur in a woman’s body. First of all, this is due to menopause and diseases that often accompany menopause. There may be the following reasons for decreased libido:

• reduction in the production of female hormones;
• vaginal dryness;
• decreased elasticity of the vaginal walls;
• painful sensations in the genital area.

This leads to discomfort, loss of orgasm and complete refusal of intimacy. Also, in older couples, problems are observed in the man. Many experience impotence and other disorders that make sex impossible.

The situation can be corrected by the timely intervention of a qualified specialist who will recommend the couple medications to increase potency, lubricants and other means that can significantly improve the quality of sexual life at almost any age.

Speaking about the age at which people have sex, it is worth noting that in fact there are no restrictions. In this case, everything depends on the capabilities of the body and the desires of both partners.

Unlike men, women do not have problems with potency. Often in adulthood there are more psychological inconveniences than physiological ones. It is generally accepted that sex is for the young. Many girls perceive it as a duty. As a result, with the extinction of sexual desire, men experience sincere relief that there is no longer a need to perform the so-called marital sex.

However, there are those who want a spouse even in old age, regularly experience orgasm and do everything possible to bring bright colors to their intimate life. In this case, pills, various sex toys, etc. are used. According to experts, this is the right approach that can prolong not only intimate, but also life in general.

When discussing the question of how many years a woman remains sexually active and when a decrease in desire occurs, it is important not to forget that sex is not only pleasure, but also the prevention of the development of various diseases.

The positive aspects of intimacy in adulthood include:

• increase in life expectancy;
• normalization of blood pressure;
• improving blood circulation and oxygen supply to cells;
• reduction in the number of diseases of the cardiovascular system;

At the same time, one cannot ignore the disadvantages:

• risk of infection;
• risk of pregnancy.

After the onset of female menopause, many people relax, believing that reproductive age is far behind them, and they stop using protection. As a result, unexpectedly for the couple, several months later, doctors detect pregnancy. Its interruption, like pregnancy itself, is a health risk.

According to medical research, the more sex a girl or woman has in her life, the better she looks. In addition to appearance, health and emotional state improves, signs of wilting are reduced. This is due to metabolic processes, good blood circulation and the active supply of oxygen to all cells and organs.

To increase libido, experts advise working on the vaginal muscles. To do this, you can use special exercises and devices. There is a wide range of products on the market for such products. To get results, it is enough to spend only 10-15 minutes a day on classes.

Treatment of the vaginal surface with a special laser helps restore the sensitivity of the vagina for women who still have desire. The procedure takes only a few seconds. After only 3-4 sessions, the elasticity of the walls is restored, and along with it the sensitivity improves.

Special products can also help. To increase desire, you should add to your diet: cereal, porridge, berries, nuts, veal, dark chocolate. Additionally, taking phytoestrogens is indicated.

Sex toys, lingerie, devices, etc. help increase desire in both partners and improve intimacy.

Doctors recommend that when you want sex, do not deny yourself it. Men also retain the ability to have sex for quite a long time. And in this case, it doesn’t really matter how old a person has lived and how long the couple has been together. The more often spouses have sex, the further old age moves away and the more positive emotions there are in life. A satisfied woman does not lash out at others and does not show aggression. She gets sick less and enjoys the moments more often.

Is there a norm

The norm is different for each person. Some people want it once a month, while others want it every day at the age of forty. Hormonal levels and physiology vary from person to person. But in some cases, medical intervention by psychiatrists and sexologists is required. Symptoms of the disorder include the following:

• Obsessive thoughts about sex and constant arousal.
• Uncontrollable behavior during sexual contact.
• Socially dangerous habits.

Pathological attraction in sexology is called erotomania. Diagnosis and treatment should only be performed by experienced physicians. The measure of responsibility in this matter is the health and even the lives of others. The cause of the pathology is still unknown, but it is believed that the brain centers responsible for this behavior may be damaged. For example, as a result of dementia or epilepsy. When it comes to pathology, there is a risk of developing dangerous habits. Statistics show that such diseases affect 3-5% of the population. But these are only approximate figures.

Dreams vs reality

When a woman says that she dreams of a man who will dedicate poems and songs to her, give her flowers and serve breakfast in bed, she sincerely believes in her words. And then he makes a choice in favor of rough brutality. Do not be surprised. Subconsciously, a woman wants to be next to a man who behaves like a man. Who will take responsibility - for her and for their relationship.

So, the million dollar question: what exactly do women want from men?

In reality, a woman craves a relationship with a real man. A kind of macho man who is in complete control of the situation and does not ask permission for anything.

In fact, the woman does not want to decide anything, she wants a new dress. And the timid young man “with a burning gaze” is unlikely to find a response in her heart. Despite the armfuls of flowers and a stack of love sonnets.

These words sound harsh, but this is the reality.

“An attempt to earn the order of an ideal mother is often worth the damage to the child’s psyche”

— If from individual stories of your clients we collect a general picture of what is happening with motherhood in Belarus today, what kind of picture will it be? What processes and trends are you observing?

— I see two bright trends. The first is a bias towards anxiety, which results from an increased level of awareness. Modern mothers and fathers are afraid of injuring their children. Due to the fact that there is a lot of information readily available about the development, needs of children, upbringing, types of psychological trauma, some people experience parental neurosis. “Oh, I yelled at the child! This is the end! I traumatized him!”, “I forbade him from going to his friend’s birthday party. That’s it, she will be traumatized!”, “My husband and I had a fight in front of the child - horror and fear!”, “She gave birth not naturally, but by Caesarean - that’s it, the attachment is broken!”

The second trend is with a light (and sometimes heavy) flair of narcissism: “All the best goes to children!” That's it. The most expensive courses for pregnant women, giving birth only in the best maternity hospital or even abroad, the most expensive stroller, clothes from the latest collections... It’s okay when it’s limited to material investments in accessories and things for small children, who really don’t need it important. But when this develops into a narcissistic race between mothers... From six months they begin to take them to developmental centers, and they happily catch the wave, promising parents that they will give out “geniuses” at the end of the day. And then - more: tutors in the first grade, an endless race to give the best, and without relying on the child as an individual. A child is perceived as an empty vessel into which more needs to be shoved, and then, look, something beautiful will grow. In fact, this is what makes it empty. Then, at 30-40 years of age, a crisis occurs. A person may be successful by this time, but he does not understand at all who he is, what he wants, whether he is doing what he is doing... Although the external picture may be beautiful, and the parents are proud and satisfied. Trying to earn the order of an ideal mother often costs the child’s mental disorders.

But in general, if we talk about the average portrait of a modern mother, this is a woman who consciously approaches planning, conception, pregnancy, and motherhood. She learns about it, reads, consults, is not afraid to go to specialists, and is open to dialogue. Really sensitive to the child and his needs. This is the general picture, excluding the extremes and poles.

Illustrative examples

Do you remember the lines from “Eugene Onegin”? The less we love a woman, the more she likes us. It’s not for nothing that this expression became a quote. In a few words, the poet reflected the whole essence of beautiful ladies.

Remember: when you showered compliments in front of a beauty, she turned up her nose. But as soon as you curbed your ardor, she began to demonstrate extreme interest.

Or here's another example. Let's say you invite the girl you like to a luxurious restaurant, where you give free rein to your feelings. You surround her with care. You try to predict her slightest desire. She thanks you for a wonderful evening, but makes no further contact. How so? It's simple. Slow down a little.

Even if you really like a girl, you shouldn’t show it. Be attentive and helpful, but in moderation. You shouldn’t throw the whole world at her feet at the first meeting.

Just don't go to extremes. If you have coffee with her at a cheap diner and ask to split the bill, she will rightly consider you a redneck. It is unlikely that you will persuade her to date again. But a light dinner in a cozy cafe and unobtrusive flirting is what you need.

By the way, pay attention. When you call a girl after a date and say that you miss her very much, she immediately begins to inflate herself. But as soon as you disappear and act like you are very busy, she will certainly call herself.

Signs when a girl wants sex

You have already guessed that a woman is a mysterious and unpredictable creature. It is difficult to understand, but it is possible. How? Now you'll find out.

Here are the top 10 qualities that any woman appreciates in a man:

1. Confidence. If a girl sees fear and indecision in your eyes, things are bad. Shyness is more of her thing. You've long since left adolescence. So be brave.
2. Initiative. Every girl dreams of a man taking the initiative into his own hands. Become the “locomotive” in your relationship. You don't have to tell her what you're going to do. Just take it and do it.
3. Equilibrium. The girl wants you to act calmly and collectedly in any situation. If you find it difficult to keep your emotions to yourself, work on yourself. Don’t be like exalted ladies - it’s not like a man.
4. Pleasant communication. Nobody likes a bore. God forbid you retell the plot of the action movie you watched the day before to the girl you like. Or describe your coin collection for an hour. The girl should be having fun and interesting with you. She can get bored alone.
5. Cheerfulness. If you're not in the mood, it's better to reschedule the date. The girl wants to be made to laugh and be entertained. Your sullenness will plunge her into despondency. A gloomy and dissatisfied beech is even worse than a bore. But don’t go too far so as not to look like a clown.
6. Mysteriousness. Your chosen one does not want to know everything about you right away. She wants to be surprised. There is no need to tell her all your ins and outs. A slight aura of mystery will give you a special attractiveness in her eyes.
7. Unpredictability. Of course, in a good way - don’t confuse unpredictability with eccentricity. A woman likes to guess what your next move will be. Play with her like a cat and a mouse. She will hate you for it... and love you.
8. Mind. A smart woman is not interested in a stupid man. As well as vice versa. Choose a pair to suit you. It is important that you communicate in the same language.
9. Ambition. An ambitious and purposeful man inspires respect. A woman likes it when her chosen one knows exactly what he wants from life. Sets a goal and goes towards it. Well, if you are used to ranting while lying on the couch, nothing will come of it.
10. Courtesy. The ability to turn a girl's head is a rare quality. Try to master the art of flirting. And soon you will see genuine interest and admiration in her eyes.

A girl who is committed to intimacy is unlikely to say one fine morning: “Darling, it’s time.” Is it time?! No, of course she will say. But non-verbally. Clothes that are more revealing than usual, a brighter lipstick color, slightly spread legs and discreet touches will speak for her.

To answer the question: “Does a girl want you?”, it’s worth learning the basics of body language. Crossed arms, fingers clenched into a fist, and a menacing look from under the forehead clearly do not indicate a romantic mood and a desire for privacy. And what indicates to a man that his chosen one is ready to move to bed - further.

Appearance

If a guy is in the friend zone, the girl will not bother with the color of her mascara, the depth of the neckline of her blouse, or the elegance of her underwear. She can easily come to a meeting in sweatpants, with a high ponytail and without a hint of makeup. And he won't blink an eye.

If a woman has erotic plans for a man, in the bathroom she dreams of his touch, and in the depths of her soul she is waiting for the first step on the path to passion, she will not allow herself to look unsexy in the presence of the object of adoration.

Did your strap “accidentally” fall off during a conversation? Do you urgently need to bend down to straighten your shoe so that your chosen one will notice the translucent sconce? Yes, men, these are playful hints, not “ill-fitting” clothes!

Sexual desire can limit meetings. Be prepared to hear: “Sorry, honey, not today...” if she can’t take a shower, wax her legs, and style her hair before the date.

Facial expressions

How to understand that a girl wants sex? You don’t need to listen to her words - watch her facial expressions and behavior. She licks and bites her lower lip, smiles sweetly, and the cocktail straw is in her mouth for too long?..

Or maybe the girl is playing erotically with her hair? Have you already adjusted your button at chest level several times? Stroking his thighs? These are not subtle hints at all.

How does she take the glass in her hand, take a bite of dessert and lick the spoon? Smoothly, gently and in such a way that it is impossible to take your eyes off her smooth movements? If you think that this femininity is “accidental”, “just like that”, “given from birth” or “unconscious” - know that you are mistaken.

A woman will never waste her energy on appearing like a sexy kitten next to an uninteresting man...

"Advantageous" pose

If a woman wants sex, she will never sit in front of a man in a “rough” or boyish position. She will choose the best angle. When walking with a guy down the street, he will walk on the right, because the left ear is more beautiful. In a cafe, he will piquantly cross his legs, referring to beautiful knees and a “dark spot” under the dress. During the conversation, he will bend lower so that the chosen one can see the bust and smell the scent of perfume.

Sight

The sparkling, slightly woozy and adventure-ready eyes of your chosen one are a sure sign that the relationship will soon move to the next level. This look is exciting because it conveys everything: hints, readiness for developments, animal passion, outright desires.

A man also needs to play his role with skill. In response, look at the woman directly, boldly, with a willingness to seduce and bring the game to a beautiful, blissful end.

Touch

When leaving the table, did the girl lightly touch your shoulder? During dinner, did you run your toes along your shins for the umpteenth time? If at the same time you hear a languid voice, slightly intermittent breathing, and her pupils are dilated and her cheeks are flushed... This is not from the stuffiness in the room;).

Nymphomania

If a woman constantly wants sex, not just every day, but several times a day, constantly thinks about it, then they talk about nymphomania. This is a disease that has complex psychological causes. The danger of nymphomania is that it is progressive. That is, over time, it will cause more and more inconvenience not only to the spouse, but also to the woman herself, since it will become a serious obstacle to leading a normal lifestyle.

It is very difficult to free yourself from nymphomania. In both cases, you should seek help from medical specialists, for example, a sexologist.

Causes of sexual problems in older people

Paying attention to the problem of the age at which a woman needs sex, one should take into account the reasons for the occurrence of intimate problems and the disappearance of desire in a woman:

• Urinary incontinence. This is one of the most common problems in which desire disappears. The woman experiences discomfort and shame. In this case, surgery and taking special medications can help.
• Joint diseases. With their development, intimate life becomes a real test. At the same time, many people retain their attraction. To alleviate the condition and bring sex back into life, you need a selection of medications, gymnastics, and a variety of positions.
• Diseases of the cardiovascular system. Many people simply fear that sexual intercourse can cause a heart attack or stroke. Decreased desire is associated with fear. In fact, you can get a heart attack without sex. So why limit yourself. Moreover, during intimacy, the body receives a powerful charge of energy and the release of hormones, which has a positive effect on cardiovascular activity.
• Taking medications. A number of drugs lead to a situation where desire completely disappears. In this case, the doctor may decide to replace the tablets with others. Thus, you can quickly return attraction.
• Physical disabilities. Wrinkles, hyperpigmentation, loss of skin elasticity and firmness and other age-related changes often lead to the fact that a lady simply does not want to appear before a man in such a not very presentable form. It is important to be able to accept yourself and your body. In fact, for a loving partner, appearance is far from being in the foreground. He does not notice the signs of the lady's aging.

Reasons for refusing sex may be loss or decrease in sensitivity of the genital organs, decreased muscle tone of the pelvic floor, a feeling of a wide vagina, etc. To increase desire and improve the quality of intimate life, hormonal therapy may be indicated.

Universal advice

Whatever the problem in intimate relationships between spouses, answering the question of what to do if you constantly want sex or don’t want it, there is simple and universal advice. It is always necessary to be as frank as possible with your significant other. An open conversation on a confidential basis in many cases can lead to the solution of any problems that relate to sexual relationships and happiness in the family as a whole.