Photo: UGC Any man whose relationship lasted longer than a month has faced the problem of how to prove to a girl that you love her. Men and women evaluate the behavior of their chosen one differently. This causes disagreements and quarrels. Let's tell you in more detail how to show your love to a girl.
Should you be the first to tell a girl that you like her?
Of course, if a certain girl arouses your sympathy, and you hope for reciprocal feelings, then tell her about it, show her in some way or hint. It is so customary that men often take the first step in expressing their feelings. Not all girls are ready to take the initiative in this regard, so even if the person who attracts you likes you, you may not even know about it until you yourself indicate your position in relation to her.
It is worth understanding that many girls were raised from childhood in such a way that it is unacceptable for them to be the first to show their sympathy to a guy. Perhaps she believes that by this act she will not show herself in the best light, because “decent girls do not impose themselves.” It may also be that she had a negative experience during her school years - she showed her sympathy, but did not achieve it in return. In any case, if you want to know for sure whether you have a chance of building a relationship with this girl, you should let her know that you care about her. You can determine for yourself how best to do this. Of course, the character of the girl, the duration of the acquaintance and many other factors matter.
Moreover, it is important to remember that girls love decisive guys, so even if she initially did not consider you as a potential partner, your confession may make her look at you from a completely different perspective.
We hint to her through compliments and expressions of sympathy.
A compliment is the simplest and most profitable step on the way to a girl’s heart, so you can come up with a huge variety of them, and the girl will always be pleased. The main thing is not to overdo it and not turn a compliment into everyday flattery.
If you want to conquer your beloved, you should learn how to give compliments correctly. You shouldn’t memorize them, and in order to impress a girl, don’t say obvious things, for example: “There is no one more beautiful than you in the world,” this is quite boring and everyone is already tired of it. Get creative with compliments:
- “Having traveled half the world, I have never met such a treasure in the world as you”;
- “Before our meeting, I was thinking about what to say to you, but when I saw your charming smile, I forgot all the words.”
Most importantly, remember to be sincere. If she realizes that you truly admire her, she will appreciate your persistence. And if you try to memorize the text, she will immediately understand it and get angry. You should not repeat compliments very often, let them become unexpected.
If you suddenly go too far and your girlfriend gets upset, ask her for forgiveness and that you didn’t mean to offend her.
There is no need for long sentences, speak briefly, clearly and your intonation should not let you down.
How to tell a girl how you feel
When you're really afraid to admit it
If you are afraid to admit your feelings and can’t do anything about this fear yet, then, apparently, you are completely unsure of exactly how the girl treats you. In this case, you should get closer to her to learn more about her and understand what your chances are of being together. It is better not to delay the process of rapprochement, so as not to move into the friend zone.
What you need to do for this:
- Be attentive to her - listen to what she says, ask leading questions.
- Take an interest in what she does in her free time, what her mood is, whether everything is okay with her - be sympathetic.
- Try to cheer her up more often - with jokes, smiles, and so on.
- Show interest in her personality - what she likes and what she doesn’t, what films she can recommend for watching, etc.
When she's your friend
Remember that friendships often make loving couples - perhaps the same will happen in your case! Many girls are secretly in love with their friends, but often try to overcome this feeling, fearing that it will not be mutual and that they will end up losing each other. However, even if this is not the case, your chances are very high, because if a girl is friends with you, then at least she likes you. You can start to get to the point by simply starting a conversation about what she generally thinks about friendship between a man and a woman, how common she thinks it is, and how good couples are made as a result of bringing such friends together.
It is worth noting that in fact, such unions often turn out to be stronger than others. Many people start relationships without really knowing each other, and then break up due to “surprises” revealed to them. Friends, in turn, as a rule, are already well aware of each other’s bad sides, and enter into romantic relationships already consciously.
When she loves another guy
The situation is quite difficult and by taking too drastic actions you can only cause harm. First, try to understand what kind of relationship connects the girl and her lover. If they are not a couple or he doesn't treat her very well in the relationship and she is suffering because of it, then your chances are very high. Try to be near her as often as possible, showing your clear advantages over the object of her affection. Be attentive to her, take an interest in her affairs, make surprises without hinting at a serious relationship. Most likely, if she gets more attention from you than from the guy she was originally interested in, her interest will be redirected to you.
When she said she liked me
In this case, it’s easiest to act, because the girl has already given you the green light. If you didn’t immediately get your bearings and didn’t admit your reciprocal sympathy, then don’t put it off until later. Call her, write or offer to meet her, admitting that you really like her too.
What to remember when giving hints
There are moments that will help a young man achieve reciprocity from the object of his affection. What principles need to be remembered:
- Optimist - ladies prefer those who smile often, rather than those who are constantly doing poorly.
- A neat appearance - a brutal, confident man - is, of course, good. But no one has yet canceled the observance of the rules of self-care.
- Politeness - rudeness and rudeness attract few people.
- Think less, do more - if you watch from the side for too long, you can wait for her to pay attention to someone else.
- Sincerity and openness - use your feelings in the communication process. Do not lie, be ready to discuss any topic and do not lie.
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Hints of liking a girl
Compliments about her taste and figure
Every girl loves compliments, even if she won't admit it. Usually girls are attentive to the choice of their clothes and hairstyle, and you can draw her attention to the fact that you notice this and admire her taste. For example, you can say that she has a funny T-shirt, a very nice dress, shiny hair, cool jeans, and the like. As a rule, girls like such words. Many representatives of the fair sex believe that they have a special eye color, and even if you don’t bark, still give the girl a compliment on this score: “You have such a beautiful and interesting eye color.” Make some comparison. If the eyes are green, then say that they have an emerald shine, if they are blue, compare them with the endless sea, yellow ones with a cat’s gaze, gray ones with an anxious sky on the eve of rain (specify that you like rain).
It is also important to note that many girls doubt their figure. however, if your chosen one is happy with her, then confirmation of her thoughts will only please her. A very thin girl does not need to say: “Oh, you need to eat more, otherwise the wind will blow you away,” instead say: “You are as fragile as Thumbelina! I like!". If a girl is inclined to be overweight, then on occasion note that she has an ideal figure. If a girl often goes to the gym, say that it’s noticeable, adding: “Guys are probably freaking out.”
Flowers and banal amenities
Probably all girls love flowers, and if someone doesn’t like bouquets, it’s only because they prefer flowers in pots rather than cut ones. Although some people, on the contrary, love bouquets, not finding the time or much desire to look after house plants. However, you will most likely find out about this circumstance after you hand over the flowers, unless you casually ask about it in advance. Girls also love various goodies - casually find out about her tastes either in personal communication, or by studying a page on a social network (often you can determine from the profile what exactly a particular person likes).
Write poems with a hint about love
If you do not have confidence in your own poetic abilities, then it is better to find a work by some classic - Asadov, Yesenin, Pushkin, Rozhdestvensky and so on. Let there be no more explicit declarations of love, but the topic should be close to that. You can send her the work by personal message via SMS or social network, commenting that you caught your eye today and really liked it. At a minimum, the girl will think that you are not alien to romance.
Invitation to the cinema or a cup of coffee
This is already a very radical step, and if in previous cases the girl may still doubt your sympathy, then after such an invitation even the most slow-witted one will suspect that you like her. Choose a cozy coffee shop where you can talk calmly. If you are not yet sure that, due to the feelings that have gripped you, you will be able to have a free conversation, then it is better to choose an art cafe where some musical groups perform. You can also invite a girl to the cinema for an interesting premiere.
SMS recognition
If you cannot decide to confess to a girl, although you assume that the feelings may be mutual, then an SMS message may be a way out of the situation. For some girls, this option is even preferable because... with “live” recognition, they are often lost and do not know how to react. In the case of a message, the girl will have the opportunity to think about her answer and approach it carefully. True, subsequently all important conversations with this girl, if you develop a relationship, are better to be conducted in person, so that she does not get the impression that you are afraid of any serious topics.
Selfless help
Help the girl without hinting at anything in return. Do it casually, as you would do it for a close relative or friend. Help can be very different. Perhaps she is late for somewhere and you have the opportunity to give her a ride. It is possible that she has problems with her laptop, and you could repair it and so on.
Let her know that she is the best
This can be done by commenting, for example, on some star (it is better to avoid comparisons with real acquaintances if they are not obvious enemies of the girl). For example, she is delighted with some actress - note that you will not understand what she sees in her. if she herself is much more beautiful. Or especially note her merits: “I’ve never met a girl who cooks so deliciously,” “You have the perfect height,” “It’s crazy what color your eyes are,” “You’re so graceful, you probably did ballet?” etc.
You can say “I love you” in other words or actions
There are many ways to show your chosen one how you feel. If you have a meeting in the cold season, or you work together, grab her a glass of her favorite hot drink. If she is sick, offer to bring her medicine or give her some fruit (you can also do it through a friend or courier): “Eat your vitamins, get better.” You can also send a bouquet of flowers by courier on any occasion or “Just for the mood.” Rest assured, such actions will most likely be appreciated.
How to tell her without hints?
If you still can’t get over yourself or are not a male who can constantly flirt and compliment girls, but are a serious, straightforward guy, it doesn’t matter. This is even good, since the option suits you is to immediately speak the truth about what you really want from a girl.
For example, let these be simple, uncomplicated phrases:
- “You are very beautiful, smart and I have really liked you for a long time!”;
- “I’ll be honest, I’m crazy about you!”
Tell the girl what exactly attracted you to her, what made her stand out among others. And then she will feel superior to other females, which will greatly flatter her.
Tell everything honestly, don’t try to make things up, because if you start hanging around before the next compliment, it will seem very strange.
To gently hint at a relationship, you need
Explain why she is special and you need her
Make it clear that you don't just want a relationship with some girl, but that you are interested in her. Tell us what you like most about her, why you think your couple has a chance for a happy relationship. Tell her about when you first realized that you liked him, what exactly you felt. Girls especially like such stories.
Show how much a woman cares for you
It happens that words are not always enough, and many women no longer take words seriously. Therefore, do not neglect actions that could show her your true attitude towards her. Many men have forgotten what it means to “court” a woman, thereby increasing the “value” of those who still do it.
Induce her to have her first kiss
Most women believe that the beginning of a serious relationship is the first date or declaration of love, and the first kiss. If you bring your meeting to the point that it ends with the first kiss (you can do this when parting, walking your chosen one home), then it means that you were completely able to win her over.
Voice your desire that you want to see her next to you
Some women do not understand hints or do not want to take them seriously for fear of getting into an awkward position. Usually we are talking about adults, busy or business women who do not have time to “catch” your signals. In this case, it is best to say your feelings directly.
Useful tips
In order for a girl to take a guy’s hints correctly, it is important to follow some tips on how to show a girl that you really like her:
- Spend a lot of time in her company.
- Communication occurs not only on the Internet, but also in life.
- Give her a present.
- Make strong eye contact.
- Ask her about her plans for the weekend.
Tell her she's better than all the other women around
Every girl wants to be one and only. Show her your sincere interest, but it is important not to compare the lady with others. You need to speak confidently, without allowing any objections. She will be very flattered by this.
We voice our feelings with humor
Words spoken in jest have the ability to come true. A sense of humor is a great ace in the hole for any young man. For example, use the phrases:
- “Isn’t your mother expecting a son-in-law?”
- “Our children will not forgive us for such behavior.”
And similar ones. It seems like a joke, but there is a hint hidden in it.
It is not necessary to name the reason why you are attracted to her
Ladies love mystery and intrigue. Use the phrase “I myself don’t understand the reason for my behavior, but I feel very bad without you” and give her the opportunity to solve this puzzle on her own. And in the process, try to win the young lady’s heart.
Let her know that she is the one you want to be with most now.
If a guy, instead of going to relax, chose an evening spent alone with a girl, then this will not go unnoticed. She should not only hear that the young man wants to spend time with her. And to see the confirmation of these words in his actions.
The main thing is to be confident in your abilities and behave with dignity, to be sure that a woman will pay attention to a guy who sympathizes with her. And then you can ask her out on a date.
What to do if a girl refuses
In this situation, of course, you need to behave like a man - without making a scene, without insulting the girl and without making fun of her later in the company of friends. If you behave with dignity in this situation, then perhaps the girl will look at you from a completely different perspective and will soon want to be with such a balanced guy. If she refused, then simply say: “Well, then the topic is closed.” If you were on friendly terms before, then there is no need to avoid her now, act as if nothing happened, and do not return to this topic even with hints until she herself initiates such a conversation. If you haven’t communicated before, then just periodically congratulate her on the social network on the New Year, Birthday and March 8th, for example. If she becomes interested in you, she will somehow let you know about it.
Is it possible to prove love from a distance?
How to prove to a girl that you love her if you live in different cities, or even countries? Life is sometimes unfair to lovers, and separation occurs for various reasons. But if relationships are important to you, look for all sorts of ways to get closer to your chosen one - fortunately, in the age of the Internet this is not difficult. Talk to her on the phone, send SMS, chat on Skype as often as possible to keep the flame of love alive. Be interested in how the day went, what happened in it, console her in failures - let her feel supported wherever she is. Your life will be built on trust.
Even when you're apart, you can give gifts! Order flowers in her city, please her and surprise her. This can be done either through a courier or through companies. Give not only flowers, but also sweets, soft toys, balloons. Anything that can please and lift your spirits.
Why are guys afraid to admit their feelings?
Even the strongest and bravest men become vulnerable and timid when it comes to having to confess their feelings for an attractive woman. The fact is that representatives of the stronger sex are not used to talking about their emotions, especially when it comes to liking a girl.
Embarrassment can also arise due to fear of being rejected, failures in previous relationships, lack of self-confidence, or little experience communicating with women.
It’s even more scary to make a confession when a girl is constantly surrounded by crowds of fans, against whom it’s not so easy to stand out. Also, a guy may be afraid that his friends will laugh at his feelings, so most often he prefers to stay on the sidelines.
Avoiding Ambiguity
Without realizing it, a guy can sometimes express himself ambiguously. The human psyche notices bad moments first, so a girl can be offended by an unsuccessful compliment, and a guy will be sure that he said a stunning phrase.
Let's say a young man wanted to sincerely praise his companion's chubby cheeks. But such a compliment may disappoint and upset her. She will not notice that her gentleman likes her cheeks, but she will definitely remember that they are plump. The same goes for compliments about hips and breasts. Many girls will take statements about them as a manifestation of the arrogance and vulgarity of a young man.
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Original and humorous ways to declare love
In that spirit, here's what you can come up with:
- Place a heart or a love phrase from lighted candles or rose petals under her windows (or in her apartment if the wind is blowing outside). This method does not require any special material costs, but will definitely impress the girl.
- Order a lift truck, go up to her bedroom window with a huge bouquet of flowers and knock. You can sing a love song at the same time if you have hearing and a voice.
- Write a confession with multi-colored crayons on the asphalt/wall or make colorful graffiti in the snow. If you have no artistic abilities, you can always use the help of professionals or friends, among whom, as a rule, there will definitely be a creative person to create this work of art.
- Call the radio and order a song for your loved one that best describes your feelings.
- Make a T-shirt with a portrait of your beloved and cherished words of love and wear it on a date.
- Arrange a surprise in the form of an unforgettable quest. With the help of various notes with tasks, guide her along the right path to solving the mystery that lies in your confession. You can attach hearts, flowers or other nice little things to the notes.
- Declaring your love in front of a large audience will be exciting and unforgettable for both of you. For example, into a microphone from the stage at some concert or in public transport, a restaurant, at someone’s wedding, if you are present there together. But for this method you need to be confident in yourself and be able to broadcast to the public.
- Using a template from the Internet for official confessions may seem quite interesting to girls. You print it out, enter your names and give it to your chosen one.
- Confessing your love in the open sky will not leave anyone indifferent. Book a hot air balloon or paragliding flight. A surge of adrenaline will help you do your job more confidently. The main thing is to make sure in advance that the girl does not have a fear of heights.
- Ride up to a girl on a white horse with a huge bouquet of scarlet roses and say: “I hope I’m exactly the prince you’ve been waiting for all your life?”
- Order a banner with her photo and cherished words, which will be placed in a place she often visits. Or create a more budget-friendly option yourself using whatman paper, paints, printed photos and imagination.
- Organizing a flash mob is a very popular method now. To do this, you need to gather a lot of people who can hold hands and line up in the shape of a heart or the inscription “I love you.” You can line up cars in the same way. Another option: persuade as many people as possible (for example, through WhatsApp groups) to send your girlfriend a message on her phone “... (name) loves you.” If you are thinking: “How to tell a girl classmate that I love her,” you can write a beautiful confession without a signature on the board when there is no one in the class. Having seen the message in front of everyone, she will be simultaneously embarrassed, flattered by the manifestation of feelings towards her and, of course, intrigued by the person who wrote it.
- Post a love status on social networks. For example: “I love my girl”, “I love you with every cell of my body”, “You are my happiness, my ray of light, I love you” or any others like that. Even if you do not indicate the name of your beloved, the chosen one who follows you will definitely be interested in who these words are addressed to, and perhaps she will guess herself.
- Use a humorous comparison. For example, you are having lunch in a cafe and you say: “What delicious pizza! I love her very much, but I love you even more!” Or, riding a bike with her, you exclaim: “I love riding a bike! But there are even more of you!” Or while walking at night: “Look how beautiful the moon is! I admire her. But you are stronger!”
An Effective Gradual Convergence Plan
To maximize the likelihood of a positive outcome in your relationship with a girl, you can use the following sequence of actions:
- get to know her better - talk a lot, go for walks, discuss interests, ask about her work/studies; this information will be fundamental for further actions;
- unobtrusively hint about your sympathy - offer help in everyday situations, give small gifts, demonstrate your manners;
- move on to a frank conversation - it’s worth talking about the seriousness of your intentions so that the girl understands what to expect from a possible relationship.
After the third stage, there may be two options for the development of events: the girl will show her feelings and this will develop into a relationship, or she will not be ready for a relationship. In the second case, the main thing is not to lose hope - many people need time to think about what is happening. Under no circumstances should you be persistent - this will only scare the girl away.
It’s easy to hint to a girl about your feelings, you just need to remain attentive, patient and not be afraid to talk to her about it.
Irina, Blagoveshchensk
Prove your love with your actions
Some girls want beautiful words, while others ask for strong actions. If there are accusations against you that your words do not match your deeds, then take these tips into account before you prove that you love a girl:
- Mind your manners. With your friends you can burp deliciously, scratch yourself in different places and behave as you want, but a girl needs to see a real prince and gentleman next to her. For her, you are the ideal man with whom she is in love, so the resonance of your behavior and her feelings is puzzling. It's not that hard to open the door for a girl or concede the choice of a movie.
- Show her your affection, dependence on her. Call every day, give her the attention she is missing.
- Demonstrate reliability, show that you can be relied upon: solve her problem or at least listen and give advice. Believe in her, encourage her endeavors, provide support.
- Trust her: suppress attacks of jealousy in yourself, give her more freedom. Respect her as a person.
- Be attentive not only to her appearance, but also to her feelings. Don’t brush aside claims and worries: even if outwardly they are far-fetched and empty, something more serious may be hidden behind them.
- Give her more of your time. Just be included in the communication, and not busy only with yourself or the contents of your phone.
- Help her in everyday life: cook, clean.
If you are already doing all this, and she is unhappy, then move on to the next point.
