How to forget a girl you love, but she doesn't love you? One simplest and most effective way and 5 additional ones

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I understand your feelings now, you sit and suffer and think about how to forget the girl you love, but she doesn’t see you? The world has turned upside down, I lived for her and there are no goals in life, I want to get drunk and forget myself. And advice from friends, like you’ll find something even better, doesn’t help, is that how it happens? That's exactly what happened to me.

Does loving mean suffering? NO!

So you lived with a girl or you were just secretly in love with her, and another common thing is that she considers you a friend, and you love her. But it turned out that society has formed an opinion about love, that if you love, then you must suffer. But let's be honest, suffering does not mean loving.

If you suffer, it means that your self-esteem is undermined, and it suffers. What thoughts arise when a girl leaves you or chooses someone else over you or, even worse, ignores you? The thought here is that they chose someone else to take your place, you are worse than others, you are worthless, you are a fool, you will never succeed. The list can be continued long and hard. But this does not lead to a solution to the problem.

Psychologists would NOT want you to know these secrets about yourself

—Imagine this situation...
What if, instead of paying for years for useless consultations with a psychologist, in 21 days you can work with yourself? Get rid of negative thoughts and states forever. And instead live a calm and happy life? Stop living in stress due to relationships or constant lack of money?

Tell me this is impossible?

I thought so too, until I started working with myself

LIVING HAPPY IS EASY

My name is Ivan, I am 35 years old, and I have been practicing psychology for 15 years. I have studied all the basic methods and techniques through which I help people find happiness. NLP, hypnosis, body-image therapy. I was invited on television as an expert.

And it was... just a nightmare!

I lived in a state of depression for 7 years (constant stress exhausted me). I had a lot of low self-confidence (my self-esteem was below 0). I could not calmly communicate with people, it seemed to me that I was not worthy of them.

The relationship did not work out (because I was very negative, jealous, a doormat). I’m generally silent about decent earnings; I earned 15,000 rubles a month and thought that was the limit. I didn’t want to live... Envy.

The worst thing is, I thought I would have to live like this forever, and I don’t deserve love and happiness.

But it only got worse, negative states fell on me like a snowball. It felt like I was sitting in a deep, black hole from which there was no way out. Hopelessness, despair, pain, resentment.

My life has turned into endless torture. But then a miracle happened...

I FOUND THE KEY... EVERYONE HAS IT...

One day my father came home from work, a little drunk, although he never drank much.

He came into the kitchen..., looked at me with a dissatisfied expression and began to say with anger how worthless I was, how I couldn’t do anything, and in general, how sorry he was that he was my father.

At first I felt severe mental pain (this is very painful to hear from my family). Then I got offended (does that mean I’m not a favorite son?!) And then an insight came to me...

I received that magical kick that I had been waiting for all my life. It changed my thinking, my life and my relationships with my environment.

I had already forgiven my father simply because he told me the truth and I was happy about it!

But then the most interesting thing began...

Literally 5 minutes later I was already sitting at the computer and writing out all the psychological (!) methods of working with myself.

I was even confused, because my plans were to continue to suffer all my life.

It was such an incredible feeling of freedom and desire to do something that I burst into tears of happiness.

THE MAIN SECRET OF HAPPINESS

If you think that you cannot change your life, become rich or successful, or create a happy relationship - you are mistaken!

You can change your life by changing your thinking and the main thing is to do it EASILY!

• 5 simple and powerful methods of working with yourself (they work even if you use them incorrectly) - You don’t have to turn to psychologists, you are your own psychologist.

• “The secret method” of working through any negative state. This will allow you to eliminate the negative and switch to the positive in 5 minutes.

• 15 minutes a day - Just 15 minutes a day to change your life 180 degrees. Become happier and more joyful.

• Saving up to 100,000 rubles in 1 year - You will save on trips to a psychologist, and spend the saved money on a vacation by the sea.

• 21 days – It only takes 21 days for you to see changes in your life. You will start smiling. Wake up with joy.

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Do you also know why you begin to suffer from unrequited love? Self-pity. You want to punish yourself, show how you suffer and so that the object of your desire will see it and feel sorry for you. But do you want to live in such a relationship that you are constantly pitied? Believe me, this is HELL for both partners.

So say thank you to the girl who sees your suffering but shows no pity for you. The desire to be pitied has its roots in childhood, where parents were not loving or showed less care than they would like. Well, a lot of things. Self-pity is just the worst thing a man can have. You can forget about success with women and in life if you feel sorry for yourself.

Read more: Long distance relationships, does it make sense?

For a man to do well in a relationship, he needs to grow up, take responsibility for life, for success and money. That is, everything that happens in your life is the result of your thoughts and actions. And the state, other people and all external factors have nothing to do with it.

Take care of your career9

And no matter how strange it may sound, now is the most suitable case! Don’t refuse additional assignments from your superiors, master new technologies, agree to all kinds of business trips - in a word, develop. Immersing yourself headlong in work, you simply won’t have time and energy left for emotional worries. Focus as much as possible on the work process, instead of suffering for days on end. Moreover, after a short period of time you yourself will be convinced of the correctness of your decision. Just learn to control your thoughts and prioritize correctly.

What does it mean to love?

In my opinion, the concept of love included something that is not what is needed. All thanks to our media, love songs and films. And I have a feeling that those who sing songs about love didn’t even feel it in their souls. I learned what true love is from special meditations and believe me, it’s not just suffering and despondency, it’s a legal drug that exists in each of us infinitely, you just need to learn how to use it.

In a state of love, any negative emotions are not alien to you, you want to live and enjoy life, and everything else is nonsense. Therefore, you calmly release your love into good hands and calmly move on. An important note is that in this state there is a high probability that the girl you love will write or call herself, because pure love is limitless.

Stop following her

So, let's start with the basics, without which all further actions will be absolutely useless. If you want to truly forget her, start with your social networks. Unfollow her on Instagram, unfriend her on VKontakte, block her on Facebook, stop following her on Twitter, and finally, forget about her other pages.

Otherwise, you will become fixated on all her online activities. Every post she makes will seem like a reference to your relationship, every new like from some guy will seem like the beginning of her new relationship with someone else.

Subsequently, your paranoia will go so far that you will not be able to do your usual things and will be stuck at the screen of your gadget for a long time in endless worries.

Just unfollow her and that's it.

The easiest way to forget a girl

The easiest way to get rid of negative thoughts about your love is to contact me, I will remove the negative experience from you within 30 minutes and you will be amazed that there is life without suffering. Well, we’ll also add various positive benefits in the form of positive beliefs so that the situation doesn’t repeat itself, and if it does happen again, it won’t be so bad.

I remember my last relationship, I went with a girl to Sochi. And she is such a tough Instagrammer, and she didn’t need anything other than photos of herself. And I was so sick of it that I told her everything and decided to break up with her. Well, of course, there are different experiences in the soul, feelings of guilt and resentment. In general, while walking to the hotel, I worked through the whole situation in 15 minutes and simply let it go, as if it had never happened. All. I live on, without suffering and other nonsense.

A little about errors

The opinion of another person must be respected. If a girl decided to break up, then she had reasons for it. In such cases they say: “Not fate.” The paths have diverged, you need to look for your one and only. Unfortunately, it does not occur immediately. You have to learn from your mistakes. You should let go of your former chosen one physically and psychologically and start a new life. Mistakes that do not allow you to forget your former love:

• constant memories instead of a focus on the future;
• storage of photographs, gifts;
• an insidious plan for revenge;
• constant thoughts about your ex-girlfriend;
• reluctance to notice shortcomings;
• obsessing over a problem;
• loneliness, seclusion.

Until the guy himself wants to forget his chosen one, no advice will help him. He will not notice other women, he will not be able to love again. It is recommended to start working on yourself from the first days of separation, then the state of emotional depression will pass much faster. We must remember that the best is yet to come.

You do not feel LOVE when parting, but fear of loneliness or betrayal.

Many people confuse suffering with the feeling of love, but this is not so. You feel inner pain due to betrayal, disappointment or fear of rejection.

Then everything can develop into stress, depression, as well as loss of health. The worst thing is if you lose interest in the relationship altogether.

The only thing that can quickly bring back the taste of life is to neutralize negative emotions and let go of the situation.

In 30 minutes we will find all the negative emotions that prevent you from letting the girl go and solve them so that they no longer bother you.

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About me

Out of sight, out of mind1

The first thing to do after a breakup is to exclude from your life any reminder of your now former passion. Photos, correspondence, cute gifts and postcards. All this will now act on you like a red rag on a bull. Don't forget to delete her number from your phone book. Of course, there is a huge chance that you know your once favorite numbers by heart. In this case, you still have to show character and willpower so as not to break down. But you’ve already decided everything, haven’t you?

Vdovin Ivan

• More than 15 years in psychology
• Owner of 2 successful businesses
• Developed his own method “Key Therapy”
• Certified NLP Practitioner
• Certified Hypnotherapist
• In practice I use: Gestalt therapy, imagery therapy, body therapy, art therapy, hypnosis, Hellinger constellations
• Helped over 100 clients
• I invested more than 500,000 rubles in my education
• My blog is visited by more than 1500 people per day

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Speak out

If you've been bottling up your feelings about your breakup for a long time, it's time to let them out. To do this, you can invite your best friends to a bar, tell them everything you think about your failed love, scream a little, drink a lot (just don't overdo it), and then wake up the next day feeling like a reborn person.

Naturally, in order to completely move away from bitter thoughts, a person needs time. Allow yourself to grieve a little, just don't fall into a depressed state and be able to throw out your emotions at the right time.

How to forget the girl you love, advice from a pickup artist.

In our society, it is customary to have a negative attitude towards men, “ladiesmen” and other womanizers. Probably out of envy or something else. But, pick-up artists are not there to seduce you for the sake of stupid sex, perhaps this is the case at the very beginning, but by going through many girls you meet the one with whom you spend the rest of your life. I have many friends who are former pick-up artists and their relationships are very good, they have families and children.

Unlike men who don’t meet many girls, they are shy and feel insecure. They are precisely the ones who suffer because the girl does not accept their love.

Here the advice will be very simple, the more you communicate with girls, the more confident you become and the more self-confidence, the more girls want to communicate with you as a man. And there will be no self-pity about being abandoned or not being loved and other negativity. Everything will be fine.

In short, everything is simple, meet more girls on the street, and if you are shy, then sign up for pickup training.

Keep busy2

And they are so busy that they have no energy left for anything. And even more so for a melancholic mood with sad melodies. Have you long dreamed of mastering a new profession? Great! Now is the time. Or maybe a new gym has opened near your home? Well, a great reason to get your body in order. Have you ever gotten around to renovating your apartment? Guess what you will do next. It doesn’t matter at all what you do - it will still only benefit you. In addition, it has long been proven that during physical work a huge amount of endorphins is released. And they can significantly reduce your heartache from breaking up.

Vdovin Ivan

• More than 15 years in psychology
• Owner of 2 successful businesses
• Developed his own method “Key Therapy”
• Certified NLP Practitioner
• Certified Hypnotherapist
• In practice I use: Gestalt therapy, imagery therapy, body therapy, art therapy, hypnosis, Hellinger constellations
• Helped over 100 clients
• I invested more than 500,000 rubles in my education
• My blog is visited by more than 1500 people per day

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How to break up with your partner in an environmentally friendly way

An ecological separation is an ideal scenario, but the most unlikely, because each person has his own life experience, his own psychological trauma. If we still assume that both partners want to separate consciously, then you can meet in a cafe and say: “I see that our relationship has reached a dead end.” Or: “You played a big role in my destiny, and thanks to you, a lot of good things came into my life. But there are also moments that upset me, so we should take a time out or break up.” Here everyone chooses for themselves.

How to Prepare for a Breakup: 10 Eco-Friendly Steps You Should Take

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But this is more likely to be found in Hollywood films - more often the parting occurs much more emotionally. And here it is important at the time of a quarrel to try to look at the situation from the outside. When you look at yourself from the position of a moderator, you understand that in fact, breaking up on emotions looks very unsightly, and you need to stop in time.

Stop loving a woman through the body

You might think that I would advise you to fuck everything that moves. It won't work. Sex is not a back-and-forth movement, but an emotional frenzy. Now your sensual part is clogged with your former passion. Towards new ladies you will be as cold as a corpse. The body will not give you the necessary hormones, or maybe the main caliber will not come into combat position at all. Lack of response to women will drop your self-esteem below the basement and you will rush to sob into your ex’s skirt. Drive away bad advisers - don’t run after new asses, they don’t heal.

Crying over your ex isn't that bad. You can smear the tears of love suffering on your cheeks - that means your hands are still able to move. Use movement as a source of emotion: start training. Run to the gym and work out until you get tired. Fatigue is your friend, it releases endorphins - internal painkillers that help you fall asleep.

Aching biceps is better than a broken heart

When my girlfriend left me, I moved my workouts to the time before bed, because I couldn’t fall asleep otherwise. Then I started eating - my overloaded body required nutrition. A little later, anger at the pitiful self gave rise to the first joy - sports results. Aching muscles also helped. A person can experience a limited amount of pain: the body gets tired and no longer allows the brain to suffer.

Do you need to throw away all the things, photos, return gifts that remind you of him?

If these moments annoy you, you can return your remaining items, gifts, and souvenirs to your ex-partner. The main thing is not to meditate on photo frames or some trinkets that this person gave and place them around your home. The main task is to remove triggers, those moments that cause an emotional reaction in us.

We cannot completely erase our ex from our past. But remembering him once again thanks to the things that remain is also not good for emotional health.

Find for yourself and identify those moments where you were manipulated

1. These may be those moments in your relationship when you were given either positive or negative emotions.
2. Thus, you get hooked on the person for the sake of repeating high positive emotions again.
3. Or your partner was attractive and beautiful only in very rare and exceptional moments. But these moments are so epic and unique to anyone else that you are ready to do almost anything for him in order to see a person again at the peak of his happiness, to see his attractiveness and charm.
4. The more unexpected and episodic those moments occurred, the stronger your dependence and submission to him is consolidated.
5. In this way, your behavior becomes more entrenched, where you submit to another. There is such a hidden, maybe even unconscious manipulation of you.

Find and write these points on paper as well.

This will help remove worries about how to stop loving someone if you see him every day and who may have used these chips on you before.

Thus, you will find more reasons why you felt bad with your partner and why you should not continue to be together.

There will be an even greater incentive to break the unhealthy attachment.