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- How to win a man over: general tips
- Professional Responsibilities
- How to seduce an older colleague
- How to seduce a younger colleague
- Prospects for office romances
We spend at least 40 hours a week at work, during which time we communicate closely with our colleagues. In a close-knit team, strong friendships often develop, and sometimes a romantic spark runs between employees.
Nowadays there is nothing shameful in showing female initiative It is quite possible to achieve this if you use cunning and charm.
All the secrets and basic rules of seducing a male colleague
Often, romances that develop into strong family unions begin in the workplace. We devote a lot of time to our careers, but from this we continue to be women who want to love and be loved. And even those who are not in the mood for marriage would not mind having an affair that will be filled with passion, attraction, seduction, energy and sexual magnetism. There is only one “but”. Men do not understand nonverbal communications well, so a reasonable question arises - how to seduce a male colleague in order to maintain your own reputation and avoid gossip at work.
Get your brain going, let's get started
Let's think about how you can arrange sex with your boss. The first thing that comes to mind, and probably came to you too, is a corporate party. A corporate party is an excellent event, the purpose of which, as far as I know, is the company’s goal - to unite the staff and plus celebrate some kind of holiday. But for people, as a rule, this ends in drinking and debauchery.
So the easiest way is just at a corporate party: get close to the boss and act according to the usual seduction scheme, or through a quick seduction scheme (attraction, rapport, seduction in one meeting), or according to the club seduction method, but club seduction I don’t teach, so I won’t tell you this option.
Basic rules for seducing a male colleague
So, an interesting male colleague has appeared in the team, whom you would like to get to know better? Why not combine a pleasant business with a useful one! How to unobtrusively seduce him in order to be understood...
Basic rules for seducing a male colleague:
- Seduce with your eyes. The look should be accompanied by a smile. Ladies know how to use this weapon - avert their eyes, lower their eyelashes, linger on the object of their sympathy.
- Radiate happiness. There is an opinion that coldness or inaccessibility adds sophistication and sexuality to a woman. In practice, only positive emotions disarm men. Be friendly, love life, smile - such energy attracts men instinctively.
- Seduce with words. Don't fall apart in odes to him. Emphasize his real strengths or skills with an appropriate compliment. Men love with their ears just as much as the fair sex. Praise him, approve, admire your colleague!
- Skin contact. This is where all the power of seduction lies. This should happen spontaneously, easily, unobtrusively. Watch the reaction of your male colleague, accompany the touch with play with your eyes, embarrassment, and holding your breath. Such signals will allow a woman to attract attention, and then you will build on his response.
- Show interest. Ask how the weekend went, what the man’s hobbies are, and his vacation plans. This way you will kill two birds with one stone - track his reaction to himself (he speaks willingly, does not get irritated, answers with monosyllabic answers), and also understand whether your colleague is suitable for you as a partner for spending time outside of work.
- Mystery! Despite the above advice, your task is to maintain a certain distance, to be mysterious. Seduce with a smile, warm with words, but carry yourself with dignity. If you miss this stage and don’t let a man feel like a “hunter” even for a moment, then everything you did before is in vain! Give only the green light, and then turn into prey and hand over the reins to a male colleague. Such is male psychology!
- Keep your mouth shut! Don't tell other colleagues about your plans. If your intentions spread throughout the team, you will not achieve your goal, and you certainly risk being the object of gossip for the next week! And you’ll scare a man away or push him away in no time!
As you know, men do not like intrusive, close attention to their person. They begin to get tired of this, get irritated and avoid even the slightest contact with an intrusive colleague. Therefore, you need to understand: you are playing, but the goal is not the final result/winning/prize, but to involve a male colleague in this game, and then begin to give in.
Remember, if you are a new employee in a team, wait for the seduction lessons. Study your colleagues, wait and observe, otherwise you risk being branded as a loving person, and such a cliché is then difficult to get rid of.
Plan to take over the world
So, there may be several options for how your communication with your boss is structured. If this is a large company and you do not communicate directly with your boss or this communication only takes a couple of minutes a month, then this is perhaps the most difficult option.
There is a simpler option - if the company is small or you are directly subordinate to your boss, and all her instructions come directly from her to you. This is perhaps the simplest option, although both the first and second cases have their advantages and disadvantages.
Tips for modest representatives of the fair sex
Not all women are ready to take the initiative into their own hands, so these girls have their own secrets with which they can seduce a male colleague.
Lessons in seducing a man for modest ladies:
- Internet! Becoming friends with a colleague on social networks does not bode well; it is just friendly communication. And there you can already wander around - mark or comment on the photo you like, explore its vacation spots, view your preferred styles of music.
- Find yourself in the same work stream (joint preparation of a project, development of a plan, business trip). Don't miss the opportunity to spend more time with your colleague.
- Find yourself “accidentally” where a male colleague spends his off-duty hours. What's wrong with that? You signed up for the gym because it is very popular, you prefer this cafe because they serve delicious julienne...
- Improve yourself. The growing personality attracts with its charisma and versatility. Men love successful people, and you will only have advantages from this.
- Gradually intrigue with your appearance. It will be great if you find out what kind of ladies he likes. This doesn't mean you have to put on hair extensions or wear a tight black skirt. Men are sometimes like children; they can live by prejudices or stereotypes. Some people categorically dislike blondes, hoodie dresses, red lipstick, and sharp nails. Well, make a small adjustment to your wardrobe or appearance. Pamper yourself with a change!
If after all your timid but consistent attempts at seduction you do not see any possible development, value your time. Think about whether you need a man who is unable to see and feel your subtle mental organization. Don't become a hostage to feelings or a secret admirer of an unapproachable colleague.
A corporate party brings colleagues together well. Just don’t try to extinguish your shyness with a large dose of alcohol - it can make you do/say things that are unusual for you, which will make you feel ashamed to go to work later!
I liked a work friend: is there a romance to be had?
Before outlining a behavioral strategy and making plans to win the heart of a male colleague, psychologists advise looking at the situation as soberly as possible and deciding whether you need this romance. Sometimes it is obvious that a romantic relationship with the object of your attention is impossible or cannot have a serious continuation. For example, you know that he is a womanizer and changes women like gloves. In this case, you will ruin your reputation just so that he can hang another trophy on the wall. Or you know that your chosen one is an exemplary family man and lives with his wife in perfect harmony. Is it worth trying to destroy a family and make your lover unhappy? Keep in mind that others are unlikely to approve of your behavior, and even if you manage to build happiness on the ruins of someone else's marriage, it will still be bitter.
Tips for assertive and determined girls
Are you not afraid to take the first steps, so are you ready to seduce your favorite male colleague in the near future? Great! Emancipated women have long ceased to cause surprise or condemnation.
So, the secrets of seducing a male colleague for purposeful, active ladies:
- Invite him to an event that will allow you to chat in an informal setting. Just choose a place that will not strongly hint at sympathy on your part.
- When communicating, do not be too straightforward - security questions or phrases can cause awkwardness, and then you will reproach yourself. Let the hints be ambiguous, and the dialogue be filled with lightness.
- If a colleague agrees to continue the evening, and you don’t mind, don’t go to his house, rather invite him to your place or drink coffee on a bench near the fountain. Keep your face - he must pursue you.
- No publicity. Ask a man about this - let this communication be secret for now. Everything should go as usual, and let employees know about your meetings later.
Strong women often make mistakes in their behavior with potential partners. Don’t go too far when trying to seduce, use your inner strength as a weapon: no vulgar jokes, “thick” hints, pressure or neglect. Remain fragile, mysterious and wise, let the man go crazy from your many advantages!
How to seduce a guy
There are situations when a guy and a girl have been dating for some time, but things are still not moving towards complete rapprochement.
Perhaps the young man is timid or inexperienced, so it is advisable to push him a little. In this case, you need to use the following simple tricks to seduce any man:
- Apply perfume with musk to your hair and loosen it. The aroma promotes arousal.
- In the fitting room, stay in heels and underwear and ask if the outfit suits you.
- When watching TV together, lie on his lap and arch your back so that his attention moves from the screen to his chest.
- Invite him to visit and tell him that you will return to the room wearing only stockings.
If a male colleague is younger in age
Is there a chance to seduce a younger colleague? Undoubtedly!
To seduce a younger man at work, you must:
- correspond to his age (take care of himself, wear fashionable clothes, do stylish hairstyles);
- be cheerful, easy-going;
- share his interests with a colleague;
- keep up with the times, know about new products and trends.
And, of course, flirt, smile, play! Does age play a key role for a woman in her desires and feelings?
Shall we have some coffee?
This is the immediate next stage - an agreement on such a meeting. How to negotiate? You can go up to the boss and after another conversation “for life”, simply suggest: “Marya Petrovna, I will have a free hour after work, how would you like to sit and drink some coffee?”, at first we unobtrusively offer.
Again, it’s not a fact that it will work out the first time, that’s not scary. If it works the first time, great, this is an indicator that there is a strong interest in you as a man. If you don’t succeed the first time, it’s okay, but you shouldn’t stop trying.
What is unusual about seducing your boss is that you already have a certain format of relationship. And it would be good for you not to ruin this format of relationship in order to continue to work in this company, if you like it, and plus leave yourself the opportunity in the future to, again, set up a meeting that will develop into sex with your boss.
Let's move on. Confident. Persistently. Leisurely
If you see that everything is going well, you can try to climb further. But I wouldn’t recommend it, but rather ask you to be a little more careful. Still, this is not some girl from the street, with whom, if suddenly it doesn’t work out, you can find a new one the next day, but this is the boss, and I have a suspicion that you don’t have many of those. Although I have a friend who worked six jobs, so he could experiment :).
Therefore, you spend the first meeting short, an hour and a half, no more is needed. Even if you want more, interrupt on purpose. Plan sometime for your alarm to ring or for a friend to call on important business so that this meeting does not last more than an hour and a half, ideally an hour.
After this, a week passes, you can exchange text messages, call back, but let these be short conversations, because in them you can ruin everything. And most importantly, there is no need to move on to sexual topics of communication just yet.
You need to prepare for sex in advance
I recommend choosing a place that will be close to your home; after all, driving an hour and a half to the place of sex from the date is not the coolest event, during which time the girl has time to cool down, no matter what she is, a boss or not. So look for places near you.
But the difference from the standard seduction scheme is that, again, you have to act carefully. And, if you see that the boss is still reluctant to talk about sexual topics (on the third date you already need to bring up sexual topics), then it is quite possible that another date will be required.
However, this is not a fact. See how she reacts to your touch, I hope you already know how to touch correctly, and if the reaction is positive, you can simply ask her lightly: “How about we continue our communication in another place?” .
If she asks which other one, you will answer that it is no less pleasant. And after that you move home with her.