How to hear yourself? Know yourself, your inner world

• February 21, 2019
• Psychology of Personality
• Ksenga

Many people complain that they are unhappy. Some may think that these are whiners who complain solely because they love to do it. But in fact, the problem with modern people is that they do not know how to understand what they want. How to hear yourself, read below.

Diary

Are you communicating with yourself? If not yet, then it's time to start. Keep a diary. It's good if you have someone to share the news and interesting facts you learned during the day. But it’s still better to talk not only with loved ones, but also with yourself. Take 10 minutes of your evening to fill out the pages of a paper notebook or type half a page of text on the computer.

Are you trying to figure out how to start hearing yourself and why we need it? A diary will help you answer these questions. People often don't know what they want and where they are going. Every day, summing up the results of the day and understanding what you have achieved in a week, you will be able to understand where you are moving and whether the vector of development suits you. If something goes wrong, you can always change the trajectory of your movement. Listen to yourself and write frankly. The diary is your thoughts. Don't let anyone read your notes. This will help you share your desires with yourself and talk about any concerns. You can use such information and your thoughts to improve the quality of your life.

Second stage - Assessment

To accept as is means to allow something (or someone) to be as it is, without trying to evaluate, compare, avoid, confront it, resist, suppress it, ignore it, deny it, devalue it, change it in any way, or hold it back. . © Sinelnikov V.V.

There is an excellent technique that will help you figure out what exactly you do not accept in yourself and people and what you can do about it. It is necessary to answer the following questions:

1. What or who do I evaluate often?
2. What or who do I often compare?
3. What or who do I often avoid?
4. What or who do I often confront or resist?
5. What or who do I often suppress?
6. What or who do I often ignore?
7. What or who do I often deny?
8. What or who do I often devalue?
9. What or who do I often try to change?
10. What or who do I often try to keep?

Now analyze why you are doing this and how you can change your attitude.

If you realize that you cannot accept some aspect of yourself or another person, then accept the fact that you are not able to cope with it right now. Note for yourself one of the character traits that annoys you in another person and look at it from three sides:

1. I'm with myself.
2. I'm with others.
3. Others are with me.

For example, you think that a person is lying to you and condemn him. This means that you often lie to yourself and others, and they, in turn, also consider you a liar. You need to accept the fact that all people lie, not because they are bad, but because they are afraid of something.

Esotericism and self-knowledge imply that a person is in the present moment.

Morning Pages

Do you trust your feelings? Not all people have time to understand their soul and understand what it really needs. Try to stop constantly running. How to do it? Start writing your morning pages. Get up 30 minutes earlier than you are used to and sit down at the table. After that, you need to write three pages of text. What will it be? Pour out on paper all the thoughts that haunt you. Don't judge your thoughts, just write them down. Think of this activity as your morning meditation. Through daily writing, you can experience a state of inner peace. Why? All your complaints, regrets and all the negativity that lives in your soul will be poured onto paper. By clearing yourself of all this, you will leave the table with a clean and clear head.

Why does this practice work? A person who writes something down on paper automatically throws out of his head the information that his hand wrote. The brain understands that information is now stored on paper, and it is not scary to replace it with something else. Remember, practice will only work if it is done daily. You need to write pages immediately after waking up. Get a notebook and fill out three pages every morning. You can write more, but you cannot write less.

Meditation

Do you practice yoga? If yes, then good, if not, then at least start with meditation. Why is it needed? Through breathing practice you can cleanse your soul and mind. Exercises to clear your mind help you understand how to correctly and quickly abstract yourself from the thoughts that swarm through your head. Meditation helps create a vacuum in the mind. After such practices, your thoughts will become clearer and your thought processes will work better. You will learn to look at the world more carefully, observe those around you and contemplate what is happening with calm and peace.

“I-concept”: characteristics, features, meaning

The term “Self-concept”, which can be heard today from psychologists of various directions, sociologists and other specialists in the field of the personal sphere of a person, is interpreted as a system of ideas of an individual about himself. These ideas can be perceived by a person to varying degrees and be relatively stable. This concept is the result of a person’s self-knowledge and self-evaluation through individual images within various real and imagined situations, as well as through the opinions of others and a person’s correlation of himself with them. Taking into account the relevance of this topic, we want to talk about the “I-concept”. Read more…

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Learn to understand true desires

It is very difficult to hear the voice of your own soul. But you need to consciously learn to do this. For what? In order not to get into an absurd situation when, by the age of 40, you realize that you are living a good life, but, unfortunately, not your own. Many people only understand over the years what they want, but it’s too late to change anything. As a result, they live with constant dissatisfaction with their existence. Why is this happening? Because today advertising greatly influences people and their perception of the world. Young people are chasing brands without completely understanding why they need them. The older generation wants to live in their own apartment, and teenagers dream of a car. All these material values ​​are placed on the altar, and one’s own desires have no meaning. People think about getting what their neighbor has, not about getting what they want themselves. Modern man has a herd instinct; he does not want to be the worst. Get rid of desires imposed by advertising and learn to understand your true goals.

Self-knowledge

How to know yourself? Not by contemplation, only by actions. Try to do your duty, and you will immediately know yourself.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Self-knowledge is a person’s desire to know himself - his mental and physical characteristics, his abilities and, in general, all the subtleties of his personality. Thanks to self-knowledge, a person can learn a lot of new and interesting things about himself that he did not know or understand before, and even a lot of things that no one has ever learned about himself. Also, thanks to self-knowledge, a person is able to significantly comprehend himself and find his place in life. Sometimes we don’t even know who we can be in life, where, so to speak, our place in this world and what we should do to fully realize ourselves. Self-knowledge will help answer these and many other questions. It will help every person gain faith in himself and his capabilities, and give him the strength to realize all his desires. In this article, I will tell you how self-knowledge can help you improve yourself and your life and how exactly a person can know himself.

Why get to know yourself

And yet, despite all the apparent usefulness of self-knowledge, the question of why to know oneself, I am sure, arises in the minds of many people, even those who are already actively engaged in self-knowledge. Still, self-knowledge, soul-searching, self-study, introspection is not an easy job. You need to devote a lot of time to delving into yourself in order to study the characteristics of your personality, and many people already lack it. And you need to think a lot about yourself, your actions, your thoughts, your behavior, which in itself is not easy. It’s very difficult to think in general, and even more so about yourself. Indeed, often when thinking about yourself, you need to have the courage to face the truth in order to see yourself as you are, and not as you want to see yourself. This is the courage many people lack. So self-knowledge is not an easy job. Therefore, this question arises - why should this be done? Not just to appear smarter and superior to others.

There are actually many reasons, friends, and they all contribute to a person’s desire to know himself. But I think that the main reason is that at one point a person begins to dislike his inability to manage himself and his life the way he would like. That is, he can do it poorly, or at least not very well. And at the moment when he begins to more or less clearly understand that he manages his life poorly and does not control himself well enough, as a result of which much in his life does not go well, he has a desire to understand himself in order to finally restore his and order in your life. In other words, dissatisfaction with yourself and your life is an excellent reason for self-knowledge. Still, when everything is good in your life and you are happy with everything, especially with yourself, then there is no point in studying yourself. But there is no point, there is no desire. A person enjoys life without thinking at all about how he can change it, because it completely suits him. But in order to change his life, a person must first change himself. However, you can also do the opposite - first change your life, and then change yourself. But it’s still better to start with yourself - it’s much better.

There are also people who are puzzled by the question of the meaning of life and in search of an answer to it they go, as they say, deep into themselves, because where else, if not within themselves, can they look for answers to such important and eternal questions. That is, sometimes it is not dissatisfaction, but curiosity and the desire to develop that becomes the impetus for a person to self-knowledge. True, this is rare, much less common than the need for self-knowledge as a result of a person’s dissatisfaction with his life, but it does occur. I believe that one does not interfere with the other, since any order in a person’s life implies a clear understanding of what he lives for and what makes him want to live better. After all, the more a person knows about himself and about people in general, the better he understands both his own capabilities and the capabilities of a person in general, and this in turn opens up a wider space of possibilities for him. I think you will agree with me that we humans still do not know much about ourselves. Moreover, we don’t know what exactly we don’t know about ourselves, that is, we don’t understand what exactly we want to find inside ourselves. And it's fascinating. This forces us to study ourselves as actively as, say, we study space, because there are no less secrets hidden within us than in space. And who knows what we can learn about ourselves and how, based on this knowledge, we can develop ourselves in order to gain new abilities and opportunities with the help of which we will be able to qualitatively change our lives.

So what do we know about ourselves and what do we need to learn about ourselves? Still, self-knowledge must start from something and have some purpose. We know a lot about ourselves and we don’t know even more, and accordingly, self-knowledge has the goal not of finding something specific within ourselves, but in general of finding something and understanding it. Looking at other people, we can see what a person can be like, but another question is interesting - is there anything similar in us that we see in other people? That is, if you look at a person who has the qualities that you would like to have, then can you develop a similar, I don’t say completely identical, but a similar personality that would completely satisfy you? I believe that yes - everything that you observe in other people, both good and bad, is inside each of us. Another thing is how developed a state this or that personality, certain qualities live in us, or better to say, what inclinations we have for the formation of this or that personality. This still needs to be sorted out. Some of us in a more developed state have some advantages and disadvantages, others have others, and depending on our desire, we can develop in ourselves exactly those of them that we need. Of course, we can find in ourselves something that no one has ever found in ourselves, and which is a kind of great reward for the seeker, but still, finding something in ourselves that attracts you in other people is a great temptation. Therefore, keep in mind, dear friends, within yourself you can find any personality you know, and then grow it in yourself. I repeat once again - you don’t have to be like someone, a person shouldn’t strive for this, he needs to develop his own self. But other people, worthy people, may well become a guideline for him, so that in terms of developing his personal qualities he doesn’t need reinvent the wheel.

It is very useful to engage in self-knowledge to solve various problems. And there are always enough of them in our lives. But many people are not only unprepared for them, but they don’t even see how they can, in principle, solve certain problems. Very often, when my clients and I solve some problems with which they came to me, I draw their attention to the personal qualities that they possess and, accordingly, the opportunities that, thanks to these qualities, they have, with the help of which these people can solve your problems. But for various reasons, they themselves do not notice these qualities in themselves and therefore do not see the opportunities available to them. But what does it mean not to know about one or another of your personal qualities and not to see the opportunities available thanks to them - it means not to use these opportunities to solve your problems and, at the same time, tasks. It's like hunting with a loaded gun, but not knowing how to shoot it. You see, many people can do much more than they think. And the problems that most people face in everyday life are not so serious for them that they should worry about them, much less give up their ambitions because of them. But people perceive certain situations that are harmless to them as problems, because they simply do not know how to solve them themselves or how to avoid them.

I believe that people’s lack of knowledge and understanding of themselves, at least within the most acceptable limits for them, is one of the main problems for most people. And this problem must be solved among the first. I don’t know myself very well either, but I’m working on it – I’m trying to know myself as best as possible. And I must tell you, friends, that this is very interesting and terribly useful. This is beneficial not only in the sense that we get the opportunity to become better people by developing certain qualities in ourselves, first discovering them in ourselves and then finding ways to develop them, but also in terms of our self-esteem. After all, you know, in our lives sometimes we meet people who tell us that we cannot do something there and that something is not given to us there. Have you encountered this? I came across it. Some people told me that I couldn't do this or that, and at first I believed them. And believing, I tried not to get involved in what was not mine. But you know, my pride did not allow me to come to terms with the idea that I couldn’t do something and that something wasn’t given to me. I couldn't live with such a thought. And I started working in this direction, I worked mainly on what was important to me, what I wanted to succeed in. And subsequently it turned out that everything was given to me, that I can do everything, I just need to develop the necessary qualities in myself, and not rely on a natural gift or the absence of it. So self-knowledge allows us to refute other people’s negative opinions about us. And this refutation is important, first of all, for ourselves, it helps us believe in ourselves.

There is another meaning in engaging in self-knowledge - in this way you can get to know not only yourself, but also other people. And this, in turn, will help you better understand them and establish relationships with them in a way that suits you. After all, everything that is in ourselves is also in other people, and what is in other people is also in us. Sometimes, in order to understand another person, for example, your child in adolescence, all that is required from a person, his parent, is to remember himself at his age. After all, that same teenager lives inside you, who has his own problems and experiences, his own desires and dreams, his own opinion on certain issues - so you can bring all this up in yourself to find with your child, with your son or daughter, mutual language. A teenager does not yet have a mature personality, he does not have an adult whom you may want to see in him, but you do have his personality. So who should make concessions to whom, who should try to understand whom for this? In this way, friends, we can all become more friendly and responsive, and we will have more opportunities to agree with each other. By knowing ourselves, we can know others. And having gotten to know others, we can find an approach to them, we can find a common language with them.

How to know yourself

Well, now let's talk about how to know yourself. The first thing that comes to mind is observation, or, if you like, introspection. In order to know yourself, you need to observe yourself. But this is not as easy to do as it seems at first glance. The fact is that we are prone to distorting information about ourselves. That is, we humans often deceive ourselves when we think about ourselves, about our qualities, our strengths and weaknesses, our desires and capabilities. In most cases, we want to appear better in our own eyes than we really are. Therefore, sometimes you need to observe yourself not with your own, but with someone else’s eyes, and think about yourself not with your own, but with someone else’s mind. Do you know what I mean? – I’m talking about someone else’s opinion about us, about you. It greatly helps self-observation for the purpose of self-knowledge. Of course, someone else’s opinion is also not always adequate, but it often sobers and balances our own opinion about ourselves. True, some people think well and even too well about themselves, and others think badly, so other people’s opinions should belong to literate people, and not to just anyone. Otherwise, some people will simply belittle you even more, while others will unreasonably elevate you, and this will not help you to know yourself, but it will help to greatly distort your self-esteem. So someone else's eyes and someone else's mind - you still need to choose the right one. Ask what people you consider smart to think about you.

Also pay attention to your value system, your lifestyle, your desires and dreams - they will help you understand what kind of person you are at the moment. I think you can easily learn about which people are interested in what from smart books and articles, and then see how close you are to certain people. Roughly speaking, if a person leads an extremely irresponsible lifestyle, thereby proving that he is poorly versed in it, if his value system is based on the satisfaction of primitive basic needs and is limited to this, if he dreams of all sorts of insignificant nonsense that he wants to acquire, and not about, say, self-expression, self-realization, achieving some high goals in life related to lofty needs, then he definitely has room to grow. And he definitely shouldn’t think that he knows everything about life and that he doesn’t need anything else from it, and most importantly, that he doesn’t need anything from himself. This is, in fact, a rather serious problem for a person - not to know that he does not know something. In some cases, only thanks to outside help can a person go beyond his ideas about life in order to learn more about it and about himself.

The next point, which is a continuation of the previous one, is the human sciences, with their help you can understand what exactly you have already found or can find in yourself. Well, I can tell you with all responsibility that psychology can very well help a person to know himself. She will explain to him why he has certain qualities, why he has certain traits, why he has certain desires. For example, a person, during self-knowledge, discovered that he was afraid of something, but did not know what exactly and why. Let's say he notices that he is afraid only in certain situations, but he cannot understand what these situations mean, why exactly they frighten him, bother him. But having begun to study the same psychology, he can learn about various kinds of phobias and why they arise, and then draw a conclusion where this or that fear came from in him. Moreover, he learns that fear is also inherent in many other people, which will help him, for example, stop thinking of himself as a coward, if of course he thinks so. Or a person wants to find out what he is capable of - whether he can, for example, achieve success in some business, or whether it is too tough for him. From the relevant literature, he can learn about what qualities a person needs to successfully solve certain problems, to achieve certain goals, and how these capabilities can be developed in oneself. In other words, self-knowledge without knowledge is almost impossible. For not everything that we observe, both in ourselves and in other people, we are able to explain without special knowledge.

The next point, also very important from my point of view in self-knowledge, has to do with such two human qualities as imagination and will. I have written more than once about the fact that a person can, as they say, invent himself in order to become what he wants to be. The main thing is to be passionate about making yourself the person you want, then there will be ways to do it. But first, you need to draw up a plan for your development, thinking carefully about who exactly you want to be, what personal qualities of yours will help you become such a person, and where you should start your development. That is, you see, self-knowledge in this case turns into self-creation, a person creates himself - he does not look for certain qualities in himself, he first invents them and then develops them. Would you say this is impossible? And here it is possible. And many people did exactly this in their lives when they wanted to become someone. Above, I gave you an example of myself when I said that some people convinced me that I couldn’t do something and that something wasn’t given to me, and then it turned out that I could do everything and everything was given to me. How can we even know what is given to us and what is not, if we tried to achieve something? All this is complete nonsense - we ourselves decide what is given to us and what is not.

Many people got to know themselves not through searching for something or someone within themselves, but through self-development, self-improvement, through the pursuit of their goals. These are completely different things. In one case, we rely on the concept that someone else created us for certain purposes, and we look for something in ourselves that will point us to these purposes, and in another case, we believe that no matter what we are from birth, we ourselves decide who we will become and what goals we will try to achieve. That is, in the latter case, responsibility for what we are and what we can falls entirely on us. And I believe that this is the best way of self-knowledge. Let our actions show us and others what we are now and what we can become, not our examination of ourselves. For one way or another, a person becomes what he becomes under the influence of external factors and thanks to his own work on himself. And what nature gives us from birth is an insignificant part of our personality. Well, this, of course, is my personal opinion, partly confirmed by science, partly refuted by science.

In any case, friends, you need to engage in self-knowledge using any methods available to you. This, as I already said, is both interesting and useful. This activity makes sense. Self-knowledge in itself is one of the meanings of life. Or we can even say that self-knowledge complements a person’s life, filling it with greater meaning. Socrates said: know yourself and you will know the whole world. I don’t know to what extent this is really true, but I am absolutely convinced that by knowing ourselves, we will learn a lot, a lot. I have not described all the methods of self-knowledge in this article, so in the future we will definitely return to this topic in order to reveal it even better. But the main thing I want to achieve is to awaken your interest in self-knowledge, and thus encourage you to this worthy activity.

Writing Life Goals

Do you want to understand how to learn to hear yourself? Write a life plan. What do you want and what are you striving for? Imagine yourself as a ship that is sailing to the shores of happiness. If there is no lighthouse on your island, then you will wash up on the shore, but it is not a fact that you will like this shore. Swimming without a map is very difficult. So make it up. The more detailed your life plan is, the easier it will be to implement it. If you don't know what you want, then start with a simple exercise. Draw a circle and divide it into 6 parts. Label each part: health, career, family, friends, sports and creativity. Think about which areas of life you are currently paying attention to and which ones you are avoiding. Describe in detail each area of ​​your life and indicate what you would like to achieve in it in 5/10/20 years. Separate lists should be written of desires to buy something, go somewhere, see something and read something. The main thing is to remember that goals and desires should be your true ones, and not imposed by advertising.

Third stage - Here and now

He will teach you to be “here and now.” This is how Osho described in his book “Mindfulness” about the practice of being “here and now”:

The only thing you need to learn is observation. Watch! Watch every action you take. Observe every thought that passes through your mind. Observe every desire that comes over you. Observe even minor gestures - how you walk, talk, eat, take a bath. Continue to observe, in everything, everywhere. Let everything become an opportunity to observe.

Don't eat mechanically, don't just go on stuffing yourself with food - be very observant. Chew carefully and observantly... and you will be surprised at how much you have missed until now, because each bite will bring great satisfaction. If you eat mindfully, the food will taste better. Even ordinary food becomes the most delicious if you are observant; and if you are not observant, you can eat the most delicious food, but there will be no taste in it, because there is no one to observe. You just keep stuffing yourself with food. Eat slowly, observantly; Each piece must be chewed and felt. Inhale the smell, feel the touch, feel the gust of wind and the sun's rays. Look at the moon, and become just a silent pool of observation, and the moon will be reflected in you in immeasurable beauty.

Move through life while remaining completely observant. Again and again you will forget. Don't become unhappy because of this; it `s naturally. There are millions of lives you have never tried to observe, and it is so simple and natural that you keep forgetting again and again. But the very moment you remember, observe again.

Remember one thing: when you remember that you forgot to observe, do not regret, do not repent; otherwise you will waste your time. Don't feel unhappy: "I missed out again." Don't start feeling, "I am a sinner." Don't start judging yourself, because this is a complete waste of time. Never repent of the past! Live in this moment. If you forgot, so what? It’s natural—it’s become a habit, and habits die hard. And this is not just a habit learned in one lifetime; these habits have been established over millions of lifetimes. So if you can remain observant even for a few moments, be grateful. Even these few moments are more than you can expect. He is watching. He is clear.

Remember your childhood

At a young age, people are not afraid to dream. But, growing up, a person forgets that he has desires. Adults do not forget about their responsibilities, but few people consider it necessary to take care of themselves and their inner child. If you want to know yourself, then you need to start with writing. Sit down at your desk and make a list of the activities that brought you pleasure as a child. You loved to draw, play music, write or sculpt. This means we need to continue to develop in this direction. Don't worry that it's too late. You don't need to retrain from an accountant to an artist. You need to understand your inner essence, and the easiest way to do this is through creativity. Don’t be afraid to create something new, and don’t put your first masterpieces on public display. Your task is to enjoy the process.

What is it to know yourself?

We easily evaluate other people, but at the same time we are completely unfamiliar with ourselves. But this is the most important thing for each of us. This is the only way to begin to fight your bad habits and negative qualities. In this case, the saying “You need to know the enemy by sight!” works perfectly.

But oddly enough, the question “How to know yourself?” sounds least often among people. That is, no one cares who he is, what his role is in this life, what qualities and habits his moral side consists of. What is noteworthy is that psychology experts are not so worried about the answer to the reason for the lack of search for the most important thing in life - oneself. After all, this is the key to the doors behind which lies the secret of not only our inner world, but also the surrounding one. It’s simple, when you ask yourself questions, you need to give answers, and completely honest and sincere ones.

But few of us are able to admit our negative sides, and even to ourselves, we are most often hypocrites. But we still need to start. Especially for those who strive to find complete harmony with the world and themselves. Get pleasure and enjoyment from life, get rid of complexes, negative habits and breathe deeply.

And if you, after reading the topic of the article, continue to study it, we wrote it not in vain. But before you start answering, we suggest that you familiarize yourself with the opinion of representatives of the Orthodox religion about why it is necessary for every person on the planet to know themselves.

Creative dates

How often do you meet with your loved ones? Every day, once every two or three days? When was the last time you spent time with yourself? For a long time? It's time to fix the situation. To know yourself, you need to be alone with yourself from time to time. It is advisable to do this every week. Take an hour on a weekday or weekend and ask yourself out on a date. Where have you wanted to go for a long time, but for some reason you couldn’t do it? Did you want to go to an exhibition, cinema or theater? Buy yourself a ticket and go. Do not take anyone to such an event. Go alone. You won't be bored alone with yourself. On the contrary, you will be able to better understand the essence of the event you wanted to attend. Observe your feelings. These types of dates will help you get to know yourself better. You will understand what events you like to attend, what restaurants you like to eat at, what routes you enjoy walking along. Remember that the main thing is regularity. Don't miss meetings with yourself. Let them take place on the same day and at the same time every week.

Home gatherings

Home is a fortress for every person. How many pleasant activities there are within the walls of your refuge! It is these pleasant events that will help you better penetrate into your inner world. In addition to having dates with yourself, you should make time for yourself during the week. Come up with an interesting and enjoyable activity that you can do without leaving your home. For example, you can watch your favorite movie or TV series, you can take a bath with foam and aromatic oils, or do yoga. Find time at least once a week to spend an evening doing activities that bring you pleasure. Such events help a person restore peace of mind, feel the taste of life and understand why a person came into this world.

Learn to stop the "delirium"

The inner world can only be seen with pure consciousness. If you chew the so-called mental cud throughout the day, then you will not be able to find peace of mind. You need to learn to stop the “mental delirium”. How can this be done? You can master meditation, and then with the help of simple breathing exercises in just a few seconds you will be able to get rid of the mess in your head. If you have not yet mastered meditation, then try another method of cleansing your consciousness. At the moment when you catch yourself thinking that you are not thinking about what you want, or are thinking about something unpleasant, reproduce a landscape that is pleasant for you before your eyes. It could be an autumn forest, a sea view, or a landscape with a green lawn. While admiring an imaginary picture, think only about it. After a few seconds, you will notice that your consciousness has cleared. Do this exercise as often as possible. Smart thoughts will not be able to come to a head that is busy washing the bones of colleagues or thinking about plans for dinner. Consciousness must be clear so that you can enjoy the unity of soul and body.

Find a hobby

What do you do in your spare time? Watch movies or spend time with friends? It is much more productive to spend your time doing what you love. How to hear yourself? You need to do what you love. Think about which of all the possible leisure activities tempts you more than others? This could be painting, rock climbing, dancing, programming, etc. Such activities can later become your source of income, but in order to realize yourself, you need to start by engaging in leisure activities solely for the soul. Do what you want. Don't be afraid to discover new talents in yourself. Be relaxed and perceive all changes positively. You need to be guided in your endeavors by focusing on your spiritual impulses. Do you like what you do? So, keep up the good work. Don't like your hobby? Then search for yourself until you find it. It will be possible to find yourself only when you find an area of ​​activity that is close to you and in which you want to develop.

What are the differences between self-acceptance and rejection?

Let's present the comparative analysis in the form of a table:

Trust your intuition

Do you believe yourself? A very small percentage of people trust themselves and their intuition. And why? For the reason that most people consider intuition to be something mystical. Are you wondering how to make yourself heard? Then you should understand that intuition is nothing more than your life experience. It is he who tells you how to act in a given situation, depending on whether you have had experience of such a reaction or not. To know yourself better and live in harmony with yourself, you need to hear what your sixth sense says. Always consider his opinion, and not the opinions of others. Of course, everything should be within the framework of common sense. But if you have a difficult choice, then it is better to listen to yourself and not to those around you, because your fate depends on your decision.

Psychological portrait of yourself

A psychological portrait of oneself (self-image) is a mental picture that is usually quite resistant to change. It depicts not only details potentially accessible to objective research (height, weight, hair color), but also those traits and qualities that a person ascribes to himself, based on personal experience or learned from others. Self-image in its most basic form is an internal picture. This is what and how you think about yourself, based on what you see in the mirror every day, how you communicate with other people, and what kind of productivity you have at work. A psychological self-image is an impression that forms a general idea of ​​your assets and liabilities. In other words, it is how you yourself assess your strengths and weaknesses. Read more…

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How to hear yourself? Sometimes, when a person is faced with some problem, he cannot understand what to do. If intuition is also silent, then making the right decision seems almost impossible. To solve this problem, you can ask one question: why? For example, you think you want to sign up for a swimming pool. The idea seems sound, but to check whether this desire is genuine or imposed by others, ask yourself why you need to go to the pool. If the answer is “I like to swim” - good, but if the answer is “For Why should I go with Alena for If I don’t go, she will be offended”, then there is no point in going swimming.