On what date can girls and guys kiss?

Svetlana Smyshlyak

philologist, writer, lyric poet

Holding hands, flirtatiously embarrassed glances, timid attempts to confess your feelings - all this is exciting, sweet, but... completely forgettable. The same cannot be said about such an event as the first kiss. Scientists have come to the conclusion that it sometimes takes root in memory better than the birth of a child or one’s own wedding. This enhances its meaning, but also adds nervousness. How and when to do everything right? The secrets of a successful debut are further in the sections.

What is important to know about a kiss

Tactless behavior can create the wrong impression about a person, and then the relationship will end prematurely. Let's look at all the secrets of kissing on any date.

Choosing the right moment

The first tender touch of the lips of lovers is very significant. When choosing a moment, consider the following:

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1. Ambient atmosphere. A crowded place where you will be in full view of everyone is not suitable for such a romantic event. If this happens during a slow dance at a disco or at a festive table, it will look ridiculous. But if you choose a romantic place: somewhere under the moon, with a beautiful view of the city, after a pleasant date, such a kiss will provoke further meetings. The memory of this intimate event will last a lifetime.
2. Time to get acquainted. Depending on what kind of date this is, how long people have known each other, the first contact is approaching. If you just met a girl and after 5 minutes you start kissing, then your chances of reciprocity are low. In most cases, the first kiss occurs on the second or third date, but each person has his own opinion on this matter.

Signs of how to understand that a girl is ready to kiss, as well as how to show this desire to a woman:

• look closely into your partner's eyes;
• open your mouth slightly, pout your lips;
• smile playfully, shoot your eyes.

If a person does not want to kiss, this can be seen by the following traits:

• does not shorten the distance, but moves away when a partner approaches;
• does not look into the eyes for a long time;
• gets embarrassed at hints of intimacy;
• avoids touching.

What should he be like?

Of course, it depends on the situation. If two adults in a passionate embrace are inclined to continue, then a hot French kiss will be very helpful. But most often such scenes are typical of Hollywood films; in people's lives, love fever is rarely captured.

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The first kiss has a special magic. From this moment on, people begin to get closer to each other and show their interest. When kissing, an exchange of emotions and energy occurs.

Its necessity should not be discussed. It should appear unexpectedly during a special romantic moment. The fusion of lips should be pleasant and sensual. You should not press too hard against each other, you need to lightly hug the woman around the waist, and she needs to put her hands on the man’s shoulders.

Then you should press your lips slightly, tilt your head slightly to the side, and keep your lips on your partner’s lips. If a man wants to take the initiative and touch his tongue to a girl’s lips, then he needs to see how ready she is to continue. If your partner begins to move her lips, then you can act. But this must be done gently and delicately. Don't pounce on it and get sucked in like a vacuum cleaner.

How to behave further

After a kiss, you can simply stay in each other’s arms, breathe in your partner’s hair, and whisper tender words in your ear. Next, look into the eyes. When the date is over, thank the girl for the meeting and agree on the next rendezvous.

If after the first contact of lips a person feels shame and embarrassment, then he needs to relax, stop being nervous and understand that this is a natural process. Even if it was unsuccessful, there is nothing wrong with that. Often the first kiss is not the best for a couple. It happens that it becomes funny, then you need to try to hold back your laughter and just smile. For girls, this event is more nervous, so they should definitely decide that they are ready to kiss this particular guy.

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How to deal with embarrassment

Although caresses surround us from birth, a person is accustomed to conveying his feelings with the touch of lips and hugs, the first long-awaited kiss causes fears. Most often, girls put it off as long as possible. It would seem that there is nothing complicated, just fold your lips into a bow, but it can be very difficult to get over yourself. Inexperience scares a person, and it’s not easy to overcome embarrassment.

First you need to work on two sides: psychological and physical. As for the psychological, you need to prepare yourself emotionally and repeat special affirmations.

To feel confident during your first kiss, you should also practice your movements.

If you kiss for the first time in your life

The first kiss is accompanied by great excitement, so you need to first tune in to it.

To do this, it is recommended to perform psychological training:

1. Be alone with yourself, sit comfortably, relax.
2. Imagine a date with your loved one.
3. Now think about touching it. Stroke your hair, kiss your cheek, gently moving your lips all over your face.
4. Imagine how he will answer you.
5. Press your lips together.

Classes should be continued daily until the process becomes familiar, confidence appears, and embarrassment disappears. While imagining this scene, be completely immersed in emotion. Mental manipulation can turn even the most modest girl into a brave one.

In order to learn how to control your lips and tongue, you need to use an additional object. The most popular would be tomato. This is where you should practice first contact. You should start with gentle touches with your lips and light movements of your tongue, imagining your partner’s lips. Then you need to cut out the middle of the tomato and try to move it with your tongue.

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Step-by-step instructions on how to kiss deeply and beautifully

Despite the short time of acquaintance, partners kiss passionately for the first time.

This indicates the determination of one of the chosen ones and the response of the second opponent. Instructions with step-by-step steps will help you learn how to do this cool.

Note! A classic French kiss always begins with foreplay: there is no need to rush things - it is better to smoothly approach the most important climax.

A video tutorial and step-by-step description will help you master a simple French kiss and subsequently apply your knowledge in practice even at the age of 13:

Everyone has their own opinion

Opinions about the appropriate time to kiss a man or woman for the first time differ depending on the person's gender and social norms.

Attitude of men

Men are more relaxed about kissing; they don’t care what kind of date they’re on; not everyone is ready to wait for a second meeting. If a guy likes a girl, he immediately takes action. But it is worth considering that men like ladies who do not allow themselves to be kissed on the first date. Of course, a kiss can enhance the impressions of time together. A man needs to remember that the first contact should be gentle and careful, even if emotions are raging inside him. For such an event it is important to choose the right moment and place.

What girls think

Women take romantic events more seriously and attach great importance to the first touch of their lips to their partner. For them, this is a manifestation of sympathy and further interest in their partner. At a young age, girls make contact more easily and strive to kiss for the first time as quickly as possible in order to look more mature and cooler in the eyes of others.

To impress a man, you need several meetings to test his feelings and intentions. There is even a “five date rule.” This approach clearly limits early kisses on the lips. This eliminates applicants who are only after achievements and do not perceive the girl as an individual.

Public opinion

Previously, a decent woman did not even think about when it would be possible to allow even a slight touch of lips. It was believed that only an indecent person could afford such a manifestation of her sympathy. In the Middle Ages, an Italian man who kissed a woman was expected to marry her. In Rus', kissing received sexual overtones after the adoption of Christianity. In Russia, they have become widespread, for example, the president can kiss a person on the cheek when meeting with the people. In America this is considered harassment.

There are no restrictions on touching with lips in society. Every adult is free to do as he pleases.

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How long should it take?

It is very important that the guy does not rush in this matter.

If you insist on your own and kiss a girl prematurely, then such an act can ruin the relationship once and for all. You shouldn't make such a mistake.

You should always remember that girls have a great weakness for romantic relationships. A guy must look after, show all kinds of attention, fly on the wings of love around his beloved.

When a girl is ready for the first kiss, she will let you know by her behavior and give an ambiguous signal.

A simple example. The guy walked his girlfriend to the entrance. She is in no hurry to go home, she stands and carries on the conversation. This is a kind of signal that she doesn’t mind kissing.

And here we need to act decisively. On the other hand, if a girl is in a hurry to go home, says that her parents will fight and have been waiting for her for a long time, then in this case we are not talking about a kiss.

There is no specific time frame to guide this issue. Each case is individual. Everything will happen by itself when the right moment comes.

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When a kiss is inappropriate

If there is mutual attraction between two people, then why resist feelings? There is a catch to this. Perhaps the man will not think anything bad about you. But psychologists advise not to rush into kissing, much less intimacy. To interest a man, you need to awaken the hunter in him, who will look after the girl as if she were prey. During this, both partners will be able to understand whether they are suitable for each other. If you force things, the guy may quickly evaporate or a relationship with unclear prospects will begin.

On the first evening of dating, kissing is unacceptable. As a rule, they do not lead to serious relationships. If this is a holiday romance, then the choice is made by partners who want unforgettable emotions.

If you are in another country where kissing on the street is considered bad manners, for example, in Japan, then you should limit the manifestation of such a romantic impulse.

"Mill".

This species can be called one of the subspecies of French kiss. This technique is very common and popular, and therefore deserves special consideration. How to proceed:

1. go to standard technology;
2. start kissing in French;
3. at first, touch only the tips of your tongues, teasing your mate;
4. using your back as well, try to make a circular rotation of your tongue around your partner’s tongue;
5. adjust the pace, find a comfortable rhythm, continue moving in a circle;
6. occasionally change directions (clockwise and counterclockwise), alternate with other touches (standard, other French).

"Mill" can be used as a first attempt at a French kiss. The movements are more understandable, there is less improvisation in them, and therefore they will appeal to those who like everything to go according to plan.

Why some guys avoid kissing

There are men who don't like to kiss. There are reasons behind every action. What reasons lie behind the attempt to avoid such caresses?

The refusal is due to a ban on showing emotions. The reason lies in the upbringing of the young man by harsh parents. Most likely, he did not see sincerity and love in his family, so as an adult it is difficult for him to show his feelings. The parents did not speak tender words to the guy, did not show affection. Such men are stingy, they do not want to give tenderness. Most often, they think only about themselves, and women become only an object of passion for them.

Some guys perceive kissing as a prelude to sex. If a young man is not ready for intimacy, then he will not kiss.

How different zodiac signs kiss

Astrologers have developed a selection of features, thanks to which you can find out how different zodiac signs kiss. This is a convenient move for those who want to get to know a potential partner better.

Watching an Aries kiss and thinking that all Aries have this style of kissing is naive, because all people are individual.

Try to find your own kissing technique, and below are the main nuances of performing the procedure with different zodiac signs:

1. Fire signs. Aries, Leo and Sagittarius are impulsive signs by nature, so the kissing style is similar. It is unlikely that you will hear the word “I’m afraid” from representatives of the element of fire - they are ready to take any adventure and often initiate passionate kisses.
2. Air signs. They live by romance and can draw a kiss on paper. Gemini doesn't take the first kiss seriously, Libra dreams of romantic manners, and Aquarius is sensual, gentle and open.
3. Earth signs. Capricorns never show unnecessary emotions, so the kiss is unlikely to be passionate. Virgos are attentive in everything, so they will try to analyze their partner, and Taurus gently and slowly ignite their partner.
4. Water signs. Slow Cancers kiss well, but live by their instincts and impulses. Silent Pisces in a kiss will be touching, but crazy. Scorpios prefer to heat up the procedure to degrees of passion.

As you can see, each zodiac sign kisses differently; there are no obvious statements about the features of a kiss. Each person has a style that helped him gain experience in relationships.

Useful tips

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For girls

For representatives of the fairer sex, this event seems very significant, so you need to approach it judiciously.

If a girl is having her first kiss in her life, then don’t try to do it as quickly as possible. Sooner or later the right moment will come anyway. It’s better to wait for the person you would like to press your lips to.

If you are not sure of your decision, do not rush. A guy who likes you can wait until you're ready, which is why you can't kiss on the first date without wanting to.

Women are not recommended to kiss in public, as a man will not be able to get proper pleasure if he displays his feelings. Guys are not always ready to show affection. To understand a man’s desire, you should follow his gaze: if a young man looks at his lips, it means he wants to kiss.