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When a person feels that he cannot please his partner, he begins to worry: can this be fixed? In fact, anyone can master the correct kissing technique. You just need to put in a little interest and effort.
A kiss is a caress as old as the world. Already thousands of years ago, people knew how to kiss, finding special pleasure in it. Our ancestors treated the kiss as a sacred act, revealing the essence of the fusion of male and female energies.
Not much has changed since then. People love to kiss, they know that it is useful, that it brings joy, calms and gives strength.
There are actually not many types and techniques of kissing. All of them can be mastered if desired, and then you can show your imagination. Combine different types to your liking in order to give yourself and your partner maximum pleasure.
The art of kissing
What should you pay attention to so that the first experience is positive?
Firstly, you don’t need to be afraid or ashamed that you don’t have enough practice yet. We've all had that first time.
In such a situation, a reliable partner whom you trust can support you; he will help you overcome shyness and will not laugh at your awkwardness.
If you both have little experience, try to support each other and don’t rush things too much. I'm sure you will succeed. Just focus on your crush and try to make the most of this magical moment, because the first kiss only happens once in a lifetime.
Selecting a location
Pay attention to the environment in which you plan to take this romantic step. If you are at home and have the opportunity, add scented candles or dim the lights. This will immediately create a romantic mood.
A great option for a first kiss is to find a beautiful place outdoors. What could be more romantic than a sunset date with a wonderful view! Try to explore city parks in advance and choose a suitable point.
Of course, no one has canceled such a classic place for kissing as parties with friends or in a club. True, in this case it is unlikely that you will be able to truly retire and spend time in silence.
To help keep your breath fresh, keep some gum, a mint, or an apple on hand. Don't miss the right moment just because you don't have the opportunity to brush your teeth.
Don't freeze in the pose of a steadfast tin soldier. The first kiss is very exciting, and at first you will, of course, feel “out of place.” Still, try to relax, use your hands to stroke your partner’s hair, back, and shoulders. Any kind gesture will give you confidence.
Even if you are very worried, try to say something nice. Your silence may be seen as a negative sign and he/she may become withdrawn.
If you lack experience in communicating with the fair sex, read our article “What to talk about with a girl on a date.”
How to prepare properly
As you might guess, lips are the main kissing instrument, and they should be given special attention. They should be soft and smooth. No one likes kissing someone whose lips are chapped, dry, or cracked. Therefore, it is worth arming yourself with lip balm, as well as special exfoliating products. It is not enough to apply lipstick five minutes before “moment X”. You need to constantly monitor their condition, even if you don’t plan to kiss anyone in the near future.
Remember that herpes and kissing cannot be combined. Try to cure the wounds on your lips in advance with the help of special ointments or patches, otherwise your partner may not appreciate your romantic impulse.
The second important point is general hygiene. This applies to both bad breath and body aroma. Remember, if you decide to kiss the person you like, then you should take care of daily oral hygiene, breath freshener and, of course, deodorant and fresh clothes.
You definitely need to pay attention to your appearance, gestures, and posture. I understand perfectly well that the moment of the first kiss is a lot of stress, and therefore strong excitement is inevitable. But you must admit, it’s difficult to awaken romantic feelings in your partner if you’re shaking with fear, biting your nails and answering inappropriately. Take a deep breath, relax as much as possible, and think only about the wonderful moments ahead of you alone with your partner.
The correct tactics for a kiss do not recommend pouncing on your partner without warning: we are not in the Stone Age! Try to set the stage for the kiss with light touches that will help establish physical contact between you. You can touch an arm, a shoulder, or gently hug. We must try to maintain delicacy, all gestures must remain smooth and natural.
Classic kiss
Usually the initiative for the first kiss comes from the guy. The main thing is not to rush. Slowly lean towards the girl's face, stretching your lips slightly. Touch them to her mouth and close your eyes. Focus on the sensations that these touches bring.
Try to gently kiss the girl's lips. Continue for about five seconds and then lean back a little and take a short break.
Now comes an important moment, you need to look at your partner and try to understand - did she like it? If you see that she is smiling, does not move away and is ready to kiss you herself - great, you are on the right track.
If you notice that she is trying to turn away and is clearly not very happy, then I advise you to stop.
If everything goes smoothly, and both participants liked the first five seconds of the kiss, feel free to continue. Caress her upper and lower lips alternately and watch her reaction. If at some point she pulls away, you can pause. After all, you have taken an important step in the relationship, it is worth reflecting on it and enjoying it calmly.
Rules of a classic kiss
When kissing a classic, it is important not to forget the following simple rules.
- Avoid smacking sounds. This will likely make your partner laugh uncontrollably and keep you both from focusing on the romance. Kiss with relaxed and parted lips - this way even the most passionate kiss will be silent.
- The main principle in classical technique is to act without haste. Start with gentle and light kisses, do not rush to passionately “dig” into your partner.
- Watch your saliva, no matter how funny it may sound. But a mouth that is too wet will not cause positive emotions in your partner, especially during the first kiss. Just swallow your saliva regularly and this problem will be solved.
- Don’t forget to use your hands: you don’t need to “lose” them, but you also shouldn’t stand with your hands at your sides. The girl can put them on the guy’s shoulders, and he, in turn, on her waist. This way you will be closer to each other. If the hairstyle allows, then you can put your hand on the back of your head, slightly massaging your head and, again, pulling it towards you. Thanks to these simple gestures, you will please your partner during a kiss.
How to make sure she likes it
To kiss a girl correctly is to make her feel a little excited and want to continue. If you have learned to kiss well, then improve your technique with a simple technique: put your arm around her waist and pull her closer to you, and put your other hand on her neck and lightly pull her hair.
The waist and neck are erogenous zones; touching them is a turn-on, although they look quite innocent. You can enhance the effect if you lightly pull the hair, which is a rather dominant and imperious gesture, and therefore has an exciting effect on girls. But don't overdo it, you can start by simply fingering your hair while kissing.
Another trick to make sure she likes it: hold her tighter to you. During a hug, the hormone oxytocin is released, which will cause a surge of tenderness in her (and you).
French Kiss
A wet or deep kiss is usually called French, since it was allegedly invented in this country. Whether this is true or not is unknown, but I know for sure that people practice this technique all over the world.
The difference between this method and the classic kiss is the more active use of the tongue.
How can you be completely sure that the moment has come for such a kiss? During a classic kiss, try to gently run your tongue over your partner's lip. It will be clear from his/her reaction whether it is worth continuing.
French kissing technique
Slowly and gently touch your partner's lips with your tongue while kissing.
If you see that he/she wants to continue, find his/her tongue with your tongue and begin to smoothly caress it. It is not enough to simply leave your tongue in your partner's mouth without moving.
Gradually, confidence and skill will come to you.
Types of kisses are not only possible, but also necessary to alternate. Gentle classical caresses should be replaced by French technique. This will make it more interesting for both of you.
For variety, you can lightly bite your partner's lips. The main thing is not to do it too much.
The couple needs to avoid sudden movements, act slowly and smoothly, so as not to cause each other inconvenience or even pain.
Nipping can be a nice touch to your technique, but you don't have to use it all the time. If your partner doesn't like any of these tricks, don't take it to heart. In such intimate matters, tastes may not coincide.
It’s worth taking pauses when kissing, stopping to whisper about something, say a compliment, or look into each other’s eyes. This will allow the couple to get closer and get rid of any remaining awkwardness.
Note to men: a woman’s body has many erogenous zones. This is not only the mouth, but also necks, shoulders, ears. Therefore, by kissing these places, you can achieve even greater success.
If you and your partner have already tried the classic and French techniques, and you want to diversify your caresses even more, try the so-called vacuum kiss. It involves drawing your partner's lips into your mouth. In this case, you need to act very carefully so as not to cause her or him any unpleasant sensations.
For greater clarity, I suggest watching video tutorials that give detailed instructions for kissing:
Dominance, submission and mirrors4
- If you like to be submissive, kneel in front of the man or let him push you down. Look up and maintain eye contact with him.
You can also use handcuffs - secure your hands behind your back. This will give your partner even more control over you.
- Lovers of dominance can lay their partner on the bed on his back, straddle his face and give a short order: “Lick!” And then move on to the blowjob.
You can also tie his hands to the bed with his own tie or handcuff him.
- Men are visual people, right? Why don't you sit in front of the mirror? Suggest this idea to your partner or just give him a surprise.
Learning kissing techniques
If you don’t know how to kiss yet, but at the same time you want to be as prepared as possible for your first practical experience, then there are several well-known methods of training for this.
Various fruits or berries will gladly become your partners in such lessons.
To learn how to kiss delicately and beautifully, just take a few raspberries. Take one berry and gently squeeze it between your lips. Move it with your lips so as not to crush it. Then press a little more to get the juice into your mouth. Do this trick one by one with all the berries on the saucer. As a result, you will master the technique of classic kissing.
How to kiss passionately
Fruits with thin skins will be excellent sparring partners for honing your deep-kissing technique. Plums or tomatoes are ideal for this.
When using this method, you need to find a balance between softness and strength.
Take a ripe fruit and place it on your lips. Press your mouth on the fruit so that the shell breaks through. Then carefully suck out all the pulp, being careful not to tear the skin.
The main thing in this technique is to understand how to use your lips and tongue softly, but at the same time quite persistently.
How to kiss with tongue
In order to feel more confident when kissing deeply using the tongue, you can start by training on citrus fruits.
Take a small slice of orange and put it in your mouth. Then try to squeeze the juice out of it using only your tongue. Try not to limit yourself to the same type of movements - this is the skill you can then put into practice and surprise your partner.
What mistakes should you avoid?
The main thing is to be sincere with your partner and let him know if you don't like something. For example, kissing using tongue may not be pleasant for everyone. Instead of forcing yourself and not getting any pleasure from it, offer your partner a different type of kiss that suits both of you.
Don't bite your partner's tongue, as this can be quite painful. In general, try to use nipping only if you know he/she likes it.
When practicing deep tongue kissing, be gentle. There is no need to search your partner's mouth. It's not romantic at all.
How girls kiss guys: the secret truth
If you are interested in how girls kiss guys, then catch secret information that will help you better understand the female gender. First of all , girls do not lead in kisses, but simply follow their partner. Therefore, she will respond to any of your movements symmetrically, you can check. It is for this reason that you should not worry about inexperience. The girl simply won’t notice or will think that this is your peculiarity.
Secondly , if she likes you very much, then she will forgive all the mistakes in the kiss and, perhaps, teach you herself.
And the last thing : you will win her heart with sincerity and passion, which will make up for any shortcomings. But don’t forget about attentiveness and delicacy, which open all doors. She herself will let you know when you need to move to the next level. You will feel it, I promise.
Useful tips
During a kiss, forget about all your problems and pressing matters. At this moment, only your partner and your first kiss should exist for you. If you think about tomorrow's test and your homework not being done, you won't get pleasure from a kiss.
Don't think that you might make a mistake in your technique and do something awkward. Just enjoy this moment.
If you haven’t known each other for long and both are not experienced enough, don’t rush things.
Practice is the main assistant. Even if everything didn’t go very smoothly the first time, don’t give up. Try together to figure out what caused the failure and correct the mistakes.
Should I swallow?11
Swallowing sperm is another sensitive issue that raises doubts among many ladies. In favor of this technique, it is worth saying that semen contains many useful microelements, so its consumption orally does not pose any threat to health and is even considered beneficial. However, it is worth remembering the moral and aesthetic side of the issue.
Some girls simply psychologically cannot accept what flies out of a man’s penis. They think it's dirty and disgusting. But if there is a place for cunnilingus in your intimate relationships, then you should understand how much natural fluid flowing from the womb a guy has to deal with during this process. Compared to this, a sip of sperm is a mere trifle.
In addition, it is worth remembering that by demonstrating your disgust, you thereby offend your partner. His orgasm and sperm are proof of the pleasure he received. Therefore, your hostility may be misunderstood.
Learn to control your emotions and try to meet him halfway at least once. Seminal fluid tastes like diluted sea water with a corresponding smell. And although it may change depending on what kind of diet a man has had in the last 24 hours, there is nothing terrible about swallowing sperm.
After the kiss
If you still don't feel completely relaxed with your partner, try to avoid awkward phrases and actions caused by anxiety so as not to spoil the impression.
Try to avoid nervous laughter and stupid jokes. At this point, it is best to slowly move away, look him/her straight in the eyes and smile to add mutual warmth to the atmosphere.
Compliment your partner. This is very important, especially since you also want to get an opinion about your own skills.
Try to start a conversation on some pleasant and light topic to avoid awkward silence.
If you see that both were satisfied, thank each other for a good time and decide when you will see each other again. To say goodbye, you can kiss him/her on the cheek or lightly touch your lips.
Initiative7
Which of you is more likely to initiate sex? Think carefully about this question.
If you “seduce” each other with the same frequency, then everything is in order, and your sex life is quite harmonious. But most guys lack initiative from the other half. They also want to feel welcome.
Switch roles from time to time. There must be balance in everything.
Useful materials on the topic
I didn’t find any courses on the Internet that were aimed only at kissing. But there are several programs where this topic is discussed along with other relationship issues. Check out the courses below, maybe something will interest you.
Intensive for men from Egor Sheremetev
Description. In this program, the author has collected everything a guy should know about a relationship with a girl. How to talk to her correctly, how and when you can touch her, how to invite a beautiful girl on a date or move on to a permanent serious relationship.
The first blocks are devoted to dating rules. Egor is an expert in this topic, he has several courses aimed only at meeting girls. Much attention is paid to the skill of intimate caresses. Agree, in a permanent relationship you can’t get anywhere without this skill.
Author: Egor Sheremetyev.
Cost: 4,990 rubles.
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100 questions and answers: how to meet and seduce a girl
Description. Another interesting material for guys. It contains 100 of the most problematic issues regarding relationships. How to meet people, kiss, where and when to meet, how to write messages to each other, how to make love. Egor Sheremetyev answers everything in great detail within four hours.
I'm sure your questions about relationships are not limited to just kissing. Therefore, if possible, purchase this recording and study it carefully.
Author: Egor Sheremetyev.
Cost: 997 rubles.
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Women's magic
Description. So far I can offer this course for girls and women; I haven’t found any others. Here the emphasis is on intimacy with a loved one, but the technique of kissing and touching is also considered.
The course is also good because it helps every girl become more confident and relaxed, and learn to speak freely about her desires with her partner. In addition, you will learn a lot about the characteristics of your physiology. This will definitely come in handy when the relationship moves from dates and kisses to something more.
Author: Yulia Pryakhina.
Cost: 3,500 rubles.
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If you have taken courses dedicated exclusively to kissing, please tell us about them in the comments. I will definitely add to my selection.
