Nature has created it in such a way that a man’s attitude to life is somewhat different from a woman’s. Well, this goes without saying, because the strong half of humanity thinks differently from women. Some of their reasoning seems crazy, but there is something worth learning from them. Let's consider a man's attitude towards a woman and their relationships, towards money and friendship. Of course, psychology and personality play a role, but we will not take exceptions into account.
Men's attitude towards women and relationships
Every man subconsciously sees a woman as a life partner, which is why he makes a choice.
He approaches his partner very seriously. The most popular signs by which a man understands that a woman is right for him are the woman’s sexual attractiveness, her health and radiant appearance, her non-scandalous character, and the ability to surround a man with care!
The most valuable trophy for a man is the one for which he spent time and effort. Easily accessible women rarely become objects of desire, because men do not appreciate what is given to them as if by magic.
Women, due to their emotionality and the peculiarities of female psychology, often think that... Men are cold towards them, although this may not be the case at all. Most men are stingy. Open expressions of emotions. They can show their feelings differently, because
A man's attitude is to take care of the woman he loves, always take her side, and protect his woman.
Some men say the word “love” only a few times in their entire lives. But every such confession is worth its weight in gold, and this does not at all detract from his attitude towards the woman. If a person does not waste words, then he can be trusted. Men prefer calm conversations - this makes it easier for them to tune in to the topic without being distracted by violent manifestations of emotions that throw them off balance.
Healthy selfishness
The first thing you need to do on the path to understanding your life desires is to begin to profess the right attitudes.
For example, there is nothing wrong with healthy selfishness. It is necessary to clearly understand the primacy and importance of your life: in the end, this is due to nature itself and resisting it is not the best option.
You need to understand that if you don’t do something good for yourself, then someone else won’t do it. In other words, you need to take responsibility for your life into your own hands.
Men's attitude towards money
A man, being the head of the family and the main earner of money, is forced to live outside the home most of the time. And having a constant amount of money at his own disposal is as important for him as the need for a woman, for example, to feel attractive, feminine, desired and loved. A man is more rational than women, which means he has better control over his spending needs and spends money more economically. It may seem that this male attitude towards money is stinginess or greed, but as you can see, everything turns out to be completely different. This is our male psychology and rationality.
If a man by a certain age has not learned to earn the amount of money that provides him with self-respect and the feeling that he fully provides for his family, he begins to come to the conclusion that his life has failed. After all, the ability to earn money for him is not only a way to satisfy personal ambitions, but also a means to fully provide for his family and loved ones - this is the masculine nature inherent in us and is the main component of a man.
For the vast majority of men, the amount of money in their wallet is a confirmation of their own social, professional and human worth. Money gives a feeling of freedom and victory over fate.
However, I would still like to note that it is not the amount of money that makes a man a man.
Life style
The habitual form of human activity is called a way of life. Lifestyle includes four categories:
Lifestyle is a psychological category. Standard of living is an economic category. Quality of life is a sociological category. Lifestyle is a socio-economic category.
Lifestyle is an individual holistic system of ways and forms of personality adaptation to living conditions. This is a projection of the inner world into the external environment. Habitual thoughts take shape and become everyday actions, and an individual lifestyle is formed.
The specificity of a person’s individual life determines its uniqueness. A person strives to live life in his own way, passes through himself and transforms life phenomena, forms a self-concept and worldview.
Despite the variety of lifestyles, every person once asks the question: “How to live happily?”
Depending on what an individual spends most of his time on, what his thoughts are focused on, types of lifestyles are distinguished:
life as inaction, escape from reality, passivity, life as a heavy load, burden, pessimism, life as achieving goals, meaningful activity, achieving success, life as creativity, limitless freedom of opportunity, “flight”, life as a waste of time, boring and senseless vanity, consumption of goods, life as an established regime, following rules, rituals, ideals, life as a protest against life, hostile behavior towards oneself and others, revenge for the sad past.
Does your chosen style make your life easier? Are you living the way you want? Should you try to create your own lifestyle when life is a gift that you enjoy?
Male friendship
It's hard to find a true best friend in the true sense of the word. An accomplished adult man spends a lot of time on work, family, everyday problems and does not have enough time for friends, much less to find them. In most cases, male friendship lasts for years and begins in childhood. Such friendship is the strongest, it has gone through fire and water, endured all the hardships and sorrows. This is why male friendships are much stronger than female ones.
Male friendship is distinguished by devotion. If a friend is in trouble and asks for help, the man will rush to the rescue even at night. And it is useless to reproach him for this. He believes that this is correct and cannot be any other way. Women need to learn to respect his choice, this characterizes him from the best side, speaks of decency and devotion, and these are not bad qualities. An intelligent woman should never force a man to choose between you and a friend; there is a high probability that the choice will not be in your favor. Sometimes it is easier for a man to lose his wife than his friend.
Another difference between male and female friendships is flirting with friends of your significant other. If a woman flirts with her husband's friend, she will be the culprit, and if a husband flirts with his wife's friend, the friend will be the culprit. The beloved woman should become a good friend to her husband's friends. Very often such friendship flows into family friendship and the woman gets a new friend. But, nevertheless, male friendship sometimes cannot stand female company, it is necessary to give men the opportunity to communicate alone, because they always have something to talk about, but women will not be interested.
Men's secrets also exist, we men can gossip just as well as you women. The psychology of a man will not tolerate a disdainful and boorish attitude towards himself in the presence of his friends; this will cause him to lose authority in the eyes of his friends and be known as a henpecked man.
Male friendship, if it is real, is a very great dignity and value in our lives. And the male attitude should be appropriate. There is nothing more to add to this.
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good and evil
What is normal for a spider, chaos is for a fly.
When talking about cruelty, we cannot forget about two opposing concepts. We become acquainted with good and evil in infancy, when mothers read us fairy tales in which good necessarily defeats evil. Since those years, our belief has been growing that only goodness wins in the world.
Now let’s take good and evil from the pages of children’s books into real life. Consider the following situation: “There are two people at an interview. One is an ambitious, promising young specialist, and the second is the boss’s brother. And the company chooses the second one.” A rather primitive and typical situation, which, however, shows what good and evil really are.
Good and evil are two sides of the same coin. When we do good to one, we a priori do bad to the second. In our situation, this is implemented in the following way. If the boss hired his brother, then he doomed the young specialist to look for work, which can probably be described as “evil.” However, imagine that the employer gave the vacancy to a young specialist. In this case, he obviously betrayed his relative to some extent, which is also a kind of cruelty.
Life is too cruel because there are no right decisions in it. What is a whim for one is hellish torment for another.
Your own line
Although our life is full of problems and unpleasant situations, it is very important to have your own line and stick to it in any situation. What does this mean? Even every negative event will not necessarily lead to a hopeless situation; you must be able to adapt to the flow of life. No one is asking you to just accept it - allow yourself to be an ordinary person who knows how to accept and overcome difficulties. Well, you didn’t achieve what you wanted today, but completely different opportunities may open up before you!
There is no suitable job, maybe you should try doing something diametrically opposite. After all, as we know, when one door closes, another immediately opens. If you have no luck in your personal life yet, it doesn’t matter, maybe an absolutely amazing person awaits you in the future. It is important to really understand the existing problems, and not the situations you have imagined. You need to “bend your line”, while you yourself need to become more loyal and flexible! This will be difficult to do at first. Start with the little things: your job is not satisfying, change your attitude towards it! After all, this is not the main activity in life, switch to your family, spend more time with your family. This will bring you emotional release and lift your spirits. If you dream of traveling, but don’t have the funds, it’s okay, go to a neighboring city and just take a walk, admire the beauty and understand that you can entertain yourself in different ways.
Going with the flow does not mean wallowing in your failures. This is just a way to quickly reach new opportunities without breaking your neck!
Reducing the importance
How to approach life easier? Very often a person “flounders” in his failures precisely because he takes them too seriously. It is necessary to clearly set priorities: how can you be upset about a bad hairstyle when, for example, you have a wonderful loved one? Is this really worth your attention? Think about the fact that people get sick and even die, and you suffer because of bad pancakes for breakfast. People simply do not understand that by wasting themselves on all sorts of little things, they are really missing out on something important. Psychologists recommend clearly stating what worries you most in this life.
Write directly point by point: for example, family, health, work or something else. Now think about how your constant state of stress over little things affects these aspects of your life. You yourself are stealing energy from yourself, and there simply won’t be any left for more important things! Try to imagine or even draw a big road, on which draw the most important things in order of importance (distance the little things from yourself). And you will immediately see the real state of things, and as soon as you want to get depressed because of an unsuccessfully purchased dress, take your drawing and remember what is dear to you.
Many people believe that taking life too seriously is inherent in their character - but this is a misconception. This stereotype is formed throughout life and gets worse over the years. Therefore, it is necessary to change your attitude to everything that is happening as quickly as possible. Hysterics, breakdowns, uncontrollable anger - all these are manifestations of taking life too seriously! Remember, the more important the problem seems to you, the longer you will not be able to find a way out of it. Try to abstract yourself and look at it from the outside. Maybe everything is not so bad, but a way out will be found, sooner or later!
Don't set yourself up for negativity
The Brothers Grimm have a fairy tale called "Clever Elsa". The young girl, whom those around her considered unusually sensible, saw the future in gloomy tones and infected those around her with her mood. For example, going down into the cellar, she noticed a pickaxe left by the builders, and fantasized about how she would get married, give birth to a child, and then he would be killed by this pickaxe, which would fall on him from the wall. Drawing such gloomy pictures of the future in her head, she burst into burning tears. Elsa did get married, but never gave birth to a child, because she first went crazy and ran away from the village.
By the way, in psychiatry there is a concept - “smart Elsa syndrome.” They call it a state of obsessive anxiety about the future, which is seen in pessimistic terms.
But, probably, in everyone’s environment there is more than one person who sees the future in a gloomy light or predicts a negative result for any action. And thus, he poisons not only his own life with pessimism, but also the lives of friends and loved ones. If this quality is inherent in us, then we quickly get rid of it.
Condemnation
Another point that prevents us from answering the question of how to approach life more simply is the judgment of others. We are afraid to take a step forward for fear of how others will react. At the level of psychological processes, this can be described as follows. Many attitudes have been instilled in us since childhood by our parents or loved ones. These thought forms at the subconscious level decide for us what is right and what is wrong, what is shameful and what is honorable. And when a person, contrary to these guidelines, decides to act differently, fear of condemnation, shame, self-flagellation, etc. appears. Only life is ours. And only we can decide how and from what to build it. Therefore, you should not worry about the opinions of others. Yes, sometimes it is useful, you need to take it in order to look at the situation from all sides.
Mistakes and mistakes are not a reason for self-flagellation
A person must understand that he has the right to make mistakes on the path of life! After all, we are not machines; we cannot predict everything. And while you punish yourself every time for mistakes, you will instill in yourself more and more new complexes. Well, you were mistaken and what, will the world collapse immediately? Of course not. You just need to understand and accept it, well, you didn’t manage to do 50 push-ups today, so what, this will never happen now? But people who are too strict about life will perceive this as a personal defeat. Don’t think that everyone around you is only watching your achievements; people only care about their lives. Therefore, it is stupid to prove something to others.
Try to relax and be loyal only to yourself, don’t constantly scold yourself for every little thing. Don’t ruin your life with non-existent obstacles and defeats. Change the stereotypes that were once instilled in you. Your mother taught you that you must be perfect, but you look at her life and analyze why they want something unrealistic from you. Maybe this is her complex, then you should absolutely consciously abandon such an idea. Love yourself and listen to your inner voice and then you will find harmony and understanding of life!
Getting rid of perfectionism
Perfectionists are people who, no matter what they undertake, strive to do everything in an ideal way. Moreover, this perfectionism can also be directed at others, to whom they place excessive demands. Often, perfectionists themselves depend on the opinions of other people because they feel the need for praise and meeting other people's expectations.
This desire to achieve an ideal often takes a pathological form and can cause nervous breakdown. “There is no limit to perfection,” so a perfectionist is rarely satisfied with the result. He is not able to rejoice in the present, because he is haunted by a feeling of dissatisfaction, imperfection and an endless search for the ideal.
Living more simply means learning to accept the world as it is.
How does a positive attitude manifest itself?
- Optimism and motivation
- Positive and creative thinking
- Self-esteem and self-belief
- Inspiration and expectation of success
- Accepting problems and failures
- Search for solutions and opportunities
Having a positive attitude towards the world around you has one interesting ability - it CHANGES YOUR LIFE! And for the better! A positive outlook on things certainly leads to Happiness and Success!
Be careful - it's contagious!))) A positive charge affects not only you, it affects everything around you - people and even circumstances.
What are the benefits of positive thinking?
- Brings more positive emotions into life
- Gives self-confidence and fills with energy
- Helps you achieve goals quickly
- Gives inspiration to motivate yourself and others
- Problems disappear or are easier to bear
- You grow in the eyes of others
- Life smiles back at you
Andrey Chikatilo
14 years of crimes, 65 victims who experienced hellish torment in this world. Andrei Chikatilo is a criminal, cannibal and rapist. The serial killer deliberately committed cruel acts. It cannot be justified, but the origins of this behavior can be found:
- Parents who paid little attention to their son.
- Lack of friends, buddies.
- Dissatisfaction with yourself.
- Complexes due to appearance.
- Disrespect from students while teaching at school.
- Beating by teenagers.
- Impunity for crimes.
How to learn to approach life more simply?
Is it possible to change your pessimistic attitude? First of all, you need to clearly distinguish banal primitive indifference from healthy. Banal indifference is free drift with the flow, selfishness and ineradicable laziness. Healthy indifference is the talent to change the direction of the flow at the right moment, breadth of soul and ease of rise.
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The first steps to healthy not giving a fuck:
- Rest (leisure) is time that no one will get back. Life itself depends on the fulfillment of life: positive results in positive results, negative results in progressively negative results. By filling life with positive emotions and relaxation with favorite activities, we give our consciousness the right creative attitude.
- Whining and complaining about life is taboo. Even among family.
- “Pitiful little people”, “vile saleswoman”, “traffic cop”... We change the setting. You can see the good in every person. You just need to want it.
- “I will never earn money for an apartment (car, microwave, ficus...).” A rolling stone gathers no moss. To get something, you need to make an effort. And with a smile on his lips and the attitude “I can handle anything.” First - the goal, then a step-by-step plan, then - confident pursuit of the goal. Even if it takes several years to get there. Do you want to become a great photographer? So, stop drooling over the works of professionals, and grab a camera and go to the courses. Dreaming of the laurels of a writer? Find your genre and learn to burn people’s hearts with your verb.
- “Nothing depends on me anyway,” “I still can’t do it”... The eyes are afraid, but the hands are doing! Expecting failure, a person attracts it. “Order” only positive things for yourself. The attitude is “I can do it”, “I can do it”, “I can handle it”. And remember the truth - “if you peer into an abyss for a long time, the abyss begins to peer into you.”
- Money. There are never too many of them. It’s just that one doesn’t have enough for bread, and the other doesn’t have enough for diamond caviar or a fifth yacht. Here you will have to decide. If you’re just happy with a debt-free life, then it’s time to stop complaining about the lack of money and start enjoying fishing, picnics and intimate meetings with friends over a glass of tea. If ambitions are torn from within, then you should forget about everything written above and change your lifestyle, focusing on the road leading to enrichment.
Let's not generalize
Having suffered several failures one after another, we mentally reward ourselves with the title of failure. And by fixating on failures, we again set ourselves up for a negative result, thereby complicating our lives.
Moreover, for some reason, grievances from defeats remain in our memory much longer than the joy from achievements.
In order not to forget about all the good things that have happened in our lives, we can keep a diary where we note our achievements and pleasant life moments, no matter how insignificant. In difficult moments, these recordings will make us smile and help restore peace of mind.
We don't dramatize events
There is an expression - “making a molehill out of a molehill.” It is used when talking about exaggeration, giving something unjustifiably great importance. It also applies to the case when we torment ourselves with worries about our own mistakes, significantly exaggerating their scale.
Psychologists say that dramatization of events is characteristic of people whose parents have taught them since childhood that life is a continuous series of difficulties that need to be overcome. As a result, such people, firstly, feel the need to report to someone about their actions to combat difficulties, and, secondly, they need a positive assessment of these actions. And, thus, they make themselves dependent not only on the event itself, exaggerating its significance, but also on the opinions of others.
Violence in the family
Now let’s talk about what everyone, unfortunately, can face. Domestic violence is essentially a form of violence. Moreover, in most cases it is not physical, but emotional.
Emotional oppression of a person is in many ways more dangerous. With physical violence, a person clearly understands that this is not the norm, that it should not be this way. Experiencing emotional violence as one of the forms of human cruelty, a person often does not understand the scale of the problem.
The cruelty of life also lies in the fact that those closest to us are capable of hurting us. And it leaves its mark on all our future activities.
About the ability to enjoy life
Take a trip down memory lane. You are 5 years old. Mom brought cold ice cream on a hot summer day. You eat it and don't think about anything. Why? Because you have not yet lost the ability to enjoy life.
And now you are an adult... But is this a reason to deny yourself the pleasure of enjoying every moment of your existence on the planet? When you learn to enjoy life, you will stop noticing any cruelty.
Start small. For example, the next time you go to the supermarket for groceries, don’t lazily, sullenly take the receipt, but smile at the cashier and wish him a good day.
Read books. They will open up a completely new world to you and teach you to appreciate life. Play sports (a healthy body means a healthy mind).
When we talk about the cruelty of life, we first of all feel sorry for ourselves. In most cases, we don’t think about others, but want more respect and understanding for ourselves. Learn to enjoy life and appreciate every second. After this, you will understand that life is beautiful and that even in the cloudiest day you can find a ray of sunshine.
Bad habits
We will not talk here about smoking, alcohol and other addictions, but about such phenomena as envy, irritability, gossip. These too have become bad habits of most people. Becoming their hostage means wasting your time. And we only have one life. And is it worth wasting it on such nasty little things? All three phenomena are interconnected and give rise to one another. As a rule, they arise because a person is dissatisfied with his life, but, trying to compensate for his own failures, he goes to great lengths in order to denigrate his neighbor. But this doesn’t make his life any brighter. Constant surveillance and gossip about other people's lives destroy our own. If your neighbor is so bad, is it worth it?
Just think: the Sun is 109 times the diameter of the Earth!
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And the surface area of the Sun is 6.07877⋅1018 m² - this is 11,918 areas of the Earth. The mass of our star is 1.9885⋅1030 kg - this is 332,940 Earth masses. The Sun contains 99.8 percent of the mass of the entire Solar System.
Leading astronomers Imke de Pater and Jack J. Lissauer, authors of the textbook Planetary Science, call the solar system "the Sun plus some junk."
But the weight of the Sun is not constant. Over time, the solar wind carries particles, and therefore mass, away from the star. The Sun loses an average of 1.5 million tons of material every second due to the solar wind.
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17 Scientific Facts That May Make You Ask Lots of Questions About Our Universe
Fears
Very often we become hostage to fears. And fears, as we know, paralyze and prevent us from moving forward easily and confidently. They vary in size and appearance. This could be fears for loved ones, fear of making a mistake, failing, being judged, etc. Regardless of the motive, fear always brings destruction, stagnation, and apathy. That is, depression.
Let’s deal with everything in order in order to objectively assess our capabilities and the obstacles to their implementation.
Living in the present, not the past
Many people have a tendency that cannot be called anything other than masochistic: they mentally return to unpleasant events of the past, experiencing the negative over and over again. They cannot forget the insults once inflicted on them. There is even an expression - “accumulating grievances.”
Psychologists believe that such “accumulation” causes a number of diseases, including cancer. Life energy is spent on replaying an unpleasant situation in the mind, on an internal dialogue with the offender, to whom we mentally try to give a worthy answer.
They say that like attracts like. When we are constantly irritated and accumulate grievances, we turn into an angry bundle of nerves, attracting new offenders. And there is only one way out of this vicious circle: forget old grievances, do not remember the offender, think about the good, start the day with a smile, attracting positivity and goodness into your life.
