Why am I single and have no personal life? Often women ask themselves this question and do not find an answer to it. This problem is especially acute in young girls, and it is the absence of a life partner that prompts women to develop many complexes about external data, intelligence, character and the development of other doubts. This problem leads to the emergence of complexes, since the girl begins to think destructively: “I am lonely, and that means I have failed.” This incorrect judgment is the beginning of destructive mental activity, and the fair sex further reasons like this: “Everyone except me has a boyfriend. Everyone around is in couples and seems so happy. Why am I lonely? Years will pass and over time such women will begin to think: “Why are you so unlucky with men?”
Why are people lonely?
Let's first look at why people are lonely and whether loneliness is as scary as many imagine it to be. In a certain state of mind, sometimes an individual requires solitude. Psychologists believe that if a person is comfortable alone with himself, then he is a self-sufficient person. Such people spend all their free time on self-development and self-education, analyzing their own actions and drawing up further strategic plans. They have no time to feel a sense of uselessness, because they are passionate about self-development. This is the answer to the question: “Why are smart people lonely and they have no desire to waste their time on uninteresting individuals or in vain.”
However, there are periods when the number of lonely days goes off scale and the feeling of uselessness overwhelms you. At such moments, a person often has a question: “Why is it so lonely?” This condition is a socio-psychological phenomenon that represents the emotional state of the individual and characterizes the connection with the lack of close, positive emotional relationships with the environment or the fear of their loss due to social isolation. For such cases, psychologists have developed techniques and methods that allow you to get rid of loneliness on your own. In the fight against this feeling, the main principle is the individual’s determination and desire to eliminate loneliness from his own life.
Psychologists identify the following psychological factors that contribute to the emergence of loneliness. These include low self-esteem, which causes avoidance of social contacts due to fear of being subjected to harsh criticism. This creates a “vicious circle”, since the complete absence or lack of contacts further lowers self-esteem. Also, the emergence of a feeling of loneliness in the soul is influenced by undeveloped communication skills.
Nowadays it has become fashionable to consider oneself not a lonely person, but a free person. But what to do when you are really lonely and there is no person in front of whom you want to appear better than you really are, when it doesn’t matter who is nearby, as long as someone is present in life?
Why are people lonely? Psychology gives the following explanations in this regard: loneliness does not choose a victim according to gender or age. Material security, status, appearance, as well as the type of activity of an individual are also unimportant for loneliness.
To feel lonely you don’t have to actually be that way. After all, often people, being married, having loved ones and friends, feel lonely.
A young man of 20 years old, who has difficulty finding a suitable partner, experiences the same spiritual emptiness as an elderly individual of 60 years of age who has lost loved ones or does not know how to find a common language with the younger generation.
Loneliness is often experienced by subjects with an inert nervous system, who have difficulty establishing social contacts, and who take a long time to get used to new people in their environment. In addition, people are lonely due to deep mental pathology, for example, due to autism.
Why are there so many lonely people? The personal perception of loneliness by each individual is of great importance. Many people mistakenly perceive loneliness as a tragedy, instead of looking at this situation from a different angle, making loneliness their ally and using it to work on their own personality.
A man or a woman with a cool mind and a healthy psyche should perceive loneliness as an opportunity to change for the better their personality traits and appearance and thus improve themselves.
Different interests and principles
Loneliness is very acute when close people do not share principles and interests. For example, a husband and wife live together, but each of them has their own hobby, and these hobbies are categorically not accepted by the partner. The husband loves fishing, but this annoys the wife, and the wife studies vocals and dreams of becoming a singer, but her husband is not at all impressed with her voice.
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In this case, both partners are guaranteed to feel lonely. This situation can arise between children and parents when the child chooses a professional (mostly creative) direction that the father or mother does not like.
Why is a woman lonely and has no luck with men?
All girls are prepared from childhood for the fact that when they grow older, they will definitely have their own family, obedient children and a feeling of boundless happiness. But it often happens that time passes, the young lady grows up and nothing happens. It seems that nature has not deprived her of a figure, she is pretty and smart, but she has no personal life and that’s all. And while some women are getting married, others are wondering: “Why am I single?”
There can be many answers to this question. Often, the mistakes of single women are that they expect their chosen ones to solve their problems for them. For men, this attitude towards them is very annoying, although they also often do not mind someone sharing their problems with them. Women with a consumerist attitude towards men, changing them “like gloves,” do this in order to increase their material and social status, so they often have no luck with men, since they do not want to deal with their problems on their own.
Other women do not perceive themselves as a mature, independent person. It seems to them that only in marriage can they show what they are capable of. Such women perceive their life as a prelude to the life ahead, which will come when they put a wedding ring on their finger. This is a dangerous misconception.
Nowadays, it is difficult to surprise anyone with loneliness. Working in big cities requires mental and physical labor, and often the situation goes like this: a person, after a hard day at work, returns to an empty apartment where no one is waiting for him. Most people only have time to look for relationships or meet friends on weekends. This is one of the reasons why girls are lonely. While it’s daytime outside, friends and acquaintances meet, traffic moves and loneliness is not so noticeable. But as evening comes, people go home, and the feeling of emptiness intensifies. At its core, loneliness means a lack of information and the ability to exchange and share it. However, even though they have a social circle, many girls wonder: “Why do I feel lonely?” And the reasons here lie somewhat deeper than human communication.
Unlucky in your personal life?
In this article you will learn:
What are the reasons for such bad luck? I will try to present esoteric knowledge and the wisdom of our ancestors in a very simple form. And of course, I will offer methods for solving problems. So that you can easily start using it today. So that in the next month or two, you really see changes in yourself and in your personal life with men. To finally find your soul mate and be happy to your toes.
I have been deeply involved in esotericism for the last 10 years, but before that I, like everyone else, was rushing around, looking for myself and stuffing my bumps. Therefore, I understand you perfectly. Everything—everything that happens to you—is familiar to me. Today I am a happy mother of three amazing girls, a beloved wife and successful in my business, my calling. So, let's start understanding today's topic.
Model
Figure 1: Example of input parameters for our simulation. All simulations presented in this work were conducted in the agent-based simulation environment NetLogo. N
= 1000 people (agents), with varying degrees of talent (intelligence, skills, etc.), randomly distributed into fixed positions inside a square world of 201 × 201 areas with cyclic boundary conditions.
During each simulation, which spans several decades, they are exposed to a certain number of NE
good (green circles) and bad (red circles) events moving around the world along random trajectories (random walk).
In this example NE
= 500.
N Ti mT σT NE pL 100 − pL NE NE → ∞ NE ≈ N/2 mT σT mT ± σT P δt Ci = C(0) Ɐi = 1, …, N t Ak
No event point crosses the position of agent Ak - this means that no similar events occurred during the last six months, agent Ak does not perform any action. The position of the agent Ak is crossed by a lucky event - this means that a lucky event happened in the last six months (note, according to the link, the generation of innovative ideas here is also considered a lucky event that happened in the agent's brain); as a consequence, agent Ak doubles his capital/success with a probability proportional to his talent Tk. The increase will be Ck(t) = 2Ck(t − 1), but only if rand
Ck(t) = Ck(t − 1) / 2.
2.2. Results of many runs
N mT σT I δt C NE pL Cmax Tbest mT Cbest Tmax Cmax Cbest Cmax mT mT ± σT Tav mT T mT 2σT T Cbest mT G(T) Tav P Cmax T G(T)dT T T + dT T Tav P Cmax T T P Cmax T Cmt Cat mT C Cmt Cat T Cend T Tbest Cbest Cmt Cend
Reasons for failure
Psychologists say the first reason is dislike in childhood. Unloved children, loaded with the baggage of complexes, will feel like unloved losers all their lives. Therefore, parents should not only feed and clothe their child, but also support him, communicate, set him up for success, and simply love him.
The second reason is the powerful impact on your biofield. With weak energy protection, it is enough for a person to meet an unfriendly gaze for problems to begin.
What to do to protect yourself from the evil eye and damage? You can make an amulet, set protection, read conspiracies. But healers advise using simple remedies:
- An unlucky person should throw a handful of salt over his left shoulder and pray to God to remove bad luck;
- You need to turn to your Guardian Angel with a prayer against failure. But before prayer, one should consecrate the house and confess;
- It is advisable to make a talisman. Take threads of seven colors: red, orange, green, yellow, blue, indigo, violet. Each thread has its own energetic message against failure. Weave the threads like a bracelet. Let one of your relatives tie this amulet on his left wrist with seven knots. The amulet will begin to pump out all negative energy and cleanse the biofield.
- Get up early and, looking at the sunrise, say: “Sun, you shine from the sky for people, give your warmth to mother earth. Grant me luck so that my business succeeds. Sun, you are the earthly source of life, you are a stream of bright light and warmth. Grant me success so that I can become more successful than everyone else!”
