From time immemorial, women have been idolized. They are compared to angels, nymphs, goddesses, and mermaids. What epithets do writers and poets come up with to denote the subtle female nature, kindness, warmth.
But why does so much evil and hostility sometimes come from the fair sex? Why is a girl rude when she should embody qualities that men admire? Is it possible to fight female rudeness, and how to create a worthy woman?
Throughout his life, a person, one way or another, encounters rudeness: at work, in government agencies, in queues, in public transport, in public catering. Oddly enough, most of the disrespect comes from representatives of the “fair” sex. Why in quotes? Is it possible to call a woman “beautiful” if she expresses herself in obscene phrases?!
When a girl is rude when meeting you
In all my pickup practice, a girl has never been rude to me when I met her. By rude behavior I mean swearing, harsh insults, hits or other aggressive actions on her part. The girls themselves are educated creatures. And, as a rule, the more beautiful they are, the more polite they communicate with men, even if they reject them. Of course, if the person approaching her is not an obvious sucker or an alcoholic. Once, while training in the fields, I ran into a not entirely adequate woman who reacted harshly to my compliment with banter. But even she wasn’t rude to me.
Moreover, I don’t remember any of my friends complaining about a girl being rude to them when they met. A woman can really refuse you if she is satisfied with her current lover or she simply doesn’t like you outwardly. But she won't be rude. This is because girls like it when guys approach them on the street. This pleases their pride and is generally pleasant, like a compliment. Even if the girl doesn’t like the guy, in her heart she will be glad that they paid attention to her. This means that she is beautiful and sexually attractive.
Remember! Normal women are not rude when meeting people. If she is rude - there is something wrong with her - urgently find another girl.
A woman can be rude in exceptional cases:
- when you approached her drunk;
- when you smell bad;
- when you are poorly dressed;
- when you hurt her, pushed her or got her dirty;
- when you are rude to her or behave inappropriately.
If you look good and behave normally, the girl will not be rude to you, even if she is not in the mood to meet you. If girls are often rude to you when they meet you, then most likely the problem is you. Try changing your appearance or hairstyle. You should take a shower every day before leaving the house. Ask someone you know to honestly evaluate themselves. React normally to criticism. Thank your friend and correct the mistakes. Then girls should stop being rude to you during the dating process.
Plunge into childhood i
So why is the girl being rude? Was she the only one having a bad day, didn’t get enough sleep or was tired? There are many reasons for indecent behavior. This could be a desire to assert oneself, to throw out accumulated negativity, or a demonstration of power. This also applies to personal relationships, when a girl considers herself to be in charge. This is how she demonstrates her dominant role, attracts the attention of her partner, and shows her dissatisfaction.
Sigmund Freud would say that everything comes from childhood. This means that, as a little girl, she did not receive enough love, care and affection. Attempts to attract attention were ignored, or the response was a brutal suppression of children's curiosity. Bad behavior was also punished with rudeness. Disobedience or bad grades were punished with a corner and a belt. This child received neither explanations nor calm conversations. He received only tasks, demands and punishments.
Another situation is being spoiled. Here, the formed boorish behavior also comes from childhood, when parents carried the child in their arms. He was allowed everything and even more. This child was believed unquestioningly. The girl saw how her parents argued with everyone who did not want to “dance” in front of the child.
The girl saw how easily her parents turned away from unwanted people. The girl was used to the fact that the slightest whim was fulfilled right away. Such a child is completely unprepared for adult life. Having matured, the girl believes that everything should be done according to her first word. When this does not happen, a lack of understanding of how to behave in such situations (after all, such situations have never happened in her life) results in rudeness and scandal.
The third reason is the social protection of women. All girls feel their impunity. After all, it is not customary in society to beat and humiliate women. Society dictates: “A woman is always right!” Many women mistake this kind of upbringing for weakness. Or men play on patience. This provokes them even more. They feel power and impunity, which is why they become more daring and sophisticated in their expressions.
Perhaps Freud was right. Everything comes from childhood. First of all, basic education. Boys are told from the cradle that a girl is weaker, you can’t beat her, answer her, pull her braids, or be rude. Since childhood, little dust has been blown off the girls. Only a few wise mothers instill in their daughters respect for men and a polite attitude towards others. Only a few mothers do not drill nonsense about “princess” and “the one and only” into the heads of little girls.
What to do if a girl is rude when meeting you
First, choose the girls you meet more carefully. You shouldn't approach everyone. Secondly, improve your appearance. Third, communicate normally, calmly and politely. Compliance with these rules guarantees 99.9% that the girl will not be rude to you when meeting you.
If you do find yourself in the unfortunate 0.01%, and she is rude to you, remember that this is an ordinary weak woman standing in front of you, and her behavior is caused by complexes or another mental disorder. Look at her sympathetically and wish her a good day. You can sort things out and be rude in response, but you shouldn’t. Who knows, maybe in the future you will cross paths at work or you, for example, will meet her friend. Do you need to be talked about as someone who is rude to women? I think no. Therefore, if a girl is rude when you meet her, politely say goodbye to her and go meet another woman. If in 100 approaches one girl is rude to you, it means that you just ended up with a not entirely adequate friend or a girl in a bad mood. You shouldn’t pay attention to this at all – anything can happen. Laugh to yourself at this fool and go ahead to meet other, adequate girls, pleasant communication with whom will quickly lift your mood.
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I’m 23, she’s 20, we’ve been dating for a year and a half , everything was normal as always, communication was sex, etc., everything was fine, the girl sometimes demanded something but within reasonable limits, in general everything was good and mutual.
Over the past 3 months, the girl has become extremely irritable , and she usually takes it out on me, sometimes I’m walking too fast, sometimes too slow, sometimes I’ve walked around a pole on the wrong side, etc. In general, it’s already some kind of absurdity.
He is rude, sometimes insults my opinion is considered quite rarely , as if there is no more respect on his part at all, he believes that everything should be as she thinks and not otherwise.
She is constantly offended : then I told her, I’m sorry, I don’t have money, we won’t go there, these are immediately ***istic arrogant answers in my direction, or silence and answers in the spirit, clear, understandable, etc.
Or I say, I can’t do it today, there’s a lot of work, she’s having another attack of irritation. Many times I tried to talk to her normally about this topic and the answer was always, “Oh, don’t whine,” “Don’t be stupid,” etc., or she simply shows all her pride and arrogance and simply remains silent.
always ended up having to apologize in the end , but I just don’t understand why. Always get mad about every little thing.
Constantly tells me what to do , sometimes it happened, you won’t drink it, you will drink it, when I say don’t want to drink it, but I want it, immediately irritation, rudeness, etc.
There have been frequent scandals , which naturally don’t lead to anything good, and every time I have to apologize, she can’t stand criticism at all, if I don’t agree with her on something, I’m her number one enemy. I just can’t do that anymore and I don’t want to give it up, I really liked it, if it weren’t for her terrible character.
Since childhood, I often communicated with girls, I don’t experience any complexes in this regard, of course, sometimes I make compromises, but I’m not going to get henpecked , which is what I told her, in the end everything is fine for several days, then again an outburst of irritation on her part.
We see her 2-4 times a week , and honestly my head is exploding, what’s wrong with her? 3 month pms? or does she lack emotions, adrenaline?
PS, at the same time, the sex is still of high quality and desired on her part.
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So, what can you say about this girl?
This girl is domineering and aggressive , and there are a lot of them in everyday life, you just need to go outside on a summer day and they are everywhere!
A distinctive feature of such girls is their complete disrespect for the male sex.
Why is that?
Because she, in her entire essence, is a man with balls , who always decides everything herself and her decision is a law that no one can refute.
Such girls always argue with men’s opinions and don’t value this opinion; if a guy starts to argue with her, then she immediately begins to manipulate and throws out words like “I feel sorry for you”
The main task of such a girl is to humiliate a man and be superior to him , to prove to him that he is nobody and his name is nothing. Such girls are convinced that all men are second class and do not represent any value; at most, a man is needed for sex and for her whims!
Such a girl can only live with a complete henpecked man, since she is only attracted to such men, because he is a wingman, in other words, she plays the role of a man in such a couple , and the boy plays the role of a timid girl!
Girls with such a worldview are doomed to complete failure, since such a girl will never be happy , yes, she will earn a lot of money, but she will not be happier because of it.
There will always be anxiety inside her , since she will not be able to escape her feminine roots, and any woman wants a strong male shoulder on which she can rely entirely, but such a girl will never have this!
So, what advice can you give this guy?
If she chose you, it means she sees weakness in you , it is this weakness that attracts her to you and at the same time this weakness drives her crazy, a paradox, but it is so!
If you want to lead a worthless life with this powerful girl, then just obey her like a queen , but if you have at least a little male respect left in you, then leave her and run from her like fire, as she will eat your whole brain out!
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How can you put a girl in her place if she starts to become impudent or insult a guy?
Love relationships are not created so that the guy suffers, and the girl allows herself to humiliate, insult him or become impudent at his expense. If a young lady allows herself to “trample” the honor and dignity of her gentleman, then it’s time to put her in her place.
The guy's mistake was that he allowed the girl everything. She insulted him, but he did not respond. She commanded him, and he obeyed. He had to satisfy her every whim. The guy himself did not confront the girl in any way when she became impudent. So she sat on his neck.
The best solution to this problem would be to show and even tell the girl that if she does not change her attitude, then the guy will break up with her. And this is not intimidation. These are not just words. The guy really intends to break up with the girl if she continues to be impudent and get on his head.
In most cases, after such a statement, girls really change. They do not break off the relationship, but on the contrary, they begin to respect the guys. This is exactly what they need: for the guys to also be bold and not be afraid of losing them.
If a guy continues to humiliate himself in front of a girl, she becomes bored. She begins to look for another gentleman, who, by the way, will give her a clear understanding: if she starts getting on his head, he will, without hesitation, break up with her.
From here we conclude: if a girl insults, humiliates, gets in her way, doesn’t value the relationship, then you need to tell her directly that she will lose her boyfriend if she doesn’t change her behavior. And here, reader, you must be ready to fulfill your promise: if the girl becomes more impudent, then we silently turn around and leave her alone.
Do not call. Do not write. Don't look for a meeting with a girl. Let her be alone for a while and “sober up.” If she loves, then she will understand that she was to blame. And if she didn’t love the guy, then she won’t understand anything. In this case, she is definitely not needed by a guy who is wiser and ready for a serious relationship.
Clarify the situation - bring it down to earth
If a woman abuses a man in a relationship because of health problems, then she should be taken to the doctor. When aggression is based on other reasons, it is time for a man to take himself by the collar and turn from an easy-going lamb into a wise lion, showing ferocity only when the matter demands it.
Did the woman outright lie? Have a heart-to-heart talk with her, explaining that such behavior is unacceptable. When all the “i’s” are dotted and the statuses of goddess and slave are removed, the relationship will develop on equal terms.
You should not be hysterical, proving that you, too, are a person worthy of respect. Just explain your feelings and calmly warn that such a relationship is impossible. Continuing a toxic relationship will destroy the connection. Separating for a while is useful as education. The girl, finding herself alone, will understand that she can forever lose the person dear to her. Someone whom she previously considered worthless and incapable of daring actions.
