If a guy is faced with the constant refusal of girls to get to know him, he will probably have a desire to find out how girls choose their gentlemen. Why do some guys bask in the attention and love of girls, while others go alone for months? What is so special about those who easily make acquaintances and relationships with girls? If such questions arise, it means that the guy already has certain problems with girls.

The men's site masculino.ru suggests remembering the most important truth: every girl has her own taste. It is impossible to definitively answer which guys attract girls. We can say that absolutely any guy can find a mate. However, if he no longer basks in affection and attention from girls, this indicates that:

He will have to wait until he finds someone who will be his mate. Unfortunately, this may be the tenth or twentieth girl. However, it will certainly be found.
He'll have to wait until girls finally start liking him. If in school years a guy can be considered a bore, then in a more mature age he can be considered an intellectual. The tastes and views of girls change over time. If at some point a guy may be unpopular among women, then over time everything may change.

All girls have different tastes. This means that even for such a guy who is not popular among women and is not considered a Casanova, there will be a girl who will love and appreciate him.

Here you should pay attention to the list of criteria that are so popular today to compile in order to decide what kind of guy you should look for. In many women's trainings and in books and magazines, you can read that a girl should make a list of criteria by which she will understand that she has found her soul mate. If you saw this list, you would be unpleasantly surprised!

These lists sometimes reach several notebook pages. While the girl describes her ideal, she will completely forget that such perfect guys do not exist at all. Do you think girls remember the lists they make? Of course not. However, they clearly state the criteria by which they select guys.

Not only girls, but also guys make demands. If you don't make lists on a piece of paper, you have them in your heads. You also form certain images of those girls with whom you want to build relationships. And if someone doesn't match your list, you reject her.

Thus, the answer to the question of how girls choose guys will be a list of demands that everyone has in their heads, which is put forward to every guy who only encroaches on the hand and heart of a beauty.

Choosing the appearance

One of the common criteria that is often put forward by girls is the appearance of guys. They also want their gentlemen to be beautiful, attractive, well-groomed, neat, etc. There are girls who choose guys based on this criterion first of all. If a guy is ugly, then he may be rejected, no matter how good qualities he has.

You shouldn't pretend to be a superstar or an athlete. If you don’t want to exhaust yourself with sports and physical activity, then you shouldn’t do it. The only thing that is required of you is external attractiveness, maintaining body hygiene and clean, new clothes. Just be stylish. Know how to make yourself beautiful, regardless of muscle mass and body parameters. Always be clean and tidy. Do not wear dirty and torn clothes, but constantly update your wardrobe with new T-shirts, trousers and trousers.

Many girls simply value neatness, and not just pumped up muscles.

Pay attention to friends and other girls

Another criterion by which girls choose guys is whether they have friends and other fans. The environment and position in society speak about how a guy views himself in relation to other people. If he is surrounded by friends and fans, it means that he has qualities or benefits that are valued in society.

There can be many friends. However, if a guy has good and loyal friends, this already says a lot. It is quite rare for people to be strong and truly friends. Today, many people simply communicate, calling each other friends. In fact, there is a big difference between communication and friendship. If a guy can find loyal friends and build relationships with him, then he will get out of any difficult situation in life.

Having fans can also give a guy positive characteristics. If there was nothing good about him, girls wouldn't run after him! Thus, even without knowing the guy, but seeing that crowds of girls are running after him, the girl may think that this gentleman is somehow good and valuable. She herself will want to meet him, since he is in demand among other beauties.

What to do if someone else appears in your partner’s life?

This is already the highest degree of impudence. I think it is obvious what to do in this situation. If she doubts you and is looking for a new boyfriend, then she should look for a more worthy lover.
It is useless to look for someone to blame here, because she herself admitted such a thought. It's time to announce a tough ultimatum: either me or him. If you see doubts, quit.

It is clear that this is easier said than done. Feelings can outweigh any arguments of reason, but it is reason that needs to be listened to at such a moment. Most women are manipulators by nature. She may burst into tears and assure you that she loves you, but the very fact that she was looking for a replacement already says otherwise.

Intellectual

If at school a guy can be considered a nerd, then in adulthood he will become an intellectual. And such guys attract girls more than uneducated guys who can’t talk.

If you have a lot of knowledge, add a sense of humor to it all. The combination of positivity and knowledge makes a guy interesting. Girls sometimes like to listen to talkative guys who know a lot and can tell something interesting. It’s good if you have deep knowledge that you can convey to girls in a language that is simple and understandable to them.

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Smell

If a woman doesn’t like his smell, then even if he’s a millionaire living in a pool with the most expensive toilet water, it won’t make him more attractive.

This is justified both from the point of view of individuality and from the point of view of the presence of pheromones - volatile substances that can excite.

Voice

Another study proving that more than 60% of women are attracted to a man's voice. He should be low and calm. This voice is also called velvet.

Guy potential

Girls always think ahead. Undoubtedly, this prospect should be primarily beneficial to them. What can a girl “get” from a guy if she starts dating him? You should not be offended by this aspect, since guys also seek their own benefits in relationships with girls.

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A guy's potential can be measured by various factors:

He has rich parents who can provide money.
The guy earns a lot of money, which he can spend on a girl.
He has useful connections that seem interesting to the girl.
He receives a quality education that will allow him to earn a lot of money in the future.

If a guy has prospects, then he will be interesting to girls. These include character qualities that will be useful in achieving success in society.

What behavior does the guy exhibit?

An important selection criterion is the behavior that the guy demonstrates. Here it is impossible to say what it should be, since different girls are accustomed to different manners:

Give one an exemplary and intelligent boy.
Give others a brutal male.
Still others choose street boys and hooligans.
Still others prefer to communicate exclusively with cultured men who can read poetry and charm with beautiful words.

Behavior may vary. However, some girls will like it, while others will not. It is by behavior that many girls choose their boyfriends. If it matches their preferences, then they are interested in guys.

Research by psychologists

Psychologists became interested in the topic of which men women choose, having conducted a lot of research and test surveys. They concluded that there are several types of men who repel women with their behavior.

According to the famous columnist of the Thought Catalog portal Dasia Ricketts, the categories she named cause a negative reaction in the girl. This may not arise immediately, but accumulate over time, which will inevitably lead to problems in the family or a break in relationships. Let's look at these types of men in more detail later in the article.

Compatibility

Girls also evaluate gentlemen for similarities with them in emotional, sexual, psychological or moral terms. This is understood by the feeling of similarity, comfort, and finding a like-minded person. If there is compatibility with a guy at least on any level, then the girl begins to consider him as a potential partner.

Here, guys are often encouraged to at least find out about the interests of the girls they like. If you want to attract someone, then try to be similar to the girl in at least some way. This will ensure that you are at least interested.

Determination

This character trait must first of all be present in an ideal man. It is important for every girl that her boyfriend can make an important decision on his own without any hesitation and defend it to the end. Such men attract with their confidence and steadfastness. That is why women love them more than “mama’s boys” or “whiners.”

How do women choose men for themselves?

Everyone reaches the age at which a fascinating journey into the world of love, breakups, family, flirting, etc. begins. But are there any general patterns in how women choose their partners? Of course there is. And it should be noted right away that they are not unambiguous. Simply thanks to them, a certain selection takes place according to the “most suitable” principle. Plus, attention is focused on the fact that in this way it is precisely the choice of partners that occurs without the obligatory presence of love or other warm feelings for another person.

Distance. Physical and psychological distance plays an important role when choosing a suitable companion. So, for example, you will start dating the person who lives within your city, rather than the one who lives on the other side of the country. Of course, if you love the second candidate, who lives too far from where you live, then you will still choose him. But most people prefer to start relationships with those who can be both physically and psychologically closer to them.

The opposite law follows here if you suddenly need distance from other people. Do not allow those people with whom you do not build family relationships to settle or often spend the night in your home. Friends, girlfriends, colleagues and even relatives can pretty much spoil your warm feelings with the partner you love.

The necessary “range” of qualities. For example, a man is looking for an economic spirit in his companion. This is very important to him. He will choose the woman who will fully satisfy his needs, even if her competitor is a fashion model who wants to satisfy her partner sexually every day. Nothing can win a person’s heart if his partner does not have the set of qualities that he prioritizes. And no matter how pleasant it will be with another person who does not fit all the parameters, a woman will choose someone who has the entire “range” of the requirements that she puts forward for a partner. And it is not necessary that they be at the highest level of their development. The most important thing is their presence.
Qualities that are observed in only one copy. A person’s qualities that no one else possesses can play a decisive role in choosing a partner. It's like going to the store to buy your favorite cakes that aren't sold anywhere else. If a woman meets a man on her path who has unique abilities or qualities that are highly valued in the psychological aspect, but are rarely found in people, then such a candidate may be of serious interest. So, for example, a woman may fall in love with a man who visits beauty salons once a week. This is not a manifestation of homosexual qualities, but simply the presence in another person of something that surprises and attracts.
Dependence of quality on the duration of the relationship. The more long-term a person sees any relationship with a partner, the more “quality” the partner himself should be. That is, if a woman understands in advance that the relationship will not last too long, then she will not worry about such little things as love for the opposite sex, lack of calls during the day, the presence of feelings, etc. Why worry if in a couple of weeks will the relationship end? But if a person is committed to a long-term union, then he will be more attentive to various manifestations of his partner’s character.
Service. An important criterion in choosing a life partner is the partner’s behavior and lifestyle. Thus, many women choose cultured people rather than those whose speech occasionally includes obscenities. Very often, applicants are assessed on manners and habits, which are important in certain dating circles. And in order not to blush for a companion who does not know the rules of etiquette, many women take a closer look at the culture of behavior of possible partners in advance.