How to develop masculinity in yourself: the successful experience of a brutal guy

Being a man...no. Being a MAN is not easy. To achieve this, it is not enough to simply be born male and wear trousers. You need to have courage, and it, in turn, includes certain character traits and qualities, the most important of which are courage, patience, boldness, responsibility, perseverance, and self-confidence. But not every man can say that he has a full set of all these qualities. However, this should not serve as an indicator of a person’s “badness” as a man; it’s just that some qualities need to be developed in oneself. And today we will give some very good advice on how to raise a Man in yourself.

In total, we will give ten recommendations that can be safely called universal in the formation of a real male mentality.

First, let women surround you

This is probably one of the most important recommendations, because a man by nature should be close to a woman, and if there are a lot of women, then this is even better. Just don't misunderstand our advice, because... We can hardly be called supporters of polygamy. Surrounding yourself with women means interacting with them as often as possible. The fact is that in the process of communicating with women, masculinity and courage in a man are manifested most of all. If you are one of those who experience embarrassment and constraint in the company of women, your task is to overcome them - this will be the first step on the path to courage. Just try to overcome these feelings, and over time you will gain greater self-confidence, an understanding of how to behave, and the ability to carry on a conversation, etc.

Second, test yourself in a team sport.

Team sport very well develops such qualities as self-confidence, competitive spirit, and the will to win. When a person aims to go only forward together with his comrades, his character is strengthened and his inner core becomes stronger. In addition, team sport is a constant interaction with other people, in this case with teammates, thanks to which even an insecure man will gradually absorb the confidence of those who are confident in themselves, and this will begin to manifest itself in his everyday life . And another quality that is formed through team sports is patience, which is no less important in life.

Third – test yourself in extreme sports

Extreme sports, such as parachuting, diving, rock climbing, mountaineering, shooting, bungee jumping, alpine skiing, rafting, etc., including even contact martial arts, allow a man to gain one of the most important qualities for him - courage. In addition, they build confidence in themselves and their strengths, eliminate many fears, strengthen inner resilience, and impart perseverance and determination. Thus, a person in whose life there is extreme sports not only soon notices how he himself is changing, but also observes positive changes in his own life.

Signs of brutality in appearance

The main external feature that gives a man brutality is a chin of a certain shape. It is believed that the shape of this part of the face can say a lot about a person’s character.

Those with a well-defined and moderately angular chin are called brutal people. Such individuals are endowed with willpower, they are determined, purposeful, and clearly know what they want to get from life.

In addition to a strong-willed chin, brutality can be indicated by a fit, athletic figure, a neat haircut and a neat appearance.

Fourth – develop your body

It's easy to see why this is important. A priori, a man is one who has not only a strong spirit, but also a strong and developed body. But this does not mean at all that you need to make yourself a “mountain” of muscles, spending endless hours in the gym. Simple systematic physical activity is enough. You can start going to the pool, buy a barbell and a pair of dumbbells for home and exercise once every two days, do exercises or morning exercises, and go jogging. Just make it a rule to do something that will develop you physically, because strength and endurance will never become unnecessary. In addition, a strong man can always protect himself and his woman, and this is important, because... a man is a warrior from time immemorial.

Why is it so important to be brave?

Many of us have a stereotype associated with courage and courage that these qualities are needed only in extreme situations, for example, when it is necessary to save someone’s life. That is, the manifestation of courage is equal to a feat. But, you see, we don’t find ourselves in such circumstances every day. Why then is courage needed? Let's figure it out:

1. Self-development and self-realization are important for every person. But this process is inevitably associated with the fact that we have to take on more responsibility, make difficult decisions, express ourselves in unconventional ways, learn new things and use the acquired skills in practice. And, of course, making mistakes in the process—you can’t live without them. All this requires remarkable courage. After all, remember yourself at university, when you first had to write a large scientific paper. To make even an introduction, I had to overcome the “fear of a blank sheet”, the fear of the dissatisfaction of the supervisor and many other fears. It's normal when you do something for the first time, especially something that depends entirely on yourself. And this really takes courage. You also need courage to honestly look your own shortcomings in the eye - without this, true personal development is impossible.
2. Courage helps a lot in communication. Meeting a person you like on the street or in a cafe, calling a new client at work for the first time, and sometimes even just asking for a fare on a minibus - for some these tasks are not difficult, but for some people, for example, introverts, they can be practically impossible. Often this deprives us of many opportunities: to improve our personal lives, get a promotion, make new friends. And without this, life can lose its charm.
3. A lot of courage is especially needed for close relationships. Because true intimacy involves vulnerability. In order to be yourself next to a person, to reveal your “dark” side to him, in order to accept the “shadow” of a loved one, you often really need to be able to cope with many fears - the fear of being rejected, misunderstood, the fear of loss, conflicts.
4. Sometimes you need courage to solve basic life problems. We have already mentioned the notorious fare in transport, but there are enough such small tasks that require courage every day in our lives. Making an appointment with a doctor, going through an interview, filling out the necessary documents, asking directions from a passerby on the street - these methods of communication may require overcoming your fears. But without it, we simply cannot live normally in the modern world, where communication plays a vital role.
5. It takes enormous courage to be 100% yourself, to express yourself freely. Coming up with a new idea at work, being creative in solving a problem, or even just getting a bold haircut can be very difficult if you are afraid of the opinions of others or “extra” responsibility. But if a person does not overcome these fears, he lives with the feeling that he is not living his life, is not fully realized, and is relegating himself to the background.
6. A bright and rich life, new experiences also require courage. After all, a person who cannot push aside his fears will never go on a trip, ride a roller coaster, climb a mountain or deep-sea dive - in general, he will deprive himself of the opportunity to fulfill his dreams. And the result will be a boring, gray life and, of course, dissatisfaction with it and with yourself.

Courage does not mean not being afraid of anything, but it is always about the internal readiness to overcome one’s own fears, the ability to act in spite of them. [1] And fear is one of the main “brakes” of human development. Fear paralyzes, deprives you of achievements, new knowledge, new impressions, and pleasure from life.

When we make the decision to put aside our fears and become bolder, life begins to change as if by magic. In fact, this change in your behavior allows you to achieve career and creative success, create close and fulfilling relationships, meet new people and get vivid impressions. She becomes truly complete. It’s as if the picture of life was gray before, but now it’s finally painted with all the colors of the rainbow. Having become accustomed to showing courage and courage, in a few months you will not recognize yourself and your life.

In addition, courage gives an incomparable feeling of pride in oneself, self-esteem, and high self-esteem. And these feelings are very motivating for further achievements.

“All my life I seemed to be floating with the flow: school, college, boring office work. An unloved person who was “wooed” by his parents - they say, he’s a good guy, you shouldn’t miss this. I was even getting ready to get married. And on the day when they took the documents to the registry office, it was as if something clicked inside: I want to become brave! I thought: where is my life going? All my life I was a good girl, I was afraid to make decisions, I didn’t dare to express my opinion - my parents always decided everything for me. I was seriously afraid that I would never meet anyone better than my fiancé, that I would be alone forever - and I was only 23 years old, the very beginning of my life! I was afraid to be left without education, without work, without housing - who needs me, where will I go with my meager skills. Dreams of travel and creativity were pushed into the farthest box, and I had already forgotten that I once had them.

That day, I literally stopped my boyfriend in the middle of the road and said that I would not go anywhere with him any further - in every sense. The next week I resolutely quit my job. I bought paints with my vacation pay and painted excitedly for the next two weeks. And then she overcame her modesty, posted her work on social networks and the next day received her first order for illustration.

My story is not like a fairy tale: I still haven’t met my “prince,” but only because I approach relationships much more responsibly, I’m not afraid of growing old alone and I don’t grab the first person I come across. I still don’t earn millions and haven’t traveled the whole world, but I’m finally doing what I love, I feel like I’m developing every day and that I have prospects. Life has found meaning. All you had to do was cast aside your fears and doubts and take the first step. It’s good that I did it on time!”

— Anna, 25 years old

Fifth - learn to play poker

You should not think that learning to play poker is necessary for the sake of some kind of boasting, smoky evenings at the poker table or making money (although the latter will only be beneficial). Poker is a game that also develops the qualities inherent in a man, but inherent in a smart man. These are qualities such as determination, prudence, patience, ingenuity, logic, intuition, the ability to control emotional manifestations and understand people. A real man should be able to control himself and control himself in any situation, and poker can teach you this.

Social poll: who will a modern girl choose - courageous or brutal?

Based on numerous social surveys of girls of different generations, we can conclude: representatives of the fair sex confuse the concepts of courageous and brutal. If we discard them and rely on the descriptions provided, it becomes clear that 70% of girls prefer masculinity.

The remaining 30% were divided between weak, overweight and powerful men. So there is a “soul mate” for everyone in the world.

Masculinity makes an impression on others - girls admire it, men respect it. Once you develop this quality in yourself, your life will change for the better.

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Sixth, watch what you say.

This point also relates to the issue of self-control. As you know, a “long tongue” has always been the root of many problems, and unfulfilled promises are the reason for the loss of respect from others, even the closest people. A real man is not only always responsible for his words and keeps his promises, but also tries to speak exclusively to the point. This behavior allows you to earn good attitude from other people, and can also save you from unpleasant situations in life. And another advantage is that the ability to listen develops, which is important when communicating with other people.

Courageous girls

Women need masculinity for harmony and beauty. A woman’s inherent qualities help her cope with difficulties in everyday life and at work. But the level of development of masculine qualities in her should not exceed the level of a man. Otherwise, there is a chance of developing dissatisfaction with the relationship, because the woman will have to bear responsibility not only for herself and her children, but also for her husband. It is not for nothing that men are the stronger sex, and women are the weaker. Nature originally intended that the man is more important.

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There are many life examples of the manifestation of female masculinity. When fragile nurses saved the lives of soldiers under fire in the war. There are many known female soldiers in the world wars. In everyday life, representatives of the fair sex, by the will of fate, also face situations where they need to show their perseverance, confidence, and strength.

1. The woman lifted the car that had crushed her son. The guy was repairing the car, the jack slipped, and the car weighing 1350 kg crushed the man. The woman lifted the car on her own and held it until neighbors came to the rescue and pulled the young man out.
2. Malala Yousafzai, 12-year-old Pakistani girl. She asked the world to change the existing laws of her home country. Girls were prohibited from going to school, and Malala campaigned in Pakistan for women's right to education. In 2012, she was injured during a trip to school: one of the Taliban militants shot her in the head and neck. The girl managed to survive, fully recover and continue her endeavors.
3. 1941, by order of Joseph Stalin, three women's squadrons were formed. The German invaders nicknamed them “Night Witches.” Pilots, under cover of darkness, took to the air in lightweight aircraft intended for harvesting crops. Having turned off the engines, they silently approached the target and dropped bombs.

Every woman has courage, the main thing is not to confuse it with being like a man. A girl who looks like a guy is not necessarily courageous.

Seventh - try to behave with dignity

A man in every situation in life must behave exactly as a man should. This suggests that you should not commit careless acts, behave respectfully with others, especially women, not indulge your weaknesses or the weaknesses of loved ones, refrain from showing rudeness, aggression, and disrespect. A man should be an example for others, especially for his children, if he has any. If there are no children, then you need to train yourself to behave in such a way as to become a role model for them when they appear.

Consequences of cowardice

Cowardice seems like a relatively “harmless” character trait, but in fact it has a lot of serious consequences:

• people who lack courage often have mental disorders. They may suffer from increased anxiety, and this condition can develop into an anxiety disorder. In addition, cowardice is almost always associated with low self-esteem, and, alas, it is not far from apathy, serious depression and even thoughts of suicide;
• the inability to overcome the fear of communication leads to loneliness and even social isolation. Such people cannot build a strong family because they are afraid of close relationships; they rarely have children - after all, this is a huge responsibility;
• timidity and fearfulness are considered negative personality traits, and therefore are often subject to public condemnation;
• Cowardly people are often prone to cowardice: fear prevents them from being generous, sacrificial, and selfless. Other people may suffer because of this. And, of course, such a person has less chance of strong friendships and team relationships at work;
• the fear of taking responsibility at work, expressing oneself and being proactive often leads to the fact that cowardly people have a very low standard of living, and sometimes they lose their jobs completely;
• the fear of expressing oneself leads to a feeling of unfulfillment, loss, inferior and boring life;
• Cowardly people tend to be overly dependent on the opinions of others. Because of this, they can fall under the “bad” influence of others: join a sect, become addicted to drugs, start gambling, and so on. This is especially true for teenagers and young adults;
• fear of standing up for your rights can lead to financial losses, deterioration of your reputation, problems with the law and other unexpected consequences;
• finally, fear of self-development and reluctance to overcome it can lead to personality degradation.

Eighth - develop your mind

A man should pay great attention to the development of his mind. It's no secret that being smart and versatile is always good. But a man, if he really wants to be an example for others and even for himself, must constantly develop in this regard. The development of the mind means reading books, broadening one’s horizons, having a wide range of interests and various hobbies, developing intelligence and expanding the scope of personal skills and abilities, developing and training leadership qualities. Having a developed mind means having a sharp mind, a sense of humor and a large information base. By the way, this also contributes to achieving success in any area of ​​life.

Ninth – develop spiritually

When it comes to comprehensive development, you need to take into account not only the physical body and mind, but also the inner world. In other words, you need to devote time to spiritual development. This does not mean that from now on you need to completely immerse yourself in some kind of spiritual teaching, because... Quite simple, non-binding practices, such as meditation, for example, are enough. Just set aside time during the day to be alone with yourself for at least half an hour in a state of peace and tranquility. This practice allows you to stop the racing of thoughts, achieve some inner silence, relax, and put everything in your mind “on the shelves.” It also develops intuition, improves understanding of yourself and others, and helps you remain true to yourself in any situation.

Martial arts

Hand to hand combat

Boxing

Self-defense with improvised means

Possession of edged weapons

Chopping a bottle (tameshigiri) with a katana

Kata with katana

Throwing knives while running

Possession of a firearm

Shooting a gun at clay pigeons

Pistol shooting, bodyguard training course

Pistol shooting at targets

Working with a machine gun, military sports training

Tenth – strive for success

Considering that the indicators of success for each person can be completely different, here we can only say that a man must, firstly, have goals, and secondly, make efforts to achieve them. You must understand what is important to you, what you want to strive for, and what to spend your time and energy on achieving. And if you find this, if you manage to achieve the desired results, then you can already be called a successful person. And success will bring with it financial wealth, moral satisfaction, and a feeling of happiness.

These, in our opinion, are the main recommendations, following which any man will be able to develop in himself those qualities that he should possess by nature. And then he will be called a real Man with a capital M.

ANOTHER RECOMMENDATION: In fact, every person, regardless of gender, skin color, age, religion, or anything else, should strive for self-development and personal growth. But you can become a truly developed and strong personality only when you know yourself well: your personal qualities, advantages and disadvantages, preferences, meaning in life, the most important values, etc. At first glance, it may seem that achieving such self-knowledge can be very difficult and you can spend a lot of time on it, but we want to tell you that this is far from the case. To know yourself, you just need to have a system and understand how to use it. We can offer you both - we invite you to take our self-knowledge course, which will reveal to you many secrets and interesting things about yourself. Follow this link and start getting to know yourself.

And we wish you courage in completing our course!

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• The main life values ​​of people: what is most important in life and how to understand it?
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Courage: examples from life

Every person, even a quiet and calm person, is capable of a feat. Many people, due to uncertainty or cowardice, do not commit it, but under certain life circumstances they can act boldly and decisively.

Crime is also a brave act, but it has nothing to do with courage. The latter are not done for the sake of material benefits, but for the protection and salvation of someone or oneself.

There are many life examples of courage. Here are some of them:

1. 1961 Antarctica. Dr. Leonid Rogozov had an attack of appendicitis while on duty and developed peritonitis. A surgeon capable of performing an operation had to travel 1 thousand km. Naturally, Leonid would not have survived; he decided to operate on his own. Using a mirror, novocaine, a scalpel, and with the help of two untrained assistants, he performed the operation and successfully removed his appendix.
2. Frank Folley, British intelligence officer. During the Great Patriotic War he was an employee of the British Embassy in Berlin. Thanks to him, 9 thousand Jews did not become victims of the Holocaust. Taking advantage of his official position, he forged passports, visas and travel documents. Frank sometimes managed not only to facilitate the departure of people from Berlin, but also to rescue people from concentration camps, providing them with an alibi by the presence of documents.
3. At the end of April 2003, a young man named Aaron Ralston went hiking in Utah's Blue John Canyon. As he descended the crevice, a collapse occurred and a boulder weighing more than 300 kg pinned Aaron's hand. At first he tried to move and crush the stone, but nothing worked. Mobile communications did not work, and there was very little food. The young man spent five days locked up, languishing from terrible pain, thirst, and hunger. Then he decided to amputate his arm. After he broke the bones, he had to cut off his hand with a penknife, which had become dull from trying to break the stone. Aaron went down to the bottom of the gorge and walked along the canyon for about 10 km until he met people. Afterwards, the guy wrote a book about what happened, on the basis of which the feature film “127 Hours” was shot.
4. Kimberly Dear was about to jump with a parachute for the first time in her life. The instructor was Robert Cook. But after the plane gained altitude, the engine stopped working. The man put the girl on his lap and tied her with belts. When the plane crashed, Robert was hit, which saved Kimberly.
5. In 1976, Shavarsh Karapetyan, the Armenian swimming champion, alone saved people from a sinking trolleybus. The transport, which contained 92 people, fell into cold water 24 m from the shore. Shavarsh jumped after him, the trolleybus sank 10 meters. According to eyewitnesses, it took the man about half a minute to save each person. He pulled out the victims until he himself lost consciousness from the cold. Afterwards, he suffered from pneumonia for a long time with complications, adhesions formed on his lungs, and every breath gave him severe pain. Shavarsh Karapetyan was awarded the Order of the USSR Badge of Honor.
6. Gino Strada, a world-famous surgeon, head of the Italian organization “Emergency”. Over 25 years, he performed 30,000 operations as a field surgeon in Iraq, Cambodia, Afghanistan, and Sudan. He opened more than 45 medical centers in front-line zones, where more than 100 thousand people were saved.
7. In New Mexico, a woman saved children. The school bus driver had a seizure, Rhonda Carlsen noticed this and caught up with the vehicle. She ran alongside, asked the children with gestures to unlock the doors and, once inside, stopped the bus. Everyone remained safe and sound.

The list of cases can be endless. Especially when you consider how many actions people committed during the Great Patriotic War. How many heroes received their awards, many posthumously.

"...never, never, never give up"

Winston Churchill