How to ask for forgiveness correctly: ready-made phrases

How to apologize to a girl beautifully: Pixabay Building relationships is serious and hard work. Lovers sometimes quarrel, say hurtful words to each other, and commit unseemly acts. How to apologize to a girl if you made a mistake or said something stupid in the heat of a quarrel? In the article you will find practical advice on how to properly apologize to a girl, as well as beautiful words that will melt your beloved’s heart.

Beautiful apologies to a girl

My lies may have been the dark clouds, but your forgiveness will be the stars and the sun in our relationship. I beg your pardon.
If you don’t see the tears in my eyes, then I beg you to at least feel the pain in my heart. I am sorry. It's sad that your love so kind was spoiled by my selfish mind.
It's sad that your so selfless love had to deal with all this mess. And now, ironically, my regret and grief are seen as fake. Tell me, what do I need to do to make you believe in the sincerity of my apology? I'm ready to do it.
My dishonest mind made the mistake of lying to you. But my heart and soul are forever devoted to love only for you. Therefore, I ask for your forgiveness.
Before you forgive me, I want you to hug me and put your hand on my heart. Maybe you'll feel it tearing apart. Because my actions caused you pain. But with every blow you will hear the words “excuse me.”
I'm sorry! Let's move from anger or resentment to love and communication, if you are ready to accept my apology. (We recommend reading ways on how you can successfully manage your anger and irritation).
I am ready to apologize to you in front of all my friends and family. And even publish your apology on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Vkontakte. So that everyone knows how sorry I am for offending you.

Preparatory stage

Any action of a person must be balanced and carefully thought out.
Before asking for forgiveness, you need to think through a plan of action.
If you decide to apologize using words, you need to think about what names will be appropriate in this situation, make sure that they are convincing, will be sufficiently emotional, not hysterical, and will not contain obscene words.
You need to remember words like “sorry”, “excuse me”. The offended young lady will definitely expect something like this.
Before making an appointment with your loved one, you also need to think through the answers to the questions that may be asked. The girl may be interested in:

Do you know what the reason for the offense is,
What exactly allowed you to behave this way?
How do you plan to avoid such behavior in the future?

SMS apology to the girl for the offense caused

I'm sorry about what happened. I fully admit that this is only my fault, so I want to do everything to correct my mistake. Because I love you! And the last thing I want to see is you suffering because of me.
I have never forgotten you, but now I apologize for the harm I did to you. I want to light up your smile again where I turned it off. Allow yourself to restore your heart.
I really don't want our story to end in a misunderstanding. Therefore, I am ready to compensate for my apologies not only with words, but also to shower you with kisses. Because I love you too much to lose you.
Life is like a book, where every day is one page, clearly different from the other. Each of us has pages that he would like to tear up and throw away, but this is prohibited! Instead, we can take the pen of the heart and the power of love to begin to write a new chapter together, if you will forgive me.
I know that when you hurt the person you love most, there are hardly words that can correct this mistake. That's why I'm not going to apologize just for the words, but I want to apologize for the facts. Little everyday facts, if you give me the opportunity to apologize to you.
Forgive me for the harm I brought to your heart. I hope you will forgive me and erase from your memory the day when I offended you, even if it is marked with indelible ink. Of course, there is no excuse for my actions, but I will continue to hope for your forgiveness.
I can't forget you, it's too difficult for me. I should hate myself for the evil I did to you, but I hate even more that I don’t know how to write a beautiful apology to the girl I love in my own words. Sorry to write to you about this, but it's true. Please don't hate me, but understand!

Presence effect

How to apologize to a girl in an original way? You can use the tricks of avid romantics and love adventurers: create the effect of presence in her daily life. How to do it?

Over the course of a long relationship or life together, you have probably managed to learn several mandatory “rituals” for her daily pastime.

Does she like morning jogs along the embankment? Leave her some sign that can tell her that you were here today. On the coastal bench near which she does her warm-up, leave the usual box of food for the dabbling ducks, which you sometimes pamper together while jogging together. Memories of you will come flooding back to her, the girl will feel longing for the old days and will probably be touched.

Does she like to drink a cup of coffee without sugar and eat a croissant with raspberry jam during a break from work in the cafe next door to the office? At lunchtime, book her a table with a delicious duet of her favorite foods already prepared. Notify the administrator in advance. She will be pleasantly surprised that you remember her every second and skillfully try to win her back.

Create the effect of presence in her daily life. Such steps will be unobtrusive and will fit quite well into her measured rhythm, giving you the opportunity to reflect on how you are actively trying to apologize to her beautifully.

Apologies to a guy in your own words

Are you looking for a beautiful phrase that can express your feelings? Are you thinking about apologizing to your beloved boyfriend or man, but have not yet found the right words? Below you will find examples of such apologies that you can send to your boyfriend.
Since we started dating, you've done everything I've asked of you. As a final favor, please excuse me so that I can now also begin to fulfill your requests.
I cried while I still had tears. Then she sobbed until her head began to throb. And then I screamed until my voice disappeared. I was heartbroken because you turned your back on me and we stopped talking. I am very guilty before you. Please accept my apologies.
Breaking up with you is something that never even crossed my mind. It seems you are adamantly determined to break up with me. Yes, I know that you have the right to do this after the humiliation and insults that you experienced because of my action. But please, let me make it a romantic evening for you. Let me win your heart again to show you how desperately I love you. As I cry for mercy, I ask you to forgive me.
I apologize for the angry messages on your Facebook, emails and all the text messages on your mobile phone sent by me. My jealousy and possessiveness led me into a very unpleasant area. To justify me, try to understand my feelings. What could I do if I have the most handsome guy who other ladies don’t mind taking away? I misinterpreted your behavior with them and that’s why I lost my temper. If you love me, then please forgive me and help my jealousy to end.
It really annoys me when pretty girls try to flirt with you. Since I'm your girlfriend, I can't feel at ease. But I promise that next time I will try not to lose my head and behave more restrained. I will try to learn to trust you, especially when girls will “drool” when they see you. I ask for your leniency and forgiveness.

In a letter

Sometimes it’s very difficult for a guy to get over himself and say “I’m sorry” to a girl. In such situations, a handwritten message will help you apologize correctly. It could be:

a note attached to the mirror or left on the refrigerator, on the table,
message on social network,
letter sent by email,
romantic option, an ordinary paper letter left in the mailbox,
You can send a courier to her home with a bouquet of flowers, which will contain a note of apology.

Apologies to a man in your own words

To you, so kind, generous, beloved and merciful, I cry out in tears for forgiveness. You and only you can certainly forgive me. Please believe my feelings and how bitterly I regret the circumstances that happened. Darling, please excuse me.
I'm very sorry for doubting your honesty. I thought you were deceiving me. After all, for me you are hotter than fire and sweeter than honey and this is my problem. Therefore, when I see other girls hovering around you, I start to feel jealous. But now I promise to try to control my jealousy.
I long to see the smile on your face. I long to be in your arms - that’s my favorite place. I know I did completely wrong things. But please, I beg your forgiveness. Sorry if you can!
I apologize for my craziness the other day. I swear that I didn’t behave this way on purpose, my hormonal changes and mood swings were to blame. Because of them, I annoyed you in every possible way. But I promise that I will fight this because I don’t want to lose you.
Take me back into your arms, holding me tightly to you. Feel my heavy breathing with sadness for having offended you. Look into my eyes, hearing the apology, and hug me with a kiss. Forgive me my love!
I know that because of my character, I am not the girl you deserve. But I promise you that I will never stop trying to become her. Forgive me and forgive me, please. Sorry darling!
I long to rest my head on your strong shoulders again. I'm sorry and I really want you to hug me again. I'm sorry and I hope you can love me again. I'm sorry... I just hope you can make me smile again.
I look ugly when I cry and howl in pain. Now it's in your hands to forgive me and make me look beautiful again. Please, darling, I'm sorry!

Sequencing

Talk sincerely, be calm.
Control the tone of your conversation, intonation and choose the right words.
Start a conversation with the phrase “can I talk to you.”
Ask what exactly offended her if you don’t know the reason.
Try to put yourself in her place and realize that this act really hurt the girl.
Promise that this will not happen again in the future, and you will try your best to prevent this from happening.
If the situation is right, smile and kiss your partner.

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If a guy knows how to approach his chosen one correctly in order to win her favor again, then he is very lucky. It’s more difficult when a girl’s feelings have simply cooled down, if resentment is a way to hasten the separation. In such a situation, the young man will think about how to apologize, and the girl will look for a reason to be more offended.

If the couple, in principle, does not think about breaking up, then after asking for forgiveness, it is necessary:

try to have a heart-to-heart talk, even if the girl tries to push her out the door,
you need to explain the purpose of your coming,
if she wants to express her complaints and throw a tantrum, there is no need to interfere,
it is important to clearly explain the reasons for your action, wait to see how the girl reacts,
There is no need to interrupt the young lady, let her speak out about all the painful things.

Where to begin?

Before apologizing, it is important to consider a few things. Otherwise, you can mess things up even if you have the best intentions. There is no point in sorting things out when you are irritated. Wait until you both cool down. And a few more tips:

When figuring out how to ask a girl for forgiveness, in poetry or prose, it is important to be sincere.

A hint of sarcasm is inappropriate, even if you are sure you are right. An expression like: “Sorry, I didn’t think you couldn’t take a joke” can be perceived as mockery. If you are sincere, your eyes and your tone of voice will show it. Even if the offense is not justified, acknowledge that you may have hurt feelings. A sincere apology removes the wall that is built by the offended person. Destroy this wall and you will notice that the girl is no longer in a defensive position, peace has been restored.

Different upbringings need to be taken into account.

What may seem like a funny joke to you may be an insult to someone else. There is no need to beg the feelings of another or make fun of them in any way. If it’s common practice in your family to tease each other and no one gets offended by it, this does not mean that this is the norm for others. Don't demand that people adapt to you and understand your jokes. Over time, this may happen, but for now, apologize and no longer make funny jokes about others.

The emotional background also needs to be taken into account; it is different for each person.

Growing up in the same family, the characters cannot be the same. Some are more emotional, others not so much. You think it’s okay to take your sister’s sweater without permission, but this may annoy her. The result was a scandal. You think that your sister got wound up in vain. Listen to her words, and not to the tone in which it was said. Try to understand what she doesn't like. Understanding will help you come to the right decision. And if you need to ask your sister for forgiveness, then do not hesitate. Understand that she may feel differently than you do.

The ability to surprise

In order to surprise your beloved, it is not at all necessary to put a sombrero on your head, learn to play the guitar and climb on a horse to perform a serenade under the windows of her house. Although this option is practically a win-win.

It is enough to do something that is absolutely not inherent in you. Surprise her by the fact that you, contrary to your principles and character, are ready to ask her for forgiveness in front of everyone. Order an apology inscription on a billboard in front of her office windows, give her an apology message on the air of her favorite radio show. Do what you were previously embarrassed to do due to your “anti-romanticism,” as you think. If you manage to surprise her, you are guaranteed to succeed in getting her forgiveness.

Rules: what else is important to consider besides words of forgiveness

Look the person in the eye.
Don't hold back your emotions.
If you want to cry, cry.
Call the person by name.
Be honest and sincere.
Don't try to immediately ask for forgiveness. This may take time.
Put yourself in the shoes of the offended person, understand his feelings.
Accept the person's reaction after your words.

On the need to admit guilt

A confidential conversation will help prevent the development of a conflict situation. But this is a preventive measure; now it’s too late to think about it. Don’t make hasty decisions without understanding the situation and talking openly.

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Now only constructive dialogue will help. If you offend a girl, you need to admit guilt. Mistakes are not bad, quite the contrary. Thanks to the experience gained, you will not act this way in the future.

Without admitting mistakes, you limit yourself in development. There is a 100% chance that in the future you will repeat your offense and carry the burden of an unresolved problem.

Final advice

If you think that the girl was offended just like that, and you are not to blame for anything, try to analyze this situation in more detail, looking at it not only from your side.

Sometimes guys mistakenly think that girls create scandals and whims out of nowhere for the sake of... fun, because this should be a kind of shake-up for the relationship or a way to make a man more flexible.

But, by and large, guys simply see the situation one-sidedly and selfishly, without thinking that in some moments they can really go too far.

Advice

: Never jump to conclusions or make impulsive decisions. Always put yourself in a girl’s shoes - this is the surest way to understand her feelings.

By the way, we even have a special 8-point checklist that will allow you to understand how selfish you are in a relationship. Well, are you ready to find out the whole truth about yourself?

Author: Dmitry Petrosyants

Finding a solution

The final step in preparing to make amends. When the main cause of the quarrel is clear, it’s time to think about how to fix everything. Try to imagine how the girl felt and what words would help better convey the reason for what happened. The optimal solution will be one that will not allow you or your significant other to experience pain about this anymore. A real man always keeps his word - if you say that this will not happen again, you must do everything so as not to break your promise. The girl will remember your words and will love and respect you even more when the promise remains valid for a long (preferably infinite) time. Otherwise, trust in the couple will be undermined, gradually and painfully bringing separation closer.

Basic rules and principles

Girls are sensitive and vulnerable natures. Treat them with gentleness so as not to hurt their feelings or make the situation worse. Before you apologize to your loved one, remember a few rules:

Don't rush things. After a fight, both parties need a little time to cool down and think about the situation. Otherwise, the quarrel may develop into a scandal.
Don't come up with words of repentance and don't rehearse them in front of the mirror. Have a sincere conversation with your loved one, do not turn the relationship into a game.
Don't apologize via text. Girls love to feel important and needed, so it’s better to ask for forgiveness in person. Naturally, this does not apply to cases when you are in different cities.
During a conversation, do not talk only about your feelings, try to understand your partner, put yourself in his place.

There are no standard rules, because girls are different. Do not adhere to a silent boycott, then you will definitely make peace.