How to confess your love to a girl [5 steps]: by correspondence and in real life

If a person in love cannot decide to tell the object of love to his face about his feelings, then he should turn to a letter. When your anxiety is off the charts and you realize that you won’t be able to say important words during a personal meeting, write them down. How to confess your love in correspondence and not ruin everything?

Before deciding on such an important event, you need to put aside all feelings and sensibly assess the situation: do you feel reciprocal sympathy from your interlocutor? When you can answer yes to this question, then you should move on to action. Otherwise, premature recognition will ruin all subsequent communication.

Preparation before declaring your love

Every person is afraid to open his soul and be rejected. Especially when it comes to such subtle matter as feelings. In what cases is it impossible to get a refusal? Only if the girl already has reciprocal feelings for you, then all that remains is to say things out loud that both of you understand.

To find out your chances of success, I suggest taking a three-question quick test. If you have collected three “yes” and can substantiate each one, you are ready for a declaration of love and can make full use of the advice from the article. If you have doubts, do not rush to open your heart, it can be fraught.

Are you already in a close relationship?

Confessing your love to a girl you barely know is not a good idea. And in general, I advise you not to rush into this matter: as soon as you say the “three magic words,” your relationship will reach a point of no return. After this, you will either be together, or your communication will gradually fade away. This is how human relationships work, and my experience and that of my friends once again confirms this.

Make sure that you and the girl are close to each other. If you regularly spend time together outside of school or work (at least 3 times a week), often text or call each other, communication is active both on your part and on her part - everything is fine. Otherwise, I advise you to wait and wait for the moment when everything with your sympathy for each other will be clear without words.

Does she take the initiative in communication?

Girls are different, and even if you communicate with her regularly, this is not a reason to think that everything is fine. It is important that she takes the initiative in communication herself, and not just accepts your advances and proposals.

I'll tell you honestly: every active girl has at least three boyfriends with whom she regularly communicates. And here’s how you can determine that she is considering you as a potential boyfriend:

she writes to you first;
you have a lively dialogue, she doesn’t answer in monosyllables and doesn’t disappear for a day;
you are aware of what is happening in her life, what she is interested in and what she loves;
she laughs at your jokes, smiles often, looks into your eyes;
actively accepts an offer to go for a walk/meet, etc.

Even if you received an affirmative answer to all points, it is best to rely on your gut feeling. Often we wishful thinking, and in this case only an internal worm of doubt can shed light on the true state of affairs.

Does it make you stand out from others?

The last question that will make you understand whether you should tell a girl that you love her is whether she treats you better than the guys around her. If you are united by a common team, it will be very easy to find out. The situation is a little more complicated if you communicate only on the Internet, but here everything is not hopeless.

Your main task is to evaluate whether you are winning the competition with the other guys around her. If she communicates with you with interest and more than with others, likes most of your photos, you spend most of your free time together (the criteria are given as an example) - everything goes according to plan.

Important! Answer these questions honestly—first of all, to yourself. The outcome of your confession depends on whether you objectively perceive the situation.

Advice for a 14 year old teenager

First love, the most vivid and exciting feeling, usually comes at the age of 14-16. Many teenagers are embarrassed by their feelings; they don’t know how to behave. Usually, behind this lies the fear of a new feeling, or the fear of being rejected.

To overcome fear and doubt, you need to imagine what will happen in case of refusal - you can imagine situations that are even absurd.

By clearly outlining the various scenarios, you can understand whether this is something to be afraid of, perhaps this is not a critical situation and you shouldn’t worry so much. Yes, it may be offensive and unpleasant, but life does not end there.

Sometimes teenagers hide their feelings because they do not want to impose themselves or bother a person:

In this case, it is worth understanding that the reaction of others does not depend on him, it is a purely personal choice of a person - to accept or reject.
But on the other hand, without trying, you won’t know.

You can try to confess your feelings through social networks, anonymously, or pass a note through a friend. The object of love will not feel discomfort, but rather will be pleased by someone's sympathy.

How to confess your love to a girl if she is your friend

The issue of love growing out of friendship deserves special attention. Honestly, I think this type of relationship is the most favorable. But therein lies the rub: how can you tell if she wants more?

In the case of declaring your love to a friend, the main thing you must remember is the medical principle “do no harm.” Here you need to move towards the goal gradually, without sudden movements, so that you can always roll back. And first you need to “scout the situation.”

There are only two scenarios in friendship with a girl. Either she sees you only as her friend (you're not her type - it's nice to talk to you and spend time with you, but nothing more), or your friendship is an excuse for her to spend more time with you. She actually likes you, but she doesn't want to take the initiative on her own.

And here are a few signs that your case is the first, which means that if you declare your love to a girl who was your friend, you may be rejected:

she tells you about the guys she likes and asks for advice;
she is not shy about appearing unsightly in front of you, she behaves like a “bro”;
treats you the same as others, you do not feel increased attention or special affection towards yourself.

To avoid ruining your friendship, it's best to wait and make sure she sees you as more than just a friend. And when you are sure of this, say it directly or use any of the methods described below.

Tip No. 10. Hold a personal “live” meeting.

All words spoken to a girl in the virtual world must be created from the pure truth, since a personal meeting of two people becomes the peak of communication on VKontakte.

Live communication, real emotions, genuine feelings, truthful words - this is all that awaits two previously ordinary interlocutors. In the best case, two people are already connected not just by communication and recognition of each other, but by much more: tenderness, care, affection and Love.

In the worst case, there may be a complete absence of these magical feelings and emotions during a personal meeting. This outcome of the situation is possible if the couple has never seen each other before in life.

Often couples impose both feelings and emotions on themselves, since they have not fully learned all the subtleties and shortcomings of the chosen interlocutor. But you should never give up and think that this is a collapse. No, that's not true at all.

Even if the young man did not receive the expected emotions from the first meeting, then there is nothing wrong with that. The first meeting is quite an exciting event to go through. The game is worth the candle!

How to confess your love in life: a selection of romantic ways

Give her dinner

With this method, you can choose options for any budget. A picnic in nature, a trip to a restaurant with live music, a home-cooked dinner by candlelight, or ordering her favorite dishes from a delivery service - choose what you like best. The main thing is that you arrange a date with soul and take care of all the little things - this is important to girls. You may think that these methods are trivial, but nevertheless they all work great.

Meet her at night

Night time can magically affect the environment, making it more romantic and mysterious. If you and your girlfriend like to walk in the evenings or at night, you can confess your love while lying on the grass and looking at the starry sky, climbing a tall building or roof, or going on vacation with tents outside the city. By taking care of organizing your date, you will prove to the girl that you love her, not in word, but in deed.

Write her a surprise note

To ensure that everything goes according to plan, you can express your feelings on paper. Write a note or letter to your girl telling her how important she is to you and how much you want to be with her. To make the content of the letter more romantic, you can remember the moment when you first felt love for her, or describe meetings you had that strengthened your feelings. In the age of technology, when we have already lost the habit of paper, receiving a handwritten letter is very valuable.

Option for the brave

If you don't mind being the center of attention and would like to make a declaration of love with a specific shock effect, you can do it in front of everyone. For example, in a karaoke, cafe, square, school or any other place. Ideally, have a microphone handy; in a pinch, your loud voice will do. People around you will applaud and be happy for you, and the girl will feel like a star. The most important thing: before choosing this option, make sure that you can remain confident until the very end, think through your speech well, and, most importantly, think whether the girl herself will appreciate such a wow effect.

Tell me straight

Sometimes there is no need to invent unusual methods at all - the meaning of your words will already provide the desired effect. If you feel “out of place”, it is better to abandon a creative declaration of love in favor of simple, but no less pleasant words. The main thing is to look confident, and for this you must be in a comfortable environment.

Tip #8: Involve your friends.

You can also attract recognition from your friends in your video by organizing, for example, a flash mob or a quest.

All actions of a flash mob or quest that take place are recorded on a video camera. A flash mob can be organized in the shape of a pulsating heart, in the center of which there will be a man already painfully familiar to the girl. Before such an important event, it is necessary to rehearse your confession so that everything is organized and harmonious.

Friends can also take part in the quest. Scatter, for example, certain tasks in different places of the park, after completing which the team of players will receive one letter each. At the end of the quest, friends must put all the letters together and voice this strong encrypted phrase “...I love you.” Next, you need to edit a video confession and send it to your significant other as a message.

How to confess your love by correspondence

Confessing to a girl that you like her via SMS is an excellent option for those who are not ready to talk about such things in person or want to insure themselves in case of unforeseen developments in the dialogue. And here are some appropriate ways to confess your love to a girl by correspondence on VK, WhatsApp, Viber or any other resource.

Sometimes recognition is not just three words

Don’t rush to tell a girl that you love her, even if you have already decided this question for yourself a long time ago. Show your sympathy not just with words, but with actions. Be sincerely interested in her life, hobbies, problems. Support and reassure when needed. Give compliments, initiate communication, and be there more often, even when it comes to online communication. Girls always recognize such attention from a guy, so by her response you will immediately understand whether you have a chance for reciprocity.

Send her a romantic song

One of the ways to veiledly confess your love is to do it “with someone else’s hands.” In this case, with the help of a beautiful song with touching words. Send your girl a song that says exactly what you want to tell her. If you want to keep the intrigue going, you can say that you just liked her and you want the girl to appreciate her. Believe me, she will understand everything correctly.

Write a poem for her

This option is suitable for creative individuals who do not want to remain silent about their feelings. Creativity is sweet and romantic. Many girls consider this type of confession to be the most touching, and a girl who is older than you will especially appreciate it. If your crush loves poetry, consider dedicating a poem to her to make her melt.

Lifehack! If you want to make recognition for your creativity, but you don’t shine with creativity yourself, there are a bunch of special freelance sites. For a symbolic cost, you can hire a person who will write a beautiful text for you - a declaration of love, a song or a poem about it.

Why is he silent

There are many reasons why the chosen one does not throw himself at his feet with confessions. It depends on them what a man’s reaction will be to recognition from a girl. Be prepared for both reciprocity and harshness, sometimes even ridicule.

timidity and shyness;
fear of being the first to make contact or move to a new level of relationship;
fear of being rejected (after all, guys are sometimes more vulnerable than girls);
your relationship is now full of romance, trepidation, he gives flowers, accompanies you home, but is afraid to scare you off with haste;
Non-verbal messages and feelings are more important to him; he values actions above words;
the loved one has not yet decided on his feelings, he feels sympathy, but not yet love.

It is important to recognize the temperament of your loved one in time. If a guy is a narcissist by nature and is constantly surrounded by girls, recognition will only tickle his pride. In the opposite position, a shy person, an adherent of traditional views, will be dumbfounded by such pressure and will try to disappear from the environment. Tactics need to be carefully thought out, and not just go for broke. And, in general, do all men like it when they are declared in love, because then they are assigned the role of a driven partner? Let's figure it out.

How to secretly confess your love: minimizing the likelihood of screwing up

Casually mention your future together

Making it clear that you see a girl in your future life is an important hint that she will definitely recognize and understand correctly. You can do this as a joke, in response to her remark, or discreetly, casually. When you talk about your plans, mention her often, as if she will always be there for you. This will let her know that you are serious about your communication.

Give romantic gifts

There are functional gifts, there are necessary ones, and there are gifts “for the soul.” These are cute and impractical things that will bring pleasant emotions to most girls and will say about your feelings for you:

Flowers and their derivatives: floral cards, original bouquets, hand-picked compositions, and so on;
Memorable or symbolic things for her;
Stuffed Toys;
Sweets;
Cute trinkets and trinkets;
DIY gift;
Walk or experience.

Unlike other gifts, romantic little things (especially those given for no reason) immediately hint that you have feelings for the girl.

Important! Don't think that this list is a ready-made instruction. All people are different: after all, some people may simply not like flowers and trinkets. Therefore, always start from the character and tastes of your object of sympathy.

Give her compliments

Girls recognize well when guys want to show sympathy, so in order to safely hint about your feelings, it will be enough to simply tell her something pleasant about herself. Just don’t tell her that she is “beautiful”, “pretty” or “sweetheart” - these words are pleasant, but too banal. You can praise her hairstyle, makeup, clothing style, laugh, charisma, eye color, figure, sharp mind, sense of humor, resourcefulness... The main thing is to do it sincerely and talk about what you really like about her.

Tip #3: Find common topics of conversation.

If a girl plays the same sport, or reads similar books, or listens to the same music as the guy in love, then we can give 100% that this future union can have development and prospects. A common cause brings us closer together.

But if the chosen interlocutor is radically different from the fictitious ideal, do not be upset, because it is known all over the world that opposites attract. Don't go back, forward and only forward!

On VKontakte you can send your interlocutor an interesting video or article. It’s worth getting your potential soulmate interested, that is, discussing this masterpiece of cinema or literature together. Going through some interesting tasks and questions together, both sides will get the impression that they are solving and finding a way out of this or that situation, too, together.

Ready-made phrases for declaration of love

The Internet offers a lot of psychological advice and phrases for writing to a girl about your feelings. Among them there are many frankly inappropriate options that look too intrusive, hyperbolic or simply funny. I have chosen ten relevant and beautiful examples of declarations of love that you can take note of, adapt to yourself and send to your girl.

When I see a message from you or meet you in person, my heart always beats at an accelerated pace.
I want you to know that you occupy a special place in my life.
I would like to explain to you what love is and tell you everything that I think about you, but I cannot find the words.
You know, no matter how annoying the people around me are, having you in my life makes it much better.
Thank you for being in my life. I really appreciate this and want us to become even closer to each other.
Today you are even more beautiful than the day we met. It seems to me that you are becoming more and more beautiful every day. Or is it my attitude towards you that is changing?
You are the only one who has sunk into my soul. I feel like you and I are more than friends and that's why I would like to officially court you.
I like to watch you and discover more and more touching little things in your habits, character and manners.
You are the most charming girl I have ever met.
Since I met you, everything has changed in my life. You inspire me and I feel like the happiest person every day. I want you to give me a chance to show how much I am in love with you and how happy I would be to be with you.

Important! The best declaration of love is an unobtrusive, kind and warm explanation of your feelings in your own words. Don’t rush to dumbfound the girl, don’t dump everything that’s on your mind on her. Do it in an environmentally friendly and dignified way.

Better SMS to a girl

To convince your beloved of the sincerity of your feelings, you don’t need to be a poet. A good SMS to a girl will easily cope with this problem. Don't wait for a special occasion. You can send SMS to your wife every day in your own words, delighting her with your affection and attention.

If you are separated by kilometers, morning wishes for a sweet awakening are especially pleasant. SMS in the morning to a girl in her own words gives good tranquility and strength.

TOP 20 best SMS messages to your girlfriend

You are as beautiful as the dawn, warm as the sun, and light as the sea breeze.
Darling, we are separated by cities, and I miss you very much.
I'm sadly walking to work. Without you there is only sadness around. Come back.
I miss you so much that everything falls out of my hands. All thoughts are about you.
The sun is shining brightly, the cats are purring! How good you are.
Woke up already? The sun shone brighter, my girl stood up.
I have never met such lovely creatures on earth.
I'm lucky in life. After all, I have you.
Let the passing day take with it all worries. And you, close your eyes and sleep peacefully.
Now I remembered you and forgot where I was going to go, what are you doing to me!
Go to sleep. The earth was already covered with the veil of night.
I'm sad to be apart from you. It’s good that when I close my eyes, I can imagine you in my mind.
If you suddenly feel bad, remember, I am there, and I will always support you.
I look at your photo and there is a dance of butterflies in my stomach, a rainbow in my soul, and happiness in my eyes.
I want your day to start well and end even better!
You are the one I think about every minute!
I feel bad without you, I fall asleep thinking about you...
Good day, dear! For such a beautiful girl, he simply has to be kind.
I love you with all my soul, and that is more than enough for me.
My life becomes complete only with you.

When is the best time to confess your feelings?

You are faced with the task of not only choosing the right words, but also choosing the right moment. Here are some win-win options for confessing your sympathy to a girl:

her birthday or any other holiday - February 14, March 8, and so on;
the day when something made her very happy - she won a competition, successfully defended her work, received a lucrative contract, or bought the thing of her dreams;
after the first kiss;
when you notice a clear manifestation of sympathy in her direction;
when you amuse or make her laugh, you feel good together;
waiting for the moment when you can no longer keep it to yourself.

For your confession to be remembered and have the desired effect, it must be associated with positive emotions and touching moments. This is why I advise choosing holidays or other pleasant events. And if you can’t wait to tell a girl that you love her, cheer her up and create a holiday yourself by organizing a date.

If there is no reciprocity

If there is no response from a man for a long time, there is silence in the messages, there are probably two outcomes. Either the guy is shocked by what he heard, or the feelings are not mutual. To test the first theory, you should wait a few days for an answer. There is no need to bombard him with messages, questions, or call him every hour at this time. Let your loved one think it over calmly. Perhaps he will gather his thoughts and arrive with an armful of roses. Otherwise, do not lose heart and become depressed.

So what should you do if you confessed your love, opened up to a guy, but he doesn’t feel the same and rejected you? There are several taboos in this case:

do not give in to emotions, do not write angry messages or insult him;
no need to impose, beg to be together, don’t bombard your loved one with hundreds of messages, don’t call.

You need to respect your chosen one and accept his answer with dignity. You opened up and stopped being tormented by unnecessary doubts. Perhaps in the future he will change his mind and become ready for a serious relationship, but for now you can let go. Now you know for sure that you can take the first step, that you are a confident and strong person. Let this loss be a great lesson and help you look at other guys differently. Probably, while you were busy, there was that one person nearby who was trying in every possible way to show his affection.

When you shouldn't confess your love

Despite the fact that these words are difficult to spoil, there are a couple of circumstances under which it is better not to say them:

Correspondence. If you have never confessed your love to a girl before, messengers are not the best place for your first romantic words. I understand that this method seems more “safe,” but it’s still better to choose at least a conversation on the phone so that the confession is remembered.
In the midst of a quarrel. If you are both emotional and negative, shouting out your cherished confession in a fit of anger is a bad idea. Unfortunately, this only looks impressive in the movies. In reality, you risk ruining the moment of the first declaration of love and forever linking it with a negative moment.
In the process of manipulation. For example, persuading a girl to do something she doesn’t want, appealing to the fact that you love her. Manipulation is basically bad. Manipulating feelings - you can't imagine anything worse.

Another thing that can ruin a confession of feelings is haste. If you and a girl are developing a relationship and you enjoy each other's company, it is better to let the feelings develop on their own, without using an accelerator in the form of recognition. Say the cherished words out loud already when everything is clear without them. This is especially true for girls united with you in one team: classmates, colleagues, classmates, and so on.

Preparing for Rejection

An important point when deciding to confess to a loved one is the awareness of a possible refusal. The likelihood increases with short-term relationships or their absence before an explanation of feelings.

If there is no reciprocity, you should not blame the person or give up; it is better to behave with dignity and thank you for the truth. In addition, it is no secret that a woman needs to be wooed. Perhaps after some time it will be possible to win the favor of your beloved, and the situation will change radically.

At the same time, it is recommended to avoid intrusive methods; it is better to accept the status of a friend, always ready to help. If the girl does not show sympathy or interest in any communication, you will have to step aside - then this is not your destiny.

Be ready to accept rejection

I don’t want to end on a sad note, but there’s no way without such a warning: you must be prepared for the fact that she may refuse you. In this case, do not forget that failure is only part of the path to success, and not its end. This does not mean that you will never have a relationship - perhaps she is not ready to agree to it now or responded impulsively without thinking. Give her time and treat any outcome of events easily and naturally.

And if you still haven’t decided to confess your love to a woman or girl, let this article be the sign you’ve been waiting for. A person who is ready to face his fears is always worthy of respect!

Confirmation by actions

No matter how beautiful words are, they must always be confirmed by actions. Many people, unfortunately, forget about this simple truth. Even after mutual recognition, one must show one’s feelings by treating the person and caring for him.

It’s good if the feelings turned out to be mutual; After confession, you can continue the romantic evening, hug or kiss your partner, or give some nice gift. The main thing is not to speed things up and not make far-reaching plans right away - you need to thoroughly enjoy the new moment in the relationship.

Love is just an incredible feeling. It's worth experiencing.

And you shouldn’t be afraid of refusals, it’s better to try and not regret than to doubt and suffer all your life - what if the feeling could be mutual.