How to confess your love to a girl [5 steps]: by correspondence and in real life

Not every guy who truly loves a girl is able to confess his feelings; for this you need to have special courage and confidence. Many gentlemen, due to the lack of the latter qualities, remain silent, and the beauties, without hearing the cherished: “I love you,” leave. In fact, it is not difficult, you just need to tell the truth to your beloved. If you are embarrassed to say it directly or are afraid that you will be rejected, do not despair, today I will teach you how to confess your love to a girl so that it is beautiful and correct.

Preparation before declaring your love

Every person is afraid to open his soul and be rejected. Especially when it comes to such subtle matter as feelings. In what cases is it impossible to get a refusal? Only if the girl already has reciprocal feelings for you, then all that remains is to say things out loud that both of you understand.

To find out your chances of success, I suggest taking a three-question quick test. If you have collected three “yes” and can substantiate each one, you are ready for a declaration of love and can make full use of the advice from the article. If you have doubts, do not rush to open your heart, it can be fraught.

Are you already in a close relationship?

Confessing your love to a girl you barely know is not a good idea. And in general, I advise you not to rush into this matter: as soon as you say the “three magic words,” your relationship will reach a point of no return. After this, you will either be together, or your communication will gradually fade away. This is how human relationships work, and my experience and that of my friends once again confirms this.

Make sure that you and the girl are close to each other. If you regularly spend time together outside of school or work (at least 3 times a week), often text or call each other, communication is active both on your part and on her part - everything is fine. Otherwise, I advise you to wait and wait for the moment when everything with your sympathy for each other will be clear without words.

Does she take the initiative in communication?

Girls are different, and even if you communicate with her regularly, this is not a reason to think that everything is fine. It is important that she takes the initiative in communication herself, and not just accepts your advances and proposals.

I'll tell you honestly: every active girl has at least three boyfriends with whom she regularly communicates. And here’s how you can determine that she is considering you as a potential boyfriend:

she writes to you first;
you have a lively dialogue, she doesn’t answer in monosyllables and doesn’t disappear for a day;
you are aware of what is happening in her life, what she is interested in and what she loves;
she laughs at your jokes, smiles often, looks into your eyes;
actively accepts an offer to go for a walk/meet, etc.

Even if you received an affirmative answer to all points, it is best to rely on your gut feeling. Often we wishful thinking, and in this case only an internal worm of doubt can shed light on the true state of affairs.

Does it make you stand out from others?

The last question that will make you understand whether you should tell a girl that you love her is whether she treats you better than the guys around her. If you are united by a common team, it will be very easy to find out. The situation is a little more complicated if you communicate only on the Internet, but here everything is not hopeless.

Your main task is to evaluate whether you are winning the competition with the other guys around her. If she communicates with you with interest and more than with others, likes most of your photos, you spend most of your free time together (the criteria are given as an example) - everything goes according to plan.

Important! Answer these questions honestly—first of all, to yourself. The outcome of your confession depends on whether you objectively perceive the situation.

SMS

Of the options, the most prosaic, but in light of the fact that this method of communication has long and firmly entered our lives, you can confess your love to a girl by sending an SMS.

*** You know that I love you?? *** Nothing in the world is as dear to me as you. You are my dream!

*** My sunshine, how great it is that you shine for me!

*** I feel an inexplicable attraction to you. This is Love?

*** Suddenly I realized that love lives in my heart. Do you know who? To you!

*** I don’t know whether you’ll be happy or not, but I decided to admit that I love you!

***

An invisible thread connects me with you stronger and stronger every day. By all indications, this is love!

*** Not loving you is dangerous for my life. Loving you is painful! I'm in pain, save me!

*** There is no one more beautiful than you in the world. I understood this, and have been for a long time. Know that I love you.

*** My soul is torn to pieces when you smile at others. I want to love you and drown in your smiles!

*** You are the most beautiful. The kind one. You are the best! I love you!

*** I never thought that I could fall in love so much! But at our first meeting, I stopped thinking at all - I just love you, I just want to be with you.

*** Love is evil! Do not hurt me!

*** I love waking up every morning thinking about you. Let it always be like this!

*** I dream about you at night, you are in my heart. I love loving you!

*** You are a dream for me. For me, you are the air and oxygen that I cannot breathe. Know that I love you very much and, no matter what happens, I will always be by your side!

*** You are only mine. I will achieve your love. Know that!!

How to confess your love to a girl if she is your friend

The issue of love growing out of friendship deserves special attention. Honestly, I think this type of relationship is the most favorable. But therein lies the rub: how can you tell if she wants more?

In the case of declaring your love to a friend, the main thing you must remember is the medical principle “do no harm.” Here you need to move towards the goal gradually, without sudden movements, so that you can always roll back. And first you need to “scout the situation.”

There are only two scenarios in friendship with a girl. Either she sees you only as her friend (you're not her type - it's nice to talk to you and spend time with you, but nothing more), or your friendship is an excuse for her to spend more time with you. She actually likes you, but she doesn't want to take the initiative on her own.

And here are a few signs that your case is the first, which means that if you declare your love to a girl who was your friend, you may be rejected:

she tells you about the guys she likes and asks for advice;
she is not shy about appearing unsightly in front of you, she behaves like a “bro”;
treats you the same as others, you do not feel increased attention or special affection towards yourself.

To avoid ruining your friendship, it's best to wait and make sure she sees you as more than just a friend. And when you are sure of this, say it directly or use any of the methods described below.

Is this love?

Before declaring your love, you must make sure that it is she, and not fleeting sympathy or passion that clouds your mind. Your mistake can cost you dearly, because words spoken cannot be taken back. If you are unsure of your feelings, keep your mouth shut. This is the case when it is better to understate than to say too much.

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How to understand that you are really in love? Read the following statements and determine how they apply to your situation.

You have been dating for quite some time, and the relationship is developing steadily.
You've already had sex and liked it.
You constantly think about your beloved, conduct imaginary dialogues with her.
Seeing an unread message from her makes your heart beat faster.
You want to give your loved one gifts, take her to restaurants, do all sorts of nice things for her.
You see her as a future wife without any reservations or conditions.
Next to her, you always try to be better than you really are in order to make a favorable impression.

If, as you read these statements, you mentally agree with most of them, congratulations - you are truly in love! You can safely admit your feelings and not be afraid to be insincere.

How to confess your love in life: a selection of romantic ways

Give her dinner

With this method, you can choose options for any budget. A picnic in nature, a trip to a restaurant with live music, a home-cooked dinner by candlelight, or ordering her favorite dishes from a delivery service - choose what you like best. The main thing is that you arrange a date with soul and take care of all the little things - this is important to girls. You may think that these methods are trivial, but nevertheless they all work great.

Meet her at night

Night time can magically affect the environment, making it more romantic and mysterious. If you and your girlfriend like to walk in the evenings or at night, you can confess your love while lying on the grass and looking at the starry sky, climbing a tall building or roof, or going on vacation with tents outside the city. By taking care of organizing your date, you will prove to the girl that you love her, not in word, but in deed.

Write her a surprise note

To ensure that everything goes according to plan, you can express your feelings on paper. Write a note or letter to your girl telling her how important she is to you and how much you want to be with her. To make the content of the letter more romantic, you can remember the moment when you first felt love for her, or describe meetings you had that strengthened your feelings. In the age of technology, when we have already lost the habit of paper, receiving a handwritten letter is very valuable.

Option for the brave

If you don't mind being the center of attention and would like to make a declaration of love with a specific shock effect, you can do it in front of everyone. For example, in a karaoke, cafe, square, school or any other place. Ideally, have a microphone handy; in a pinch, your loud voice will do. People around you will applaud and be happy for you, and the girl will feel like a star. The most important thing: before choosing this option, make sure that you can remain confident until the very end, think through your speech well, and, most importantly, think whether the girl herself will appreciate such a wow effect.

Tell me straight

Sometimes there is no need to invent unusual methods at all - the meaning of your words will already provide the desired effect. If you feel “out of place”, it is better to abandon a creative declaration of love in favor of simple, but no less pleasant words. The main thing is to look confident, and for this you must be in a comfortable environment.

How to Say I Like Her in an Unexpected Way

If you and your loved one study together, it will be unexpected to write a confession right on the board. For example, it could be something like “Masha, I see the whole cosmos in your eyes.”
If you are brave and your beloved is your classmate or fellow student, then you can go to the board to answer the subject and start with a public declaration of love. Everyone will laugh, and the teacher may not understand, but the girl should appreciate such extravagance. You can say: “of course, we all know that Pushkin is a great poet (or that such and such a theorem is proven in such and such a way), but I can’t think about it, because I’m thinking about Masha. Now that I’ve said this and I feel better, we can talk about the subject.”
You can confess your love while walking. It’s better to start with a conversation, and then smoothly bring the topic to relationships, and at a certain moment loudly shout “I love you” to the whole street. You can grab the girl in your arms. Passers-by, of course, will begin to turn around, but the girl should be in a better mood.
The proven old-fashioned way of declaring love in poetry is the best. Write romantic poems or at least quatrains. She will appreciate it even if you are not a great poet.

How to confess your love by correspondence

Confessing to a girl that you like her via SMS is an excellent option for those who are not ready to talk about such things in person or want to insure themselves in case of unforeseen developments in the dialogue. And here are some appropriate ways to confess your love to a girl by correspondence on VK, WhatsApp, Viber or any other resource.

Sometimes recognition is not just three words

Don’t rush to tell a girl that you love her, even if you have already decided this question for yourself a long time ago. Show your sympathy not just with words, but with actions. Be sincerely interested in her life, hobbies, problems. Support and reassure when needed. Give compliments, initiate communication, and be there more often, even when it comes to online communication. Girls always recognize such attention from a guy, so by her response you will immediately understand whether you have a chance for reciprocity.

Send her a romantic song

One of the ways to veiledly confess your love is to do it “with someone else’s hands.” In this case, with the help of a beautiful song with touching words. Send your girl a song that says exactly what you want to tell her. If you want to keep the intrigue going, you can say that you just liked her and you want the girl to appreciate her. Believe me, she will understand everything correctly.

Write a poem for her

This option is suitable for creative individuals who do not want to remain silent about their feelings. Creativity is sweet and romantic. Many girls consider this type of confession to be the most touching, and a girl who is older than you will especially appreciate it. If your crush loves poetry, consider dedicating a poem to her to make her melt.

Lifehack! If you want to make recognition for your creativity, but you don’t shine with creativity yourself, there are a bunch of special freelance sites. For a symbolic cost, you can hire a person who will write a beautiful text for you - a declaration of love, a song or a poem about it.

Is it possible to force her to confess first?

When a guy confesses first, it is more natural; some young people doubt the love of their lovers and want to push them to confess first. For men, the fear of rejection is also especially characteristic.

To push her to confess, it is important to take into account her character. Modest and calm, she can become confused in a noisy environment or embarrassed in private.

During a date, you can start talking about how good it is to live when you can be 100% sure of someone’s love and loyalty, about the fact that in our materialistic world real relationships are so rare. Girls are sentimental in nature and give up easily .

How to secretly confess your love: minimizing the likelihood of screwing up

Casually mention your future together

Making it clear that you see a girl in your future life is an important hint that she will definitely recognize and understand correctly. You can do this as a joke, in response to her remark, or discreetly, casually. When you talk about your plans, mention her often, as if she will always be there for you. This will let her know that you are serious about your communication.

Give romantic gifts

There are functional gifts, there are necessary ones, and there are gifts “for the soul.” These are cute and impractical things that will bring pleasant emotions to most girls and will say about your feelings for you:

Flowers and their derivatives: floral cards, original bouquets, hand-picked compositions, and so on;
Memorable or symbolic things for her;
Stuffed Toys;
Sweets;
Cute trinkets and trinkets;
DIY gift;
Walk or experience.

Unlike other gifts, romantic little things (especially those given for no reason) immediately hint that you have feelings for the girl.

Important! Don't think that this list is a ready-made instruction. All people are different: after all, some people may simply not like flowers and trinkets. Therefore, always start from the character and tastes of your object of sympathy.

Give her compliments

Girls recognize well when guys want to show sympathy, so in order to safely hint about your feelings, it will be enough to simply tell her something pleasant about herself. Just don’t tell her that she is “beautiful”, “pretty” or “sweetheart” - these words are pleasant, but too banal. You can praise her hairstyle, makeup, clothing style, laugh, charisma, eye color, figure, sharp mind, sense of humor, resourcefulness... The main thing is to do it sincerely and talk about what you really like about her.

How to prepare for recognition

You need to approach such a responsible step wisely. I'll tell you what to do to make everything go smoothly.

Decide why you need it

Indeed, why? Many guys are quite skeptical about this kind of confession, fearing that the girl will then feel her power and begin to twist ropes out of them. If you are tormented by such doubts, it is better to really hold off on such frankness.

Remember - it’s worth declaring your love if you are sure that your feeling is mutual. Never say “I love you” in response to coldness, neglect, and especially betrayal. This will positively reinforce the bad attitude towards you.

You can confess at the peak of emotions in moments of special spiritual intimacy. This would also be appropriate in response to some serious steps from a girl towards you.

Three cherished words can be said to mark the transition to a new level of relationship. For example, you have been dating for a long time and want to invite a girl to live together. Confess your love before this, then your proposal will be logical and natural.

Choose the right time to confess

The right timing can greatly enhance the effect of your confession. Please try to comply with the following conditions.

Time your recognition to coincide with some significant event. Suitable for Valentine's Day, your loved one's birthday, the anniversary of your relationship. Emotions from the holiday will add to your words and make them even more pleasant.
You need to confess in private so that no one can disturb you. Even if you confess not in person, but on VK, for example, try to send a message with the expectation that the girl will read it alone.
You should not confess your love if you or your chosen one is in a bad mood. Wait until the clouds clear and painful thoughts leave your beautiful heads.

And if you don’t have anyone to confess your love yet, it would be nice to start by learning how to meet girls.

Ready-made phrases for declaration of love

The Internet offers a lot of psychological advice and phrases for writing to a girl about your feelings. Among them there are many frankly inappropriate options that look too intrusive, hyperbolic or simply funny. I have chosen ten relevant and beautiful examples of declarations of love that you can take note of, adapt to yourself and send to your girl.

When I see a message from you or meet you in person, my heart always beats at an accelerated pace.
I want you to know that you occupy a special place in my life.
I would like to explain to you what love is and tell you everything that I think about you, but I cannot find the words.
You know, no matter how annoying the people around me are, having you in my life makes it much better.
Thank you for being in my life. I really appreciate this and want us to become even closer to each other.
Today you are even more beautiful than the day we met. It seems to me that you are becoming more and more beautiful every day. Or is it my attitude towards you that is changing?
You are the only one who has sunk into my soul. I feel like you and I are more than friends and that's why I would like to officially court you.
I like to watch you and discover more and more touching little things in your habits, character and manners.
You are the most charming girl I have ever met.
Since I met you, everything has changed in my life. You inspire me and I feel like the happiest person every day. I want you to give me a chance to show how much I am in love with you and how happy I would be to be with you.

Important! The best declaration of love is an unobtrusive, kind and warm explanation of your feelings in your own words. Don’t rush to dumbfound the girl, don’t dump everything that’s on your mind on her. Do it in an environmentally friendly and dignified way.

Letters

For those who are embarrassed to talk “looking into your eyes,” the surest way to confess your love is in a letter. And even more so if you are not sure of the girl’s reciprocal feelings. The only disadvantage of letters is that you will not see the first reaction of your beloved.

If this doesn’t stop you, then let’s start writing, especially since in the modern world a letter can be sent by e-mail, as well as in the form of a message on social networks.

Watch out for spelling errors, illiterate text can surprise and upset a girl - no one wants to have a relationship with a Neanderthal! Let's say right away that the best option is to send a real letter, written in your own hand or printed on beautiful paper, through a courier with a bouquet of flowers. It's very romantic and effective.

Sample text

*** (Name), I wanted to talk to you slowly, without prying eyes and ears. Or rather, I want to tell you about what has been tormenting me for so long. I want you to read everything slowly and understand me. We have known you for a long time. I always liked talking to you, telling you something and listening to you. Our communication did not prevent me from doing other things and living as always. But one day (after indicating the meeting place: party, birthday, hike, cleanup, etc.) my eyes suddenly saw you in a completely different way. I have never seen such a beautiful, cheerful, smart girl like you. All the best traits are combined in you! And I realized that I had truly loved her for a long time. I realized that I wanted to get to know you again, in a different way. I want to hold your hand, touch your hair, lips. I am in love with you and my feelings are very strong. I really hope that you will not refuse me, that you will allow me to love you and take care of you!

*** (Name), my letter is not some joke of an inept kid, but the cry of a tormented soul. I want to confess my love for you. Just please don't laugh! I fell in love with you without expecting it. I can’t eat calmly, sleep, walk, read, do anything. I don’t want to sit for a long time with friends like before. I am drawn to you like a magnet. I don't know what you did, but I feel like I'm just crazy about you! I really want you and I to start dating. You are the oxygen that I cannot breathe. I realized that love is great, of course, but if it is not mutual, it can kill. And I still really want to live. Please take a step towards me, always be by my side!

When is the best time to confess your feelings?

You are faced with the task of not only choosing the right words, but also choosing the right moment. Here are some win-win options for confessing your sympathy to a girl:

her birthday or any other holiday - February 14, March 8, and so on;
the day when something made her very happy - she won a competition, successfully defended her work, received a lucrative contract, or bought the thing of her dreams;
after the first kiss;
when you notice a clear manifestation of sympathy in her direction;
when you amuse or make her laugh, you feel good together;
waiting for the moment when you can no longer keep it to yourself.

For your confession to be remembered and have the desired effect, it must be associated with positive emotions and touching moments. This is why I advise choosing holidays or other pleasant events. And if you can’t wait to tell a girl that you love her, cheer her up and create a holiday yourself by organizing a date.

Choose a place and time

If you decide to confess your feelings in such a way as to bring the girl to tears of delight, you will have to plan a lot. Find the best place for a date and get started. A good option would be to recreate a scene from a movie or book, or the best evening in the history of your relationship. But there are more suitable moments for tender declarations of love than inappropriate ones: you are free to say them on any date, under almost any circumstances.

You don’t have to go to the most picturesque corner available, shower everything with pink petals, or wait for the big date in your relationship. Let it happen when you yourself want to admit it. The main thing is that all the girl’s attention at this moment is turned to you, both are in a good mood and not too tired.

When you shouldn't confess your love

Despite the fact that these words are difficult to spoil, there are a couple of circumstances under which it is better not to say them:

Correspondence. If you have never confessed your love to a girl before, messengers are not the best place for your first romantic words. I understand that this method seems more “safe,” but it’s still better to choose at least a conversation on the phone so that the confession is remembered.
In the midst of a quarrel. If you are both emotional and negative, shouting out your cherished confession in a fit of anger is a bad idea. Unfortunately, this only looks impressive in the movies. In reality, you risk ruining the moment of the first declaration of love and forever linking it with a negative moment.
In the process of manipulation. For example, persuading a girl to do something she doesn’t want, appealing to the fact that you love her. Manipulation is basically bad. Manipulating feelings - you can't imagine anything worse.

Another thing that can ruin a confession of feelings is haste. If you and a girl are developing a relationship and you enjoy each other's company, it is better to let the feelings develop on their own, without using an accelerator in the form of recognition. Say the cherished words out loud already when everything is clear without them. This is especially true for girls united with you in one team: classmates, colleagues, classmates, and so on.

Get ready

In every sense, this is thinking through from place, time and words to caring about appearance. I will tell you below about how, when and under what circumstances it is better to confess your feelings to your beloved.

In the meantime, read and save the checklist of mandatory preparation items: material and mental.

Be confident. If you are modest, your modesty, appreciated by your chosen one, will be visible in any case. Therefore, try to sound and speak as confidently as possible: say the cherished words several times before the meeting (maybe in front of a mirror), get ready in advance. Immediately before confessing, try to calm down in a way that is appropriate under the current circumstances.
Prepare for different things. You’ve been planning this moment for days, but the girl isn’t expecting it at all. She may be confused, may answer inappropriately or be unprepared for an answer, and she may also change her mind and change her reaction after a few days. Keep all of these options in mind and react calmly if things don't go as planned.
If she rejects you, offer friendship. This will be a sign of concern, which may influence her change of mind.
Don't ask for an answer "here and now."
Let her be the first to know how you feel. Don't tell others about them before you tell her.
Take care of your appearance. Take a shower, dress neatly, shave, brush your teeth.
Remember that fear and slight uncertainty are normal.

Be ready to accept rejection

I don’t want to end on a sad note, but there’s no way without such a warning: you must be prepared for the fact that she may refuse you. In this case, do not forget that failure is only part of the path to success, and not its end. This does not mean that you will never have a relationship - perhaps she is not ready to agree to it now or responded impulsively without thinking. Give her time and treat any outcome of events easily and naturally.

And if you still haven’t decided to confess your love to a woman or girl, let this article be the sign you’ve been waiting for. A person who is ready to face his fears is always worthy of respect!