How to quickly meet a guy on VK: tips and life hacks

Social Networks are an ideal place to meet people and communicate. Thanks to the almighty Internet, anyone is just a couple of clicks away from you. But, unfortunately, not everything is as simple as it seems at first glance. Before you text him your first “hi, how are you?” you will have to do quite a lot of important work: tidy up your page, add new photos, adjust your personal information and choose the right reason to start a conversation.

Put on your favorite loungewear, pour yourself a cup of coffee and get comfortable. Today I will tell you how to quickly meet a guy on VK and not make mistakes.

Designing the page

VKontakte is a great place where you can find a guy for both quick flirting and a serious relationship. However, in order to start searching for a candidate, you need to properly design your social network page to attract his attention.

The profile should interest him and show you only from the best side. Many psychologists say that a page can be used to characterize a person and understand his psychotype. To get acquainted, you can use your own profile or create a separate one.

Be as open as possible to attract a like-minded guy. Open all successful photos, personal information about yourself and selected media content. Remove unnecessary groups and outdated photos. By filling out your profile according to all the rules and following the recommendations, you will certainly be able to intrigue the gentleman you like.

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How to write SMS to your beloved guy or tricks of SMS correspondence

When corresponding with your loved one, be sure to use cute nicknames or affectionate words, with the help of which you will add personality to your message and emphasize that you wrote it with tenderness.

SMS should be such that a person always has something to answer.

There is no need to write in monosyllables and in the same type, forcing the young man to guess what you wanted to say with this message. Guys have a hard time accepting these kinds of hints, so it’s better to communicate openly. But they take compliments in SMS very well, so you shouldn’t skimp on small praises.

Today it is no longer fashionable for a girl to be stupid, so try not to make mistakes so that your SMS, instead of falling into the heart of a gentleman, does not end up in the domain of humorous portals and forums. If you’re going to “make a mistake,” then make a big one!

For example, you can send a message of the following nature: “Music, I kiss you! Thank you for caring so much about me.” Now we are waiting for a reaction. Even if it doesn’t follow because the young man is still in a stupor, after half an hour you need to “douse him with a bucket of cold water” and write: “Sorry, I wanted to send an SMS to my mother, but you’re in my address book next to me, and I I accidentally picked up your contact. I’m really uncomfortable.”

The same thing can be said with your voice, you just need to rehearse the embarrassed intonation. If the guy expresses frustration, you can add: “Actually, you can be a real music guy too,” or something like that.

Photos

Guys love with their eyes. The first thing they pay attention to when meeting people on social networks is photographs. It is after leafing through the albums that the young man focuses his attention on this or that person. That’s why it’s so important to show yourself only from the best angles, since any little thing can turn a young man off, and he won’t get to know you.

If you want to attract male attention, then carefully select photos for your VK page, and do not post everything in a row. The album should show you only from the best side. You can use it to tell about places where you like to relax, show off your hobbies or friends.

In order not to alienate a potential gentleman, it is better to remove frivolous photographs. Don’t show your bad qualities and bad habits, because few people will like it.

Guys get used to well-groomed and non-smoking girls. Booze and cigarettes are no longer in fashion; a healthy lifestyle is at the peak of the trend. Not only a girl with a model appearance can attract attention. The most important thing is don’t copy others and be yourself.

Take the main photo most seriously. An avatar is what a virtual candidate sees first. Before the photo shoot, do caring masks, hairstyle and unobtrusive makeup, show yourself from your advantage by choosing a good angle. Refuse filters and obvious photoshop, he should see you in your natural appearance.

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What to write to a guy you like in order to interest him by correspondence: examples

Messages that definitely work
A few examples of what phrases you can use to start a letter to a guy you want to interest:

My profession is a journalist, and now I am working on a survey about gender relations. I'd like to ask you a couple of questions. For example, about your attitude towards girls who take the initiative in dating.
Hello! I just read that a person uses more muscles to smile than to cry. You have such a serious face! Pump up your muscles and smile. By the way, let's get acquainted.
Can you give me some advice on how to change spark plugs in a car?
You look so stylish! Is it your innate taste or do you follow fashion?
I need to buy dad a gift. I want to give him a tie. Could you help me, because judging by your appearance, you are very stylish.
Today I understood what is called an electrical discharge. This is what happens when I look at your photo.
I'm also delighted with horses. I would like to know what else is similar between us.
You reminded me of the young man I dreamed about today. True, he was on a white horse. Is this you by chance?
I wonder why such a spectacular guy would look for a girl on a social network? I am convinced that in reality they hover around you just like that.
I want to inform you that you have caused me a heart wound. Now you simply have to urgently provide me with first aid.
Can you tell me what I pressed on the keyboard that made the screen go dark?
Do you think the Internet is a place where you can build real relationships?
I wonder if beauty and the ability to communicate interestingly are combined in one guy?
You evoke in me associations with a predator - you are just as daring, fearless, smart. And, perhaps, I would be able to tame you.
I see that you looked at my profile, but did not dare to write. Do you mind if I help you?
I wonder what will happen when you press the gas and brake pedals at the same time?
You have such expressive cheekbones! I've never seen anything like this before!
I assured my dog that the most handsome guy on the site would meet me today.
Could you answer me this question: what can a girl write about to a young man she likes?
I propose to move on to direct acquaintance, omitting the official aspects.
You look so thoughtful in the photo. Why are you sad?
You seem like a well-read guy. Can you tell me what good book to read?
I was invited to my cousin's birthday party. Could you give me some advice on what to choose as a gift?
Windows of the house opposite and cars on the roadway. What picture opens from your window?
My plans for the evening are to watch a good movie. I think you're pretty good at this. Please advise what to see.
I would like to know which category of guys you belong to: those who fold socks or throw them away?
Your photo seems to be the most ordinary, but there are so many emotions in it!
Hello, I've been looking for you everywhere, and it looks like you're waiting for me here.
I don’t know if I’ll have to regret my initiative, but I suggest we get acquainted.
This is the first time I've seen a guy with such a deep look. This is impressive.
You give the impression of a reliable shelter, where it is cozy and safe.
Would you mind sharing the secret of why, after finishing filling up the car, a guy usually shakes the gun in the tank?
Can I ask you to call me? I can't find where my cell phone is.
There are some secrets hidden in your eyes. Share a few with me.
In your opinion, does love still exist or is it a relic of the past?
I recently read about alpha males. But then I saw you and realized that they really exist.
Your gaze seems to be enveloped in warmth.
Do girls often offer you a trip to the registry office?
I think I saw you in some movie. I'm right?
Can you tell me which girls nice guys prefer: smart or beautiful?
What do you think about the fall in the ruble exchange rate?
Do you believe in the existence of love at first sight or do you still prefer to get to know the girl better?
Do you like proactive girls?
What do you listen to: your heart or your mind?
Do you believe in intuition and that, thanks to it, you can make the right decision?
What's your favorite movie? I would watch it today.
Your gaze seems to pierce like an x-ray. Looks like there's nothing to hide from you.
You've probably heard more than once from girls that you make an amazing impression on them?
Do you agree with the statement that female logic has the power to break the male psyche?
I'm sure you've heard about your beauty a thousand times. Therefore, the thousand and first will only add pleasant emotions to you.
What traits in girls attract you most?
Can you help me choose headphones? I'm sure you're well-versed in technology.
Imagine that you have become a woman. What would you do first?
Which era would you travel to in a time machine?
I love popping the little bumps on packages. And you?
Do you really expect to find a girl for a serious relationship on this site?
You look so serious. Have you ever done something reckless?
So why are you here?
Would you like me to lift your spirits?
Are you by any chance the guy who has taken up residence in my dreams?
Tell me, why are men attracted to silly girls?
How long have you been working as a stealer of girls' hearts?
Imagine that the world will end tomorrow. What will you do today?
Your smile just makes me lose my mind.
I love petting purebred cats, and you look so much like them.
Excuse me, young man, tell me, do you happen to like me?
Something happened to my eyes. They just don't look away from your photo.
I need an independent male opinion on one issue. Can you help?
I see you visited Cairo. What did you like best there?
Enough already looking through profiles, let's get acquainted!
I racked my brain for a long time about how to start dating, and in the end I decided that we could get to know each other without a bunch of beautiful words.
Let's chat without committing ourselves?
I think you could lead me out of the labyrinth called loneliness.
Your advantages are visible to the naked eye. What about the shortcomings?
Could you take me to the cinema tonight?
I know your name, but I always want to know more.
You can't say anything, it's a beautiful facade. What's behind it?
You have a captivating look. And now, according to the rules of communication, you also have to give me a compliment.
Can you explain to me an unclear traffic rule?
Hello! I am that same guest from the future. I was sent to make you happy.
I'm interested in your opinion about male polygamy.
Looking at you, you begin to perceive the other guys as a faceless gray mass.
It seems to me that with you I could survive even on a desert island.
I saw Freud in a dream. What do you think this could mean?
What is the difference between a drill and a screwdriver?
Feelings tell me that you are not like others. I would like to understand what exactly is the difference?
Do you think happiness can be bought?

Psychologists recommend that, after meeting on social networks, you should not delay the moment of personal acquaintance for too long. Otherwise, it will be difficult for you to have live communication. In addition, you will get to know the guy for who he is, and will not come up with an image for yourself, often idealizing him.

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personal information

The main rule is naturalness. Write the truth about yourself and don’t copy others. Enter your data in the section on personal information to avoid incidents in the future. For example, don’t write that you like to draw if that’s not the case. Lying even at the beginning of acquaintance can play a cruel joke in the future. The information written about yourself should be as truthful as possible.

Many people share similar interests, and when meeting people, it is very important to harmonize in this area. Indicate your favorite music, books, hobbies and films in your personal information to find an interesting like-minded person.

What questions can and should be asked, and what not?

To understand as much as possible about a person, you can talk:

about studies, future goals for study;
about hobbies and interests;
About work;
views on future life, family, whether the guy even wants to start a serious relationship;
about family, parents, brothers and sisters, relationships within this family;
what kind of girls a man likes, what he looks for in his chosen one;
what type of vacation does a man prefer? If you like to travel and don’t sit in one place, then being a homebody won’t suit you.

However, it is better to avoid some topics, especially at the initial stage of acquaintance:

ex-partners, relationships;
sexual themes;
political and religious views;
man's income.

Media content

Media content is an important section when meeting a guy on VKontakte.
Don’t upload too much content, focus on what interests you the most, because even a harmless video on a page can help you get closer to your interlocutor or, on the contrary, push you away from you. You can add your favorite movie to the media content, thereby showing your taste in cinema, which will also not leave the guy indifferent. When meeting people, many guys pay attention even to such seemingly unimportant sections as groups or communities. They are the ones who characterize a person and show his interests.

For example, if you subscribe to groups such as “1000 quotes from great people”, “Best literature” or “Around the world”, then the guy will conclude that you are an intelligent and educated person.

And if you subscribe to such communities as “Chic and Beautiful Hair”, “Fashion”, “Manicure”, then the applicant will regard you as a fashionable girl who loves to take care of herself and follows trends.

Conclusions on the article

Despite the stereotypes, you have every right to show interest and write first. However, if a man does not initiate a response, you will have to draw conclusions.
You need to communicate politely, competently, and not resort to offensive jokes or swear words. First, become a friend to your interlocutor.
Don't impose. Write in a similar manner as he does, respond with similar frequency, don’t bombard him with a ton of messages and don’t burden him with problems.
Don't be afraid to lift your man's spirits. Even with an acquaintance, it is quite appropriate to joke, give a compliment, and say that you remembered him. In any case, it will be pleasant and make me think about you.

Features of finding a guy on VKontakte

Having created the ideal page for meeting a man, you can safely move on to searching for the one. You can find a guy online with the help of your friends by going to their profile. Give him a like or write a comment - this way you will unobtrusively make it clear that you like him. If you are a brave girl, you can send him a friend request or write a message.

In addition, to meet a man, you can use the usual VK search. Using the filter, set the necessary parameters: age, city, place of study or work, etc. In this way, you can identify the most worthy candidates.

Before you start dating, carefully study their profiles and information, because from the page you can draw a conclusion about the person. In the section on life position, find out about the attitude towards smoking and alcohol, as well as what comes first for the young man: family, himself or career.

You can meet a guy in an interest group, just write to the young man you like and start a conversation with a like-minded person. You can also enter into a dialogue with him in the community itself, under any post. Such correspondence may end with adding friends and further communication.

VK virtual games are a great way to meet people. To do this, install the exciting games “Spinning the Bottle” or “Coincidence” and start flirting with a real person.

And you can learn about how to communicate on dating sites HERE.

Dating goals

It would seem, what could be the purpose of dating on the Internet? Of course, find your future husband. But it is not so! The purposes of online communication are quite varied and here are the main ones:

Serious relationships are undoubtedly the most important goal of dating on specialized services. Becoming the happy owner of an engagement ring and a noble prince to boot is the dream of every girl, and dating sites will help make it come true.
Friendship and communication - oddly enough, this goal also has a place on dating services. After all, love is not the only joy; sometimes you just want to communicate with a like-minded person, and it’s not always easy to find such a person among your friends.
Finding a sponsor - whoever said “You can’t forbid living beautifully” was absolutely right, and some girls know how to make dreams of a luxurious life come true. To search for generous men who are capable of fulfilling any desires of the fair sex, there are plenty of sites on the Internet with sponsors and kept women.
Intimate relationships - where would we be without them? It is not always only men who need such communication. Girls also want affection and tenderness in strong male hands. Starting a serious relationship only because of a lack of sexual satisfaction is simply stupid, because it is much easier to find a companion for the night online.

Having set your goals correctly, you can immediately cut off all unnecessary services that do not intersect with your plans and narrow your search by registering on only a few sites with the desired audience.

Attracting attention (comments, likes)

If you don’t dare add him as a friend or write the first message to the guy you like, then you can simply like him, write a comment under his photo or post on the wall.
In this simple way, you can show interest and make it clear that you expect the young man to take the first serious step in his direction. Don’t overdo it with such intrigues so as not to seem like an intrusive girl, because they don’t like that. Drop a hint and let the guy decide on his own.

If you interest him, he will certainly reciprocate your feelings and take the initiative into his own hands.

How to recognize a man's interest?

Question answer

How to get a guy to text more often?

Often girls take the position of an offended interlocutor. They begin to ask questions like: “Why didn’t you write?”, “Where did you go?” This behavior is very off-putting. Instead of a complaint, use positive emotions: “So glad to see you!”, “How are you doing, I miss you,” etc. Then the man will be happy to log into the messenger.

How to increase interest if correspondence has become boring?

Modern communications allow you to connect photos and videos to correspondence. It’s one thing to write “Good morning!”, another to attach a photo where you smile broadly, wishing a man a good day. Short positive videos and congratulations also evoke much more emotions than text.

The man doesn’t answer, doesn’t write first, what should I do?

There could be several reasons for this. The guy perceives you as a friend, is afraid of seeming intrusive, or is simply not interested in communication. The latter, unfortunately, is the most likely. A frank conversation will help bring clarity.

Let's start correspondence

Most acquaintances on a social network occur through correspondence. Through messages, you can show sympathy and carefully consider the dialogue, unlike real-life communication.

First, greet the person you like. Even the banal phrase “Hi, how are you?” could be the start of an interesting acquaintance. If a young man is open to communication, then correspondence will not pose a big problem or puzzle. The beginning of the correspondence can be a funny joke or picture. If you take the initiative and he likes you, the guy himself will ask counter questions. This will be the beginning of correspondence. The most important thing in correspondence is to show wit, be light and relaxed.

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Example phrases

Original examples of messages if you are apart

Today the fish are depressed, the cat is not in the mood, and even the cutlets are not so tasty - all because you left.
Only three things lift my spirits every day: an SMS from the bank about the receipt of money in my account, good weather and a call from you.
In your absence, I began to communicate with the closet, the mirror and the stool. Either the orderlies will take me away, or I will marry the refrigerator!

Examples of messages to intrigue the guy you like

Modesty adorns a girl. Apparently I'm not wearing any jewelry yet.
I'm looking for a young man with whom I can go to the movies. At the same time, give birth to a couple of cute children and take out a mortgage for twenty years.
You can always rely on me. Although...the pose can be changed.
Let's be friends? You'll definitely like me! I have a big and wide soul!
I have my eye on you... and I would also gladly put a couple of my body parts...
Let's behave really badly? For example, let's eat candy first and then soup.
I invite you to French lessons! The topic of the lesson, of course, is kissing.

Examples of messages to a stranger on social networks

You have a great smile in the photo. I would like to see the live original and compare.
Do you edit all your photos? Well, it’s impossible to be so irresistible!
When I see that you are “online”, my heart just rejoices - there is someone fun to chat with.
Well, stop winking in the photo here, I already agree to a date!
They say that love rejuvenates both body and soul. Let's finally rejuvenate to the fullest together, shall we?
Professionally breaking my psyche. Inexpensive - for just a couple of dates.
Should I send you a long message or 30 small ones to annoy you longer?
My new blue dress matches your eye color perfectly.

Reasons for starting a dialogue and examples of phrases

The banal word “Hello” will make any guy who is interested in you happy. In your initial correspondence, focus on his interests first. You can express admiration for his hobby, for example, drawing, photography, or ask him a question on the same topic.

For example: “Hi. I admire your photographs. I would really like to go to a photo shoot” or “Hi. Wonderful pictures! I would be grateful if you could tell me what artistic style you used when painting the portrait.”

If a guy is an administrator of a group on a social network, then you can ask him to join his team of workers by writing: “Hello! I am interested in writing articles, I can choose music and create better content. I would really like to become an employee of the company.” Common interests and a craving for one type of activity will help you quickly establish relationships with him and be at an advantage among other girls you know.

If you want to know how to meet people on the street, then I explained everything in detail in this article.

What to write to a guy to get him interested if you have a fight?

The best way to interest a guy and start communicating again is to choose a holiday for the letter and send him congratulations, adding to it an offer to meet in some favorite place to “seal your reconciliation.” As practice shows, most often guys willingly respond to such a step on the part of a girl.
If the holiday is still far away, and you are tired of being in a quarrel, then use the classics of the genre. Drop sarcasm, hints, irony and simply write: “Hi! I miss you and suggest we make peace.” Here the guy has no room for maneuver, he can only answer “yes” or “no”, and most often in such cases the girl hears exactly “yes”.
In addition, men are straightforward, it is best to talk to them directly, without hints, and a pompous style in such a situation is completely inappropriate.

Even if you quarrel, you can still improve the situation

Topics that guys like to talk about

All guys like it when girls ask them for help, show care and attention. If you decide to write first, then find out about his interests directly, or based on the information in his VK profile.

Interests will help you be on the same page with a young man and maintain an interesting dialogue. For example, if he is a fan of a football team, then you can ask about the game in the last match. This will mean that you care about the interests of the young man.

Common topics that guys like to talk about:

Interests;
Occupation, work;
Hobby;
Cars;

Trips;
Communities on social networks;
Humor.

If the guy is good with computers, then you can ask for help or advice. Almost any young man is happy to help a girl. Such a request could easily turn into a personal meeting.

Many guys are interested in cars. You can ask him this or that question on this topic and show interest. It is absolutely not necessary to be a guru in the topic and to shine with intellect. If a guy likes you, he will be happy to tell you about all his knowledge and skills.

How to keep interest in yourself in correspondence

We've sorted out the first phrases, now it's time to go into battle! And now it has already been sent - an interesting phrase that decides everything. Will he answer or not? How long does the time last in these minutes of waiting... And here is the answer... And then what? How to keep his attention so that that interest does not fade away? How to conquer him?

Arousing interest in a guy is a task that most girls can cope with, but maintaining this interest for a long time, transferring online communication into real life is not an easy task, but if you try, it can be brought to life.

Don’t think that after the first phrases, your betrothed will fall in love with you and run to the jewelry store for an engagement ring. This, alas, does not happen. You'll have to work hard on yourself.

Learn to generate topics : this way you will have the opportunity to switch from a boring conversation to a fresh one without a hitch, thereby maintaining the interest of your interlocutor. Study the most popular “male” topics in advance in order to conquer your admirer with your erudition and competence in such “unfeminine” matters. Better yet, ask the guy good questions and find out everything about him.
Regular correspondence is often quite bland and boring, so don’t forget to “season” it with interesting photos .
Even if you are an “iron lady,” never show it when communicating with a man. Guys don't like strong women. Show yourself weak and defenseless, requiring his support and care .
A mystery woman - communication with such a girl not only arouses interest in the interlocutor, but also supports the desire to unravel all her secrets, which means that you will correspond again and again and again.
Be interested in the life of your interlocutor , talk about him, about his hobbies, but without being over-fanatical, otherwise pleasant communication for a man will turn into obsessive pursuit, from which they will quickly hide without looking back.
The same applies to endless messages like “Where did you go?”, “Why don’t you write?” - if you make it clear that he is the last hope, then he will not be so.

Now you are ready to fully communicate online and find the one with whom you want to spend the rest of your days, so go for it! Good luck!

Let's continue communication

At first, it is better to base the dialogue on the guy’s interests in order to establish communication.
You can send him funny pictures, posts from groups or music. As the dialogue progresses, the guy will want to get to know you better and get to know your interests. For communication, you can use neutral topics, for example: discussing the weather, politics, books or films. To maintain communication, ask more questions. If a guy likes you, he will give the most detailed answers.

Every person loves to talk about themselves and feel interested on the part of the interlocutor, especially the opposite sex. Build a dialogue so that the guy shows interest himself, and not just sluggishly answers your questions.

When communicating with a guy on VKontakte, do not forget about your independence, do not be available to him at any time of the day. If you can find the line between personal space and communication, then correspondence with you will never bore him.

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How to intrigue him, lure him in

Reply to messages within 2-3 minutes. A little anticipation builds interest. Just a little wait, if you disappear for a few weeks, the guy will most likely forget about such an interlocutor.
Try to be more interested in his life than talking about yourself. All people are selfish and love to chat about their plans.
From the first messages, create an image of a positive and wealthy person; no one is attracted to whiners who see problems in everything.

#1. Avoid platitudes

Banal cliches in messages, for example, “Hello, how are you?”, cause irritation and boredom. Guys really value originality and resourcefulness.

You need to write the way you communicate in life. Then unique phrases and words will be associated with you. Don't be afraid to seem strange, the main thing is to remain within the bounds of decency.

#2. Don't even think about comparing him to other men

Comparison always has a negative effect. If you want a guy to become better, never say that there is someone better than him, especially when referring to these individuals.

Most likely, he will deliberately hate them, ignore them, be jealous of them, and definitely will not learn anything good. Suffice it to remember how your parents used your friend or sister as an example, because this provoked quarrels and lowered self-esteem. Important! Even if a man does not show how painful it is for him to hear such statements, it will leave an imprint on the relationship.

#3. Don't talk about your shortcomings

If a man chose you as his girlfriend, this indicates his sympathy. By highlighting your disadvantages, you literally force people to pay special attention to them. At every meeting, he will look appraisingly at the shortcomings and think about them. Why give yourself such a “gift”?

On the contrary, you can point out your advantages. Not plumpness, but juicy beards, not a sad look, but sparkling eyes. Then the guy will look at you with adoration.

Important! No one will love a person who does not love himself.

#4. Look for new topics

To interest each other, you will have to talk about something. Any topic is coming to an end.

To avoid awkward pauses, you can discuss:

pets;
the specifics of his work;
what kind of relationship he wants, what he expects from a girl, how he sees his family;
mysticism;
awkward but funny stories;
features of the horoscope and character of the interlocutor, of course in a comic and light form.

The more you communicate with a man, the clearer his priorities and interests will become. Then it will be possible to talk about your compatibility and more serious plans. Important! The main goal is to impress the guy, but to determine whether he is right for you. Ask what is really interesting.

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#5. Don't answer dryly

Dry answers indicate disinterest and formal communication. Emotional responses, on the contrary, provoke the guy to continue the conversation, catch him, and intrigue him. Sympathy is felt even through correspondence, as well as stiffness and detachment.

#6. Call him by name

The sound of one's own name is music to a person. When you pronounce his name, you emphasize his uniqueness and significance in this world. This is why people find it so unpleasant when their name is distorted or their letter is forgotten.

During the conversation, you can ask the man whether the meaning of the name matches his character.

Important! If you didn’t catch the guy’s name, it’s better to ask again than to make a mistake or try to avoid names.

#7. Let him miss you

Any girl is pleased to know that she is missed. The feeling of melancholy when apart makes you appreciate spending time together more.

To make a guy miss you:

Don't tell all the secrets about yourself, extend the pleasure by becoming a mystery girl.
Don't forget about your friends, relatives, business. The guy must understand that you have your own busy life, then it will be even more interesting for him.
Look after yourself even when you are not with him and do not forget about your social networks. If he sees your gorgeous photos, hears friends discussing your image, this will encourage him to be even closer to such a girl.
Stop texting for at least 1 day. Then he will have time to miss you and appreciate spending time alone. The contrast is especially noticeable when you bring positive emotions into a guy's life.
If you are planning a meeting with your interlocutor, you can send a message in the spirit of “I can’t wait to meet you.” Then the guy himself will begin to anxiously wait for this moment.

#8. Add intrigue

The intrigue caused in the correspondence may be connected with you or with his personality. All people are selfish, men are no exception. To intrigue a guy, make him think about himself at your suggestion. For example:

“I realized something about you...”
“Do you know that you have a special character?”
“Did you come to my page?” If he says that it’s not him, you can answer: “But I would like it to be you.”
“Can I ask you a personal question?”

You don’t need to reveal all your cards right away, he should be intrigued. Instead of a quick answer, flirt with your interlocutor. For example, “I don’t even know, I’ll think about whether it’s worth telling you this :)” Then you need to flirtatiously describe the man’s virtues, he will be very pleased.

The intrigue associated with you may look like this:

“I’ve been smiling all day since your message/last night.”
“Today I woke up so early, I decided to watch the sunrise on the roof/in the park/on the balcony.” Extraordinary girls attract much more attention. You also emphasize your energy and interest in your own life.
“Uh, I have a problem...”, then wait for a response from him, and: “I can’t stop thinking about you.”

#9. Don't reply to a message right away

The one who responds longer than the interlocutor seems more unavailable and busy. However, we are talking about 5-10 minutes; it is tactless to respond after a few days.

Pay attention to how quickly the young man responds; if the message arrives immediately, it is enough to pause for 2-5 minutes. If he answers after a few hours, comes in once a day because of work or business, there is no need to hang on the phone. Copy your interlocutor.

Important! A person who always responds to messages immediately appears to be a phone addict. One gets the impression that you have nothing else to do, and besides, the guy will immediately guess that you are “stuck.”

#10. Don't talk only about yourself all the time

A person who talks only about himself unwittingly demonstrates:

egocentrism;
lack of attention;
desire to gain recognition;
fear of being alone, unheard.

This causes boredom and rejection for the interlocutor. A guy who communicates with a girl for the first time does not feel the need to know her mental traumas, all her interests, hobbies. We can talk about this, but in moderation. Give your interlocutor a break, let him also talk about himself. Dialogue is like a game of tennis; the ball cannot be on one side of the field.

#eleven. Communicate regularly

Regular communications show interest on both sides. This way you won’t let them forget about you, you show that you can find time to communicate with a person. At the same time, observe the guy’s behavior; if during the whole day he has not found 1-2 minutes for a short answer, he is not interested in communication.

Basic mistakes when dating on VK

Many girls make many common mistakes when communicating with guys by correspondence.
They are all very banal. And you probably know them.

Now I’ll tell you about them so that you can avoid them in the future:

Spam . In a dialogue with a guy, try to express your thoughts clearly and competently, do not write out a huge text with a sheet.
Checkmate _ Swearing does not make a girl look good, especially in the eyes of an unfamiliar guy.
Intrusive communication. Take breaks, give the guy the opportunity to take the initiative himself.
Controversy . The best option is a compromise. If a guy is an avid debater, then it’s better not to get into conflict with him.
Flattery . Guys love compliments, but not flattery. Men sense insincerity a mile away and avoid lying girls.
A large number of emoticons . Don't go overboard with the use of emoticons, it may seem frivolous at first meeting.
Lack of literacy . When meeting someone for the first time, most people pay attention to spelling and punctuation; gross mistakes can even turn off a gentleman.

What messages are best to send before going to bed at night?

At any stage of a relationship, pleasant messages before bed play an important role. A caring girl can write a nice good night message to a guy to show her tenderness and care. Before going to bed, the chosen ones often dream and like to imagine their beloved, so the words should express love.

A few examples that are recommended to write to guys before bed:

“I would climb into your dreams to make them more beautiful and pleasant”
“I can’t sleep because of the moon and thoughts of my beloved”

In the morning you need to be cheerful and write to your chosen one in a good mood. To begin with, to write to a guy in the morning, a simple and good phrase “Good morning!” will do. It is recommended to add a guy's nickname or nickname that will be associated specifically with you.

Men's opinions

I am a very shy young man and I expect girls to make the first move, even on a social network. Most often I meet people in interest groups. I am passionate about drawing and am looking for a partner with the same passion. First of all, I pay attention to the avatar. If I am attracted by the photos, then I will happily continue the conversation.

Vladimir

They say that a man should pursue a woman. I agree with this, however, I like it when girls take the initiative on the Internet, be it liking my photo or commenting on a VK page. Through simple actions, I understand that they show interest and sympathy in me. When meeting virtually, I pay attention to the girl’s interests and the absence of bad habits. If I like a girl from a photograph, I will write to her first without hesitation.

Nikolai

In my opinion, VK is an excellent platform not only for entertainment, but also for dating. I met my girlfriend in the community through VK. Under the post about the book, we started a conversation that turned into a personal dialogue. I liked her for her ease and interest. I appreciate that she wrote to me first. First of all, I paid my attention to her competent speech and general interest.

Oleg

Examples of cute messages on VKontakte

There are times in life when you need to show concern, apologize, or simply introduce yourself.

If a girl doesn’t know what nice thing to write to a guy, then you can come up with a message expressing maximum sincerity and care. A man immediately recognizes a banal pattern that he could receive from other girls.

Let's consider what you can write to a guy on VK to achieve what you want.

To get acquainted

Many girls think about what to write to a guy they like on VKontakte, but don’t know where to start.
All gentlemen love creative and unusual women. When you decide what to write to a guy to get to know him, you need to surprise him.

A few examples of how to generate interest:

“Yesterday in my dream I saw a guy who looked like you. Only he was on a white horse. Can you tell me who this is?”
“I have rarely met people with such a gentle look. I am surprised."
“I think you were in a movie...”

If he ignores and does not write himself

There are many reasons why a guy doesn’t write or ignores him, such as being busy, sick, or tired. The lover also ignores if he is not interested in communication or is tired of it.

If you need to write to a guy when he ignores you, you need to directly find out the essence of the problem:

“Today is another morning, and I miss you so much, why are you silent?”
“I have long noticed that you ignore me, but why?”

When you don’t know what to write to a guy, if he doesn’t write, then you need to remember his favorite topics of conversation and take the initiative.

If he's offended

Sometimes girls manage to hurt the feelings of a young man, which is why many breakups occur. If you need to write to a guy when he is offended, then it is recommended to put aside all pride and take the first step towards restoring harmony between lovers.

You need to follow short instructions:

Admit your guilt to the person.
Apologize for rudeness or ugly actions.

When writing, you need to be creative, for example: “I didn’t know how dear you were to me. Sorry, I realized everything.”

To make peace after a quarrel

A guy will be able to forgive if his significant other helps with this. When a girl wants to write to a guy after a quarrel, she needs to express her thoughts as briefly and sincerely as possible. You need to promise that this won’t happen again and at the end ask if the guy forgives her.

An example of what to write to a guy to make peace:

"I'm sorry. I promise not to do this again. Will you forgive me?
“I really regret that I behaved this way. A day without you is like a big wound on my soul. You don’t hold much grudge against me, do you?”

Mistakes and misunderstandings

Even following templates, there is a chance of ending up in an unpleasant situation. Sometimes emotions force you to do something faster than your mind. But haste can be smoothed over by embarrassment, but real mistakes will undoubtedly lead to discord. For example, correspondence should not contain grammatical, punctuation, spelling or speech errors. Yes, this is not a dictation for departure, but no one will be pleased to communicate with an uneducated and rude person. The modern world has provided too many resources for testing your speech; you should not neglect them. In addition, you should get involved in reading, this will not only improve literacy, but also expand your vocabulary.

The next taboo applies to profanity. Even for partners who have been together for years, receiving swearing messages (if it is not part of a joke) is unpleasant. Leave her at least outside the chat, or better yet, completely cross her out of your life. It is also worth holding back questions about intimate and personal things until you get to know each other more deeply. For example, many guys have tense relationships with their parents, or they don't want to discuss past relationships. The last point, by the way, also has a downside. Even if communication suggests this, do not describe your ex, especially in a negative context.

And finally, guys love to be called by name, even when communicating online. But you should be careful with kind words. For example, a brutal alpha does not appreciate a kitten or a mouse. Not everyone likes a cowboy or a superman. Before you diminutively decline his name, you should also take a closer look at the reaction.

Madness of passions

Tell him about what passions are boiling in your soul - touching SMS to your beloved guy!

You're just a devil! It is impossible to forget about you, you are always in my thoughts...
I love you with the purest and most innocent love!
Days without you are a crazy series of gray everyday life... I can’t wait for the weekend!
My love for you is the best thing that ever happened to me! Thank you for this!
Sometimes it seems to me that even you cannot put out this fire in which I am burning...
God, you are such an amazing man! Sometimes I can’t even believe that we are actually together...
Only after meeting you, I realized what I want from life! I want you from her!
There is sadness in my soul when you are far away... I need you very much...
For a very long time I couldn’t decide... to invite you for more than a cup of tea!
Don't break my heart... it won't last forever anyway.
I would like to forget you so that I can live in peace! But you, bitch, are so unforgettable...
I don't want to waste another day without you...
I want to breathe just for the sake of your love... How did you bewitch me so...
You are my sun on a cold winter day, you are my coolness in the summer heat...
I only dream of your lips on my body... Cursed be the day when that spark ran between us!
My affectionate and gentle animal... kitten. And for everyone else - a ruthless and bloodthirsty lion!
Write me at least a few lines... I love you!
Love makes me weak, and you make me strong - balance!
The smile doesn’t want to leave my face when I think about you...
This is the feeling when you burn and melt at the same time... How do you do this to me?
I tried to hide this from you for a long time... but there was nothing left in my thoughts except you!
Vulgar thoughts in my head, my heart is beating hysterically... I just saw your smile!
I can survive separation, but I will never survive if there is not at least a tiny corner left in your heart for my lost soul...
My heart is broken, covered with wounds... It is drenched in blood. Thank you, I don't need it.

How to recognize a guy's interest?

You can find out whether a man is interested in communication by the following signs:

Most often he responds to messages immediately.
Asks questions and is interested in the woman’s affairs.
Remembers the stories that were told by the girl recently.
Often writes first.

You can also check the level of interest with 1 message: “Sorry, I can’t talk right now, please write to me in 30 minutes.” Fine? Do not be bored!". The guy will write if he is really interested. Perhaps he will even wait another 10-20 minutes so that the girl definitely has time to finish her “business”.

I love you!

Touching SMS to your beloved man, which will melt even a heart of stone!

A small ray of you breaks through the darkness of my life... Thank you for that!
You have such power over me that if you wish, I will take a step into the abyss...
I want to cry, but there is nothing left to cry with. He wants to die, but there is no one left to die. After all, without you there is no me.
The day is gloomy, it misses you... This is not true, it’s just that my heart misses...
Hope for a miracle never dies! And even if he dies, he leaves nothing behind...
Even if you ever stop loving me, my love will be enough for both of us... I promise!
My thoughts are intertwined, my tongue is twisted... I'm not drunk, I just like someone!
No words can express what I feel when you are not around...
It’s like I’m a bird whose wings have been cut off... You can teach me to fly again, right?
If the word “miss” means anything, it clearly does not apply to my feelings for you. It’s like trying to use the word “light” to describe the sun itself!
You probably remember how we met? I didn't tell you, but that evening I thought it was the best day of my life!
I really want to be with you... Some kind of irrational desire!
I need the whole world... I only need you and your sweet Cheshire smile!
I always knew that you were a little bit of that... a little bit of a wizard!
I really miss you in my paws! I love you, kitten!
You are the only person who can turn my whole world upside down with just one glance...
I sit and dream only of the day when we can be together and never let each other go...
You know, I love you so much that sometimes I’m just torn from hating you! I hate it when you're far away...