Every couple faces trust issues. This is an absolute, which is expressed as a percentage by one hundred. There is not a single person who blindly believes, does not get burned and does not doubt. There is no “protection” in love, and there are no relationships, neither before marriage nor family, where a man or woman does not doubt each other. Another problem centers around trust and jealousy.
Pathological jealousy is defined as a way to initiate a situation in which a partner will be wrong. True jealousy allows trust to emerge, but with a grain of doubt. Pathologies of relative fidelity include both partners. However, the woman is more emotional. She cannot cope with the “here and now” syndrome, often succumbing to feelings of possessiveness.
Men are more prone to mistrust, as well as infidelity. And in their minds, the girl’s potential departure is regarded either as lack of self-confidence or betrayal, which they themselves committed and believe that the woman is also capable of this. People are not judged by themselves, but they are checked. For trust can be lost on the basis of any suspicions or rich imagination.
But how to test a girl for lice and sincerity of feelings, psychologists will answer. They developed a number of nonverbal indicators that indicate lying. Just remember that every person deceives and embellishes the circumstances of actions several dozen times during the day.
Psychological methods for detecting lies
There is a separate branch in the science of observing human reactions. She analyzes behavior, identifying symptoms of lies or understatement. You can use the technique during a conversation, asking leading questions, or taking specific actions. In the first case there will be a facial reaction, in the second - behavior and non-verbal gestures. One should proceed from the opposite. If there is a reason for jealousy, the girl will not blame the guy for looking for a convenient reason for quarrels.
There were cases when partners checked each other using an allegedly found page on a dating site. The young ladies, obviously aware of their boyfriend’s jealousy, quickly found confirmation that this was his doing. And the situation changed radically: suspicions arose among the weaker sex. Either the man wanted to humiliate the woman, or put her in an indecent light, or break up, but not on his own initiative.
Ways to find out if a girl loves you or is just flirting
Flirting is harmless entertainment, inherent in both women and men. It’s difficult to see true love behind cutesy looks and ambiguous jokes. Therefore, it is difficult to discern whether a woman is giving a signal to attack or is simply flirting with you.
But some of her actions may directly indicate she is in love with you.:
- She is interested in the life of the object of her love . A flirting girl is limited to flirting alone. She is not interested in your life beyond these few minutes of communication. A girl in love will be interested in what his favorite football team is, his favorite TV series, music, she needs to know everything.
- Only the beloved is in my thoughts . A girl in love will not ignore the disappearance from all her radars. If you are sick, she will certainly call, or even show up to you with a pot of chicken broth. A flirting girl who is not focused on a long-term relationship does not care about your life.
- Shows concern . A girl in love strives to push as much food into her lover as possible. If this is a colleague, there will always be pies according to her signature recipe and fresh cookies on your desk. A girl whose goal is to flirt will not worry so much.
If it’s difficult to figure out where is flirting and where is falling in love, take the first step. A flirting girl will reject your attempt to move to a new level of relationship, and a woman in love will be happy with this turn of events and take a step towards you.
Frank conversation2
This can be not just a conversation where a man asks tricky questions, but a special dialogue built in such a way as to provoke the girl to give an unspoken answer. You need to pay attention to the following points:
Sight. When asked how her day was, she looks up and to the left. This speaks of the truthfulness of the words. Looking up and to the right indicates understatement. It's too early to draw conclusions. Perhaps the girl is not telling her some unpleasant moments: embarrassment, a reprimand at work, an unpleasant client.
Facial expression. When talking, the voice trembles, the corners of the lips are lowered, the smile is forced, unnatural. This speaks of a lie. There's probably something to hide. It cannot be said that the beloved is cheating. But there is definitely a reason for mistrust and loyalty.
Gestures. When a partner cheats, he involuntarily tries to hide his facial expressions by twisting his fingers. Can fiddle with clothes, straighten hair. One of the gestures does not exactly indicate betrayal, but the complex of these movements and reactions makes one think about honesty.
If a girl behaves well in a conversation, it was not possible to recognize the deception, you should not blindly believe. More sophisticated methods help dispel doubts.
Flirting at work: how to know if a female colleague likes you
Hot sex in a meeting room is as normal as a bottle of cognac in a work cupboard. And where else to love and be loved, if not at work, when it is there that we spend maximum time, and after a hard day at work we dream of only one thing - to cuddle with our favorite pillow. In general, “languishing of the flesh at work” is absolutely natural. And this is how a woman who is clearly “languishing” for you behaves:
- she regularly appears in your field of vision, even if you work in different departments, on different floors or even in different buildings;
- when communicating with you, a colleague strokes his neck, tugs at his hair, touches earrings, rings or a chain, sublimating the desire to touch;
- speaks to you differently than to other male colleagues, involuntarily changing the tempo, timbre, intonation and rhythm of his voice;
- “yes yes” at meetings, expressing support and agreeing with your proposals, ideas, thoughts and plans;
- she is attentive to small details - for example, she brews coffee personally for you and, of course, with the right amount of sugar;
- like any woman, she begins to obsessively monitor her appearance and changes her formal suit to a more feminine look.
Women remain women even at work, because there is no such law “to love is prohibited.” And everything that does not violate the criminal code easily fits into the working charter.
New fan3
Before you hire a volunteer to play the role of a fan, it is worth understanding whether the ends really justify the means. Such a distrustful attitude towards a spouse with whom there is something to share besides bed is acceptable. Anyone can accuse, but even after unsuccessful attempts to catch someone in a lie, it is worth explaining and apologizing. The “victim” is unlikely to trust the inspector after all, because the undermined opinion of himself comes from those closest to him.
According to statistics, married couples without children more often resort to the verification method with the help of third parties. Men hire people they know, and only 48% of them do. Of the remaining, only 2% do not try to find the skeleton in the closet. The remaining half are inclined to believe their reasons without evidence: it seemed that she had changed, which means that it is so. Now it is her task to refute the prevailing opinion. Women not only leave this type of man, but also divorce at the first opportunity, citing unbearable jealousy.
The situation with the “sent Cossack” is unfolding according to the standard scenario. The guy's friend agrees to play love, imitating feelings for the object. Over the course of a month, there are signs of attention and conversations are held without pressure. It is impossible to immediately accuse her of indecent behavior. Too superficial and seems like a reason to break up.
When the sympathy becomes mutual, the woman will begin to look in the mirror more often, wear perfume and wear beautiful clothes. This indicates interest and a desire to be liked and attract attention. It’s not cheating yet, but the relationship is under threat, due to the man’s fault. He risks losing both his beloved and his friend. After all, relationships are not toys; people are not made of iron, and feelings can flare up in anyone.
Does it happen that a girl hides her feelings?
Oh yes, female secrecy is legendary.
Negative old experiences can undermine a girl’s trust both in men and in romantic and close relationships in general, so she is in no hurry to be the first to open her heart. It is also worth understanding that from childhood, remembering Tatyana Larina, girls are told that if they themselves start talking about their feelings for a man, they will suffer a sad fate: they will lose all interest in them and will try to get rid of them as quickly as possible. Since many girls are not without fear of loneliness, they try to be good to everyone so as not to be abandoned. Hence the adherence to outdated rules of “decency”, which only suppress what is inside.
How to understand that a girl loves you, but hides her feelings? Outwardly, a young lady may act completely indifferent or extremely polite, but this does not mean that she does not feel anything for you. Try to watch her. Some gestures, characteristic features of behavior, phrases will definitely give her away, unless, of course, the girl has undergone many years of training in the school of self-control.
Unexpected gift4
When presenting a woman with a bouquet of flowers anonymously, she still thinks about her beloved. If she has another boyfriend, she will definitely find out whether he was involved in the gift. And only then will he express gratitude to his man.
Since husbands rarely give flowers delivered to the office or other institution, women tend to doubt. The truth is that the faithful woman will refuse flowers or immediately thank her husband in a surprised voice. The unfaithful woman will pretend that she doesn’t know who the gift is from, but she will never think about her man.
The conclusion can be drawn in two ways: the girl never received signs of attention. The guy did not bother to accustom his chosen one to beautiful gestures and actions. It often happens that a man begins to sort things out, already knowing the truth in advance, or trying to reveal it.
Non-standard questions for a girl that can confuse you
Do you like everything strange and inexplicable? Or maybe you want to give the impression of an extraordinary and unpredictable personality? Ask your girl unusual questions from our list - with their help you are guaranteed to get the title of a creative guy and, moreover, you will test your friend’s sense of humor and imagination.
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Comment: it is important to immediately ask the girl such a question, otherwise later they will accuse you of something based on fortune telling
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Comment: another strange question, for strange couples
Well, if you both believe in reincarnation, then why not ask.
Cool question, it will work in 99% of cases.
Social networks to help invisible lies5
In the modern world of the Internet, any person has an account on a social network. This is not only a way of self-expression, but also communication, sometimes with the opposite sex. And since there are sites specifically for correspondence and dating, the thought of having a virtual fan still creeps in. Verifying a girl using this method amounts to creating a false account in the name of a non-existent person. This is where the communication takes place:
- A man first fills out his profile in such a way as to hide any connection between “himself.” There should be no mutual friends or acquaintances. The institutions and schools where the young people studied are not indicated.
- Then the “victim’s” account is examined. It should also be noted that the number of men and women in the friends section does not indicate the maintenance of communication. Perhaps some pages are just distant friends or classmates with whom communication is not maintained.
- Next you need to start a conversation. If the girl gives in, you can move on.
An important point in correspondence is the truthfulness of words. Checking whether a woman is telling the truth is quite difficult. The only wording that can mean she is lying is if she informs her interlocutor about her status. Single or not in a relationship at all. This can be understood from different angles: either the person just wants to flirt without obligations, which will not go beyond the screen, or he is trying to lead a double life.
To expose the girl, young people make an appointment in a cafe or restaurant, where they then come. It helps to leave all the i's dotted.
She treats your relationship like a chore.
If you think she's tired of the relationship, or the relationship seems stagnant, it will feel like Groundhog Day. She doesn't put any energy into the relationship, and you just date when it's convenient,” says Zen psychotherapist and neuromarketing strategist Michelle Paiva. “Relationships should evolve, not remain stagnant.” But more than a sense of a future breakup, it could be a sign that they aren't going to be faithful because they simply aren't taking the relationship seriously.
Blackmail - a harsh method or hopelessness?_8212
A more sophisticated way to point out to a person his secret life comes down to unmasking him under the guise of someone he knows. This behavior amounts to blackmail. The woman is informed that her secrets have long been known to everyone, and her actions are ugly. As proof, they send a photo where she is depicted with another man.
It is noted that 68% of couples resolve such suspicions of infidelity by creating fake evidence. Unfortunately, the beautiful half of humanity falls for this. But this only speaks of meanness, since not everyone can actually lead third-party relationships.
Much depends on the psyche of the interlocutor and the degree of pressure. A girl can only admit to something that doesn’t really exist to her boyfriend. Therefore, if someone wants to rudely deceive a young lady or slander her, the woman will first of all inform her lover about this. The situation will be discussed between the two lovers.
Decent behavior3
Decent behavior of a man is the most effective way to awaken a girl’s feelings. You always need to start with yourself. Becoming important, necessary for her, the shoulder on which you can always lean - this is the easiest path to success. And this concerns not so much the material side of the issue as the ability to support morally.
The ability to listen and hear is priceless in our time.
The manifestation of such feelings as kindness, mercy, friendship, mutual assistance is, unfortunately, becoming very rare. Possessing them is a huge plus in building relationships.
Dating by phone6
This is a type of communication using special methods. If your method is described through social networks, then we are talking about a telephone conversation. Knowing a woman's number, a man can introduce himself as anyone in a conversation. And his best childhood friend, about whom he knows enough information from the words of a woman (most importantly, verified), and a courier, and just a fan.
Those who belong to the creative profession type also manage to start a conversation. Girls are willing to make contact with artists, photographers and writers. If you manage to get to know each other, it is important not to get carried away, as in the film “I Love My Husband” - the wife tries in every possible way to influence her husband, takes him away from the family to herself, and then proves her importance in family relationships.
Whether comedy can become a prototype for a testing method is unknown. However, such situations arise when a young man is not sure of his suspicions and is afraid to inform the girl about the speculation that has arisen. More mature and experienced people come to a consensus together.
Is it right to test for loyalty?
Do you know what is very important in a close relationship between two people?
Confidence.
I have never understood wildly jealous guys and girls who carry out surveillance, monitor email and mobile phones, study social networks, and control every step.
All this is due to uncertainty, of course, how can one even live and build relationships in such an environment?
You can go crazy, suspecting your beloved of treason every day.
Well, you can drive yourself and your significant other to a madhouse.
Is not it so?
If you are so jealous and distrustful, then I recommend two ways out of this impasse:
- Change for the better (become less suspicious and distrustful).
- Test your girlfriend's fidelity.
If the first option is not an option for you at all, then I recommend that you still decide and test your girlfriend’s fidelity.
Don't take this as a sign of weakness or insecurity.
Look at it as mandatory safety precautions, like washing your hands before eating and brushing your teeth before going to bed.
If a girl easily passes the test of fidelity, stop tormenting her with your suspicions and jealousy.
Finally start enjoying the happiness that the Universe has sent you.
Eventually learn to trust her!
