Caring for a woman is an entire art that requires knowledge of female nature and the presence of feelings for her. But only a few know exactly how to do this. Some simply shower people with gifts, others make grand gestures only on holidays.
You will learn further in the article about how to care for a woman, including from a distance, how important it is and what mistakes a man should avoid. Advice from psychologists will be a valuable addition.
Why is it so important to look after a woman?
Psychologists emphasize the fact that women are by nature sensitive and emotional, which cannot be said about men. Therefore, an emotional, spiritual connection with a partner is important for them. While for a guy courting a woman is a behavior that precedes sexual intercourse, for her it is choosing a suitable partner.
Accordingly, the task of courtship for a man is to demonstrate his best qualities in order to prove that he is better than other guys around her. With similar actions, it performs several functions at once:
- manifests itself as a partner for sexual relations;
- distributes role relationships;
- demonstrates his personal qualities.
No woman can admire an inactive, passive guy. Accordingly, her expectations of courtship are not a calculation; on the contrary, it gives the man the opportunity to maximize his potential. In the course of her actions, she always expects from him understanding, care, ingenuity, patience and tact.
Style
Be cool! But don’t rush to run for a biker jacket, ripped jeans and a Stratocaster. An important indicator of coolness is authenticity. Don't get hung up on tired action movie tropes; you don't have to live up to them one hundred percent. Clothes and hairstyle should suit you!
Decide on your image. Take the time to study the attributes of your idols. Think about what clothes and what hairstyle will highlight your appearance. One item after another, you will put together a new image.
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What does a woman not tolerate in a man? Infantility, lack of initiative, tediousness, greed. In order to win her over as much as possible, the guy needs to prove through actions that he is far from being like that. Beautiful gifts, original dates, showing care, romantic deeds, respect and much more will help with this. The main conditions are sincerity and moderation.
Showing you care
By nature, women strive for stability and a reliable male shoulder. They always choose those who can take care of them and their offspring. Be sure to demonstrate these qualities in a variety of ways. Provide assistance in any matter, monitor her mood and well-being, solve various problems, and provide comfort. How well you show your care initially, the more she will try for you in the future in a relationship.
Show the importance of a woman
If she asks you for something, try your best to do it. For example, she is not happy with your bad habits. Refuse them, this will become a serious indicator of your attitude to her. Another way to show the importance of a woman is to accept her for who she is, and not try to mold her into another person. Always answer her calls and messages, show interest in her affairs.
Romance
The best way to attract her attention is romance. Flirting, courtship, beautiful actions and surprises, all this will show what you are ready for for her. Romantic dates bring people together and establish a spiritual connection between people. We are talking about cute gifts, flowers, messages wishing good morning and good night, meetings in unusual places. Don't forget to give compliments, this is important for any girl. Find out what she dreams of, maybe you can make it come true.
Do you spoil your loved one with breakfast in bed?
Not really
Present
Gifts are an indispensable condition for courting a woman. With them, a man shows his wealth and ability to support his family. Presents must be given on holidays, as well as for no reason, unexpectedly. Think over the design, symbolism, packaging, presentation. Women look at price last. Gifts can be memorable, romantic, dating or adventure. If you can surprise her with originality, this is already a success.
Respect and pride for her
The best way to show your feelings and its importance for you will be gallant behavior. Show the correct manners - open doors for her, offer your hand when exiting a vehicle, help with outerwear, etc. All this will show how much you respect and appreciate her. In any matter, listen to her opinion, praise her for the right tips and solutions.
Show your loved one verbally and deeds that you are proud of her, be with her more often in the company of friends and family.
Compliments
Remember that every time before meeting you, he spends a lot of time, effort and effort to look his best. Therefore, try to notice any changes, give compliments about his appearance. Also praise her best character traits, achievements, tastes and preferences. This will show how interested you are in her.
Humor
It’s not for nothing that they say that if a man can make a woman laugh, he can make her fall in love with him. The main thing is to carefully choose jokes so that they are not flat, neutral, and do not hurt anyone’s feelings. By humor, girls determine their sharpness of mind, ingenuity and moral side of character.
Twelve ways to flirt with women
1. A woman can simply smile and hold her gaze on a man for a few minutes, as if hinting to him that she may be intrigued.
2. A woman can meaningfully close her eyes, as if she wants to say: “Perhaps I need someone like you.”
3. A woman may bow her head as if she is considering whether this man is right for her.
4. A woman can stand up and walk next to him, letting him know that he has a chance to get to know her if he wants to.
5. A woman may look at him, then look away, as if inviting him to look at her. After ten seconds, she may look at him again and smile, as if hinting: “If you are interested, come up and introduce yourself. I do not bite".
6. A woman may seem to accidentally grab onto it and exclaim: “Oh!”, as if hinting that she did not want to touch him, but she liked it.
7. A woman can touch his arm or shoulder from time to time while walking, as if expressing her affection in this way. And then she might just smile, hinting that she enjoys being around him. In addition, she may raise her eyebrows, as if she wants to tell him: “Wow, how nice!”
8. A woman may touch his knee or shoulder, as if wanting to show him that she feels good with him. Then she may remove her hand and pause her speech, as if the touch was so pleasant that she now needs to catch her breath and collect her thoughts.
9. A woman can jokingly argue with him or make some remark in such a tone that he immediately understands that, despite minor differences, she still likes him.
10. A woman can ask a man for help in some matter. And while he helps her, she can breathe excitedly, as if telling him: “It’s so nice when they take care of you, and you can just enjoy this care. This is such happiness."
11. A woman can ask a man a question and then admire his intelligence, as if telling him: “I like the way you think. You can be relied upon."
12. At the end of the date, she may look him in the eyes, lower her head slightly, smile, and then lift her chin a little, as if hinting: “I had a great time, and if you want to kiss me, then I don’t mind.” Just take it and kiss it."
Using these signals, a man can make sure that she favorably accepts his advances. A man needs to know that he is gradually moving towards his cherished goal. If he doesn't get clear signals from a woman, he may decide that he is trying in vain and lose interest in her.
How to care from a distance
The need for courtship remains even if there is a distance between young people. A man needs to be smart and resourceful in order to maintain romance and flirtation while not being with his chosen one. What rules should you follow:
- Take your time . Try not to disappear from her sight for several days, even if there are hundreds of thousands of kilometers between you. Set aside time for conversations, calls, ask how her day went, and tell her about yours.
- Use different modern technologies. You have many options at your disposal - audio, video, text. Don’t neglect anything; video calls will help you keep in touch as much as possible.
- Write letters. If previously it was a common form of communication, today writing by hand will become a manifestation of romance. You can write something intimate in it that is important for both of you.
- Use delivery services . Give gifts, even if you personally cannot do this. With the help of a courier and non-cash payment, you can give her flowers, sweets, or any gifts.
- Share everything with her. You can take pictures of interesting places where you visit, beautiful sunsets, funny pictures, in general, everything that surrounds you. Visualization helps to imagine that you are next to each other.
Do you and your spouse often have to be at a distance from each other?
Not really
Words of care to a man
Tell your man that you are proud of his aspirations, achievements and successes. Show joy in the presence of a man. Even simple and sincere words that you feel good with a man express your care and love.
Ask your man questions about how his day was. Talk to your loved one. This will give him strength, and your relationship will only become stronger. No one will listen to a man the way his beloved woman does: with understanding and support.
What not to do
Knowing how to care for a woman, you are still not protected from typical mistakes that are inherent in men. Therefore, we bring to your attention some “harmful tips” on what not to do:
- be annoying - you don’t need to make her think about you all the time, don’t overwhelm her with dozens of calls and messages per minute, otherwise you will start to irritate her;
- buy her attention - valuable gifts require good reasons and close relationships, an adequate girl will not accept a diamond ring on the second date, since she is not yet completely sure that you are suitable for her;
- follow the “pickup” skill - using other people’s ideas on how to seduce a girl, you can look stupid and ridiculous;
- the need to do what you don’t want - don’t pretend to be someone you’re not, don’t force yourself to act to your detriment, the effect will be the opposite;
- be rude to refusal - even with ideal courtship, be prepared for refusal, she has the right to choose, try to maintain composure.
Expert opinion
Elena Druzhnikova
Sexologist. Family relations expert. Family psychologist.
Any actions must come from the heart, otherwise, being not yourself, sooner or later you will be disappointed in each other. You will get tired of pretending to be something other than who you are, and she will see a change in your behavior.
Signs of attention
During courtship, a girl should feel many emotions, but this does not mean that you need to fill all her space with yourself. It is important to let your chosen one do her own thing so that she has time to get bored. There are several points that are of great importance during the courtship period:
- Beauty. It is necessary to choose the most beautiful places for meetings that will allow a woman to experience real aesthetic pleasure.
- Good manners. It is important to remember to be polite and be gallant. And not only with the chosen one, but also with the people around her.
- Diversity. Psychologists recommend inviting a woman to places that are different from each other.
- Fullness. Communication should be interesting. If a man thinks through the route in advance and prepares an interesting story, perhaps he will be able to surprise his companion and impress her.
- Regularity. Sometimes, after several dates, guys deliberately disappear, believing that this will make the girl fall in love. However, it is better not to do this; such behavior can alert the chosen one. Perhaps she will decide that a man spends time with her only when he is bored.
Each representative of the fairer sex is unique and has its own unique inner world. There is no point in fitting all the ladies into one line. Instead of comparing a woman to his ex, it is better for a man to pay attention to her positive qualities and think about why he singled her out from the crowd. When communicating with a girl, it is important to be attentive, notice the tastes and preferences of your companion and base your courtship on this information. Then success will definitely be guaranteed.
Advice from psychologists
Regardless of whether you are dating a woman, have just met, or live together as a family, you always need to look after and care for her. This will allow you to maintain an emotional connection, flirtation, passion or rekindle all these feelings. What does care involve, psychologists are ready to share recommendations:
- Be yourself . Do not follow imposed instructions, cliches, or “pick-up artist” methods for conquering a woman. She may be familiar with such tricks or will quickly sense your insincerity.
- Say nice things. Do not use blanks, give real compliments. Is there something you like about her? This is what you should focus on. Compliment her outfits, makeup, hair, scent, her smile, and more.
- Visit interesting places. Find out what interests her and plan dates based on this information. Cafes, parks, movies get boring quickly. If she likes to paint, find a beautiful place and offer to recreate the landscape on canvas together. Extreme dates are suitable for a sporty girl.
- Be original. There is no need to win her over with expensive but hackneyed gift themes. If you give flowers, let it be a rare potted plant or an unusual presentation. Any woman will be happy with memorable gifts. Various quests are popular today.
- Be interested in her . Show her in every possible way that you like her. Avoid trivial questions like “How are you?” and what are you doing?". Be interested in her interests, hobbies, what films she likes, what music she listens to. Be attentive and sensitive.
Nutrition
Nutrition should be balanced. Divide your diet so that it contains proteins, fats and carbohydrates. Diversify your diet and try to include these foods:
- Meat fish;
- Cereals - especially buckwheat, rice and pearl barley;
- Cheese, cottage cheese, milk;
- Fruits, natural honey, nuts;
- Vegetables, spices.
Avoid fast food, snacks, soda and freeze-dried coffee. In case you didn't know, caffeine slows down testosterone production. And due to fatty and unhealthy foods, toxins are formed in the body faster.
The main principle of the men's diet is to eat often, but little by little. It is better to eat five times a day than two, and very densely. By eating small portions, your body can quickly absorb what you eat. Follow the advice - losing weight will go much faster. The exchange system will be able to perform its functions without difficulty.
How to start leading a healthy lifestyle at 40?
With the onset of menopause, a woman’s body begins to change in all directions. This is facilitated by the decline of reproductive function. The first wrinkles appear, the figure changes, which causes depression in many women. To maintain a woman’s health at 40 and minimize the risk of developing pathologies, it is necessary to lead a healthy lifestyle.
Adequate sleep is one of the main factors for maintaining youth. Representatives of the fair sex in adulthood should sleep at least 7-8 hours a day. It is better to go to bed before 11 pm and wake up at the same time. Before going to bed, you need to ventilate the room.
Body
Set a daily routine. Good sleep will make the brain work as it should, boost immunity and improve your mood. Lack of sleep is stress for the body, which will gradually lead to obesity and put a mark on a man’s appearance in the form of bags under the eyes.
Physical activity is another way to improve your health and increase your attractiveness. Anyone can devote two to three hours a week to their body. Some tips:
- Walk more often.
- Do standard exercises at home: warm-up, push-ups, pull-ups. If possible, exercise with dumbbells.
- Take a break from sedentary work, this will allow you to warm up.
- Spend more time outside.
Myth #1: Acne and enlarged pores are a problem for teenagers
But cosmetologists and dermatologists don’t think so! After forty, the skin becomes flabby due to a decrease in collagen production, pores (especially on the cheeks and chin) become more pronounced, and then it’s not far from inflammation and blackheads.
Solution: products with retinoids. They will gently exfoliate the epidermis and cleanse the pores of impurities and excess sebum that stretch them and make them noticeable. Use these products at night, as retinoids increase skin sensitivity to the sun, which means they can contribute to the appearance of age spots.
Shaving
Whether you prefer a bushy beard, a graceful mustache or a bare chin, your hair needs to be taken care of. Catch recommendations:
- Don't skimp on machines and blades. There is an opportunity - take it more expensive. Do not use one cassette for a year - change it every two months. This way you will avoid skin damage and cuts. By the way, two blades are better than one - they shave cleaner.
- Moisturize your skin before shaving with a razor.
- If you have a beard, get an electric razor. It will help give your beard shape and get rid of excess. Too lazy to shave yourself - go to a barbershop.
Face
If you want to look respectable and presentable, keep your face clean. Skin needs the same care as internal organs, muscles and bones. Here are some skin care tips:
- Buy a cleanser - a special facial soap, toner. There will be no dirt left on your face.
- Use cleanser once a day. If you do this more often, the skin will be dry.
- Don't wash your face with hot water. Use warm or cold. Hot water dries the skin and increases sebum secretion.
- Skin can be dry due to nature or improper care. A moisturizer will help. No, the cream is not for girls. It will make you feel better.
To choose the right care product, find out your skin type. It can be dry, oily, combination or normal. Keep this in mind, the store will help you.
Diversity
Cafes, cinema, clubs and walks are the main activities of modern youth. And if you wander the streets and sit in food establishments every day, you will quickly get bored. How to be?
Not every person can afford regular trips abroad, visits to expensive establishments and too dynamic sports. It's too expensive! However, a little romance and fresh ideas will always help people diversify their leisure time.
The most banal places can become new if you try to look at them differently. When a café has special meaning and a favorite street means a lot to a couple, it turns a walk into a visit to the places of your own love story. Even the grayest cities will fall under the power of love and creativity. There is nothing that cannot have a positive connotation. The main thing is to learn to combine your feelings and certain places in the city that mean a lot to lovers.