Not yet a teenager: the calmest time in a boy's life

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Adolescence for boys is a unique period, as a result of which the child begins to clearly understand the basic boundaries between himself, his peers and peers.
At this time, active restructuring of the whole body begins, which can frighten the child a little. Not every boy is ready for the first signs, which are quite frightening for him. Dramatic physiological, psychological and emotional changes lead to changes in the child’s behavior. Parents should remember about such an important period and prepare mentally for it in advance.

WHEN DOES TRANSITIONAL AGE START IN BOYS?

At what time does adolescence begin to activate in boys? This period falls on 13-15 years. It is difficult to give an exact age, since each person is individual.

The presented period is usually called puberty. As a result, active changes are noted in the teenage body; the boy becomes a young man, which brings him closer to adulthood. His body is transformed taking into account the main function of procreation.

Hormonal changes negatively affect not only the physiological state of the child, but also affect his social behavior in society.

How to improve your relationship with your teenage son

is that you need to learn to “let go of your mother’s skirt.”
The important thing in raising a son is that you need to learn to “let him go from his mother’s skirt”

Timely freedom will give positive results:

• The son will become a man, and will not remain in adolescence for the rest of his life.
• A certain distance will help to form an adult, good relationship between the son and parents.
• The emotional sphere is normalized in the family.

When communicating with a child, you need to be a diplomat. You can only interest a teenager in a conversation for the first 60 seconds. There is no need to start with morality. The boy will get bored and stop listening.

Young men in adolescence begin to pay attention to their appearance and strive to get their physical shape in order. It is necessary to give the child the opportunity to attend selected sports sections

SIGNS OF TRANSITION IN BOYS

During the process of puberty in the body, noticeable changes are noted that do not go unnoticed for the parents and, directly, the child himself.

The main signs of adolescence in boys:

• Changes in the genital organs, the presence of vegetation is noted.
• Voice change. Due to the fact that the vocal cords noticeably increase, the development of throat muscles and cartilage occurs. The child's voice gradually breaks and becomes rougher. Voice development lasts for 24 months.
• Hair appears on the armpits, and the first fluff grows on the upper lip. Over time, vegetation appears on other parts of the body - arms, legs, face.
• Active development of muscles, which is accompanied by increased growth and expansion of the shoulder part of the body.
• The beginning of the period of emission is ejaculation that occurs at night.

Delayed puberty

If your son has not reached puberty by age 14, meaning his testicles and penis have not yet begun to grow, this is considered delayed puberty. The most common cause is called constitutional delayed puberty. Most boys with constitutional delay are completely healthy and will eventually experience puberty.

More than two-thirds of boys inherit it from one or both parents who also started puberty late. In boys, this can be defined as no increase in testicular size by age 14, or continuation of puberty more than five years after onset.

In girls, delayed puberty occurs when menstruation begins after the age of 16. Most boys who are constitutionally delayed are also short compared to other boys their age, but this is only because they have not yet had a growth spurt.

If your son has a chronic disease such as sickle cell disease, inflammatory bowel disease, or cystic fibrosis, puberty may also start later than usual.

A small number of boys have a condition called isolated gonadotropin deficiency (IGD), which means they do not produce enough of the hormones LH and FSH. This condition usually begins at birth and is usually treated with testosterone injections.

Even fewer boys have something going on with their testicles that causes delayed puberty. Testosterone is the main remedy for such problems.

TRANSITIONAL AGE IN BOYS

Having figured out the answer to the question when does adolescence begin in boys , it is important to remember that this period is divided into several stages. The identification of such stages directly depends on certain changes in the child’s body and behavior.

1. Preparation at this time in the boy’s body is actively preparing all internal organs for the transformation process.
2. Puberty stage of changes in the body.
3. A post-pubertal boy becomes aware of his sexuality and demonstrates attraction to the opposite sex.

When is adolescence for boys? The completion of all natural processes in the body occurs at the age of 17-19 years. At this time, the male body acquires the required amount of hormones.

Don't be afraid to communicate with your child

Unfortunately, many families neglect this important rule and let raising children take their course. However, a good parent should always strive to build rapport with their child. This cannot be done without communication. Did you see your son playing a PlayStation in the living room? Be sure to ask him a few questions about this game. It's a day off and you don't know what to do? Go outdoors to the forest with the whole family, where you can teach your child the wisdom of survival in the wild, and also communicate with him at the same time.

Both parents should communicate with the baby. The mother will give her child care and warmth, and the father will give him a courageous model of behavior, develop determination and courage, and teach him not to give up in difficult situations. Of course, at the age of 10, a child tries with all his might to grow up faster, however, he still remains a child and wants to feel warmth and attention. Why be surprised? Sometimes even adults don’t have enough of this...

TRANSITIONAL AGE AT 10-12 YEARS

At the first stage of physiological changes in boys, the testicles and penis begin to enlarge. The first vegetation appears on the pubic area.

Starting at this age, the child willingly spends all his free time with his friends, refusing to make contact with his parents. During this period, the first signs of child aggression are noted; attacks of cruelty and misunderstandings are possible.

It is important for parents to find an approach to their child and not criticize him without serious reasons. After all, the child perceives any advice and demands negatively, expressing his protest and dissatisfaction.

Do you need a specialist while growing up?

All adolescents go through puberty, and in most cases it ends with normal adulthood. But there are still circumstances when a boy should be shown to a doctor.

• Your son is worried about pain in the testicles or penis - be sure to visit a urologist with him.
• Physical changes do not occur, although the teenager has already passed the average age of puberty - consultation not only with a urologist, but also with an endocrinologist will be required.
• If signs of an eating disorder appear, the first thing to do is find out the cause of this problem. A nutritionist, gastroenterologist and psychologist can help you.
• There are suspicions that the child is suffering from severe depression - at a minimum, the help of a school psychologist is needed. He will already give all the necessary recommendations.
• If you can’t cope with acne at home, you need to consult a dermatologist. Be sure to make sure your son doesn't pick off his acne and get an infection that way.
• Hygiene products cannot cope with the strong odor of sweat - contact a nutritionist to help you adjust your diet (perhaps you should exclude fatty and spicy foods).

Talk to your children and support them at this “difficult age”, and also try to be extremely competent in such important issues related to puberty, or do not delay contacting specialists. Be attentive and caring - this is the only way you can get through this special time painlessly.

TRANSITIONAL AGE AT 13-14 YEARS OLD

At the age of 13, boys notice that their vocal cords are somewhat changed, which causes voice failure. The familiar child's voice gradually turns into a rough male voice, notes of hoarseness appear, causing discomfort to the boy. Thus, the child can withdraw into himself, which negatively affects his social status in society.

Hair actively spreads over the entire surface of the body. At this age, the child may notice that the first hairs have appeared above the upper lip; this is not yet rough male stubble, but quite noticeable fluff.

At the age of 14, boys begin to grow actively, their shoulders become larger and wider, which indicates a transformation of the whole body. Thus, the boy gradually turns into a guy.

This is a period of active hormonal changes, as a result of which a rash of pimples and acne may appear on the skin. To prevent the child from withdrawing into himself and acquiring a huge number of complexes, parents must explain to him that the occurrence of these processes is considered natural.

TRANSITIONAL AGE AT 15-16 YEARS OLD

At the age of 15, the loss of voice gradually stops, and the timbre becomes somewhat lower; this is not yet the final voice of a real man, but no longer a child. The child tries to appear better than he really is:

• Boys try to demonstrate their own strengths in order to prove to their peers who is better.
• Children compete with each other in wit and speed.
• The child evaluates himself and the people around him.
• Boys pay attention to the opposite sex, trying to please them.
• The construction of personality and individual style is carried out.
• The child tries to attract attention in various ways: aggression, humiliation of others, changing his own appearance, zeal to achieve victories in sports competitions.

This stage is considered one of the most difficult in the life of a boy and his parents. After all, at this time the psychological aspect changes: the child experiences a sharp change in mood, the zeal for learning disappears, the boys try to be independent.

At this age, the child reacts negatively to any control from mom and dad; he wants independence. It is at the age of 16 that life principles change and new goals for the future are formed.

Tanner's stages of sexual development

Adolescent boys develop physically through specific stages, often called the Tanner stages. Your pediatrician or family practice provider can determine what stage your teen is in and whether this is expected for their age. Tanner's stages, as well as approximate age range, include: 12

Puberty Rating 1 : (Prepubertal Stage) The testicles are small and the phallus (penis) is child-like. No pubic hair. Puberty Rating 2 : (10 to 15 years) Testicles increase in volume and size. The penis is not slightly enlarged. The scrotum turns red, becomes thinner and larger. A few pubic hairs become visible and are long, straight and slightly dark. Sexual Maturity Rating 3 : (10 to 16 years) The testes continue to grow in size and volume. The penis becomes longer. The scrotum continues to enlarge. Pubic hair becomes darker and curlier, and more of it appears. Puberty Rating 4 : (ages 12 to 17) Testicles continue to grow. The penis continues to grow in length and becomes thicker. The scrotum increases in size and also darkens. Pubic hair is coarse, thick and curly, similar to adult hair, although it is less abundant than that of adults. Sexual Maturity Rating 5 : Adult sized testicles (more than 20 ml in volume). The scrotum and penis are the size and shape of an adult. Pubic hair has normal distribution and volume in adults.

FEATURES OF TRANSITIONAL AGE AT 17-18 YEARS OLD

This is the final stage of changes in the child’s body, which is accompanied by the following features:

• boys reach puberty;
• the spine and muscle tissue stop actively growing;
• During this period, sexual attraction to the opposite sex increases noticeably.

At the age of 17-18, boys graduate from school, which means they will have to decide on their future. Therefore, the teenager recognizes himself in the role of a young man.

Parents should help their child and, unnoticed by him, guide him to the right decisions.

How to improve your relationship with your teenage daughter

A teenage girl's worldview changes. She feels like an adult and takes her parents’ requests with hostility. Conflict cannot be avoided if adults build relationships in the family incorrectly.

To improve your relationship with your daughter, you need to follow the recommendations of experienced psychologists:

1. You should provide your daughter with care and support. Mother and daughter should become best friends: then the girl will learn to trust adults and count on their help.
2. There is no need to forbid your daughter to use cosmetics. It is better to buy high-quality sets suitable for her age and give her advice on how to apply makeup correctly.
3. Allow her to be alone. It is necessary to leave the child at home alone for several hours so that he can rest mentally. The result will be noticeable immediately.
4. Don't violate your daughter's territory. Let everything in her room be the way she wants.

A girl should feel supported by her parents. Going through change alone is not easy.

ADVICE FOR PARENTS

The successful course of adolescence directly depends on the support and parental assistance. In this case, it is important to exercise some caution in your own statements, formulation of advice and demands.

• Parents should be sympathetic to all changes in the body and character of their child, without trying to re-educate him and return the former obedient boy.
• Communication with your son should be conducted on equal terms, eliminate the commanding tone and try to become for the child, first of all, a friend, and only then a mother and father.
• Be able to call your child for a frank conversation in order to always remain aware of the latest changes in his behavior, know about his actions and plans.
• So that the child does not grow up selfish and can trust his parents, they should also share their problems and some experiences with him. This will allow the boy to realize that he is already an adult and his opinion is also taken into account.

• Demonstrate to the teenager that parents will always be there and help, despite the life situations that have happened. The child must feel parental support. However, you shouldn’t overdo it too much; the boy shouldn’t grow up to be a mama’s boy who can’t make decisions on his own.
• Openly discuss with your son issues that are important to him. Even if this or that problem may seem funny and frivolous to parents, under no circumstances should they show this. Otherwise, the teenager will withdraw into himself, claiming that no one understands him.

Raising a child is an important task for every parent, who must fully understand the responsibility. By following the basic recommendations, you will be able to find an approach to your own child.

Be an example for your child

Every child needs a role model, especially a boy. If his own father is not like that for him, it means that some serious mistake was made in his upbringing. Try to spend more time with your son and be more interested in his life and thoughts. It will almost always be useful to engage in some masculine activities with a boy, for example, go fishing, ask him for help while repairing a car, assemble an airplane from a construction set, and so on.

The more a boy feels the friendship that connects him with his own father, the better example you will become for him. To do this, you don’t need to be ideal in everything. Just approach your work and raising a child with great responsibility and always keep the word that you give to a 10-year-old boy. Disobedience in a child’s psychology must be eradicated almost completely. To do this, do not hesitate to punish him for unfinished work and praise him if he completed his homework on time.