A person who doesn't like people. Causes and characteristics of misanthropy

September 5, 2018
Mental disorders
Denis Dmitriev

At all times, there has been a category of people who do not like society in all its manifestations. Such misanthropes were called misanthropes, and the disease was called misanthropy. Such people have recently become popular in media culture. Directors and book authors choose people with this character trait as the main characters in films and literary works.

Who are misanthropes

Misanthrope is a synonym for misanthrope in Greek, and comes from two words, respectively: “man” and “hatred.” Misanthropes do not show the usual interest in society, try to avoid the company of other people whenever possible, and can be aggressive in behavior.

If we consider misanthropy as a disease, then its definition will sound like rejection and a feeling of hatred towards all of humanity, moral principles, as well as the rules of behavior established in society. This term quite succinctly expresses the essence of the life position of a person who does not like people.

Ancient law

But there is an infallible law - hatred begets hatred.

And our bad attitude towards people is reflected by a bad attitude towards ourselves. And our dislike and hatred comes back to us from those around us and, in fact, through other people we hurt and punish ourselves.

So, this is very important to understand and remember - through hating other people, we punish and hate ourselves.

Is it possible to rebuild? Is it possible to start living differently? Yes, you can. But first of all, you need to learn to love yourself, and then love for others will follow.

Differences between a misanthrope and a sociophobe and a sociopath

All individuals with these character traits are at odds with society, but this is due to completely different reasons. Social phobes are afraid of people, while with misanthropy a person who does not like society and people experiences these feelings due to constant hatred of them, rejection of the gray faceless mass, and not specific members of society.

In addition, the big difference is that sociopathy is a mental disorder, while misanthropy can rather be called a certain state of mind and worldview of a person. Misanthropes do not have clinical psychiatric signs. Unlike sociopaths, who have no sense of conscience, misanthropes are quite capable of empathy and sympathy. They also admit to their own mistakes, and sociopaths usually consider themselves unique and flawless in everything.

Causes of misanthropy

Such an attitude towards humanity can be formed even in childhood, when consciousness and worldview are in their infancy, and the child absorbs all the information about the surrounding reality. Of course, becoming a misanthrope is also acceptable in adulthood. To do this, a person just needs to find a number of compelling reasons, which are often associated with single or multiple negative experiences of communicating with people.

A person who does not like society as a whole may transfer onto it the negative traits he sees in specific individuals. Often, such feelings are caused by seeing unpleasant activities of people, for example, inappropriate behavior in a public place, political wars, harming the environment or cruelty to animals.

Pansexuals

People with this type of sexual orientation can be attracted to absolutely all individuals of the human race. They don't care whether their partner is male, female, transgender, intersex or transgender.

For a pansexual, the personal qualities of a potential partner, the essence of the relationship with him and the emotions that they receive in the process of communication are more important.

They are able to fall in love with a person suffering from the last stage of obesity or serious developmental anomalies. Pansexuals do not pay attention to age differences; for them, a difference of 50 years may be acceptable. They build relationships on common hobbies and life goals, and this makes such unions strong and interesting.

Misanthrope Character Traits

How to distinguish a person who does not like people from a simple person in the street who is suddenly in a bad mood caused by traffic jams or a quarrel with his beloved? Misanthropes have some traits that you should pay attention to when communicating:

They do not accept social, behavioral or religious norms. They don’t like humanity as a whole and speak negatively about people.
Often, in a defiant and provocative form, they contrast their own personality with society or all of humanity.
They relate well to friends and close people, the number of which is calculated in a few units.

Misanthropes prefer communicating with old friends to making new acquaintances. Rejection of human weaknesses and shortcomings does not allow misanthropes to fully communicate and make a favorable impression on unfamiliar people.

Bisexuals

These people are capable of being attracted to both men and women. They do not give preference to any one gender, and admit that they never know who will become the object of their passion.

It is wrong to assume that bisexuals have not decided on their orientation; they really, by nature, love both men and women equally.

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Communication with a misanthrope

It's not surprising that a person who doesn't like people evokes basically the same feelings from others. Sometimes even close people find it difficult to withstand negative judgments about themselves and all humanity. It is easiest to make friends with a misanthrope for those who hold exactly the same views on life and share the indignation of their interlocutor.

Relatives and friends of a misanthrope, as a rule, know his habits and behavior well, so it is easier for them to communicate with such a person. In addition, the misanthrope himself can be quite affable and friendly with people he has known for a long time. In any case, it is worth showing signs of affability and friendliness in response, not to bother or meddle in the inner world of the misanthrope, but, if possible, to help him achieve some personal goals.

Someone doesn't like your voice

It is likely that you may encounter people who are annoyed by the sound of your voice. Therefore, it is unpleasant for them to be around you. However, there is no need to worry about this at all, since it is only a matter of perception. Some people don't like your voice, but for others it is like a beautiful melody. So you better pay your attention to them.

How to help a misanthrope

Psychologists suggest that such individuals can radically change their attitude towards humanity only with the appearance of true love or their own child in their lives. Despite the lingering hatred and contempt for all people, instinctive paternal or maternal feelings will inevitably break out sooner or later and, perhaps, somewhat soften the attitude of a person who does not like society and opposes himself to it.

Living together with such a person, many try to somehow influence the misanthrope’s worldview and correct his character. In some cases this actually works. It is enough to show the misanthrope that he is not so different from other people, that he also has his own advantages and disadvantages, needs and weaknesses.

Nevertheless, some character traits that appeared during the formation and development of personality will remain with the misanthrope, in all likelihood, until the end of his life. Examples of such traits are pride, vanity, swagger and arrogance. It is important to remember that even a person who does not like people has the right to happiness and peace.

How does dislike manifest itself?

What kind of dislike for humanity as a whole can we talk about?

“They are all vile, greedy, cruel, powerful, despots, tyrants. They kill, they rape. People just ruin everything and destroy this planet.”

“Zero morality. The concept of family, honor, dignity and duty is devalued. Education and culture are in decline.”

More special cases, for example:

“All clients are idiots, they don’t know what they want. They want it quickly, well and for free. The management makes stupid decisions. They lead the company to failure, losing key customers and employees.” Etc.

“They push people in the subway, they are rude in queues, they make noise in cafes, they eat at the cinema. And you can’t trust anyone, no one. At work they pull the veins out of you, at home they take out your brain and drink your blood, they just can’t get enough. Friends appear only when they need something. Relatives and even more so.”

People scold and hate everyone, from family and friends, to the government and the world community as a whole.

Why don't people like it?

The development of misanthropy can be facilitated by a number of reasons and problems that inevitably arise in the life of every person:

Too much communication causes an overabundance and subsequently the accumulation of both positive and negative experiences. A person who has low stress tolerance may not be able to emotionally withstand such stress. An example is work related to constant communication and solving a number of problems placed on his shoulders.
A state of depression resulting from unpleasant communication or lack of acceptance of a person in society.
Self-esteem problems.
Excessive sensitivity, an exaggerated thirst for the triumph of justice against the backdrop of a subtle mental organization can lead to disappointment in people and society.
A sense of pride that blinds self-awareness.
The feeling of loneliness when a person is not loved.

Asexuals

These people do not experience sexual attraction in principle. By the way, this does not mean that they do not enter into intimate relationships! If an asexual gets married, then he will certainly have sex to conceive or to satisfy the needs of his spouse, because he understands the need for procreation and the need of other people for sex.

According to asexuals themselves, intimate relationships do not cause any emotions in them, everything happens “automatically”, technically they are quite capable of handling the matter. But with feelings and sensations things are very bad.

Reason No. 1. Emotional and physical exhaustion

Our sexual attractiveness is directly related to how we feel. An emotionally devastated person (of any gender), uninterested in anything, or tired, even with initially good external data, will be perceived by others as an asexual object. This is because libido and sexual attractiveness are characteristics that are entirely based on a person’s psychobiological reserve.

Moreover, the feeling of fatigue, uncertainty, and complexes is automatically reflected in one’s appearance. As a result, we get a stoop, mournful, downturned corners of the mouth and clothes under which it is difficult to see the woman. Subconsciously, these representatives of the fairer sex behave in such a way as not to be noticed. On the one hand, they really want a relationship, on the other hand, they do not have any emotional strength for this.

Since life has not only an intimate sphere, but also a social one, against the background of all other issues that a woman is forced to deal with, she pushes her personal life into the background.

The first indicator of sexuality is your energy level today. This is the most common cause of “invisibility syndrome”, because there are a lot of people in society who have certain signs of emotional and physical exhaustion.

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Autocoresexuals

They prefer to watch other people having sex and, when aroused, satisfy their sexual needs on their own.

An autocorysexual may be turned on by fantasies, watching classic or other types of porn, but he himself refuses to enter into sexual contact with anyone, engaging exclusively in masturbation.

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