Depression happens to everyone from time to time, and sometimes it’s even pleasant. Slight sadness, a melancholy mood as a result of temporary loneliness, in this state it is good to drink tea, look out the window and re-read the classics - this way the emotional sphere of a person is cleansed. But what to do if sadness is not light, and sadness suppresses and interferes with life?
Before you can understand how to get rid of sadness, you need to find out what causes it. Perhaps sadness was the result of chronic fatigue and high levels of stress - every resident of a metropolis sooner or later faces such a problem. There is nothing good about this, but at least you can fight such sadness using your own methods.
What causes sadness
Sadness often arises due to personal relationships. It is enough for a loved one to drop a careless phrase, and his partner is ready to cry from misunderstanding and inner loneliness. Most often, this occurs due to minor problems in relationships that accumulate and become causes of lovesickness. Of course, it is necessary to fight this - first of all, you should normalize your own condition, and only then analyze it.
Perhaps a loved one really said something offensive, but it’s worth thinking about what he really wanted. In any case, such situations should be resolved together, during a peaceful conversation, when both are in an almost equal state of mind.
Another “subtype” of sadness is due to one’s own failures. Are you not always able to achieve your goal? After counting his achievements, a person may find himself in sadness. However, you should not allow this emotional reaction to completely take over you.
There is also inexplicable melancholy. It would seem that there is nothing special - no love story that could unbalance, there is no feeling of loneliness or any failures. At first glance, everything goes smoothly, but from time to time a person feels sad. This may be due to chemical and hormonal imbalances.
If the scale is not too large, then you can cope with it using your own methods - they will not hurt in any case. And in case of serious disorders or disorders, it is better to consult a doctor to find out how to get rid of melancholy.
Medical point of view
The results of the study were published in a special periodical, Molecular Psychiatry.
According to data obtained by scientists, if a person periodically falls into sadness and sadness from any experiences or loneliness, his release of opioids is significantly reduced, which does not allow the brain to “adjust” the mood. Thus, the tendency towards depressive moods significantly reduces the production of opioids, and the person ends up in a vicious circle that ends in clinical depression or nervous breakdown. Neurologists and David Hsu, who led the study, recommend fighting depression before it becomes a reason to see a doctor.
Striving for certain goals is real happiness
Most often, people impose certain difficulties, problems and fears on themselves. How to stop being sad and start living in such a situation? Happiness, like health, can be regulated by the person himself. One of the components of a good mood is setting and striving for certain goals. First, determine what factors prevent you from enjoying every day. What makes others see the world positively?
So, everyone who is sad, stop! Learn to set goals for yourself that you want to achieve in life. For some it is pleasant travel to various places, for others it is a successful career, for others it is a happy family life. If you can't decide on a big goal, set small goals first. If problems arise along the way, concentrate on completing the assigned tasks. Unnecessary experiences will not bring you any benefit. With your thinking you create the world around you. Striving for a positive result will distract you from negative thoughts and save you from hopelessness.
Methods of dealing with melancholy
How to overcome melancholy and get into a normal state of mind? First of all, you need to allow the body to function correctly and well. According to experts, many sorrows are associated with low levels of endorphins, so it doesn’t hurt to raise this level by means available to every person. It doesn’t matter whether you are sad from loneliness or from fatigue - these recommendations will help everyone.
What raises endorphin levels:
- physical exercise;
- exposure to the sun and fresh air;
- some food products;
- laughter and fun;
- music;
- sexual act.
The importance of communication and expressing your feelings
It is important that the despondency that overcomes you does not turn you into a hermit. Life without communication cannot be enjoyable. The more you communicate with pleasant people, the more positive emotions you gain. Young people today prefer online communication, but it cannot replace contact with a real person. Start communicating with colleagues and classmates. Pay more attention to friends and relatives.
It’s great if you have a person to whom you can trust absolutely all your secrets. He will not only be able to listen to you, but will also find a way to cheer you up. It’s great if a friendly conversation ends with a trip to the cinema together. Attending various courses, clubs, and sections will be very useful. The main thing is that your mind is completely absorbed in a particular activity.
Physical exercise
Regular physical activity steadily increases the level of endorphins, but if a person is a little far from sports and gymnastics, then this method is unlikely to suit him. In this case, breathing exercises and yoga-style warm-ups will be much better and more effective. Yoga is essentially a unique practice that focuses on both internal balance and physical activity.
Regular breathing exercises will help saturate the body with oxygen, which will not only make the blood move faster (and speed up metabolism), but will also help improve oxidation. You can use any set of breathing exercises - for example, Strelnikova’s gymnastics. Breathing exercises can be used daily; it improves health and helps fight negative feelings of any kind and even melancholy from loneliness.
Physical exercises in the form of joint gymnastics are reminiscent of effective stretching - everyone knows how pleasant it is to warm up and stretch. A few bends and squats, good stretching and back strengthening exercises will relieve fatigue and irritation.
You can also use dancing as a sports exercise - you can include some kind of dance lesson, or you can just fool around a little while listening to good music.
Tea-tea, help me out
For many, autumn seems like a dull period when one gives up and is overcome by sadness. On such days, some experience the blues, which can be attributed to a mild form of depression and apathy. In this state, it is as if the vital engine is turned off. The emotional background also changes quickly when it is gray, damp and slush outside, daylight hours are shortened, and the air temperature drops. So how can you help yourself get out of this state?
Experts advise not to give up bright and rich colors when choosing clothes in the autumn. The need for this is realized at the level of neural connections.
Good shades of yellow, orange and green. Add items filled with color resources to your interior. Don't forget about accessories. Irina Frolova
psychologist
During the first stormy days of autumn, the expert recommends excluding cold foods from your diet. The menu should include more hot soups and warming drinks. In order to start the day with a joyful and cheerful awakening, it is better to brew tea in the morning with the addition of citrus notes. You can put a little ginger in the drink or simply pour boiling water over berries, such as sea buckthorn. Such a ritual will not only warm you from the inside, but will also give you an excellent energy mood for the day.
In the meantime, while your morning tea is infusing, you can go to the shower, taking with you pure essential oil of bergamot, orange, lemon or tangerine. You need to pour 2-3 drops of oil on the floor of the shower stall or on the bottom of the bathtub and take a shower, inhaling the aromas. After such a procedure you will definitely be in a good mood.
Music
Musical works do wonders for a person - modern scientific research shows that music can not only improve your mood and relieve stress, but also significantly improve your health. Psychologists and specialists in spiritual practices advise not only listening to your favorite music (and, of course, dancing to it), but also from time to time listening to various mantras and spiritual chants - special verbal formulas sung in a choir accompanied by instrumental music help the brain tune into a positive mood.
Give happiness to others
If you don’t know how to stop being sad and crying, then start by throwing away all selfish thoughts. The less time you have to think about your failures, the more you will enjoy each day. Give more to others and you will enjoy true emotional satisfaction.
Various acquisitions and purchases bring joy, but for a short time. But by giving something valuable to someone, you will maintain a feeling of contentment for a long time. They say that the most valuable gift anyone can give is time because you can't get it back. Delight your friends, relatives, and parents with your visit and sincere conversation. It’s not for nothing that psychologists advise that if you feel bad, help someone who is even worse.
pet
It is no coincidence that animals become full members of the family. They are loved, cared for, gifts and treats are bought for them. Contrary to popular belief, not only those who suffer from loneliness have pets. It’s just that cats are great stress relievers, it’s not for nothing that they are called purring antidepressants. They are very pleasant to hold in your arms, the mood immediately levels out. It's nice to walk with a dog in good weather. In addition, such a pet disciplines, teaches order and creates a sense of responsibility. It’s not for nothing that they say that having an animal means acquiring a friend who is both devoted and affectionate.
For despondency it is useful to pray to Tikhon of Zadonsk
Bishop Tikhon of Zadonsk is a famous theologian who continued to help believers after his death. People often turn to him to ask him to save him from:
- despondency;
- melancholy;
- mental pain;
- depression;
- alcoholism;
- madness;
- insanity.
Saint Tikhon of Zadonsk helps against despondency
Prayer for depression and despondency to Tikhon of Zadonsk:
Oh, all-praised saint and saint of Christ, our Father Tikhon! Having lived like an angel on earth, you, like a good angel, appeared in your wondrous glorification. We believe with all our souls and thoughts that you, our merciful helper and prayer book, with your honest intercessions and grace, abundantly bestowed on you from the Lord, are constantly contributing to our salvation. Accept therefore, blessed servant of Christ, even at this hour our unworthy prayer: free us through your intercession from the vanity and superstition that surrounds us, the unbelief and evil of man.
Strive, speedy representative for us, to beg the Lord with your favorable intercession, may He add His great and rich mercy to us, His sinful and unworthy servants, may He heal with His grace the incurable ulcers and scabs of our corrupted souls and bodies, may He dissolve our petrified hearts with tears of tenderness and contrition for our many sins, and may He deliver us from eternal torment and the fire of Gehenna:
May He grant to all His faithful people peace and quiet, health and salvation, and good haste in everything, so that having lived a quiet and silent life in all piety and purity, let us be honored with the angels and with all the saints to glorify and sing the All-Holy Name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit forever and ever. Amen.
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Walks
How often do people imprison themselves within four walls, and then complain of impenetrable melancholy. We must not forget to go outside more often to breathe fresh air. It’s good for those who have a dog: daily walks motivate you and prevent you from getting into a state of despondency. Systematic jogging energizes you, helps you learn to look at current events more simply, and simply let go of troubles. Try to walk more often, do not be discouraged if difficulties arise. And no matter how much you want to withdraw into yourself and hide from the world around you, don’t do it. There is nothing worse than turning away from any changes in life.
Thus, you can free yourself from sadness quite easily. You don't even need to put in too much effort. The main thing within yourself is not to lose the light of hope, to continue to believe in the best, despite limiting circumstances.
