Inferiority complex in men: why such a man is dangerous

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Male complexes are not a fiction. Many representatives of the stronger sex suffer from complexes and fears, but are afraid to admit it even to themselves.

Complexes in men are quite common

Symptoms

First of all, a person with a complex has low self-esteem.

If a man is constantly depressed, has neuroses, and increasingly lashes out at you, you should sound the alarm.

These are the main signs of an inferiority complex.

From the name itself it follows that a person does not feel whole, he is constantly dissatisfied with this or that action, in a word.

Every year, many people turn to specialists with this problem. But there are also those who try to cope with the problem on their own. They read specialized literature on psychology and study the issue from all sides.

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Among women

An inferiority complex in women can manifest itself due to the presence of an overbearing father, an oppressive husband or an exemplary brother next to them.

Overbearing father:

• the child observes how the social role of the parents is very different and begins to draw his own conclusions;
• tries to try on the image of the main member of the family, having matured, he understands that this is absurd;
• since she is a woman, that means she belongs to the weaker sex;
• when men begin to appear on the horizon, she will treat them like a mother treats her father, and will begin to bow to them.

This condition can result in both the formation of an inferiority complex and a personality disorder.

An oppressive husband, who is an emotionally unstable person, easily destroys a woman’s sense of dignity:

• such a man constantly uses “carrot and stick” and causes his wife to feel guilty;
• the wife becomes the victim;
• after a certain time she begins to feel the need to receive punishment;
• after using force, the husband begins to apologize or gives a gift to his wife.

After some time, such relationships become normal for a girl. She endures the beating because she is sure that after this she will be able to feel her advantage when her husband begins to apologize and ask for forgiveness. A woman becomes dependent and cannot leave such a spouse.

Exemplary brother. When there is a son and daughter in a family, the girl begins to react sharply, feeling her brother’s superiority over her:

• boys are treated differently, they are not judged for soiled pants or a broken knee;
• they treat girls more demandingly, citing gender reasons;
• Over time, there is a feeling that men are superior to women.

As she grows up, the girl will feel the same prohibitions, since her parents will worry that she will not grow up early, will not meet with bad company, or become pregnant.

Causes

However, in order to understand what exactly is at the origins of the problem, and what contributed to the formation of the complex, it is worthwhile to thoroughly understand the reasons for its occurrence.

Among them:

• External defects and physical imperfections;
• Inconsistency with one's expectations, lack of self-realization;
• Discrimination;
• Overprotection in family and education;
• Psycho-emotional trauma;
• Lack of parental love and attention.

Why is such a man dangerous?

A man is a person who is a support for a woman. If he exhibits the above signs, you should not hesitate and act quickly.

How to treat the complex? Love and attention if a person suffered psychological trauma in childhood. If he was overprotected in the family, he must be given freedom. Let him feel the right to choose, feel like a full-fledged man.

In a word, it is necessary to compensate for those needs that a person needs most.

But if a man becomes more and more aggressive, and your support does not help, you should contact a specialist. This condition is not just unpleasant, it is dangerous. And this is not an exaggeration.

Self-satisfaction can easily turn into anger and then into domestic violence.

So you shouldn’t delay making a decision.

How to distinguish a complex person at first sight

Do you know what complexes are?
This is when concentration on some detail of one’s own, concern about it outgrows all normal limits. For example, a woman with size 46 clothes considers herself so fat that it seems to her that everyone is turning around after her. A person constantly experiences anxiety about his peculiarity; it seems to him that the people around him are also interested in it. But, apart from a couple of rare exceptions, this is not the case. Today, while I was running errands and shopping, I saw at least several thousand people. But I cannot describe any of them, except for those whom I meet all the time. I didn’t remember their height, nor their weight, nor the color of their eyes, nor the shape of their ears, nor the hump on their nose. I am completely indifferent to other people's butts, ears, triceps, calves and eyebrow shape. I don’t care how much they earn, how much they eat, how old they were when they got married, or what education they have. There is too little time in my day to pay attention to such little things. This is exactly how things are for most people. We are only interesting to our spouses, a couple of girlfriends and our mother. Other people will forget about us in five seconds. They all don't care about us.

However, there are some people who really show genuine interest in us. Sometimes these are our future friends or lovers. But most often the interest of strangers is aimed at spitting poison at us. Some reward us with critical comments regularly, and this is where it’s worth thinking - why?

Why is that stranger woman or that elderly man so interested in my lips, hands, butts, salary and who I spent the night with? Why do they care and how can I influence their quality of life? Obviously, no way! The only explanation for this behavior is complexes. Insecure people constantly compare themselves to others, trying to confirm their normality, which is why we come into their attention. Some detail of our image is a detonator that explodes the activation mechanism of the complex. And the complex comes out with all its destructive power.

I once worked with a man at the end of his virility; he was about 70 years old. Every day this man was concerned about my fuckability. He threatened me that they wouldn’t fuck me anymore if I ate this bun, didn’t start stretching, didn’t do a beautiful hairstyle. My sex life and my fuckability interested him so much that I inadvertently thought - was he afraid for his potency? This is how our deepest fears come to light.

This is especially noticeable to me because I can analyze hundreds of thousands of angry comments from a wide variety of people. And I followed the pattern. The ugly ones criticize someone else's appearance. The poor discuss other people's salaries. They shout about female asexuality, fat and old age, men at the stage of withering libido. Focused on education - dumb. Based on the number of children - those who have no other achievements... Fat people are scolded - those who are losing weight and on diets, as well as those who themselves are prone to being overweight... There are no exceptions. The exception is people who were so crippled in childhood that they remade themselves almost completely. However, this exception only confirms the rule. And smart people have long noticed this pattern. Therefore, every time you open your mouth to utter another nasty thing, you demonstrate nothing but your own complexes. You stand naked in front of those around you, to whom all your secret fears become accessible and visible. Believe me, it is very noticeable.

I recently saw discussions on this topic. The girl Sonya, who has an ideal figure, asks in bewilderment why Russian people, unlike foreigners, are so fond of criticizing someone else’s appearance or emphasizing their superiority by comparing it with someone else’s failure? The answer lies in our upbringing. Unfortunately, our children are often literally deformed. Have you ever seen this picture: a girl walks, let’s say, slouching, and her mother demonstratively hits her on the back. The girl became overweight during her teenage years, and her mother, out of good intentions, tells her that with such an ass they won’t marry her? The boy is scared out of his mind, and his father also beats him with a belt for being afraid? This happens all the time. Not to mention those cases when we are compared to our neighbor Kolya, cousin Vasya or classmate Pasha. It is this behavior of parents that creates the basis for the formation of complexes. Why are complexes dangerous? They make us spend most of our lives thinking about things that are not important to anyone but ourselves.

Have you noticed how in Russia they love photo selections from American and European stores, when they photograph walking freaks? Comparison makes us feel more important, more beautiful, smarter, better. Because there is no self-confidence in this. And self-confidence leads to success faster than imaginary ideality.

Would you like me to tell you the story of one girl with a very big ass? Why bother, her butt is maybe one and a half meters in girth, she’s so huge. It is impossible for a girl to lose weight - everything else about her is thin. And guess what? She didn’t hide under the bed, but opened Instagram and profitably sold her physical disability. Access to her Instagram costs 12 bucks. In the photo on Instagram, she is hugged by a young man in love. And here she is...

Moreover, I worked with a woman who had such an ass not somewhere in the Americas, but in Russia. Do you know what she did? She wore bright clothes, long hair, painted her lips with red lipstick and only managed to drive away the men. And she never, never exuded venom about someone else's appearance. The absence of complexes allows you to play any disadvantage as a trump card, making lemonade out of a lemon. The presence of complexes makes life unbearable and disgusts others.

The most common complexes

Often the most common symptoms in men are self-dissatisfaction and constant self-criticism. Due to failures at work or in their personal lives, many become isolated.

A woman's criticism can suppress a man's desire, and intimate life will become an unpleasant topic.

More than 50% of men experienced a feeling of dissatisfaction in bed.

And we are talking about the psychological factor here. If a man sees that he has not made the right impression on a woman, then his self-esteem can be seriously undermined.

Thus, the opinion is formed that sex life cannot be successful. Hence the low opinion of oneself.

Perhaps the most serious cause of the complex is excessive family care. For men, this is a mother who loves her child so much that she is not ready to let him go either at 30 or 40 years old.

This becomes a serious problem for a man, since it is extremely difficult to build a family with such influence from the mother.

This connection has a detrimental effect on all serious relationships of a man. Jealousy on the part of the mother and the constant desire to control her child is extremely difficult to remove.

Therefore, if you see that such a problem exists, think several times before entering into such a relationship.

Effective treatment

The psychotherapist recommends improving your life in every possible way.

Working on yourself can be both psychological and physical.

Here are some of the most effective methods that will help you overcome your inferiority complex:

• Be proud of your own achievements and do not look up to others;
• Stop blaming yourself for every failure. They learn from mistakes and become better;
• Don't dwell on past hurts. Start a new life;
• Develop as a person. Find something you like.

Exercising is another very effective method that works flawlessly, especially with men. Proper nutrition and adherence to a daily routine help normalize your psychological state and get out of depression.

Defense mechanism and signs

The human brain will find an answer to everything, especially when it comes to survival and adaptation. The response to the conviction of one's own worthlessness, unattractiveness and inadequacy is an inflated Ego, or pride, arrogance.

So that no one notices the personality problem, an image is created based on overcompensation. That is, a person does not simply reproduce those traits that he lacks (in his opinion), but exaggerates them, as if masking a hole in his soul. From the outside it looks like:

• like arrogance;
• superiority over others;
• absolute correctness and awareness always and in everything;
• humiliation and insult of other people;
• deliberate love for oneself and one’s appearance;
• swagger and impudence;
• demonstrativeness, boasting;
• showing off;
• inadequate attempts to assert oneself through the cultivation and demonstration of material achievements, the number of partners, and so on;
• defiant behavior and the desire to earn the attention of others in any way;
• arguing until you are hoarse in order to defend your rightness.

You can endlessly patch up a hole with money, cars, girls, men, humiliation of other people, outrageousness, you can create the illusion of a self-confident (and even too self-confident) person. But this will not solve the real reason and will not heal the wound, self-esteem will remain low, the fear of attention and evaluation from others will remain, and smart people around will sooner or later understand the real reason for this behavior.

“The best defense is an attack,” says the defense mechanism of the psyche. And a person, so that no one notices his shortcomings and imperfections, looks for in other people something that he can pay attention to and thereby distract him from himself. Therefore, those who have faced cruelty and humiliation in the future often humiliate and criticize others in defense of themselves.

But there is a second model of behavior caused by an inferiority complex. It is the opposite of the previous one. The person remains in the role of humiliated and insulted. Among the signs:

• inadequate chronic feelings of shame and guilt;
• self-humiliation, humiliation;
• victim position;
• the desire to evoke self-pity;
• internal prohibitions on expressing emotions (aggression, discontent), defending one’s rights and personal boundaries, fulfilling desires and satisfying needs;
• increased anxiety;
• psychosomatic disorders;
• wariness and suspiciousness;
• avoiding traumatic conditions (depending on the individual case, for example, if a person is dissatisfied with his appearance, he refuses to be photographed, does not look in the mirror).

With this behavior, a person tries to get what he lacked and lacks: love, care, recognition and acceptance, support.