And now you will learn the main signs by which you can understand that the non-contact period or ignore is working.
I will tell you when you can start communicating with a girl or woman again.
What are some false signs and actions on the part of a girlfriend or wife that can confuse you?
And in the end, you will learn the most important sign, which allows you to clearly understand that the non-contact period or ignore really worked.
Moreover, many people do not even realize the existence of this sign, since it is not at all obvious.
Before we begin, let me remind you: the purpose for which you take a break from communicating with your ex-girlfriend or wife is to bring your condition back to normal and, if you broke up in a negative way, a pause in communication is needed so that the emotions and negativity subside gone.
During the non-contact period, you do not contact her in any way, do not look at her social networks, do not like her, do not try to find out from relatives how she is doing.
So, how do you know that your actions are bringing results? Think what could happen...
If a girl starts swearing when I ignore her
The first sign is that she sends you angry messages and tries to accuse you of all mortal sins.
Some men whom I counsel, having received such messages, often write to me, “Well, that’s it, now everything is definitely lost, she doesn’t love me at all, nothing will work out for us, she definitely won’t forgive me,” “if I don’t answer, then she will stop all communication with me.”
But I remind you that every man should have a developed sense of self-esteem! What's the point of communicating with a person who humiliates and insults you?
Therefore, we do not respond to such messages.
I had clients who couldn’t stand it and began to convince her to calm down, forget the negativity and start communicating in a friendly way.
But, as you understand, they heard even more accusations against them.
Many people think that this is bad, since she is negative and very offended.
They think: now nothing will definitely work out.
But such thoughts are dictated by the fear of losing her, the desire to please her.
But in fact, she writes you angry messages out of resentment, because she has lost control of the situation and can no longer control your emotions, you are no longer acting as a punching bag and a person who is ready to endure humiliation.
Her true goal: to regain power over you, to feel again that she is stronger than you.
And thanks to this, you will once again find confirmation of the correctness of your decision to break up.
And to do this you need to get emotional.
And the easiest way to do this is to start insulting you and trying to make you look guilty.
Why does the negativity coming from her benefit you? First of all, if she didn’t care about you, she wouldn’t write anything to you, she would enjoy her new life and wouldn’t even think about you.
Therefore, the manifestation of any emotions towards you indicates that she has not yet cooled down.
And since you do not react to her negative attacks, she does not control your condition.
Doesn't understand what's happening.
And you are already in control of the situation.
Consequently, there is nothing wrong with her angry messages and in the very near future she will calm down, feel guilty and get in touch again, but in a soft and submissive tone.
What does it mean if my girlfriend asked me to help her after breaking up?
The second sign that the contactless period is working: if she is the first to get in touch and ask for help.
She may ask for support in resolving some issue, she may ask if she forgot something of hers at your house, she may ask for help with your common child.
And many men fall for it, play Robin Hood.
They think that if you refuse to help her, then she will definitely think that you have lost interest in her and will never return.
But I remind you. When you are in a neurotic state, sleep for three hours, eat practically nothing, then nothing good will come of your communication.
And if she also said that you broke up, that she no longer loves you, then what kind of help can we talk about? Moreover, when entering the non-contact period, you tell her in black and white about your desire to understand yourself.
She asks you for help solely out of curiosity, to check whether you are still sitting on her leash or not.
Not because she needs help.
Yes, it happens when a situation with children requires some kind of emergency measures and they cannot do without you, but this happens very rarely.
And most requests for help are nothing more than a ping to check your condition.
If you fall for her provocations, then she will understand that you are still available to her, still love her and will lose interest, and a new cycle of suffering awaits you due to unrequited love.
Therefore, think first of all about yourself, and not about her.
Next, I will tell you when you can get in touch with her.
How to return love
If mistakes have already been made and their consequences have begun to appear, all is not lost. If you value your relationship and never want to lose your girlfriend, there are many ways you can follow to get her interested again. Here are just 9 of them:
- If the reason is one of the points mentioned above, it must be corrected immediately. It won't be possible to do this instantly, but by gradually rebuilding yourself, you can become the one she loves again.
- It is necessary to start resolving conflicts more measuredly. At this time, you cannot show your grievances or create scandals that end with a slam of the door. It is important to discuss problems, calmly listen and accept criticism and begin to correct the situation.
- If one of the manifestations of her cold attitude was the lack of physical contact, it is important to return it. Try to hug the girl more often, take her hand, kiss her, give her a massage. Such actions increase the release of oxytocin into the blood, which has calming properties and minimizes stress.
- Have heart-to-heart conversations more often. Close conversations should become a daily rule. Thanks to them, you will be able to get closer again, you will be able to find out what exactly she is worried about at the moment.
- It is necessary to give her much more attention, tenderness and care than before. You should often make various small surprises and gifts that will pleasantly surprise her.
- Share your goals and plans for the future with her. First, talking about your future will help you bond. Secondly, she will feel more confident and calm. At the same time, remember to actually take care of yourself, and not just talk about it. Start going to the gym, pursue a career and earn money.
- Increase your attractiveness. If you've forgotten when you updated your wardrobe, now is the time. A woman should not feel ashamed when she is around you or when introducing you to her friends.
- Try to find a common hobby that will be interesting to both the woman and you. Spending time and hobbies together will help you get closer and get to know each other from the other side.
- Save your own face, no matter how your future relationship turns out. If you influence her with blackmail, tears or self-deprecation, it will not bring results. Show your maturity. She must understand that you can solve any problem with dignity.
This is interesting: Any extreme activity will also help you get closer. Experiencing adventures together will not only help you break out of your daily work routine, but will also create many new experiences.
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Third sign. If she asks through mutual friends how you are doing, this also indicates that the non-contact period is bearing fruit.
Yes, this may just be slight curiosity on her part, and it’s too early to talk about any love, but this is exactly how female interest arises.
At first, she becomes interested in you through mutual friends, and understands that you don’t miss her at all.
Thanks to this, interest in your person arises, and she herself gets in touch with you.
Ignoring works if she asks for moral support
Fourth sign. She may start texting you and complaining about some problems.
Such messages are nothing more than a need for attention in order to receive your care and support.
And as my extensive practice shows, when a man, still in an unstable emotional state, responds to these requests, begins to help her, takes on the role of a savior, after a few days the woman loses interest again.
Again, the reason is this: the woman gets everything she wanted, you are available to her again, she talked to you, calmed down.
I realized that you are still sitting on a short leash and she is losing interest again.
If she’s having a hard time mentally, she has friends, parents, a personal psychologist.
She can turn to them and just as easily receive moral support.
How to check the result of being ignored by a girl's appearance
If you finally snapped and decided to look at her social networks or tried to find out how she was doing through mutual friends, then pay attention to any serious changes in her behavior.
If she has lost a lot of weight, she has bags under her eyes, she posts sad statuses and photos on social networks.
This means her moral state has changed and it is quite possible that this is caused by your actions.
But it is important not to make mistakes in your analysis of the situation.
There are a lot of false signals.
If we take the same social networks.
She can view your stories or like you.
And you think: “Great, she definitely misses me.”
But think about it, what if she is an active user of social networks, watching and liking everything.
Then, naturally, this is not an interest in you, but just her typical behavior.
Or she's just wondering how you're doing, and she's doing this purely because she doesn't have much else to do.
Therefore, I specifically emphasize: it is the changes in her behavior that indicate that the non-contact period is working.
And the changes must be quite serious.
Likes on photos and views of your stories alone are not enough.
But if she regularly posts sad photos and writes how bad she feels, then that says a lot.
This proves that it is hard for her and she is suffering.
Features of a man's behavior
Before you can be sure of a guy’s feelings, you need to check your importance in a man’s life in completely different situations. Wherever you are, you will always come first for him. This can be easily determined:
At school you are surrounded by his care and attention, the guy shows visible interest in you, helps in every possible way, supports all your endeavors.- Changes outside the school walls will also be significant. You will accidentally meet him on the street, and when he sees you, his face will immediately light up with a smile and his shoulders will straighten. A man will not miss a single opportunity to come up and start a conversation
- Sitting in a cafe. A man will constantly look at you. The rest of the girls will simply be uninteresting to him. Being next to a girl, a guy tries to accidentally touch her and also look into her eyes.
How to check feelings?
Girls can very often see love where it is absent. Considering her signs of a compliment, conversation and touch is completely correct. In order not to confuse a man’s cheeky communication with passionate feelings and not get into an awkward situation, you need to carefully check everything again. There are several methods for this:
- The easiest way to figure out a guy is through his body language. In psychology, this is called “adjustment”: in this case, the man takes the same poses as you, uses the same gestures.
- Visual contact is another method to determine whether a man likes you or whether it’s a completely different feeling. Stealing glances, prolonged staring, attempts to look directly into the eyes - all this clearly indicates that the man is very keen.
- You can also easily guess by changes in behavior. If a previously modest person accidentally becomes the life of the party in your presence, or vice versa, you need to think about the reasons for such changes.
Attention - false signs - don't be fooled
Another very interesting false signal is that she may confess her love to you and tell you how much she misses you.
But it’s one thing when she writes that she’s suffering and can’t live without you, it really says that the non-contact period is working.
It’s another thing when she writes that she just missed you.
She can write to her friend that she misses her and that she might miss her cat.
There are women who write phrases like: “I love you, I miss you” to all their friends.
Therefore, the context in which your ex-girlfriend or wife writes to you is very important.
The most important thing is not to wishful thinking.
The same goes for her photos on social networks.
If you saw that she published a photo from the park where you often walked together.
This does not mean that the photo is addressed specifically to you.
This means that she just turned out well in this photo and there is no need to look for a secret meaning in this.
The same goes for her statuses and captions for photos like: “My friend couldn’t meet me today, I’m sitting at home.”
How do some men react to this? They think: “This is definitely addressed to me.
She hints that she didn’t go anywhere today and is waiting for me to come.”
Nothing like this.
This status indicates that her friend was unable to meet her, so she is sad at home alone.
But this is not a hint; you are wishful thinking.
If she wants to hint at something, she will text you and let you know.
But he won’t come up with such complex schemes.
After all, it’s far from a fact that you are following her.
Therefore, there is no need to look for signs of her interest where there are none.
Basic
Building relationships with the opposite sex seems like a difficult task for most men. And first of all, mutual sympathy is needed, without which there can be no talk of any lasting connection. How to understand whether a girl likes you or not? Below is a list of the main signs. If there are several matches (the more, the better) - rejoice, she likes you. The main thing is to make sure you don’t make any further mistakes.
Body and legs
If a lady is interested in a young man, her body will intuitively turn towards the man. This is how she shows that the guy is not indifferent to her, and she is ready for something more than just having a conversation as friends (maybe even sex).
It is worth paying attention to where your feet are directed when communicating with a man. IMPORTANT! When a girl smiles, but the tips of her shoes (or other shoes) point in the other direction, she is talking to each other only out of politeness, there is no sympathy.
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Frequent accidental touches
Avoiding verbal confessions, young ladies can demonstrate interest by touching the object of their desire. They are looking for the slightest reason for seemingly innocent physical contact:
- brushing an invisible speck of dust off their shoulder;
- lean on a man when exiting a vehicle;
- playfully pinching during a conversation;
- “accidentally” bump into a guy in the hallway.
Many girls like to hug, but often they do it purely for friendly reasons. A good sign is an unexpected touch, complemented by a feeling of awkwardness and a smile.
Embarrassment
Some young ladies tend to blush if a guy they like suddenly looks at them. Their cheeks turn crimson and they immediately look away or look down.
Of course, embarrassment is not a 100% guarantee of mutual sympathy. Perhaps a girl reacts this way in an unfamiliar situation or when she becomes the object of everyone's attention. It is enough to observe her under various circumstances.
Sight
A girl's attraction to a certain man can be determined by the duration of eye contact. During a normal conversation, a person will not linger for long on the interlocutor, as this can cause discomfort.
But if a guy is interested in a young lady, she will deliberately maintain visual contact for as long as possible. An alternative option is that the girl looks at the guy for 2-5 seconds, looks away, then looks again, as if she is afraid of being declassified.
Strong excitement
A common reaction to the presence of a person you really like is anxiety, confusion, and nervousness. Usually this behavior is typical of too shy ladies or girls who do not know a man.
Signs that indicate sympathy:
- frequent touching of the face;
- pursing of lips;
- twirling hair on a finger;
- squeezing and unclenching intertwined fingers;
- confused speech.
If a guy really likes a shy young lady, her inhibitions will fade away over time. The same goes for the stranger. As soon as she gets to know the man who interests her better, she will become more confident.
Observing a man's reaction
This is one of the obvious signs that proves that “she” is really interested in a guy. This behavior is very easy to notice if communication takes place in a small company.
When a girl is not indifferent to a man, then when talking about something, the first thing she will do is immediately observe his reaction. At the same time, she can smile, be embarrassed, or, conversely, look intently into his eyes.
At the same time, “visually exposing”, demonstrating maximum sincerity.
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Joyful acceptance of jokes (even if humor is bad)
In the arsenal of a man who wants to get the attention of women, there will always be some jokes, anecdotes, funny stories from real life. This technique is especially relevant when you need to understand how much a lady likes you.
If a girl is attracted to her interlocutor, then even banal jokes and inappropriate statements will provoke sincere laughter from her. Sympathy is even more obvious when several people are having a conversation at the same time.
Communication on social networks
You can find out about a girl’s relationship with a guy by correspondence. Of course, live communication provides more opportunities to assess the situation, but even by the manner of writing it is possible to determine the chances of “taking the fortress quickly.”
Signs of genuine interest (a combination of several at once is important):
- subscription in all social networks;
- likes under every post, regular comments;
- initiative when sending messages;
- quick, detailed answers to any question and a simple greeting.
BUT! It also happens that when a young lady writes first and responds quickly, perhaps she just wants communication, and her actions do not mean anything more. It is important to be able to differentiate. One of the proofs of sympathy for a man is that a girl sends messages while drunk.
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The desire to please
Women on a subconscious level feel how to attract the attention of the man they are interested in. This is expressed in their behavior and appearance. When the object of desire comes into view, interesting changes occur.
The most common sign is an attractive posture. The lady deliberately tries to show her femininity and sexuality, straightens her shoulders back, sucks in her stomach, sticks out her chest (sometimes also her buttocks).
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Interest in personal life
If a young lady is not indifferent to a young man, she mentally imagines herself next to him, she will certainly be interested in the presence of a possible rival. Usually, this technique is resorted to by ladies who know practically nothing about a man.
At the first opportunity, the girl will try to find out if the guy is dating someone. If he gives a negative answer, her face will light up, her eyes will sparkle, and a happy (genuine!) smile will appear.
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