Every girl hopes that she has met the ideal chosen one and acquired a permanent life partner, plunges headlong into newly surging feelings, makes plans for the future and is very disappointed when the man does not live up to her expectations. A representative of the stronger sex may turn out to be flighty, unreliable, married, but at the same time he shows care, tenderness and beautifully looks after. Therefore, every lady has a question: “How does he really treat me? How to recognize the sincerity of feelings and emotions? The catch can be caught in a look, words, actions that at first seem natural and real to you.
Methods
Often the actions of representatives of the fair sex turn out to be illogical, non-standard and very unexpected. Men are less likely to surprise and use tricks to hide their real attitude, so if you approach the analysis with a “cold heart”, after just a few dates you can recognize your partner’s thoughts.
Showing emotions
A loving man thinks about his other half in a special way. His eyes light up, a slight blush appears, embarrassment appears, and upon meeting a genuine smile appears on his face.
When a lady evokes exclusively friendly feelings, the guy remains calm, a little indifferent, often lost in his own thoughts and distracted around.
If you find yourself as a mistress, the chosen one will be pleased, but demanding and persistent when making a date.
Sexual attraction
When a man understands you as a friend, there can be no talk of any “dirty” thoughts. All hints amount to jokes and evasive answers. In the case of his mistress, he does not hide his intentions and openly says that he wants to be in the same bed, since this is his main goal.
If a couple plans to build a long-term relationship and tenderly protects each other, both partners will talk about intimacy and sex with genuine interest, but not with direct, but with leading questions, for fear of offending and scaring away.
Communication with the fair sex
Often friends notice that the most cheerful and sociable friend in the company has begun to pay less attention to them and disappears at home, just like he “fell in love.” A loving person tries to devote maximum time to his chosen one, reducing communication with girls he knows, even if they acted only as friends.
Attitude towards keeping promises
This is one of the main signs that will help you understand how your partner treats you and find out exactly how a man feels. If he promises that he will call back and forgets about it, makes an appointment and can easily cancel it, is late for dates, does not respond to SMS for a long time - he clearly has no desire to start a serious relationship. Even if at first you justify his behavior, thinking that giving gifts and taking him to the cinema means he loves you - this is not so. A caring guy will always take a minute to call back.
Showing persistence and initiative
Someone who feels passion and attraction will persistently arrange a meeting, adapt to your schedule, take into account your wishes, and show flexibility and understanding.
Getting to know your surroundings: friends and family
In the first days of communication, a young man usually hides his chosen one from relatives and friends, and gets angry when he is asked questions about his personal life. He is not yet completely confident in himself and his choice. But, if feelings are supported by trust and the prospect of a serious connection arises, he will definitely introduce his other half to his family and loved ones.
A married companion is unlikely to take you to meet your mother, but he will easily invite you to a group of friends to show off. Think about it, if your loved one is hiding you from your parents, brothers or sisters, perhaps he is lying or embarrassed by you.
Constant contact
You can understand and find out how a guy treats you and what he feels thanks to a modern gadget - if your loved one calls several times a day, immediately switches to you when the second line is busy, finds time during an intense workload for a couple of messages - he is clearly not indifferent. If your SMS messages remain unread and there is no response to them, you may be considered a passing hobby.
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Attention to other ladies
If a man in your presence looks at girls, looks at short skirts and uncovered parts of the body, especially discusses these details in front of you, you should not expect serious steps.
How to understand and determine what he feels for me: participation in affairs and problems
When a young man treats you like just another temporary girlfriend, he is unlikely to intend to listen to problems, take part in solving them, or be interested in the outcome. He will not show interest in hobbies, lavish care and tenderness. A loving guy will always call and ask about your health and mood.
Spending time together
A lover awaits the meeting with trepidation in his soul, is ready to travel from the other end of the city at any time of the day or night, stand for hours and wait for you at the appointed place, appreciates every minute spent together. If a young man easily cancels planned joint events and rarely makes appointments, citing being busy, he is most likely avoiding you.
Interest in personal life
Men often ask questions about their exes, try to find out the details of past relationships, the reason for their end, and react very jealously to the answers. They review the entries on your account pages and carefully study your photos. If a person is not interested in what happened before in your life, perhaps he is indifferent to you.
Present
Sudden surprises, flowers and chocolates for no reason are a clear sign that a representative of the fair sex is not indifferent to you. A person is ready to spend time and money without expecting anything in return. Another way to understand what a man feels for you. The joy of his beloved inspires him, filling him with strength and good mood. You recognize indifference immediately.
Courtship
A lover wants to bring joy to his companion every day - going to the cinema, walking along the evening embankment, bouquets, the desire to give her a ride home or help with everyday life.
Compliments
Signs of attention and tender words must be moderate, objective and truthful. A man should be interested in you, notice new things - your hairstyle. However, if he indiscriminately showers compliments, constantly admires your appearance, likes photos where you didn’t look very good, you should think about his sincerity. Words are the most ambiguous sign of falling in love. If they are not supported by actions, care, help and gifts, you should not believe in their truthfulness.
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How a man treats me: talking about the future
You should be on guard if a guy talks too sweetly about an ideal family, promises the moon from the sky and stars at his feet - most likely, this is just a deception in order to quickly use you and look for another victim. Serious intentions are spoken about carefully and very thoughtfully. The first words about love are spoken hesitantly, with embarrassment, for fear of being misunderstood. A man will not insist on intimacy and rush things.
Does he allow himself to be rude?
Representatives of the stronger sex show their feelings in different ways, but if a boyfriend can push you inappropriately, answer the phone rudely because he is busy or irritated, or say unacceptable offensive things - don’t even count on tender feelings.
How does he react if you don't answer?
If suddenly you did not pick up the phone or ignored the message, a loving person will persistently call and find out the reason for this behavior, will become jealous and childishly offended. Indifferent - will not call back, waiting for a call from you.
Making important decisions
It’s one thing to go on dates, give gifts and say nice things, and another thing to take important steps. Anyone who wants a serious relationship will not delay living together and proposing marriage. If a person realizes that he is ready to support and take care of you under any circumstances, this is a good sign. A guy doesn't want to be with you when he's constantly looking for excuses:
- “no place to live”;
- "no money";
- “the time has not come”;
- "I'm not ready for this."
His reaction in extreme situations
A person shows his true colors when you are in trouble or urgently need support and help. Create the appearance of a problem and watch your companion's reaction.
directly
The simplest and most effective way. Of course, you can’t always count on sincerity. A person can lie if it benefits him. Pay attention to intonation and eyes - an averted gaze, calmness and coldness will help reveal deception.
An extreme and risky way is to borrow funds
Lend your companion a certain amount. Such an opportunity will definitely arise - for example, he will forget his wallet or want to make a purchase and share it with you, and perhaps he will ask for money himself. Anyone who wants to win your favor and gain your trust will not come up with excuses and delay returning.
Ask a friend to ask their opinion about you
You can arrange with a close friend so that she can communicate with your chosen one. If he rarely mentions you in a conversation or directly talks about your shortcomings or begins to show interest in her, you will not be taken seriously. However, you shouldn’t rely too much on the objectivity of this option, since the girlfriend may be jealous, lie, or misinterpret the man’s words.
Tell a secret
Come up with a story, an incident from childhood that you carefully hide and share it with your companion under the guise of the strictest secrecy. If in a week everyone around is trumpeting about this incident, the young man has not shown respect and is not suitable for a serious relationship.
Does it make you feel jealous?
Zealous displays are only an attempt to attract attention to oneself. For example, a young man is overwhelmed by ardent feelings, but the girl persistently does not notice this and is not going to reciprocate. Appearing arm in arm with another companion, he wants to show his importance, charisma and relevance to the opposite sex. In theory, the girl should think about the positive qualities of his person and begin to feel sympathy.
The attitude of his friends towards me
Sometimes the feelings of the chosen one helps to understand the behavior of his friends in the company. If they know about his sympathy, they can tease him and joke about it, even if from the outside it looks stupid and offensive. They make ambiguous hints and are able to speak directly about the feelings and intentions of their comrade.
How to be sure of a man's love?
If we talk about male love, then we can note two main signs that definitely speak of this strong and wonderful feeling:
- Behavior of a loving person. As far as men are concerned, words are rarely a reliable indicator of anything. Here it is best to trust actions and behavior in general. If a man stubbornly remains silent, but at the same time surrounds you with care, attention, shows interest and tries to make your life easier, then we can most likely say that he has the most tender and romantic feelings for you. There are also opposite situations when a man lavishes millions of pleasant and affectionate words, declares his love, but his behavior does not at all correspond to these statements. In this case, you should doubt the honesty and seriousness of your gentleman.
- How to understand that a man is in love? Assess how he manages his resources and whether he is willing to share them with you. The main resources that are important for a man include: time, money, experience, friends and fun. Ask yourself, does your chosen one share anything from this list with you? Do you spend his free time together or does he prefer to spend it in another company? Did he introduce you to his friends or does this part of his life remain a secret to you? When you need help, is your man always ready to help you? The answers to these simple answers will help you assess the decency and seriousness of the intentions of your chosen one.
What can his eyes tell?
Facial expressions are those signs that are very difficult to control. If you can remain silent when the object of your adoration appears, then hiding movements and gestures that occur spontaneously in the subconscious is not an easy task.
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Usually, when talking to a person, we look into their eyes. A guy who likes a girl is shy, trying to avoid direct gaze.
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Duration
A fleeting delay of attention in front of the interlocutor’s eyes can be carried out only to get acquainted with her reaction to certain words. 80% of the time is spent looking at lips and nose.
Concentration of attention
The guy tries to closely examine the girl he likes - he roams his eyes all over the body, studying all the details, and is rarely distracted by external factors.
Pupils
If they are expanded (not taking into account the use of narcotic drugs), the man experiences attraction, passion and a desire to touch.
Brows
Sometimes people raise them unconsciously to open their eyes wider and better see the detail of interest. If a girl notices that a young man has raised his eyebrows during a conversation, this is a clear sign of interest in the interlocutor.
Other gestures
When a young person is attracted to any action, person or object, he exhibits a high salivation. To avoid showing it, he begins to purse or lick his lips.
He often leans towards you, tries to touch you, shuffles his feet, crosses his arms - this is an indicator of slight excitement, vulnerability, indecisiveness and, of course, sincere sympathy.
Mystery and ambiguity
Any sexologist will tell you that a man can only be judged by comparison. It is necessary to evaluate what he was like before the moment of falling in love, and what he became after it. If you notice strong changes for the better in him, then you can be sure that your relationship can continue. If changes have not come, then most likely he is indifferent to what is happening.
Many girls tend to build their own illusory world. The man let the lady go ahead; thoughts about the altar, a beautiful dress and flowers are already appearing in her head. To be objective, a man in love is not always logical in his behavior, since he often makes attempts to confuse the person he likes in order to avoid rejection.
The manifestation of such behavior may depend on various reasons and, unfortunately, it all ends in disappointment in the relationship. A woman becomes uninterested in a man who does nothing, and she turns her attention to a more determined suitor. It is unlikely that any girl will wait forever for action from a guy.
Test: does a guy remember you from a distance
Another effective method on how to find out and understand a man’s true attitude towards you is to conduct a small test.
1. Does he often send you messages or interesting posts?
- All the time.
- Rarely. Sometimes it even disappears for a certain period for no apparent reason.
2. What would be the reaction if you didn’t answer his call?
- He continues to call, gets angry, and always finds out the reason for ignoring.
- He may inquire casually and sluggishly, or may not remember at all.
3. What can you say about his comrades?
- They know everything about you - what you like, where you vacationed, where you study or work.
- They don't know about your existence.
4. Before making a responsible decision, a man...
- He will definitely consult with you.
- Ask the opinion of relatives and friends.
5. Is he the first to write, call, or do you interrupt the silence?
- Yes, of course, every morning he wishes you a good day, in the evening - good night, and is constantly inquiring about business.
- Not always. More often than not I end up first.
Now check the result. If most of your answers are “A”, the young man is really in love. A “B” result means that you are not very significant to your other half. If you don’t trust the survey, try asking a specialist for help. If you are having difficulty understanding your relationship with your partner, sign up for my consultation and I will help you figure out what you mean in your partner’s life and how far your relationship will go.
Checking a suitor's intentions by correspondence
When a guy is far away from you and there are no personal meetings, there is some ambiguity in the relationship. If you communicate in absentia, you can understand a man’s sympathy by the following signs:
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- He always responds to your messages immediately. If you can’t write, then explain the reason why you’re busy.
- He writes to you even during working hours, and not when he is bored in the evenings.
- A man is interested in you, conducts fascinating correspondence, asks personal questions, showing that he cares about you.
- He doesn't communicate with other girls on social networks. If he simultaneously corresponds with different women, it means that you are only among the contenders for his future sympathy, and he does not experience specific feelings.
Values
A person’s values determine a number of his internal characteristics
It is important to pay attention to the following topics in the conversation:. ✓ What stories does the person tell (what does he emphasize, what information does he convey through these stories, what is he trying to convey to you)
✓ What stories does the person tell (what does he emphasize, what information does he convey through these stories, what is he trying to convey to you)
✓ Level of education, field of activity (says a lot about the underlying priorities and aspirations)
✓ What a person believes in (belief in God, the universe, himself, etc. determines the principles of a person embedded in these beliefs)
✓ How a person speaks about other people, how he treats people in general (this factor will help determine the degree of decency, level of responsibility, culture)
✓ How a person treats animals (the level of empathy and kindness is most easily identified in this topic)
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Love makes men very romantic, even if they try to hide it. Nice notes, bouquets of flowers, chocolate at lunchtime. Cute pleasant things that your chosen one will definitely like. At such moments a man becomes very kind and a little absent-minded, he smiles stupidly and gives gifts. He behaves normally with other young ladies and literally “melts” next to the one he likes.
You can learn how to understand a man's feelings if you observe him from the outside. All feelings are heightened, especially responsibility. Even if the girl is not his, he strives to protect and protect her. He defends the lady’s opinion at work and in the team, defends her point of view, and openly comes into conflict with “opponents.” Modern model of an office knight.
A man in love has his head in the clouds. He can whistle a melody, look out the window for a long time, get lost in thoughts about her. A blissful smile and a blank look are indicative signs of undisguised love. For young guys, falling in love turns into a series of courtships, for mature men into a demonstration of their own advantages.
Another factor is that the guy does not seek to appreciate the lady. On a date where he turns his nose up and snorts while she talks about his hobbies, the standard “suitable” or “not suitable” assessment occurs. A man in love will be absorbed in her story, looking at her with an admiring gaze full of delight!
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Facial expressions
Look at the face of the person you are communicating with. How do I know if a person is thinking about me? Has the joy of your appearance changed the person’s facial features, and now she smiles welcomingly at you? The sincerity of such behavior is difficult to hide. So the person is really happy to see you. This means that you are a welcome guest for the person not only in reality, but also in dreams. A person looks at you without a smile, but there are wrinkles around the eyes? The person tries to hide his joy. You occupy a lot of space in the heart of such a person, but the person is not yet ready to show you his feelings. Therefore, treat the person kindly, but do not force your company on him. He must understand that you are pleased to deal with him, but you have no idea about his train of thought.
Do the corners of a person's lips turn down when they see you? This facial expression is exactly the opposite of a smile. The person tries not to think about you. In those rare moments when you do appear in a person’s thoughts, he does not think very flatteringly about you.
Body type
The German psychologist and psychiatrist E. Kretschmer identified three body types that determine the corresponding characteristics of temperament:
- Picnic. A man of full build
✓ Open to communication ✓ Loves comfort and delicious food ✓ Able to empathize ✓ Optimistic ✓ Quick to respond ✓ Emotionally unstable ✓ During periods of bad mood can be withdrawn and aggressive
Athletic. Man of strong physique
✓ Self-confident ✓ Calm, patient ✓ Determined ✓ Loves to compete ✓ Has a high vitality ✓ Insensitive to other people’s experiences ✓ Prone to aggression, including physical ✓ More often uninitiated, passive
Asthenic. A man of thin build.
✓ Accurate ✓ Conscientious ✓ Attentive ✓ Has a need for security ✓ Not indifferent to loved ones ✓ Distrustful ✓ Fear of responsibility ✓ Irritable
Reasons why it is difficult to find your purpose
Some parents, without knowing it, suppress their child's potential. For example, they themselves choose a child’s hobby, and in the future, a profession. Or they force you to stop “being foolish” and choose a “normal” job. Let's consider the most popular barriers in the search for calling and purpose.
No understanding of your abilities
Not all parents and teachers have enough knowledge, skills or desire to help their child realize his abilities. Someone imposes their interests, for example, trying to make a musician out of a child, since the mother failed to become one. Someone runs after fashion, for example, sends their child to learn a popular dance style. Some people are not interested in the child at all. So a person grows up who does not know his abilities.
How to understand what you are capable of and what is completely not yours? For example, study the 8 types of intelligence and determine those that are most present in you. Did you even know that in addition to IQ, there are also bodily-kinesthetic, visual-spatial, logical-mathematical, musical, linguistic, existential, interpersonal and naturalistic intelligence?
Made the decision for you
Authoritarianism and overprotection lead to one thing - childishness of the child. In the first case, he is strictly told what to do. In the second case, everything is unobtrusively decided for him. Although both there and there there is total control and an abundance of prohibitions. The child grows up and still expects someone else to tell him what to do.
Required good grades in all subjects
Our education system is far from perfect
In short, there are two things that parents should pay attention to: you cannot evaluate a child by grades and you cannot demand A’s in all subjects.
The mark does not reflect the student’s true knowledge and does not in any way help the development of abilities. You can get a good grade by cramming, cheating, or other tricks. But there will be no benefit from this.
It's impossible to be the best at everything. It is much wiser and more useful to identify as early as possible what subjects the child is interested in, what he has abilities for, and focus on this. It is better to send your child to a school with a special focus or to one where you can choose subjects. However, not all parents have this opportunity. In this case, you need to at least talk to the child yourself and convey to him that the content of the study is more important, not the result. In those subjects that the student clearly does not need, C grades are enough to issue a certificate.
Did your parents insist on a profession that you don’t like?
Some parents try to live their lives again through their child or force the child to continue the family business. And some choose what, in their opinion, is profitable and in the future will be able to provide a decent standard of living not only for the child, but also for them. One way or another, all this leads to the fact that even during training the child develops an aversion to what he is doing, and at the same time the joy in life disappears.
No conditions for developing talents
In psychology, there is still no single answer to the question of what comes first: a person’s inclinations and talent or the conditions of upbringing. Some experts believe that talent will make its way everywhere. Other psychologists are confident that unfavorable conditions for a child’s development can ruin any talent.
Indeed, it happens that parents do not have the financial or physical opportunity to send their child to the circle that interests him. Or in the place where the child lives there is no opportunity to do what he likes. It also happens that parents simply do not pay attention to their child, even at home they do not want to do anything to develop his abilities.
In this case, it is impossible to say unambiguously how the future of this person will turn out. Some people manage to return to something in adulthood for which there were no conditions in childhood. And someone becomes an unhappy person with untapped talent and a hated job.
Dressing style
Clothing style contains a lot of important information about a person’s character.
- The desire to dress brightly or provocatively is characteristic of people who need to attract attention, positive social evaluation and approval from others. Such people take compliments well and are sensitive to criticism; they are very often creative people.
- Clothes in a classic style are chosen by people who strive for status, are purposeful, and sometimes even with a bit of coldness. These people always know clearly what they want and how to achieve it, even at the risk of seeming soulless. Achieving their goals is their main priority in life.
- Clothes for comfort are chosen by people of various types, who are not very focused on themselves, but rather direct their energy outward. Often such people are spiritually oriented or not very self-confident.
How to recognize a married man?
We talked about ways to understand that a man is in love. But it’s not enough to choose a man in love, you need to choose among them the most worthy and, most importantly, free.
Today, unfortunately, many married men allow themselves to have relationships with free women behind their wives’ backs. At the same time, they do not devote their new passions to the details of their marital status.
This situation can hardly be called successful, because relationships with a married man are always very difficult and often unpromising. Therefore, you need to be able to determine whether a single or married man is seeking your attention.
First of all, he will appreciate his appearance. For a married man, everything will always be clean, tidy and fresh. Don't forget to take a close look at his ring finger.
Most often, a mark remains from a wedding ring, although it may be barely noticeable.
Another sure sign that a man is married is that he invites you to his home. All your dates take place on neutral territory or at your place. The latter is even preferable for a married gentleman.
