Legends are made about the mystique of women. Men, on the other hand, have earned a reputation as simple and unsophisticated creatures who always directly express their thoughts and desires.
But in fact, representatives of the stronger sex are still intriguers.
Men hide their feelings better than us, and can wait for years until the object of desire takes the initiative.
How to understand that a man wants you? After all, you must admit, life is too short to waste it on fortune-telling “wants-won’t-wants”.
To save you precious time, I will tell you how to understand that you are the main character of his sexual fantasies.
So how does a man feel when he wants a woman? First things first.
What are men doing?
Every girl can influence a man's erection without any special skills.
This is how male nature works - the thirst for reproduction makes them react to the slightest hints of sex.
And even if he doesn’t want you now, after you bring the “heavy artillery” into action, his member will immediately react in a certain way.
What causes excitement in men?
Appearance
To arouse a man's desire, it is important to know how to choose an outfit. You need to create the feeling that you have something to hide, and this surprise will definitely be pleasant.
As survey results show, men are more excited not by micro-shorts and tank tops, but by tight dresses with a deep neckline or long skirts with a side slit.
When he sees a woman in such a sexy outfit, he is not interested in the fact that cellulite or imperfect hair removal may be hiding somewhere underneath. How does a man feel when he wants a woman?
He sees how the legs are covered by a tight skirt, the chest bursts out of the neckline, and he passionately wants to know what is hidden behind the thin layer of fabric.
Rest assured, he is already looking for a secluded corner into which he is going to drag you at the first opportunity to satisfy his... curiosity.
Smell
We humans perceive each other primarily by smells - pheromones. They cannot be detected by ordinary sense of smell.
These are chemical signals that are read by the vomeronasal organ located in our nose. They are then transmitted to the subconscious.
Men experience arousal when they smell a natural feminine scent. Of course, if it is not overwhelmed by the “aroma” of roach, cigarettes or stale clothes.
It has also been proven that the scent of sage, orange, vanilla, pine needles, sandalwood, and ylang-ylang has a stimulating effect. But!
The aroma should be delicate, barely perceptible. But it’s better to avoid long-lasting heavy perfumes.
Intimate touches and glances
A man wants a woman when she gives him hope for sex.
This could be a careless stroking of the arm, a touch of the cheek to his neck, an awkward fall on his powerful chest with further probing of the muscles.
When a girl feels excited, she licks her lips, touches her chest and stomach.
At the same time, she looks at the object of her desire. A man perceives this as a signal to action.
The signal goes to his member, which takes over control and becomes your ally.
Rest assured, he will not let you forget about you and will do everything to ensure that your story ends with happy sex.
Women's Initiative
Did your mother say that it is indecent for a girl to approach a boy first?
But then how does a boy know what you like? Men don't read our minds. Just like we do them.
Maybe he's been crazy about you for a long time, but he's afraid to approach you because he's not sure if you like him.
And a girl may not understand whether he is interested in him because she is embarrassed to ask. Vicious circle.
Tell us about your desires. Or better yet, write. Men love with their eyes... When he reads what you are going to do with him, he will want you right here and now.
Consequences of a woman's inaction
If a woman has become a victim of violence, then under no circumstances should she remain inactive, remaining living under the same roof with the aggressor. Yes, many suffer violence and remain silent about it all their lives. But is this life? Is this what you dreamed of? How will children grow up in a family where violence and abuse of the weak are the norm? Either downtrodden or as aggressive as their father. Is this what you wanted for your children?
So, a woman’s inaction can lead to the following irreparable consequences:
- Self-destruction. A woman who is systematically beaten and insulted by a man has low self-esteem. She begins to distort the perception of violence. She considers herself to blame for everything and deserves only bad treatment. The female victim gets used to beatings and considers it the norm. She already enjoys the fact that after the next blows, showing off her bruises to those around her, everyone begins to feel sorry for her. Ultimately, the once beautiful and cheerful girl begins to be completely indifferent to her life, and also deals an irreparable blow to the psyche of her children.
- Disease. If a woman silences violence against herself, then she suppresses resentment within herself. Thus, the victim of beatings gives rise to various kinds of diseases. This can be stress, depression, or panic attacks. Sleep and digestion are disrupted, and blood pressure rises. A woman tortures herself. In addition to physical pain, there is also moral pain. As a result of all this suffering and anxiety, cells are destroyed and malignant tumors can form in the victim’s body. The girl risks being maimed inside and out, becoming disabled or incapacitated. Very often, being in constant depression and despair, weak women cannot cope with surges of emotions and drive themselves to suicide.
- Stockholm syndrome. According to psychologists, women who are constantly beaten and humiliated by their men feel defenseless against tyrants, but see hope in the tolerant attitude of the aggressor and achieve this by encouraging humiliating treatment of themselves. Over time, in the subconscious of the victims, sympathy and love replace fear and hatred of the aggressor. Women find excuses for such cruel treatment by men. Suffering beatings and painting over bruises day after day, they nonetheless defend their tormentors in the eyes of outsiders.
In Russia, 12–14 thousand women die annually as a result of domestic violence—one every 40 minutes. Just think about how scary these numbers are! And run before something irreparable happens!
Signs he wants you
There is one clear “indicator” in men who never lies about their master’s desires.
It is located below the waist...
The state of the “indicator” can be judged by its characteristic increase in content in the fly area.
But if there is no visual or tactile access to this indicator, you should pay attention to other signals. Let's look at other signs of a man's attraction to a woman.
Special treatment
He is constantly nearby, listens attentively and strives with all his appearance to show that he is not indifferent to what you are talking about.
Even if he doesn't care that your Yorkie is depressed because of a bad haircut, he will still empathize with the problem.
Because he wants you and hopes that he will soon experience an orgasm as a reward for his suffering. Or maybe not even one.
Gestures
Pay attention to his gestures. If a man wants a woman, when communicating with her his hands will always be in the pelvic area.
Thus, the man seems to be trying to keep his penis in check, which stubbornly strives to seize the initiative into its own...let there be hands.
Voice
A minute ago he almost switched to ultrasound when he was proving to Mishka that Shakhtar was better than Dynamo, and as soon as he turned to you, his voice became gentle and slightly hoarse.
A man's voice contains his strength.
Sight
During the conversation, he looks at your lips, neck, legs. This is not at all because he is interested in the color of lipstick or the fabric from which the skirt is made.
He already imagines how he will shower this body with kisses and penetrate into the most intimate places.
And if his gaze is “registered” in the area of your neckline, there is nothing to guess - he clearly wants sex. The push-up did its job!
Hands
He constantly finds reasons to touch the girl. His hands are drawn to her waist, wrist or knees.
A more obvious sign is a playful slap on the butt.
But decent men rarely resort to this method. Especially if they are hoping for something more than just sex.
Thirst for achievements and atypical behavior
Since ancient times, men have been trying to attract the woman they like with some kind of feat. Take down the mammoth, win the tournament, score maximum points in “Tanks”.
If a man really wants a woman, he will try to make her notice his achievements.
Wanting to attract attention, he may look inadequate.
Therefore, know that stupid jokes and a strange initiative from a man who has never been the life of the party is not a temporary insanity.
This is a natural desire to accomplish a feat and win the heart (and not only) of the woman you like.
Psychologist's opinion
In order to understand at first whether a guy is prone to physical aggression, psychologists recommend taking a closer look at his behavior. For some, the first signs may appear already at the first meeting, while others may last for several months.
Signs of a tyrant
- Tendency to act impulsively.
- Pathological jealousy.
- Provocations, outbursts of anger for no significant reason.
- Sadistic tendencies towards the weak: animals, children, homeless people, etc.
- Ignoring the framework of decent behavior and laws.
- Classes in combat sports (boxing, karate, sambo, judo, etc.).
- Neurological and psychiatric disorders.
The answer to the question “Why does a man beat a woman?” It will help a lot on the first date: the guy’s attitude (justifies, defends or condemns) to this phenomenon can reveal his own inclinations.
Important! Domestic tyrants are afraid of publicity and the presentation of their actions to a public court, so it is necessary to notify friends and relatives about what is happening. Then the man will behave more modestly.
The danger of a relationship with a tyrant is as follows:
- broken psyche, depression, low self-esteem. All this negatively affects all spheres of life, that is, a woman cannot build a successful career, raise children with dignity, or self-realize;
- programming the future family life of children. Psychologists have proven that people subconsciously look for the kind of relationship that their parents had, even if this marriage was terrible;
- death. You can never say for sure when the beatings will be your last.
Fact! More than 50,000 women die at the hands of their lovers every year.
What to do if a man hits a woman is up to her to decide. Leaving a sadistic husband is never easy. To decide on this, you need to prepare.
Preparing to break off relations with a tyrant husband.
- Searching for a place of residence that is unknown to the husband. There are crisis centers for women that provide temporary shelter, protection and psychological assistance.
- Accumulation of a sum of money that will allow you to support yourself and children (if you have any) for the first time.
- Take a vacation from work, since this is the first place your husband will go to search.
- Setting an exact date for the escape. The husband should not be at home at this time.
If a woman still wants to save the relationship, then she and her husband need to go to a specialist. The success of this enterprise is the exception rather than the rule. A psychologist or psychotherapist can only help if the man himself admits that there is a problem and wants to get rid of it.
Can the victim provoke the rapist?
It is widely believed that women themselves are to blame for the misbehavior of their men. Society especially loves to blame those who dress revealingly (and thereby allegedly provoke a man), flirt with other guys, and behave “incorrectly.” None of these explanations justify abusers, otherwise they would not raise their hands against modest, quiet and gentle girls who sincerely love their family.
Family fight: the saddest Russian tradition
Victims of violence have always existed in our country; just remember history. A couple of centuries ago, beatings were not only not condemned, but even encouraged. It was believed that in this way the husband showed his authority in the family. Even if, during the next family brawl, a man killed a woman, those around her turned a blind eye: she, the fool, was to blame, so there was a reason, there was nothing to provoke.
The current situation is little better. They began to pay attention to deaths and rapes, but even representatives of law enforcement agencies often turn a blind eye to the fact of beatings. And women who contact the police often withdraw their own statements, believing that in this way they will destroy their family. “After all, he is a good person. Well, I was tired at work, I drank, and here I am with my reproaches. It happens to everyone?"
