If your woman does not want intimacy and sex with you, do not rush to tell her “A woman either wants or does not want a husband.”
Perhaps you have already tried to look for the reason “why she doesn’t want me”, you’ve read everything, but still haven’t found the answers. I will tell you about the most common reason why your wife does not want intimacy with you.
Accordingly, by understanding it and eliminating it, there is a chance to correct everything and return love and passion.
So, you have already heard or read many times that a woman is an emotional being. She lives and thinks using FEELINGS, not logic. Although, she can also mistake her thinking with feelings for her “feminine” logic.
And, at the same time, its main erogenous zone is not the brain, as they usually say, but FEELING. What a feeling, I’ll write about it below.
What to do if the wife does not want intimacy with her husband?
It’s a completely different matter if fatigue develops into emotional burnout syndrome. When a person feels completely morally exhausted and doesn’t want anything anymore. Many things can influence: problems at work, misunderstanding on the part of relatives, coldness in relations with the man you love. I know such women who are ready with their warmth to warm anyone who feels bad, but it was the beloved man who, with his indifference, managed to trample this fire of the human soul and turn it into ashes. Such women become despondent, depressed, and apathetic. And, of course, there can be no talk of any closeness. In Rus' they said: “Call a person a pig 10 times and he will grunt.” If a woman is constantly rude, careless about her requests, calling her unkindly, she will eventually become what she would never have become in the hands of another person - callous and unhappy. A morally trampled, tired and offended woman needs rest. And here it would be nice to go on vacation to a sanatorium for recovery. Be apart from your husband. Try to get bored yourself and give him the opportunity to feel your absence in his life. As a rule, separation for a short time has a good effect on married life; people have the opportunity to think about everything, realize it and draw conclusions.
Fatigue
The term does not mean the classical concept that when a woman has overworked, she needs to take a breath. Because according to sexologists, this is the most effective way to get rid of tension and cheer up. Strength comes from somewhere.
This is a state of chronic fatigue that has accumulated over a long period of time. This can include stress: moving, exams, changing jobs, death of a loved one. Changes in life can lead to a lack of sexual desire: financial problems, the birth of a child. Why does stress turn off sexual desire?
If a woman has difficulties with children or worries about other people, then her head is filled with thoughts about current problems. The woman does not feel erotic, she takes the role of mother, daughter, employee, and not at all a lover. A bad mood and melancholy, on the contrary, cause her to have an increased desire for intimacy.
During nervous tension, the hormone cortisol is produced, which extinguishes sexual desire. If a woman experiences chronic fatigue or stress, she needs help, improve her condition, shift a little responsibility onto strong male shoulders.
Men may say: No, we didn’t agree that way. Marriage is free and accessible sex. At any stage of building a relationship, a guy must put effort into creating sexual desire in a girl. At the beginning these are gifts, attention, romance, and then also general life and responsibility.
How to deal with this?
If the desire of your legal spouse is still absent, you can use the following recommendations:
- wait until the ovulation period, during which sexual desire increases significantly;
- use a special lubricant that promotes arousal;
- take medications that dilate blood vessels, which will have a positive effect on a woman’s sexual mood. Before using them, you should consult a gynecologist.
Important! The ideal solution to the problem is a joint vacation. When choosing a vacation spot, you should give preference to a resort with a minimum number of attractions, preferably without the Internet and television. This will give you time for communication and, of course, sex life.
Boredom 6
Over time, family life becomes monotonous, monotonous and reminiscent of Groundhog Day. All events happen in a circle: work, TV at home, sex twice a week or according to a schedule. Complete monotony. In relationships between partners, you always need to make an effort. To keep the sexual fire of love burning, add firewood to it.
Start by creating new impressions: spending time together, a romantic trip together. Arrange surprises, do unusual things, offer to do something you had never thought of before. Surprise a woman and she will surprise you with her sexual desire. A woman is generally a grateful creature.
Special attention should be devoted to sex itself. If from the day of the first meeting of a man and a woman, lovemaking takes place according to the classical pattern with monotonous poses, and even in pitch darkness, then over time any person will lose sexual desire and will sabotage intimacy in every possible way.
To do this, try something new, bring freshness to your thoughts. Many men think that it’s time to rob a sex shop, engage in sadomasochism, fisting, active role-playing games and other daring things, don’t rush into decisions. Although the Austrian psychologist Sigmund Freud argued: “Only the complete absence of sex can be considered a sexual deviation, everything else is a matter of taste.”
Often, to satisfy a partner, a change in the sexual behavior of the man himself is necessary. As far as he satisfies the woman, maybe she is simply unpleasant about this event, where he thinks only about himself. But he doesn’t caress her and doesn’t bring her to orgasm. Pay more attention to foreplay, update your set of poses.
It is appropriate to mention the statement of Bernard Werber: “Bashfulness was invented by men so that women would not dare to talk about their desire to experience an orgasm. Perhaps all women want to make love all the time, but their upbringing does not allow them to talk about it.”
In order to become liberated, you can watch films for adults and adopt some of the tricks of experienced lovers. Listen to your partner, maybe she doesn’t need all your efforts and in the end ask directly.
What should I do if I don’t want a husband, but want another?
If you simply don’t want your husband, that’s one question, but if you desire another man, then the conversation will go in a completely different direction. No one blames a woman for feeling sympathy and wanting to flirt with another man - this is inherent in us by nature, but getting closer to him is a completely different matter.
One way or another, if you want to know what to do, if you love, but don’t want a husband , carefully study the psychologist’s recommendations:
- Don't give in to momentary weakness. Before you do anything (and in this case, this is physical betrayal), you need to think about everything and weigh the pros and cons:
- Is your moment of weakness worth losing your husband?
- are you ready for a serious relationship with another man?
- will you be able to look your beloved husband in the eyes after this?
- How will you feel after cheating?
Helpful information
This information is based on scientific research on this issue. However, the problem of women's separation from men continues to interest sexologists around the world. They find various factors that can help bring intimacy back into the family. For example:
It has been proven that dark chocolate has a good effect on female desire. It contains substances that improve blood circulation. But it is worth noting that many women completely replace their sex life with its use, so the main thing for men is not to overdo it with this product.- Wine perfectly enhances women's desire. This is especially true for dry reds. It has the same effect as chocolate. However, you should not abuse it, otherwise the effect will be the opposite.
- Red colors of any shade liberate women well, so a man can buy clothes with a red tint for himself.
I foresee objections: yes, I don’t get excited at all
In this case, I can recommend periodically reading erotic literature and watching erotic films. Because our brain is programmed to imitate and imitate.
That is, the brain thinks: if others are doing it, it means your nervous system receives a signal that you can do this too and you need it too.
Also, be beautiful. Be sure to buy yourself some nice underwear... Wear it even if you are just going to work. The very thought of what you are wearing provokes ideas of a sexual nature.
And in this way we can solve the problem “I don’t want a husband.” I wish everyone peace and love!
How to fix the situation and enjoy vibrant sex regularly
In order for sex to bring pleasure to both partners, they must learn to hear each other. If you have complaints or grievances against your partner, you need to share them with them. It is necessary to explain what is stopping her. If she has complexes, she should discuss it with her partner. Ask him to help her open up.
If your intimate life has begun to fade, you can discuss with your partner and try to introduce role-playing games and sex toys into your intimate life. You can try new positions, sex in new locations (elevator, park area, forest thicket, booth in a shopping center). The main thing is to catch the moment of surprise and the girl is yours.
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New places or sudden inappropriate sex always excites both partners. It's like a bright, dangerous adventure. We need to meet you halfway. If a partner asks for a blowjob, then you need to discuss the points that a man gives a woman cunnilingus. Oral sex must be mutual.
If refusal of sex occurs during pregnancy and after, you can help your girlfriend. Just let her sleep for a few hours, cook dinner on her own, and wash her clothes. At this time, look after the baby, feed him, give him time to sleep, change diapers. After your woman wakes up, say kind words to her, hug, kiss and believe me, she will respond with pleasure to your intimate caresses. Your sex will be more intense than before.
A woman needs to tune in to get pleasure.
You can’t spontaneously get your hero. The girl loves affection, hugs, kisses. A man should start from afar, with foreplay. You can put on romantic music, light candles, prepare a bath with petals. In such moments of romance, a woman quickly lights up like a match and is ready to experience a high-quality orgasm. Failed to load survey.
Quarrels between partners 7
The transition from a stormy scandal to passionate sex after a quarrel is the stuff of romantic comedies. In fact, an offended, upset, angry girl does not perceive her opponent as a lover until he takes the first step, apologizes, or realizes the seriousness of the situation. She doesn't want to be touched even after the incident is over.
The woman should not be blamed; this is explained by biological law. When mistrust is manifested by rejection of physical contact. Faina Ranevskaya said about this: “Understand once and for all that the character of your woman is a reflection of your attitude towards her. For those who don’t understand: it’s not her who’s a bitch, it’s you who’s an asshole.”
