Probably, 30 years ago no one asked the question of sexual arousal in women, because in the USSR there was even “no sex”, and children were found in cabbage or multiplied by budding. Nobody cared what the aunts wanted. They had no right to want to: the country was working at an accelerated pace for the good of the nation. It was considered the norm that before sex a woman excuses herself with a headache and eternal periods, because only a girl of indecent behavior could truly desire intimacy. So was general frigidity really moving with heavy steps across the country?
Of course this is not true. It is not for nothing that nature has endowed a woman with erogenous points throughout her body. And everyone wants to experience voluptuous moments of orgasm. It’s just that there used to be sexual incivility, and what is now considered the norm for two people in bed used to look like a perversion. And, perhaps, if a man did not give the woman the highest pleasure during sex, then she helped herself achieve orgasm. There is nothing to be done - you can’t trample against nature.
And then came emancipation, bold experiments, and, thank God, that nowadays no one has a “headache,” but everyone needs THIS. Let's talk today about how to determine what excites a woman, and what signs can be used to understand that she wants sex with a man.
What is the difference between female and male arousal
Women and men are aroused in completely different ways: the desire of the stronger sex is an impulse that arises from the slightest provocation on the part of a girl (sometimes a piece of a naked body can bring a guy into “full combat”), which cannot be said about ladies whose libido ignites slowly, gradually and exclusively under the right guidance of a partner.
Each woman's sexual response cycle is different. For one girl, 5 minutes will be enough for the attraction to the opposite sex to overwhelm her, while another will have to be aroused for a long time and painstakingly on her own, because there is not enough incentive from a man. The reason for this difference is the metabolic rate, the interaction of the sexual centers with each other and the psychological atmosphere in which the female individual is located at the moment.
By the way, the peak of sexual arousal in men occurs at the age of 24-28, after which there is a decline, but by this time girls, on the contrary, begin to understand sex and desire to engage in it for pleasure.
In both sexes, unsatisfied passions are reflected in a deterioration in well-being - in this we are similar. Heaviness and pain in the lower abdomen are the most striking signs that a woman’s (man’s) arousal has reached its peak, but has no logical conclusion. Moreover, sexual intercourse for guys always ends with orgasm, so we are talking about dissatisfaction only in the case when the male has received a refusal. But for girls, having intercourse does not mean at all that she has finished and relaxed. So keep this in mind, dear men!
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What turns a woman on, how a man should behave
Let's just say that what excites a woman most is the man she likes and everything connected with him! If the partner attracts her on an emotional level and visual perception, the excitement will begin to increase, and then it’s a matter of technique.
Strong man
Who can a girl like? Which guy makes a woman sexually aroused? Of course, a strong man! Strong not only physically. The concept of strength of a representative of the weaker half includes such aspects as success, possession of certain material and housing benefits, connections with the powers that be, the ability to protect a woman from adversity and the negative influence of the outside world, the ability to withstand critical periods, that is, moral fortitude, worthy actions relative to other people, etc.
A strong man is not always handsome, tall and damn attractive, but he is a turn-on for many. A handsome loser with an empty wallet has almost no chance in the fight against a successful male who has won his place in the sun and is able to provide a woman with some protection in life. The girl’s thighs will become more intensely moisturized when interacting with the second specimen.
Sincere courtship and compliments
When a man knows how to say a kind word of encouragement at the right time, favorably emphasizing some quality of a girl, this is a plus in his karma. If the ability to cajole a lady’s ears is combined with the ability to look after beautifully, that is, observing manners in public places and the conditions of the candy-bouquet period, then the partner will be aroused regularly.
Ability to gain trust
Some girls do not pay attention to the sweet speeches of a boyfriend and his flowers-gifts; another factor is much more important to them - trust. If you can win him, consider that arousing your girlfriend will not be difficult. She herself will jump into the bed and cum from the mere realization that she has such a worthy man.
Romance
All girls, without exception, are thrilled and excited by romance, be it a snotty melodrama about unhappy love, or a candlelit dinner surrounded by velvet rose petals. They will not be turned on as much by a male erotic dance with the exposure of a huge penis as by an evening on the river bank with your sighs of love in her ear. This is the nature of women.
Present
It is difficult to overestimate the power of gifts in arousing a girl. A man who is ready to spend money on trinkets for his sexual partner is always sexually attractive to her, because by doing so he signals his strength and wealth, that is, his ability to provide her and his offspring with a comfortable future. These are instincts, and they work even when not a word has been said about wedding, children and death on the same day.
Kisses
Kissing causes quite a strong arousal in women. The most sensitive areas for girls are the neck, décolleté, back, lower back, wrists, earlobes, tummy, inner thighs, etc. Every lady always has her own special points of arousal, which you won’t even know about the first time!
Touch
Want to know what turns women on? Learn to “let go” correctly! There is no need to paw, squeeze or feel the girl’s body - try to put all the tenderness that you have into every touch to her sensual places. Stroking, light jerky touches, subtle pressure are quite suitable. Run your palm over your hair, neck, touch the thin neck... Most likely, she is already wound up and eager for the next steps.
View of male genital organs in bare form
Yes, yes, women are also aroused by a naked male body, especially by the sight of an erect penis. But this happens more slowly than for men when they see a naked lady.
Intimate caresses
And the next step will be proper intimate caresses, which help to excite a woman already in the process of foreplay. High-quality cunnilingus or an exciting massage can work wonders: even a lady with a weak sexual constitution responds to such techniques!
Love is a disease
It is also interesting that the World Health Organization has included love in the register of diseases. Experts recognized it as a mental illness several years ago. However, each disease must have its own signs and symptoms. For love they are as follows:
- Severe mood swings.
- Obsessive thoughts about a person.
- Insomnia.
- Self-pity.
- Allergy.
- Increased sense of self-worth.
- Headache.
- Rash acts.
Where are a woman's arousal points?
Your lady is like an unread book: the epigraph is already known, but what is there in the middle, what is the climax, and what to expect from the ending is unclear. Then we “read.”
We are looking for her weak points and erogenous zones. Kissing on the lips, we explore the body with our hands. And her body itself will let you know. For example, her first erogenous zone is behind her earlobe. Lightly massage the area with your fingertips. If a woman, like a cat, leans towards this place in order to feel your touch more strongly, this is her first “start” button. Kisses here will be no less pleasant and will cause excitement throughout the female body.
Turn the page and read on. We touch any tender point of her skin: wrists, palms, nipples, stomach, back of knees, feet. In general, all the places that she does not withdraw, but on the contrary, moves closer to your touches and kisses, all have their own degree of excitability.
Well, of course, the genitals. It is a rare woman who will refuse pleasure if she is caressed there with fingers, lips and tongue. But this is also a very cunning technique, a whole science.
The known-unknown “G” point, men always have a question about this – where to find it. In principle, many women also have no idea where this lost place is, but experience a peak of pleasure if a man finds her. About 5-6 cm from the front wall of the vagina - if you stimulate this place with your fingertips, you can find it.
But, even after the highest peak of pleasure and explosive orgasm in a woman, you should not leave her. Unlike men, who can immediately pass out after falling asleep, a woman needs to be calmed down for at least 5 minutes, with light kisses and stroking, otherwise “the book will not be completely read”, and the woman will not be completely satisfied.
Effect of testosterone
It is currently believed that sexual arousal is primarily dependent on the hormone testosterone, but data on this issue are contradictory. Scientists have found that representatives of the stronger sex with equally normal levels of this hormone in the blood can have different levels of libido. Libido refers to sexual arousal or desire. In parallel with this, if the hormone level is low, then in almost all cases this leads to a decrease in libido. That is, a man can ejaculate and have an erection, but he simply will not want sex. For this reason, testosterone replacement therapy for erectile dysfunction in men is not always able to help.
All signs of sexual arousal in women
If a woman sees the object of her desire, and she unbearably wants intimacy, then this can be determined by several obvious and secondary signs. Men, be attentive to your woman’s behavior, and you will definitely learn to determine that a girl wants sex at the moment!
Let's start with the physiological signs of arousal, which are not always visible to the naked eye - sort of hints from the body.
Wetting and swelling of the vagina
When a girl is aroused, a lubricant is released from the vagina for easy insertion of the penis. At the same time, it acquires a cone-shaped shape, stretches a little and increases in size. Of course, this cannot be determined by eye, but when you put your hand into your panties, you will feel that it is all wet.
What does a woman's discharge consist of when she is aroused? Externally, the lubricant in a healthy woman looks transparent, sometimes pale milky in color. And the chemical process happens like this - blood intensively flows to the walls of the vagina, dilating the blood vessels, and thus moisture is released, causing the internal genital organs to be coated with mucus. It is produced by glands located in the female vagina.
With such signs, the lady often squeezes her thighs or crosses her legs to cope with the surging sensations.
Swelling of the nipples
The chest also reacts to excitement. When it has reached its maximum peak, the nipples swell and stand up straight, the breasts themselves are slightly pulled up. Without a bust it is very noticeable. This sign is detected in those who wear a bra without foam rubber.
Pain in the lower abdomen
They are unlikely to tell you this, but when she is ready for copulation, a woman feels a nagging pain in the lower abdomen. They intensify if the act does not take place or the orgasm in it fails.
Increased heart rate and breathing
The girl’s heart begins to beat one and a half times faster, her breathing becomes deep, heavy, and sometimes it seems that she is about to suffocate.
Dilated pupils and blush
An excited lady will be identified by the blush on her cheeks, which arises due to the active flow of blood, and moisturized eyes with dilated pupils. Often the lips become dry, and the girl instinctively licks them. At the same time, she either averts her eyes bashfully, or, conversely, looks with open defiance.
And there are also indirect signs of sexual arousal, which are also easy to read if you know about them.
Wants to be close and shortens the distance
A girl who is excited and wants sex will close the distance between you, trying to get close, as close as possible, in order to establish tactile contact.
Voice changes
As a rule, the voice of a virgin is played deliberately. He becomes more languid and deep, phrases stretch out and slow down - the manner of speaking is very different from the usual. At the same time, the seductress tries to adjust the “dish” with the play of her eyes.
She becomes “hot” or “cold”
A girl who wants to seduce a man often uses “dressing and undressing” tactics. She becomes “cold” or “hot”, after which she either receives a warming jacket and a portion of care from the man, or exposes her seductive shoulders and breasts.
Hand gestures and hair games
Usually an excited lady starts playing with her hair: touching, straightening stray strands, pinning or undoing them, wrapping a curl around her finger, etc. Another sign will be stroking your body.
Frank pose
Legs on legs, bending over with bare thighs, leaning on a table with cleavage exposed - by the pose you will understand that the excited beauty is provoking you to more active actions.
Minimum resistance
Oddly enough, the excited girl also resists, only her efforts are noticeably feigned. She pushes him away, and presses her body even closer to the man, says “no,” but does not leave and continues her games.
While taking some medications and contraceptives, vaginal lubrication is less clear, so you will need aphrodisiacs for women that will reduce the friction process when the penis enters the vagina. Pay attention to the drugs and cosmetics in our sex shop - they will solve the problem of weak arousal and insufficient lubrication!
The reaction of which two organs cannot be imitated?
Having reached a certain stage, it is worth focusing on the reaction of two organs.
An excited woman cannot control the swelling of her nipples: during contact with a man, they become hard with strong sexual desire.
Between her legs it becomes warm and moist, because when aroused, the vagina secretes a special lubricant. Such signals cannot be faked; they are sure signs of desire and readiness for sexual contact.
Means to excite a girl
Let's say your chosen one lives by past principles, and neither external nor internal signs of excitement are manifested. Maybe health is taking its toll, and for mature women it’s also menopause, so it’s worth resorting to traditional medicine: herbs, flowers, decoctions. Here are some simple recipes:
- Aloe. Mix the crushed leaves of this plant 1:1 with honey. Take a spoon before bedtime.
- Pour a pinch of nutmeg, 10g ginger, 10g cinnamon into a glass container. Add 2 tablespoons of freshly squeezed orange juice and 1 spoon of honey. All these components are mixed with 0.5 liters of dry white wine, the mixture is left for 2 weeks in a dry, dark place, but do not forget to shake the container periodically. Take 20 ml before dinner.
- Mix plantain and nettle seeds in equal proportions 1:1, with the addition of a couple of spoons of honey. We put the mixture in a glass container and place it on the windowsill for a week and take 10g after dinner every day.
- Walnuts mixed with honey are a well-known aphrodisiac for both women and men.
- Chocolate. It’s no wonder that on romantic intimate evenings a box of chocolates and a bottle of wine are required on the table. Oh, just don’t talk about the dangers of alcohol now - alcohol in small doses is even beneficial and relaxing. Of course, there is no need to “get too full” - this will completely ruin the whole night of love, but a glass for a little dizziness will even go a long way.
And remember, the best arousal for a woman will be sincere love and desire from her partner!
