For some girls, it's a joy when a guy constantly wants sex. But there are women who are enraged by frequent advances. In any case, scientists have concluded that it is enough for a girl to have sex 3-4 times a week for her health and mood. Opinions about this figure are divided: some call it too high, all because they are tired at work and at home and once a week is enough for them.
But a man, according to scientists, desires a new sexual relationship already 15-20 minutes after the last sexual intercourse. Why is this happening? In fact, everything is individual, and the female sex has prostitutes who are also ready to have sex 24 hours a day, but in truth there are not many of them.
What to do if your boyfriend constantly wants sex? Let's give some advice to girls.
The guy says he wants me: how to understand male psychology
Women want to know what young people are thinking about when they look at them, what they want, what desires arise. Sometimes young ladies tell their girlfriends or psychologist: “The guy says he already wants me, but I don’t know how to behave in such a situation.” Gentlemen's physical need develops very quickly; for this it is not at all necessary to experience love or other feelings. The physiological desires and psychology inherent in every man are to blame for everything.
Male psychology
Ladies often don't know what to do if a guy says he wants me right now. Men experience increased attraction to pretty girls, so they can voice their desires. To understand that the desire for intimacy occurs in the presence of feelings, it is worth understanding in detail male psychology.
Young men rarely show their feelings, even if they like a woman. They may show desire for sex without revealing that they actually feel deep sympathy. To understand under what circumstances a boyfriend tells a lady about his desires, it is important to observe his behavior.
A young man who feels desire for a girl will always try to spend more time with her, look for meetings, and ask her out on dates. If, after a little communication on a social network, a guy openly says: “I want you,” it means that he is exclusively sexually attracted to you.
When there are feelings or sympathy, men do not speak openly about their desires; they woo the girl, creating a romantic atmosphere around their courtship.
Finally open your mouth!
First for conversation, not what you thought...
If you experience pain during sex (for example, from deep penetration) or you want to be on top, or your clitoris needs to be treated more gently - say so!
Your partner can't read minds. Orgasms for guys are much simpler: they largely depend on the mechanics of movements. While women use a variety of feelings: erotic fantasies, kisses behind the ear, and sweet anticipation - all this is important.
Don’t be surprised why a man, after sex, turns away and sleeps with a satisfied face, while you look at the ceiling with a silent thought: “Is that all?..”.
If he came and you didn’t even get excited, tell him. Only without the rude: “You suck in bed!” Share your fantasies, for example: “I get turned on by sex where the man doesn’t cum before the woman…”
How does a man feel when he wants a woman?
When a man wants a girl, he experiences a lot of positive emotions, which improve his mood, force him to communicate with her more often, and arrange meetings. A guy's behavior when he sees a beautiful girl also changes.
Men can easily hide their feelings, not to mention falling in love. But it is difficult for them to hide their sexual attraction to the young lady. Well-mannered guys will never tell a girl they don’t know well that they want to be in bed with her, but it’s also not easy to hide such a desire. It can be seen in a man's behavior.
If a young man experiences sexual attraction to a young lady, he begins to change. Changes occur not only when communicating through messages, but also in life.
Manifestations of sexual desire include the following:
- embarrassment during meetings;
- passionate look;
- desire to touch the body;
- compliments;
- sweet communication, courtship.
Sometimes this behavior is also typical of men who just want a woman without experiencing any feelings. If you are not ready to give yourself to a guy you may never see again, learn to understand his intentions. If the attitude does not reveal true goals, ask him directly.
An adequate gentleman will admit his feelings and show that not only a sexual relationship is important to him, but also a long-term relationship.
Sex is more than just physical contact
A banal, insensitive hookup doesn't turn you on. He got excited and finished mechanically without much pleasure. Sex with the woman you love is completely different. Touching this beautiful body, delivering pleasure to your lover and feeling your feedback on every touch, your partner becomes more confident. Surely you yourself have noticed: a man after sex and before it are people with different emotional states.
The feeling of determination and firmness extends beyond the bed: when negotiating, communicating with friends, seeing passing girls with inflated butts, he feels like a male and a conqueror.
Long-term sexual abstinence - and a man “withers” before our eyes: he has complexes about the lack of intimate life, does not joke about vulgar topics, and feels slightly inferior.
Key signs that this is true
If a man says that he has wanted you for a long time, this does not confirm that he has deep feelings. Sometimes guys can deceive girls with their behavior in order to take possession of them for the next night.
In order not to encounter an unpleasant situation and not hurt yourself, it is important to learn to understand the main signs that indicate feelings.
Body language: signaling poses
Men rarely say: “I want you,” most often they show it through their behavior. Body language never lies, which is why you should focus on signs of excitement.
In psychology, there are several signs that confirm that a boyfriend is sexually attracted to a lady:
- thumb behind the belt;
- hands in pockets and thumbs out;
- positions his hands so that his thumbs point toward his thighs, as if hinting at his hidden desires;
- touches his tie or hair to try to look better;
- draws her friend's attention to expensive things - watches, glasses, cufflinks.
Pay attention to your boyfriend's behavior. If you consider such actions in him, then you can be sure that he has sexual desire.
Reading lips
Lips are a sensitive area that can seduce, attract attention, and make you fall in love with yourself. From them you can understand that the man is excited. When a guy constantly touches his lips, it means he wants you. Also, during a conversation, he can peer into your lips, mentally merging with you in a kiss.
Brave guys deliberately create situations to touch a girl’s lips. For example, they accidentally shift the kiss to the cheek, trying to get closer to the lips. An increased interest in a girl is indicated by the gesture with which a young man removes a crumb from her mouth or wipes away a drop of juice.
Hypersexual behavior
If a man is unable to hide his sexual attraction to his partner, she will definitely find out about it from his behavior. Guys are ruled by libido, so animal desires and dreams of passionate sex with a beautiful girl will always be present in them.
Young people do not hide their desire to take possession of their beloved, they show it even in front of strangers. They try to touch the girl’s body whenever possible and invite her to their home. Any hints will be conscious and, without further ado, will show the woman that her partner wants sex with her.
Eyes never lie
A man's eyes reveal his increased interest in sexual games. If a guy likes you, he will constantly stop his gaze on your chest, hips, and examine other advantages of your figure. This happens unconsciously, so hiding such behavior can sometimes be extremely difficult.
An intimate date is a direct hint
If a boyfriend makes an intimate date, then this is a hint of rapprochement. Don't believe that he is just a romantic and wants to please you.
Guys always try just for something. If they do not immediately receive the necessary attention and mutual feedback, it is foolish to count on it a second time. Such signs show attraction to a woman. If you see in a man only the need to master you, you don’t even have to ask him about his feelings. Guys who really want to continue communicating with girls after getting closer behave more secretly, cautiously, and romantically. By succumbing to such love spells, you always give reason to think that you, too, are only interested in sexual intimacy.
Many girls ask what should I do? My boyfriend wants me all the time. Just kind of insatiable. Let's start answering this question with official statistics on this issue. Women want - 2-3 times a week, in most cases. Men, in turn, official statistics say this - already 5-10 minutes after intimacy. Therefore, no matter how you look at it, women are very far behind and cannot keep up with the needs of men.But, if there is a small percentage of girls and women who are able to cope with such a load, so to speak, and some even enjoy such a rhythm. Most people are completely unable to do this. Why is that? Depends on the needs of each individual girl. Also, the fact how often the girl has intimacy is also influenced. The more regularly you eat, the more often you want to eat. But the opposite also happens: the more you eat, the less you want. But things are different for guys and men.
The guy says he wants me.
Advice for girls at the beginning of a relationship with a guy. If you are a girl who has met a guy, and you have never met him before, but just while you are communicating, you will get to know each other better. And then he declares that he wants you, then be sure to read the entire article. She will help you with advice and more, she will let you know when you should trust a guy and when not! How to react to such statements, and how to behave and what to do. This article will help you understand what kind of young people there are, what you should be wary of, and what you need to look at before you trust a particular young man.
Don’t think that if you don’t give it to him, he will lose interest in you; you shouldn’t interest him in you in this way. Everything is very simple! If you are interested in a guy only as an object for this matter, then you should not value such a guy at all. You shouldn’t attract him, think about how to interest him, if he likes you as a person and not a piece of meat, then he’ll wait!!! If you are not ready for this yet, or think that it is too early, or you simply do not trust him, then he will wait!!! Let him first earn trust, and prove through actions and not just beautiful words - that you are dear to him, and attractive as a girl, and not meat!
Advice for girls who are in a serious relationship with a guy. But, also, this article will be useful to those girls who are already in a relationship with a guy who constantly wants her. I want to immediately give them the main advice. Don't be afraid or embarrassed to talk to him about it. If you are not happy with something, talk to him about it. This is right and there is nothing strange or wrong about it. And if your boyfriend reacts inadequately, then that’s where he belongs. Don't let yourself be used as some kind of rubber toy. It’s not worth it every time he gets an itch - to please him like some kind of slave! No, you have as many rights as he does, and he must respect your wishes. And if he says that he will go to the left or something like that, it means he definitely doesn’t love you, which means that’s where he belongs!
My boyfriend wants me all the time, why is that?
1. What are the reasons for this? The most common! Have you heard of this expression - most men only need a woman in two rooms. Bedroom and kitchen. I cooked food, put her to bed, and didn’t care about anything else. What is the girl’s inner world like, what does she want and what does she need, I don’t care! Fulfill these 2 duties, and then do whatever you want.
2. There is another expression for most men who constantly want their girlfriend. So that your boyfriend does not cheat on you, let him leave the house, only with a full stomach, and with these same empty ones. Otherwise, he will have to look elsewhere to satisfy 2 basic needs. Unfortunately, to the great regret of all women, all this is true.
3. Indeed, most men need a woman only for these 2 needs. Feed and put to bed. And if we are talking about family life, then there are also 3 responsibilities. Babysit children. He is the breadwinner, and you are the servant and nanny. You're thinking too exaggerated, perhaps. Because we are talking about most men, not all.
4. It all depends only on your female vigilance and timely observation! If you don’t want to connect your life with an animal that lives only on instincts, then you should think about this much earlier, even when meeting a guy and on dates. If you don’t want to spend your whole life serving as a cook and a girlfriend to quench the thirsty instincts of down-to-earth men. Read below for what exactly you should pay attention to.
5. Everyone has their own needs, for some a couple of times a week is enough. Well, for some people even a couple of times a day will not be enough. If a guy has hobbies and interests in life, then he is distracted by business. If the guy is basically a slacker, and is not interested in anything, and is not interested in anything in life, besides the main things. Then he mainly lives by instincts - to eat, sleep, enjoy life. Below we will look at the most common reasons - why does my boyfriend constantly want me? Not all of the reasons women like are full of unworthy and vile reasons. And therefore, you need to understand this issue in order to understand in time whether your young man is worthy or not!
The guy says he wants me. Reason 1.
What reasons are there, from the most obvious and base, to the most pleasant and sublime. I will rank the reasons why a guy wants a girl, from bad and unworthy reasons to the most worthy.
I just want to, I'm itching. Most guys meet a girl, offer to date her, and agree to a type of relationship with her, for only one reason. When a guy has a girlfriend, it means he doesn’t need to go hunting every evening in order to satisfy his base instincts. Now he has a permanent girlfriend with whom he can always and everywhere. As soon as I felt like it, I was itching, I called, met, told her about love and the sublime reasons for meeting her. And he got his.
Of course, not absolutely all men do this, and date girls only for this. But let’s be honest – these are the majority. The poor and naive girl does not even realize that she is simply being taken advantage of. She thinks that everything is serious, that this is love. The guy spun and pulled the wool over his ears, but she’s happy to try. I really like you, you’re just like that, just like that. I translate - I want you, but I won’t say it directly, otherwise you’ll cheat me, who will give it to me later! Every time you want.
Again, I repeat, not absolutely every guy is like this, but you need to always be on alert. Don't jump into the pool head first. It’s best to wait until the guy proves that this is not all he needs from you. But it’s also worth remembering that if a particular guy is ready to wait and endure, this does not honor him. The spirit of a hunter could simply awaken in him. It’s even better when the game doesn’t come into your hands on its own, but breaks, and then you can go hunting. This is so much fun! At the end of the journey, sweet victory will await him.
The point is that most men stupidly use a girl for this very purpose, filling her brains with empty promises. You have to somehow lure the victim, you can’t say openly - I just want you, and I want you to give me every time I want. No, that won't work. You need to say everything - la la poplars, there, let's go to the cinema, to a restaurant. And I like you so much, and you are so beautiful, and your eyes, well, in short, everything is clear. And as soon as you ask the question - who am I to you, and what do I mean to you, and what kind of relationship do we have - the tongue immediately goes there! In short, girls, keep this in mind. Of course, you shouldn’t be completely disappointed in all the men and boys, but just be on your guard.
The guy wants me. Reason 2.
He certainly does not use you as in reason 1, but he is not far from it. What exactly do I mean? Most men let off steam in mainly three ways. They drink, they beat, they pester. When the boss at work yelled at him and put him on the carpet, he quarreled with his work colleagues or friends. Or just a bad mood. The point is that the man, in all these cases, needs to let off steam. And how does he do it? All women know. Either he gets drunk or takes his anger out on his wife or girlfriend. Well, many men let off steam in just this way. And women, by the way, also, in stressful situations, often resort to this way to relax.
Basically, he might just be letting off steam this way. If you don't like it, then talk to him about it. Explain to him that you are his girlfriend or wife, and not a pear that can be punched every time he wants. Let them also take you and your desires into account. And he doesn’t only think about himself.
My boyfriend wants me constantly, what should I do? Reason 3.
The most obvious reason that a guy constantly wants a girl is because he finds her very sexy. A guy wants a girl who turns him on. But here there are 2 main reasons for this, one is normal, the other is bad. If he is in love with her, even possibly loves her, and at the same time constantly wants, or even desires, a girl precisely because he loves her, this is very cool. But! There is another side to the fact that a guy constantly wants his girlfriend. And she's bad. This is when a girl is just very cute and beautiful, such people are always unlucky in sincere love!
Beautiful and pretty, cute and sexy - all men and guys in the world want! But that’s exactly what they want! But they don’t like it! If you are such a girl, then it’s better to take a closer look at your guys, whether they really love you or are just taking advantage of your beauty! All men are always after beautiful women. But it’s better for beauties to understand - don’t let yourself be used, don’t let them deceive you, don’t listen to the endless persuasion of men who only want to persuade you to bed. They will simply use you, get enough of you, and send you on your way as soon as you stop exciting you.
The guy says he wants me, my boyfriend wants me all the time. Reason 4.
He is in love with you, or even loves you, which is why he is so drawn to you. This is the best possible reason, but very rare. Unfortunately, most naive girls think this way - if my boyfriend wants me, then he loves me! How could it not be so! Only those women who have not yet been burned by the majority of lustful men think so. Remember, dear girls, it is better to learn from other people’s mistakes and experiences than to get burned yourself.
But still, there are enough worthy guys. Who, in addition to the fact that they always want their girlfriend, also love her, respect and appreciate her. They value relationships with her, and they are interested in the girl’s inner world, and not just that. It's not easy to find, but it's worth it. Just don't be naive and don't let yourself be controlled. I wish all girls to find their soul mate. And have a great personal and family life. Good luck.
Useful advice from psychologists
To avoid a relationship with a man who is only interested in intimacy, psychologists recommend that girls listen to the following advice:
- Talk to a man about his feelings.
- Observe his behavior.
- Do not enter into intimate relationships immediately after meeting.
- Look closely at the young man's eyes.
These psychological tips will allow girls to avoid stupid situations and help build a stable relationship with a man.
Why does he want it often, but she doesn’t?
Because we have different physiological and psychological attitudes. Different goals. It is important for a man to receive satisfaction, and for a woman - pleasure. For a man this is a need, but for a woman it is just a pleasant pastime.
But pleasure is like this: if you want it, you get it, but if you want it, you don’t get it. In addition, intimacy with a man is just one type of pleasure. Sometimes a delicious meal in a good restaurant can be much more pleasant for a woman than the act of performing such a desirable play for men.
How to determine that a man wants you?
At all times, the relationship between a man and a woman was difficult and resembled a kind of game.
It’s the same today – boys and girls are not used to talking directly about their feelings, intentions, or simply desires.
And this happens not only because it is not customary to talk about such things directly, but also for such a simple reason that men themselves are often not sure of what they want and what they feel. However, human psychology is such that gestures, glances, and behavior can reveal hidden thoughts.
Therefore, a sufficiently attentive and observant girl will always be able to guess that the guy is not indifferent to her. And words are often completely unnecessary for this.
How can you reliably understand that a man wants you? Especially if he doesn’t show it in any way and doesn’t talk about his hidden desires?
Modern realities
Over time, animal instincts have become dulled: men are much more restrained and do not rush at the first female they come across (although there are such individuals), but still the needs of the ancestors left a certain mark on the male libido.
Today, however, there are many more reasons that affect men and explain why men want to make love more often. Scientists from New Zealand conducted a study according to which there are several factors that explain increased sexual desire in men.
Simple signs will say everything for him!
There are simple actions that will definitely reveal a man's desires. Just don’t confuse lust with falling in love - such a misconception often confuses women and girls.
If a man really wants a woman, this means that she attracted him with her sexuality, attractiveness, she attracts him and makes him dream, be in sweet fantasies.
But this does not mean at all that the man is in love, has some serious feelings and wants to be with this girl! Perhaps this will come later, but sexual lust often goes away after an intimate relationship.
However, a wise woman knows how to turn a man's desire correctly. And if you use your feminine power correctly, you can achieve a lot from your lover.
Of course, if you give yourself to a man right away, then you are unlikely to get anything other than fleeting pleasure. And if you show cunning and intelligence, you can really tie him to yourself and build a good, strong relationship.
But to do this, it’s worth learning to recognize the signs that indicate male desires. Let's figure out how to understand that a man really wants a woman?
- He behaves differently with the young lady he likes than with others.
- His gaze is literally “magnetically” drawn to her.
- He gives compliments and shows other signs of attention.
- The man is clearly trying to look good when meeting.
- He is looking for a reason to touch unobtrusively, to be closer, to smell the woman.
- In a general company, this man tries to stand out from others.
There are many more signs, but these are the most obvious. From them you can unmistakably understand that your friend is clearly experiencing attraction. Let's consider each sign separately.
Special treatment is a sure sign!
When communicating with a man in a company, it is easy to notice if he sets you apart from the rest. Pay close attention to how he communicates with other representatives of your sex - his intonation, speech, expressions, his gestures, where his eyes look.
Therefore, compare these signs with the same ones, but in relation to you. If they are clearly different, you can draw conclusions.
Look at his gestures. As a rule, during a conversation, a man’s hands are at the level of his stomach or chest.
And when he talks to a woman he really wants, all his gestures will be concentrated in the pelvic area (if he is sitting). This is psychosomatics, and you can’t argue with it: gestures reveal inner desires and thoughts.
A man can also make involuntary movements with his hips or knees, this happens very naturally and is almost imperceptible to him. And it is the surest sign that in his mind he is already making passionate love with you.
The man's speech and voice will also be different. Listen to how he talks to other ladies and compare. If in a conversation with you he tries to be more polite, his voice is softer and quieter, this is also a clear sign of his attraction to you.
The eyes will tell everything!
If a man looks at your lips, neck, chest, legs during a conversation, it is obvious that he wants you. Moreover, such views are most often not intentional.
This is how the stronger sex works - his gaze is simply attracted by attractive parts of the female body, there is nothing to be done! So watch your eyes, they can say a lot!
And this is especially noticeable if you are on the sidelines. When a man is passionate about a woman, he will glance at her every few seconds.
When in general company, step aside and try to observe. While he is busy with some of his own affairs or, for example, talking with someone, he will periodically glance in your direction.
If you work together, this is especially easy to notice: such a man will look at your legs, high-heeled shoes, and breasts from time to time. When talking about business or something abstract, he will not be focused enough, and it will not be difficult to understand this from his eyes.
“I’d rather give it to you, but he’ll lag behind”
Forcing one to engage in sexual activity against the free will of one of the spouses is violence, which is unacceptable in marriage in any form or for any reason. Quite often, a husband and wife do not have the same temperament or desire for sex - everyone is different. You should always focus on the one who needs less sex.
Some women perceive sex completely differently when they are 20 years old and when they are 30, and for some, sexuality blossoms after the birth of a child. In this delicate area of life, the most important thing is not to rush things, listen carefully to yourself and your partner, and be as honest and careful as possible with yourself and each other.
Yes, of course, a spouse who is forced to abstain while waiting for his partner to have a desire for intimacy will experience frustration (increased stress due to the inability to satisfy his desire), but he can somehow redirect and sublimate his sexual energy - into creativity , sports, almost any active activity.
A person who is forced to give up his body to satisfy the desires of another becomes a victim of violence, and will consciously or unconsciously perceive his forced consent to the role of “a means of sexual release for his spouse” as a betrayal of himself.
If a person loves someone, the very thought of causing pain or harm to the loved one is intolerable. So, is there no love in families where spouses force each other to have sex? It happens that not: not all marriages are built on love or have managed to preserve love. But it happens that there is love, but it is so distorted and distorted by stereotypes, bad habits, false attitudes that it is difficult to recognize it.
During psychological consultations on problems of family relationships, it often turns out that one of the main reasons for the deterioration of relations between husband and wife was that the husband or wife (usually the woman) from the very beginning agreed to sexual intimacy at the “first request” of the spouse. Despite their mood, desire, well-being, degree of fatigue, they endured and waited for “this” to end, thinking that with their honest refusal they would offend their partner and their relationship would worsen.
It turned out just the opposite - such “patience” led to internal tension growing, quite quickly turning into irritation, anger, resentment, and then revenge. The spouse, if he found out that intimacy with him was not desired, that he was “given” out of pity or fear, felt insulted in his best feelings, which, naturally, also did not improve the relationship in the couple. The pattern here is this: the more violence, the less desire for sex there will be.
Signs of obvious attention
In fact, it’s not difficult to understand whether a man wants you. He won't hide it too much.
It is important for women not to show their sympathy and to be modest, mysterious, intriguing and making men suffer in ignorance. But the stronger sex is structured differently - its representatives are usually very direct, open and persistent.
Most likely, the man will begin to show signs of attention, because he doesn’t just want a woman - he certainly thinks about how to get her. And to achieve this, you need to persistently look after her, give nice gifts and flowers, say beautiful compliments, and so on.
The presence of sexual lust will make him choose special gifts and say special words. This will be different from romantic youthful impulses, and will certainly have subtle sexual overtones. This way you can reliably and accurately understand what’s on your gentleman’s mind.
If he presented you with sexy lingerie, a peignoir or a robe, this is already an open offer, and not even a hint. But this rarely happens, more often a man who wants a woman gives her very cute trinkets - soft bears, cute jewelry, bouquets and sweets.
The desire to make your girlfriend happy and surprise in bed 6
The most noble of options. After all, many men simply enjoy it when their beloved is happy about something. There is no money for a new ring, but the last time you went on vacation was during Lenin’s life? There is a way out - to satisfy your girlfriend sexually - this is what many males think.
It is worth noting that this method does not work very successfully, because if a woman wants a fur coat, then she will want it until she is blue in the face and no amount of orgasms will help change her mind. Sometimes a man likes to watch his girlfriend bend over as he works with his hands or tongue and listen to words of gratitude for the pleasure he gives.
Men's perception of relationships with women
Males and females differ not only physiologically, but also psychologically. Therefore, understanding each other is not an easy task. At least not for everyone.
It’s not for nothing that they say that a man is from Mars and a woman is from Venus. Two identical, but at the same time, different creatures.
Basic moments
The perceptions of relationships between men and women are radically different.
To truly get close to a girl, a member of the opposite sex needs to go through five stages:
- the need to be the only one;
In the first stage, the young man experiences a feeling of attraction to his partner. It all starts with the girl's appearance. This is what a man looks at first.
But a guy cannot be attracted by looks alone, even though many girls say that men only want sex. For a young man, a girl’s intelligence, her manner of speech, character, etc. are also important.
That is, representatives of the stronger sex also have high feelings. At the second stage, a man can move away from his chosen one in order to decide whether he needs this relationship and what it brings to his life.
During this period, a girl should not disturb a young man, try to sort things out with him, create quarrels, but leave him alone with himself.
As a rule, after a short period, the young man becomes even closer to the lady. Thus, the young man is approaching the third stage, when he not only begins to pay more attention to his chosen one, but also demands the same attitude towards himself.
He becomes more jealous. Every man is a potential rival for him. At this moment, quarrels and showdowns in raised voices are not uncommon.
To avoid this, a girl only needs to share her warmth with a man more often and tell him that he is the best for her.
The lovers approach the fourth stage as one unit. They have no secrets from each other, they share their most secret problems without hesitation, they know all their shortcomings, but despite this, they maintain love.
At the engagement stage, a man begins to think, is this the person with whom he would like to spend the rest of his life?
It is during this period that many couples break up, because for one, personal freedom may be more important than the feelings of the other.
Keys to Understanding the Opposite Sex
Not every woman is able to understand her man, because representatives of the opposite sex often hide their emotions. But it also depends on the young man’s temperament.
Some people openly show their feelings, while others need a lot of time to get used to their partner and open up to him.
You can understand how a man feels by the following signs:
1. Fear of losing a woman. This is precisely the main sign of high feelings for your chosen one. But these signs of a man’s love for a woman can also be ordinary selfishness, fear of loneliness.
2. He has a need to care for and feel sorry for his girlfriend. Each representative of the strong half of humanity has an inherent desire to care for and protect his beloved, who is physically weaker than him. If he tries in every possible way to please a woman, and does not demand any benefits in return, this speaks of his love for his chosen one.
3. Admiration for the lady. A man openly admires the beauty, intelligence and even shortcomings of a girl. For him, everything about her is perfect. People often say about such people that they “put on rose-colored glasses.”
Sex as a means of education
Another important point is that abstinence should not have an “educational” meaning.
If one partner tries to influence the other in this way, he is a manipulator. Manipulation of sex, unfortunately, is one of the most common techniques. Usually women use this as a “weak” side: refusal of sex is used as an educational measure in case of dissatisfaction with the husband, his drunkenness, indifference, disagreement, as an argument in economic disputes and in many other situations. Women naively believe that the more strictly they control their sex life, the better their relationship with their husband will become.
But everything is exactly the opposite. As soon as the husband realizes that his wife is manipulating him through sex, his tender feelings for her fade and the relationship turns into a mercantile plane: “you give me, I give you.” There is no respect or love here anymore. For the husband, the next step could be cheating - not necessarily with a woman, perhaps with porn sites.
Manipulation of sex also has a downside - encouragement. But this is the same manipulation as avoiding intimacy. And it has the same consequences.
Sexual life is such a subtle, intimate and tender type of relationship that the invasion of pseudo-pedagogy can destroy it forever. If one of the partners begins to understand that he is being manipulated, he stops believing in love.
The main signs of a man's true love for a woman
Each representative of the male half of humanity shows his sympathy in different ways. But there are a few signs of love that stand out to all guys.
At the stage of falling in love, when the relationship is just beginning, almost every man periodically pampers the object of his passion with gifts. This period is also called the “candy-bouquet period.”
If a man does not skimp on gifts, this does not necessarily show his serious intentions. Maybe he wants to buy “sex” and nothing more.
A young man in love gives gifts with the goal of pleasing his beloved and enjoying the emotions of her joy. It could be a small gift.
The main thing is to show attention. Therefore, if there are no gifts, even hints of them, this indicates a lack of serious intention towards the girl on the part of the man.
Manifestation of romance
Men know that girls react very emotionally to all sorts of romantic things, so they try to periodically organize such performances.
A guy can arrange a romantic evening with candles for his beloved, or arrange a dinner on the roof of a high-rise building. All this is done in order to be alone in an atmospheric and romantic setting.
Usually, after such evenings, the couple becomes even closer. Therefore, if a young man does not spoil a girl with periodic “romance,” it means that he has no ideas and desires, or there is no love as such.
Men get tired too
Yes, your partner may have a headache, he may plop down in bed and be snoring within three minutes, and sometimes he will even turn to the wall without saying a word.
A man is not a sex robot who is always ready to insert his penis into you. If you want harmony in a relationship, stop hanging labels from glamorous magazines, and perceive your partner, first of all, as a living person.
In addition to physical fatigue, a man also feels emotional, especially if he often hears “no” from the woman he loves and feels rejected.
Is he staying longer at work or at the gym, talking less and walking around sullen? Don't rush to check his ex's Instagram and search his pockets. Perhaps your partner is simply uncomfortable being at home, where his always dissatisfied wife is in “snowflake” mode?
What else do you need to know
With love it is clear. What to do if you don’t know how to identify self-dislike. There is nothing complicated here either. Every girl understands and feels when she is not loved. But not everyone is afraid to admit this discovery to themselves.
Signs of dislike
Every woman feels if there is no love on the part of a young man, or if the love has cooled down. A person in love will want to spend any free time with his other half.
If a man does not have passionate feelings for his object, he will want to meet only when it is convenient for him. Regardless of the girl's opinion.
A “male” in love will listen to any chatter from the lips of the object that attracts him, just to look at him longer and enjoy the company.
A man who is not in love will not spend much time with a girl he does not like. After all, he has his own life, and maybe a woman to whom he is ready to devote his attention.
The best way to find out if a man likes you is to ask him for help. A man who considers a girl just a friend will not drop everything and go help her. A person in love with his passion will find time and rush to help.
Is love and attraction at the same time real?
“I love and want the man I love, and he loves and wants me!” - the ideal that most girls strive for. But there are often cases when men experience sexual desire for some women, and love for others. When you meet a new partner and are increasingly thinking “I want to tell my man that I love him!”, first make sure you are serious with the help of the tips above.
Do you want to better understand yourself and male psychology? Try taking the online course “Secrets of Women’s Happiness.” The lessons are structured so that each participant reveals her strengths and weaknesses in communicating with the opposite sex, strengthens her femininity, and learns to choose worthy gentlemen.
Tell me, have you ever doubted the sincerity of your boyfriend’s feelings? How did you verify his intentions?
