For a long time it was embarrassing to talk about such things, and therefore this knowledge was not passed on from mother to daughter. Today, this has become a common action that some have mastered and some have not. They talk about him so much that sometimes I want to ask if all girls know how to give a blowjob correctly. And for some girls the answer will be no.
If someone is interested in how to give a blowjob correctly, you can be sure that there is a lot of advice, but it is not suitable for everyone for the first time. Therefore, if you want to try this technique on your beloved man to give him pleasure, you should know that for the first time, just create a romantic setting or one that your man prefers, in order to ask or simply hint at your desire to give him a blowjob. This way you will take the first step, but the second will require liberation from you, since the man will immediately understand that the girl is doing this for the first time if she feels out of place.
Therefore, think only about what you want, and do not allow any thoughts about the bad ending of these fun. If it happens that you are embarrassed to give a blowjob in front of him, then simply blindfold him, also encouraging him with words that you love to do it sensually and without any eye contact. Only his and your feelings. For those who are not the first to give blowjobs, there are books on the skill.
Secrets and subtleties of oral sex
Without hurting feelings
More and more girls are beginning to notice that men are very sensitive to their selves. To be more precise, to the seed. There may be many guesses, but the conclusion is still the same. When a man cums and throws out everything that the body requires, he expects the woman to lick it all off and swallow it. No matter how cheesy it may sound, it’s the same as a confession of feelings. If they see that it is unpleasant for a woman to swallow a piece of him, then this is the same as rejecting him. After this, as you know, the man no longer wants the girl to give a blowjob, and it can also end in the fact that the man no longer considers it necessary to deal with her at all.
Is oral sex harmful?
There were many disputes, and, as you know, a truth was born, which was accepted, although not by all parties, but accepted. A girl who truly loves her boyfriend will swallow what a man gives her. You can immediately hear cries that a girl should not do this if she is disgusted. But no. Imagine yourself in his place, and how you would feel when, having given you pleasure, you then turned away and spat out the entire contents on the floor. It’s not a pleasant feeling, it’s like someone spat on your soul, isn’t it? Therefore, in order to give a blowjob correctly and not offend your man, practice thoroughly.
To have a complete feeling of manhood, you can buy a special toy in a sex store, but if you want it at home without any fuss, then just take a sausage or stick-shaped object and start. So that the tip reaches the end of the larynx, and repeat the movements until you get used to this feeling of a full mouth.
Types of oral sex
Facts about the benefits of blowjob (c)
Doctors have found that blowjob is very beneficial for women's health:
Teeth
As scientists from the USA have found, semen contains valuable minerals that strengthen the gums. In addition, the zinc and calcium contained in it contribute to the restoration of tooth enamel no worse than expensive toothpastes. If you perform oral sex twice a week, your risk of tooth decay decreases by 40 percent.
Breasts Male sperm contains the hormone prostaglandin. When ingested, it stimulates the production of female hormones, including estrogen. For women, not only does the condition of their skin and hair improve. Thanks to estrogens, the volume of the breasts and hips increases. And no plastic surgeons are needed! By the way, scientists from North Carolina State University found that women who regularly give their loved ones blowjobs and swallow semen once or twice a week are 40 percent less likely to develop breast cancer. Doctors studied 16,000 women who regularly practiced blowjobs for ten years. It turned out that those who swallowed sperm, if they had cancer, it was in a mild form. But if you don’t swallow the ejaculate, there will be no effect. Italian professor Bruno Fabbri claims that blowjobs are an excellent alternative to the gym. He found that 26 minutes of French love burns calories from one pizza eaten. And 53 minutes of oral sex, ending in orgasm, destroys three hamburgers and a pack of chips.
Stress Fellatio is an excellent antidepressant. During it, the nerve endings on the lips are stimulated and the hormone oxytocin is produced, which has a relaxing effect. Scientists from the University of Paisley conducted an experiment: they selected 44 women, half of whom had to perform oral sex for two weeks, and then perform arithmetic problems in front of a large audience. Those women who engaged in oral sex experienced less stress than those who practiced traditional intercourse. Doctors also note that sperm contains lipids and amino acids, which have an excellent healing effect in case of stressful stomach diseases - gastritis, colitis, ulcers.
Pregnancy Blowjob is a good way to conceive, scientists from the University of Adelaide have proven. During a blowjob, a woman receives a dose of her partner's DNA. During a future pregnancy, this will help the fetus take root in the uterus. After all, after fertilization, sometimes the mechanism for “recognizing” the partner’s proteins does not work, and the fetus is rejected. But with constant contact with sperm, the body gets used to it, and the immune system does not perceive the proteins as foreign. 82 percent of women who had oral sex before pregnancy did not develop any complications. Of those who rejected oral sex, only 42 percent were so lucky. Before conception, doctors recommend three weeks of oral sex. True, there is one thing: the sperm must be swallowed, otherwise all the treatment will be in vain.
By the way, Sexologists have found that cunnilingus is no less beneficial for a man’s health than blowjob is for a woman. During these exciting caresses, a man receives a lot of useful enzymes that have a positive effect on the entire body - heart rate and blood circulation improve, and immunity is strengthened. In addition, the man “sucks out” a small dose of beneficial hormones, which also have a good effect on erection. Doctors also noticed that if an “aged” man regularly practices cunnilingus with young partners, his aging process slows down. It's probably all about female pheromones, which are released abundantly during such caresses and have a rejuvenating effect.
History of the issue Fellatio was first mentioned in ancient Egyptian treatises dating back to 3000 BC. Prostitutes who invented this type of sex pleasure painted their lips with scarlet lipstick to indicate their “specialization.” Since then, the scarlet mouth has been considered a sign of sexual emancipation. The most famous fan of oral sex is Cleopatra of Egypt. The ancient Greeks even gave her the name Meriohane (Open-mouthed). The great queen went down in history not only as the queen of Egypt, but also as the queen of blowjobs, once pleasing hundreds of Roman patricians in one night. In 1012 A.D. The archbishop of Germany declared oral sex to be the work of the devil. They began to judge people for fellatio and burn them at the stake. In 1774 A.D. Giovanni Giacomo Casanova published his memoirs in 12 volumes, where he described the delights of fellatio. Since then, blowjob “has become fashionable.”
Like a mesh
More and more guys are starting to notice how girls try to imitate their uterus. Not only is this not correct, it even reminds them of a grid. For men, a woman's mouth is something more and therefore they do not expect primitive movements up and down, it is like a mesh that rubs for a long time and is unpleasant. Real craftswomen know that such a blowjob for a couple of minutes can provide a man with unpleasant sensations even after several days. This comes from the fact that a woman's womb is lubricated all the time, and your mouth fills with saliva after at least a minute, since it will not excite you like simple food.
To prevent your man from discussing with his friends that you don’t know how to give a blowjob correctly, do a couple of things. Firstly, always stock up on lubricant to make the entrance softer and more pleasant, you can also use a cream or some kind of liquid substance to engage your taste buds, for saliva. And the most important thing is not to repeat yourself. To begin with, just move it with your lips, then with your hands, and only then with your mouth. And never linger for more than a minute on one movement, this can make a man angry. Just tease him and you will see the result in 5 minutes.
Why men are attracted to oral sex
How to choose the right blowjob machine
Finding the right oral simulator can be challenging, especially if you are looking for a model that may be more expensive. When purchasing such a product, it is best to understand the differences between the various functions and settings, as well as consider safety and cleaning. Below are some points that may influence your decision.
Settings
The ability to control the speed and number of strokes is important for a good oral experience. Since each user is different in terms of what they like in an oral simulator, finding the right automated technique will shape your understanding of such machines.
Some AI machines offer pre-programmed settings as well as the ability to customize your preferred strokes. The coolest part of machine learning integration is its ability to recognize your chosen preferences, such as in the case of Autoblow AI. Yep, your high-tech machine can actually learn to understand what kind of oral sex you want to receive!
Materials
When it comes to the casing of your device, the choice of material used is another key aspect to examine. Typically body-safe materials such as high-quality, body-safe silicone. However, not all brands will use silicone for their penis sleeve, so this is where you'll want to do your research.
Realistic sleeves
Other common materials used in blow job machines besides silicone are Cyberskin, Fanta Flesh, Superskin (which is used by the Fleshlight brand) and even ABS plastic.
The obvious choice would be a material that feels similar to the mouth or skin for the most realistic feel. Opt for materials like Cyberskin, Fanta Flesh or Superskin as they are similar to silicone and are fairly easy to clean and maintain.
Functions
The unique features of your car make for some exciting bells and whistles, so be sure to learn the features of each product. Besides aspects like artificial intelligence, machine learning, and the ability to connect the toy to a VR headset, there are other things to consider before purchasing a device.
Waterproof?
It's best to be careful with the term "waterproof." Sometimes this may mean a completely submersible toy, but not always. Never submerge a toy in water unless the function indicates that it is safe to do so. In most cases, more high-tech devices are not waterproof or even waterproof. If you're looking for a way to play in the water, you might be better off choosing a handheld masturbator for blowjobs.
Feel
Textures may vary depending on the mechanics of the toy. For hand-held blowjob toys, sensation may come from the design of the penis sleeve. They are usually ribbed or have tiny bumps on the inside that help create a delicious sensation on the lips, tongues, resistance (like how a toy sucks), and yes, even teeth, which some men absolutely love!
On more advanced machines, like the Kiiroo Onyx or Lelo F1, the motors can include delicious vibrations, air pumps (which can enhance the feeling of a real blowjob) and even a female voiceover!
Noise
It's important to note that many of these toys can be quite loud. Depending on the type of motor used, your device may make more noise than you!
With some models, the sensation is so strong that some customers may ignore the loud engine in exchange for the sensation it provides. However, such noise may be distracting or annoying to others. A loud sounding product may also be inconvenient for users who have children at home or a partner they don't want to disturb.
Pleasure in movement
As discussed earlier, men like inventive girls who do not hesitate to use not only their mouth, but also some parts of their body. If you want to become exactly the one for your man, then you must remember a couple of movements that will lead your loved one to pleasure.
First, don't forget that you have lips. Yes, a lot of girls think that it’s just their mouth and that’s it. No, in fact, the lips also turn on, especially when you start kissing from below, and then, going up to the scrotum, swallow it. Just do this not deeply, so that the man feels that he has not completely mastered you.
Secondly, you have hands that can also stimulate a man, especially your fingers. Using pressure, they tighten his penis as well as your vaginal squeezing. Therefore, you need to work with your fingers carefully, because at any moment you can cross the line and your man will simply become involved sooner than you imagined. To do this, just first press a little, and only then knead it with all your fingers.
The benefits of oral sex for women
Thirdly, men really like it when a woman rubs her breasts on his dignity. This will not only provoke a storm of emotions, but will also make your lover fall in love with your size, no matter how small or large it is.
Cleaning and Maintaining the Blowjob Simulator
It is important to clean and maintain your machine, especially after each use. Luckily, many of these oral simulators are easy to clean. Let's take a look at how to properly care for your device to keep it hygienic and functional.
Cleaning the sleeve is mandatory!
For both automatic, high-tech and manual Blowjob devices, the penis sleeve is removable. You should clean the sleeve after each use. If not, whatever is left over from the last use will cause bacteria and germs to grow, and suddenly your dear and beloved product will become unusable.
Depending on what the penis sheath is made of, you may want to use antibacterial soap and warm water or a toy cleaner specifically formulated for your device.
Three step process
- First, remove the sleeve from the hard case and clean the inside, paying particular attention to nooks and crannies that may harbor body fluid particles. Some sleeves can be turned inside out, but not all; by doing so, you may end up damaging the integrity of the toy. It is best to consult the manufacturer for detailed instructions.
- After cleaning the penis sheath, it is important to ensure that it is completely dry before use. Again, otherwise, excess moisture can cause the growth of harmful bacteria. You can dry the sleeve by simply stretching it out in the open to let it air dry.
- If your BJ machine has a hard shell, it will also be fairly easy to clean. If necessary, you can wipe the surfaces with a cloth or use antibacterial wipes. It goes without saying that electrical devices should never be immersed in water.
Porous and non-porous materials
Another consideration when cleaning a penis sheath is to first understand what material it is made of. As mentioned above, hoses can be made from a variety of both porous and non-porous materials.
Understanding the difference in how to clean and maintain porous and non-porous products is key because their methods are slightly different. For example, silicone is a non-porous material. Silicone products can be sterilized by boiling (if they are 100% silicone), which requires only soap and water.
However, porous material like Cyberskin (which is especially popular in items like penis sleeves) requires a little more maintenance because porous materials can trap bacteria in, you guessed it, open pores.
To clean a porous sleeve, such as Cyberskin or Fanta Flesh, it is best to use antibacterial soap and let it air dry completely. Or, better yet, you can use a cleaner specifically designed for that specific model.
For example, the sleeves inside the well-known Fleshlight are usually combined with special Fleshlight water. This will ensure that your hose is properly sanitized with a cleaning product that is best suited for its material.
Foreskin6
There is no need to retract the foreskin too much. It is enough to pull it enough to open the head of the penis. Also, according to research, uncircumcised guys are less likely to ask their partners to be “more gentle” during blowjobs. On the contrary, they want stronger stimulation. But women themselves are unlikely to be able to notice the difference in sensitivity between circumcised and uncircumcised men.
One technique is to insert your tongue between the head of the penis and the foreskin and stimulate this area in a circular motion. And then squeeze your lips around the head and foreskin and begin to slowly go down, increasing the intensity.
Remember that the same technique can delight one man and absolutely displease another. Don't forget to watch your partner's reaction.
Triple trick8
The trick is not particularly difficult to perform. Do it like this:
- Take the head of the penis into your mouth and stimulate it with circular movements of your tongue.
- Then grab the shaft of the penis with your hand and begin to make rhythmic movements up and down.
- Insert a lubricated finger into his anus and begin stimulating the prostate.
Triple trick, triple fun. Practice and give your man unearthly pleasure.
Everything about the head3
As mentioned above, the tip of the penis (especially its lower part - the frenulum) is its most sensitive part. How will we use this information?
In the following way:
- Kisses
Cover his penis with light kisses from the head to the base and testicles. Do this with pursed lips, then slightly parted and moistened with saliva. And then move on to more active actions.
- Simple and effective
Holding the penis with one or two hands, begin to make slow circular movements with your tongue around the head of the penis. Alternate direction and speed. This simple technique alone can bring a man to a thunderous orgasm.
- Deep blowjob
Deep throat is a higher level technique. But if you do everything right, the man will not forget it.
- Urethra
Some men like caresses in this area, others do not. Try to caress the opening of the urethra with your tongue during a blowjob and watch the man’s reaction. If he doesn't like it, just move on to other techniques.
- Almost deep throat
Take the penis with your hand and press its tip against the inside of your cheek and tongue. The technique is much simpler to perform than deep throat tricks, but it will also bring a lot of pleasant sensations.
- Sky
Continuation of the technique above. The surface of your palate will give a man new sensations. The main thing is to do everything carefully and not scratch the man’s penis with your teeth.
- Hands and fingers
Nobody forbids you to take a break from time to time and stimulate your penis with your hands. Use more saliva or lube.
Several reasons to love giving blowjob3
No matter how men believe that giving a blowjob allows them to dominate the process, the woman remains the mistress of the position in this process. If you don't like giving blowjobs, then there are several reasons to reconsider your views on life:
- Oral sex strengthens relationships. Nothing brings you closer together than getting to know your loved one’s “closest friend”;
- You can raise your self-esteem. Women who know how to give a high-quality blowjob are highly valued by men and are desirable partners;
- A woman can control the process. It is not necessary to bring everything to the point of swallowing sperm. By giving a blowjob, you can best feel the penis and the degree of a man’s arousal, thereby becoming the mistress of the situation;
- This will make your man happy. For men, oral sex is a special process, so it’s worth making compromises for your loved one;
- Variety in intimate life. Sex will quickly get boring if it consists only of traditional sex.
7) Embrace discomfort
We spend so much time trying to be comfortable. We need the perfect room temperature, the perfect drink, the perfect pajamas, the perfect chair.
But comfort means you don't force yourself; comfort means that your body is in a state of relaxation.
If you want something, you need to do whatever it takes to get it, even if it means reducing your quality of life for a while.
Most of us hate experiencing emotions like anxiety and stress, but if we actively avoid these emotions, it means we are not living a fulfilling life.
According to Noam Spanser, Ph.D., avoiding negative emotions gives you short-term gain at the expense of long-term pain.
That's why:
When you avoid the short-term discomfort caused by negative emotions, you become like a person who, when stressed, decides to drink. It “works” and the next day, when the bad feelings come, he drinks again. So far so good, in the short term. However, in the long term, this person will develop a more serious problem (addiction) in addition to the unresolved problems that he was avoiding with alcohol
Noam Spanser says emotional acceptance is a better strategy than avoidance for four reasons:
- By accepting your emotions, you are “accepting the truth of your situation.” This means you don't have to waste energy pushing emotions away.
- Learning to accept emotions gives you the ability to learn about them, become familiar with them, and learn to manage them.
- Experiencing negative emotions is annoying but not dangerous—and ultimately much less unpleasant than constantly avoiding them.
- Accepting a negative emotion leads to the loss of its destructive power. Accepting an emotion allows it to take its course and you to take yours.
Unfortunately, such emotions are part of being human, and the more we can experience them, the more we will get out of life.
By trying something new, we understand what we really want to do in life.
We only get life once - so enjoy life in every way possible - the good, the bad, the bittersweet, the heartbreak - everything!
Here is a great quote from spiritual teacher Osho:
“Experience life in all possible ways—good and bad, bittersweet, dark and light, summer and winter. Experience all duality. Don't be afraid of experience, because the more experience you have, the more mature you become."
Two tongue tricks5
Before you are two techniques that differ in difficulty level. Choose any one and practice.
- Soft sandpaper
There is no need to be scared by the name - instead of sandpaper, you will use the side of the tongue on which the taste buds are located. Take your penis in your hand and stick your tongue out. While holding the head and tongue in place, use your hand to move the head of his penis over your tongue. So the only movement should be from your hand moving his penis over your tongue. The head of his penis will slide against your tongue.
You can move it in a circular motion, up and down, forward and back, or any other motion you like.
This is the essence of the technique - your tongue “polishes” the head of his penis.
- Sliding along the trunk
Take the penis into your mouth as deep as you can. By running your tongue along the underside of his penis, you should slide it forward along his shaft as far as is comfortable for you, and then slide it back. Continue moving him back and forth, massaging the same part of his shaft. While you do this, keep his penis in place. Don't take it deeper.
This is not a breakthrough blowjob technique that will make your man explode immediately, but it is a great little trick to use if you want to change up your sex routine and give your man a new experience.
Why do men love oral sex so much?
Many men find oral sex more exciting than traditional sex. First of all, this is due to physiology. A man’s penis contains a large number of nerve endings, and a woman’s mouth has the most favorable temperature and humidity, and a woman’s lips and tongue can very gently caress a man’s penis. There is never that dryness in the mouth that can be in the vagina.
In addition, during oral sex, the man feels like the head of the process. Men love to dominate; by nature they are born males, and therefore every representative of the stronger half of humanity is very flattered to be in charge during such an intimate process.
Plus, during oral sex a man expends a minimal amount of energy, thus he has more opportunities and chances to relax and enjoy as much as possible. During any other type of sex, a man expends a large amount of energy and, as a rule, is aimed at satisfying his partner.
Of course, there are exceptions among men who believe that a girl giving a blowjob does not respect herself and is humiliated in front of a man. But it is worth recognizing that these prejudices deprive the young man of many pleasures.
High humidity2
Any guy will tell you that a good blowjob should be “wet.” But the problem is that sometimes there is not enough saliva. What to do?
To increase salivation, chew gum before a blowjob or eat a juicy fruit - strawberries, pineapple, peach.
And the easiest option is to stock up on edible lubricant. Choose a product that suits your taste (literally) and keep it always at hand, for example, in your bedside cabinet.
PS The “deep throat” technique also promotes abundant saliva production. When the tip of the penis touches the throat, the gag reflex is activated. As a result, active salivation begins. Thus, deep blowjob is not only spectacular and pornographic, but also practical from the point of view of that very coveted moisture.
Find someone who did what he wanted
If you're struggling to figure out what steps to take to get where you want to go, find someone who's already been there.
The great thing about today's world is that everything you would like to do has already been done by someone else.
Mentors help you build resilience. Sometimes we think we have it especially hard and forget to acknowledge that others have had problems too.
Knowing that your mentors have been through what you are going through helps you commit to the work you have to do because you know there is light at the end of the tunnel.
By reading about other people, you will see that they too have had to face difficulties and challenges... Knowing how hard someone has worked to achieve their goals or dreams gives you an extra boost of confidence and determination to stick with it a little longer.
If you want to be a writer, actor, artist, big businessman, all the information is available to you online.
And if you want first-hand experience, then go out and do it—volunteer for an organization or ask a professional if you can shadow them for a day or a week. Who knows, you might find something you might be passionate about.
5) Start saving
This tip may be more practical than others on the list, but that doesn't make it any less important.
Money is an undeniable part of society and having money to achieve your dreams is absolutely necessary.
"Savings gives you the freedom to live life on your own terms," says Matt Becker, certified financial planner and founder of Mom and Dad Money.
“When I lost my job three years ago, my wife and I used it as an opportunity to start the business we dreamed of, instead of finding a new salary as quickly as possible... We could only make this decision because of the years we had spent saving our savings."
Whether it's going to school, studying abroad, working somewhere else, starting a business, or traveling for a year or two, you'll need money to do it.
Make sure you don't get stuck paycheck to paycheck, otherwise you'll never have the time or resources to do the things you want.
Whether you have a high or low income, there are 2 simple principles for saving:
1) Tackle High-Interest Debt First: To start saving more, you need to tackle your debt right away, especially high-interest debt that is causing you to pay outrageous fees and interest.
2) Cut costs: Pretty simple. Look at all your expenses and think about what you can realistically cut. $5 a day equals $140 a month. Keep your budget tight and spend moderately.
Another popular tip from financial gurus is the 50/30/20 rule.
This means that at least 20% of your income should go into savings. Meanwhile, another 50% should go to essential items and 30% to personal items.
Disgust6
In school biology lessons they taught that the mouth is the dirtiest place in the body. Some men probably remembered it well. Now it seems to them that during a blowjob, a huge number of bacteria will settle on the penis, which will immediately cause terrible diseases. There is some truth in this, since, for example, syphilis and gonorrhea are easily transmitted by the oral route. Well, there is only one way out - provide a certificate from a venereologist. Although this may not help, because in addition to gonococci, there may be a lot of bacteria in the mouth. Some people don't care about it, while others are very squeamish. VERY.
Anal stimulation7
Anal caresses can literally triple the pleasure of a blowjob. Pay attention to the following techniques:
- Toys
Modern sex shops offer you a huge selection of toys for anal stimulation. If your partner is not yet ready for this, you can use simple vibrators - apply the toy to the area between the anus and scrotum.
- Light caresses
Gently caress your partner's anus in a circular motion during a blowjob. Don't forget about saliva or lubricant. If a man likes this stimulation, he can go further.
- Level up
Get your fingers involved in the game. Insert your finger into your partner's anus, again using lubricant. Discuss this point with your partner in advance - not everyone will like such “surprises”.
- Prostate
Another extremely sensitive area. It is also called the male G-spot. Place your palm and fingertips on the area between the anus and scrotum and insert one finger into the anus to a depth of about 5 cm. Then bend it slightly.
You should feel the soft lump. Stimulate it in the same way as the G-spot - using gentle pressure and rubbing.
Another, easier option is to focus on the penis and use a toy to stimulate the prostate.
- Everything is individual
When a guy cums, you observe the pulsation and rhythmic contraction of the muscles. If your finger is still in his anus at this point, this “squeezing sensation” can increase his pleasure.
But other men like a different trick - when you slowly pull out your finger during orgasm.
What exactly does your partner like? Find out experimentally.
- Safety precautions
Lubricant during anal sex - yes! No to sharp nails.
