Women... Girls... What lovely creatures. No wonder they are called the “fair sex”. But sometimes it happens that these fragile people break our hearts to smithereens. They are going away. And when they leave, they pretend that they never knew us at all. And the question immediately arises: how to return your beloved girl if she does not want to communicate? No matter how strong and brutal a man is, no one can resist his beloved. Or is it really possible to resist their charms? What to do if a girl doesn’t want to communicate and how to get her back? Let's figure it out together. In this article we will answer such a burning question, consider the reasons for the occurrence of such situations, ways to solve them, and formulate an approximate plan of action.
Why force yourself on someone who doesn’t want to communicate with you?! Realizing this is bitter, painful and offensive. But it is necessary! Oleg Roy. Seven Signs of Happiness
Root causes and prerequisites
To understand why a girl left you, you need to establish the reasons and motives driving her.
These reasons are very common: an accidental quarrel, constant jealousy, mistrust, paid too little attention, etc. There are also problems of a physiological nature: the height, face, figure, or even worse - dissatisfaction in sex. Don’t forget the financial component, because many girls often give priority to the wealthiest men. We will consider all aspects, but we will focus on the psychological component. The girl's motives for leaving you are as predictable as the reasons: she doesn't feel good around you, so she's looking for a replacement. She lacks attention and affection. She does not feel protected, while with others she is much calmer. Perhaps you are not providing her financially enough.
The reason for separation can be not only a specific act or unexpected circumstances. The idea of leaving your life partner does not come overnight. This is a long process, and the idea of breaking up matures over a certain period of time, during which the man, with his actions, words and even thoughts (and they feel everything) provokes people to get rid of him.
Girls hint to us about our mistakes by making comments: “You’ve lost interest in me,” “I don’t have enough attention,” “We haven’t gone out for a long time to unwind,” “You’re too jealous,” etc. Often no one responds to these statements pays attention, blaming it on “periods” or, even worse, an eternally dissatisfied female essence. But now, when the girl no longer makes any comments, when she has nothing to do with you at all and ignores you in every possible way, it is worth thinking about her words, which under the given circumstances have become of high value, in order to understand her mistakes and understand how to get her back.
To justify the weak half of humanity, I would like to say that they are driven not only by social foundations, but, above all, by instincts. A woman primarily cares about her offspring and her own well-being. Think for yourself, because in the wild, a female of any species of animal continues her race only with the male who has proven his superiority over other contenders. Males, intoxicated by the instinct of reproduction, fight in mortal battles, dance, sing for the sake of recognition by the female. And such arthropods as spiders and praying mantises generally give their lives to their “beloved” in the name of procreation. So women demand the same from men, so that we devote our lives to them. But in order not to lose our own dignity, we will keep our lives to ourselves, and we will be able to tame women’s ardor.
Changing thinking and behavior patterns
The main thing to understand from the very beginning: under no circumstances should you humiliate yourself in front of a girl.
This is an axiom. But this does not mean that you need to behave cynically or selfishly, no. It is necessary to behave with dignity, restraint and nobility, in a word - courageously. By reacting calmly to a girl leaving, you are already laying the foundation for her return. If nervous breakdowns did occur, then you will have to change your behavior to an extremely adequate one. Even if the girl doesn’t communicate with you, her friends or mutual friends can tell her about your changes. Destroy your standard behavior patterns! This will puzzle her. Without doing stupid and reckless things, you grow in the eyes of a girl, because she sees fortitude and equanimity of character, which is one of the main criteria of masculinity. Understand that you need to increase your value, not the girls. If you run after her all the time, pester her with eternal apologies, begging her to come back, then you are only adding gasoline to the fire! THIS DOES NOT WORK
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On the contrary, if you show her your importance, this will give her a reason to become interested in you again. Spend less time apologizing and start working on your mistakes. Taking into account the above, analyze your miscalculations in relationships and make every effort to eliminate them. After painstaking work on your own shortcomings, feel free to go on the offensive.
From theory to practice
So, if the intention arises to return the girl, even if she does not want to communicate, the procedure should be as follows:
- Cool down
. After a breakup, emotional tension goes through the roof. But you shouldn’t make serious decisions in the heat of the moment. Try to show composure and soberly assess the situation. Your prudence and common sense are the main helpers in solving the problem. - Wait a while
. It is necessary to pause before moving on to active actions. Both you and your girlfriend need time to comprehend what is happening and recover from the breakup. But you simply cannot waste such precious time. Use it wisely: as mentioned earlier, analyze as many aspects as possible and draw conclusions accordingly. Prepare yourself mentally. - Take the initiative
. Girls love men who are courageous, courageous and determined. Be firm in your intentions, gather your willpower, stop mumbling and achieve your goal! Don't expect initiative from the opposite sex. Of course, a scenario in which the girl herself returns is possible, but do not forget that it was she who made the decision to leave you, and it is not in her interests to contradict her own choice. Therefore, the further development of events lies solely in your hands.
When no one wants to communicate with you, this is loneliness. When you don’t want to communicate with anyone, this is asociality. Feel the difference. author unknown
Your actions
If the reason for her offense is clear and it objectively lies in your inattention, you need to adjust your behavior and let your girlfriend understand this. A one-time admission of guilt and a clear apology will be enough.
Even if the girl does not forgive you right away and is offended for some time by inertia, this is normal. Nothing more is required of you except wait for her to leave. Just don’t try to pay off with gifts.
If the reason for the offense is still not clear to you, but you analyzed your last communication, you need to ask the girl a direct question. This is better than trying to guess and making mistakes.
“If I don’t understand the reason for your silence, I won’t be able to do anything about it. Let's talk like adults."
In this case, she can talk about what offended her. When you see mistakes in your behavior, you can admit guilt. If she continues to get out, cannot really explain her behavior and does not stop remaining silent for some time after your attempt to clarify the situation, then she is trying to manipulate you.
Ways to influence a girl
I. Through friends
The nature of women is such that it is not possible for them to be in a silent state, with rare exceptions.
This is what we will use. Even if you are unable to interact with your chosen one, due to the fact that she simply does not want to communicate with you, then you probably have the opportunity to talk with her friend. When talking to her, express your thoughts about your beloved. But present it in such a way that she notices how much you have changed for the better. Focus on the fact that you have analyzed your mistakes in your relationship with the girl, show your new self and make it clear that your intentions are serious. After all, everything you tell your friend will soon be known to your lady love. As a trick, influence your friend by winning her over, for example, by simply giving her a compliment. In this case, she will not only convey the essence of the conversation with you, but will add emotional coloring and share positive impressions about you. This will play a significant role in the girl’s formation of a new opinion about you.
II. The option, at first glance, is absurd, but effective
While working on improving your personal characteristics, give up trying to get a girl for a while and give priority to self-development.
Sooner or later you will stop, and she will notice your changes. Willy-nilly, she will ask the question: “What’s the matter? Has he really forgotten me so quickly?” Seeing her renewed ex, she will think: “Hmm... he’s not so bad, maybe I got carried away with him then?” This will become the starting point when the girl begins to regret what she did. But remember that women are all different, and their reactions are unpredictable. Therefore, do not be upset ahead of time if the result makes you wait. Be wiser. Wait for the moment of truth.
III. The next method is very insidious
This is a kind of “knight’s move.”
But be prepared, the task is not easy. You have to woo another girl in order to influence yours through her. It is advisable to get one so that she has some contact with the one who abandoned you. For example, with a mutual friend or even a friend. True, after achieving the final goal, your girlfriend and this friend will become bitter enemies, but on the battlefield you cannot do without casualties, so we don’t care. How it works? Few women will tolerate the appearance of rivals or competitors in their field, even if it concerns an ex-boyfriend. This will make the girl look at you in a new way, because another person has paid attention to you, which means that there is still some attractiveness in your ex.
IV. Demonstration of changes
Taking into account the previously mentioned tips, you have made progress in achieving your cherished goal, and the girl nevertheless agreed to the meeting.
But! Remember that in a conversation you should never beat your chest, shouting about how much you have changed. The girl herself must understand this, paying attention to your manner of speech, train of thoughts, your appearance, posture. With all your appearance you must show superiority over who you were before. Don’t forget to mention the work done on mistakes, thanks to which you realized and took into account all the comments made to you in the old days. During the conversation, try to agree on opinions and reach a compromise. If the girl shows signs of sympathy, and the conversation goes in a direction favorable to you, then you can add momentum. Explain to the girl that both parties must participate in recreating a new relationship. On shore, discuss all the conditions and nuances.
V. The option described above is completely different from the previous ones
But its effectiveness in terms of satisfaction with the final result is inexorable.
It will radically change your perception of the problem. “Casanova’s golden rule” says: “I sleep with other girls in order to understand that I feel better with you.” But the truth is that after going through bed with about ten girls, you gradually begin to realize that in fact you are much better off with them than with the one you are grieving for. A dilemma arises: is there any point in trying to “enter the same river twice” and “step on the same rake again,” while around you “many rivers flow” and “a bunch of completely new rakes” are lying around?
What to do in case of manipulation
Let's imagine that you analyzed your relationship, but found no reason to offend her. Then he asked her directly, but did not hear an intelligible answer. At the same time, a couple of days after trying to talk, the girl continues to remain silent. You can re-initiate the conversation and calmly repeat your question. It is important at this moment to avoid emotions and a raised tone - anything that could give her a real reason to be offended and replace the reason for the initial silence.
If you understand that there is manipulation in front of you, then this is a signal to start ignoring the girl in return. Again - without any emotions and demonstrative resentment. Maintain your masculine composure. You did everything you could. Now everything depends only on her. If you want to take a step forward, you will have to explain your behavior and apologize. No, that means you can’t go any further.
Having played by her rules once, you will be doomed to endure the girl’s whims and experience her manipulations for the rest of your relationship with her.
Your task now is to distance yourself and switch to that area of your life where there is no girl. I hope you have a lot to do, worries, hobbies, have friends and long-term plans. All this can be done without the girl’s participation.
Summarize
Any separation is a good reason to take a critical look at your shortcomings, not only for the sake of your beloved, but also for yourself in the first place.
This is a reason to change your life, raise it to a qualitatively new level. Please note, it is quite possible that you will have to be not yourself, but the man that the woman wants to see. In this case, you risk losing yourself as an individual.
Therefore, think carefully about whether it is worth your expended vitality and energy. You have transformed, changed for the better, if only the girl would pay attention to you again. But maybe now she’s not worthy of you at all?
Rubtsova Nina · Mar 15, 2021
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It's time to talk about women who are not as righteous as those mentioned above. There is a category of young ladies who are very reasonable and prudent. And mercantile.
Simply put, those who accept a man’s advances give illusory hopes, but in reality they simply use men who are naive and blinded by high feelings. It’s better to beware of such ladies: as soon as there is the slightest chance that you will turn from a promising man into an ordinary loser, she will immediately disappear from sight.
