People break up for various reasons: betrayal, bad habits of a partner, dissimilarity of characters. It seems that having received the long-awaited freedom, life will be filled with new sensations, the banal “everyday life” will go away, taking with it all the problems. But another month passes and more and more often I want to return to my previous stable relationship.
How to draw the attention of your ex-lover and restore burnt bridges if the breakup was harsh and uncompromising. Ask yourself the most important question. Why do you need to capture her attention? If you expect to return to your previous location, lull your missus’s vigilance with compliments, entreaties and vows, and then use an insidious plan to change (like her) or abandon her in difficult times.
The pleasure of revenge will be short-lived, the adrenaline will evaporate, and the aftertaste of a low, unworthy act of a real man will remain forever. Perhaps she is really to blame, broke your heart, or through her behavior has adversely affected your reputation in society. Forget about her for a while, wait until your girl’s intellectual age catches up with her passport age. As people grow older, they become more tolerant and, as a rule, smarter.
Seven ways to remind yourself:
Internet
The option is to return it in order to start all over again, much more noblely; you must understand that when resuming a relationship you have no right to make a mistake. The draft has already been used, now you have a clean sheet in front of you, go for it. There are many ways to remind yourself, their complexity depends on how tragic the breakup was. The simplest, completely free, is to like and leave nice comments under her photos on social networks.
Naturally, she will visit your profile and review in detail the latest changes in your status. There should be no pictures with other girls, rudeness, or subscriptions to porn sites. More sentimental pictures with sad additions about lost love. The boys won’t understand, of course, but you can create another account for them.
A woman's curiosity is stronger than any insult, and after a while, she will reveal herself by writing a sarcastic greeting or sending a cool emoticon. Having established communication, take a closer look at those who appeared in her contacts, perhaps while you were away your competitors did not sleep, unfortunately the duels were cancelled, so look for more humane methods of eliminating them.
Happy chance2
It’s more difficult to figure out how to get your lover back if the girl has blacklisted you, closed any attempts in instant messengers, or blocked you on her phone. Then feel like an official who has been removed from a leadership position due to the loss of trust placed in him. This means she is still worried and every reminder of the past is reflected in mental discomfort in her body.
Simply put, she hasn't forgotten you. Collect the remaining information: home address, place of work, favorite cafes, approximate routes. Like an experienced detective, set up random encounters. At first once every two weeks, then a little more often. Come up with an adequate explanation for why you ended up in this area if you live on the other side of the city. Don’t try to immediately rush into battle, start with a simple greeting, then more.
Gradually reduce the distance, do not miss the moment when your ex starts flirting, or talks about a problem, or even asks for help. Fixing a faucet, taking the cat to the clinic, picking up a laptop from repair, this is an excuse to get closer to you. Maybe the pet that you once brought from the trash heap will now become the link that reconnects your hearts, thereby repaying the kindness shown to him.
Signs that your ex is falling in love with you again
Now you know how to make a girl fall in love with you again after a breakup, all you have to do is put in a little effort and make the girl begin to feel a strong sexual attraction to you.
Here are signs that your efforts were not in vain:
- She doesn't drive you away and doesn't avoid meeting you.
With this she invites you back into her life.
- She does not enter into any relationship.
This means that she mentally considers you her boyfriend and continues to be faithful.
- She has time for you.
She is always ready to meet with you or chat on the phone.
- She shows her affection towards you in public.
You can't go back in time and change what you've already done, but you can rekindle the romance and give your relationship a complete reset.
To do this, you need to make enough efforts so that your ex forgets about the past and looks at you with completely different eyes.
As soon as you see signs that she really likes you, start building up the sexual tension between you.
Don't be afraid to flirt and show your interest.
Dangerous maneuver3
For the brave and determined, risky methods are suitable, then she will be forced to remember your existence. You will have to answer for the wrongs caused in the past (betrayed, slandered, did not feed the cat) with your own health. Set up a mini accident in which you will be the victim and your future bride the perpetrator.
Now almost all women drive a car, but it would be less dangerous for you if she rode a bicycle. Having received minor bruises, or maybe even a closed fracture, you will atone for your guilt to your beloved woman with blood. Mental joy will be the best anesthesia for bodily wounds. For the next month, you are guaranteed bed rest, as well as attention and care from the person responsible for the accident.
Why Refund Requests Are Ineffective
There is only one situation when you can ask your beloved to return - and she will indeed return. This is if you left her yourself, and she asked not to leave. But even here it is better to choose another option in order to return the girl without explicit requests and especially without humiliation. Otherwise, she, realizing how much you regret the breakup, will sooner or later want to take revenge on you.
If the girl left on her own, think about it, humiliating yourself, will you look better in her eyes? Imagine the image that will form in her head. As long as you ask and tell her that you can’t live without her, she will feel maximum pity. And pity is very far from love, and even further from sex.
In a situation where a girl comes back out of pity because you started drinking, stopped sleeping, or stood at her entrance for hours, a very unpleasant thing usually happens. Feeling that she is forced to return, she will expect compensation from you for her “generous act” - more and more investments, gifts, “obedient” behavior, etc. She will make claims, criticism, demands to change... And as a result, either you yourself will not be able to stand it, being disappointed in the relationship, or she will leave you again. Simply because she cannot respect such a man.
What if you calmly ask to come back?
No and no again. If she has thought carefully about her decision to leave, it is unlikely that you will convince her with your request. And if a girl leaves out of emotion, in the heat of the moment, then you can get her back only with confident and independent behavior - without humiliation, apologies or persuasion. Otherwise, it is possible that in the future she will constantly blackmail you by leaving, and each time you will have to try harder to get her back.
Secret conspiracy4
While you were a couple, your social circle has increased with new friends and relatives, ask them to help reunite your union. Let your friends arrange a trip to nature, or to the village where, while walking around the neighborhood, you first confessed your love to your girlfriend. The environment should awaken romantic memories in her.
Perhaps she will refuse the invitation, or she will come not alone, but with a new boyfriend. This is not scary, but you will see a potential opponent, but he will be in this village for the first time, and you will fight in the studied territory, moreover, with reinforcements in the form of friends. Jealousy will be a hindrance; under no circumstances should you start making advances towards all representatives of the fair sex out of anger.
Keep your mind sober and reasonable, emotions will only get in the way now. Show your tolerance, make friends with the new gentleman of your former passion. Hint to your friends so that they show him all the beauty of these places, and at this time you will talk with your beloved. Establish tactile contact with her, take her hand, hug her, tell her how you miss her. It’s a rare woman who will remain indifferent in such a situation.
What to write to a girl
No letter can replace personal communication. But in some cases it is very difficult to achieve a conversation. For example, if a girl diligently avoids you and ignores any attempts to communicate. In this case, you must write a letter.
The best option is a regular letter on paper by hand. It can be given to a mutual friend or girlfriend, placed under the door or in the mailbox. As a last resort, you can write an e-mail or message on social media. networks.
In the letter you just need to describe your feelings and thoughts. Don't try to impress her with beautiful phrases or, God forbid, poetry. The girl will appreciate your sincerity more than your presentation.
The whole world is at her feet5
The next method requires financial investment. The size of the upcoming costs depends on the girl’s standard of living and needs. Verbal and written apologies did not bring the expected result? So it's time to use the heavy artillery. How to get your ex-girlfriend and her attention back? Of course, first you need flowers, preferably delivered by courier to her work.
The envy of your colleagues will be a pleasant addition to a gorgeous bouquet. Then your imagination will depend on the numbers in your bank account. The gift can be a certificate, but not to a beauty center or a gym. Hinting at shortcomings in appearance and figure, you are unlikely to regain the favor of your beloved.
Invite her to a restaurant, allowing her to pre-select an outfit, which you will happily pay for, or buy a new smartphone with all the accessories. Remember what she dreams about, what she is interested in, become a wish-fulfilling wizard. Go on a trip together, you don’t have to go abroad; sometimes, living in a city, people don’t know about the attractions that are located in the neighboring region.
Sex6
The method is ambiguous, but happens often. Our psychological health is directly related to our physical health. Intimacy is necessary for both men and women. Abstinence has a negative impact on mood, apathy and depression develop.
The hormonal levels of girls are unstable, resulting in breakdowns at work and depression at home. Offer your help, at least for a while, until she meets a permanent partner, become her passionate lover. After all, sex with an ex-girlfriend is quite a pleasant and frequent occurrence.
Of course, if before separation, you satisfied her needs. Perhaps at first she will be offended and even offended, but then she will realize that something close and dear is better than something distant and dubious. An ex-husband in the status of an intimate partner is already an exciting factor. Only now you will have to try, experiment with new positions or master anal sex.
Go to a special store together and choose: lubricant, toys, cute trinkets. Offer role-playing games, all women love dressing up. If privacy at home is problematic, rent a hotel room; unfamiliar surroundings will add excitement. They will be embarrassed, stupidly, because you have already broken up, which means you can try everything previously forbidden, but desired.
Is it even worth bringing the girl back?
Romantically minded young men will answer this question: “Of course, because I love her so much.” Grown-up and rationally thinking men will think: “Well, I’m beautiful, there are a lot of women around, I’ll find even better ones.”
Therefore, it is worth returning your ex only in the only case - when you are to blame for the breakup (cheated on, seriously deceived). And if you are sure that this particular woman is exceptional, such people are very rare.
Otherwise, it’s easier not to correct the mistakes of old relationships, but to build new, happy and fulfilling ones.
Cause and effect8
Most breakups, 87%, occur due to psychological burnout. People get tired of being together, many have grown up by this time, and the meaning of maintaining a family disappears. In second place, infidelity – 76%. The desire to start a new relationship often ends in a fleeting meeting.
Sexual dissatisfaction outpaced harmful addictions by 1%, 58% versus 57%. Almost half (49%) having experienced loneliness, want to return everything back. So the question of how to attract the attention of an ex is relevant for many men.
There are several reasons for returning:
- Habit is very convenient when there is no need to pretend, you can relax and no one will pay attention to your minor shortcomings.
- Hope - when you assume that separation will have a positive effect on your partner's behavior.
- Responsibilities – common children, relatives, mortgages, loans, family traditions, sometimes pets.
- Fear – it is much harder for one to cope with work and everyday problems.
- Uncertainty - how correct the decision to divorce was.
It's not difficult to start communicating with your ex-girlfriend again, especially if she keeps in touch with you. The main thing is to understand whether you can work on mistakes, forgetting about old grievances, and even in quarrels, not reproaching them for showing weakness. In families with children, such situations are even more complicated.
The separation of their parents is a terrible test for them, which only wise, balanced partners can go through with pride. By the way, it’s easier to return to the family, to the children, having secured their consent, it will not be difficult to persuade the mother. Just don’t try to manipulate or use blackmail; they won’t forgive you for repeated betrayal.
Where to begin?
After a breakup, it is important not to ruin everything in the bud with your reckless actions.
And, first of all, it is necessary to restore normal human communication. As a rule, most men who are abandoned by girls do not particularly think about how to behave. Instead, they try to explain to their ex as clearly as possible that the breakup was a mistake. But it all turns out to be quite annoying and boring. Such intimate conversations, to which they are trying to provoke a girl, in fact already have the opposite effect. And remember, when you were still together, it was she who wanted to talk to you, and you found more important things to do. Now it will be oh so difficult to establish communication, but this is the first thing to start a crusade for her return.
You can’t force yourself on her immediately after breaking up: you both need this break.
For her to calm down a little and have time to miss you a little, and for you to change something in yourself for the better. Or, at least, to begin with, pretend that he has changed.
So, if after breaking up you disappear from her life for a while, then most likely she will really start to feel a little sad and become interested in your personal life. So give her this chance and don’t pester her with calls and meetings near the entrance. Otherwise, soon you will simply begin to dislike her and end up on the “black list”.
But don’t even think about disappearing from her life completely. We just need to take advantage of this time. It would be a good idea to act through social networks or through friends. Post photos from parties and interesting events you attended. Show her that your life continues and becomes more interesting - you are changing for the better. Well, in a couple of weeks you can call just to ask how things are going. Moreover, your first conversation should be short - no longer than five minutes, so that you have time to interest her, but she does not have time to get enough of you. You will have to prepare for such a dialogue. After all, you need to surprise her and interest her, and not indulge in long and useless “how I missed you” and so on.
Next time you can call in a week, but the conversation will take longer. And only after you understand that the lady is interested in communicating with you, can you offer to meet. For now, purely in a friendly way, of course. Take action and you will definitely be able to get your ex back and rekindle the passion in her heart! If you want to learn even more secrets on seducing girls, subscribe to my VKontakte page.
