How to calm your wife down: advice from a psychologist. Hysterical wife

Every person has had to deal with hysteria at least once in their life. Most often, children roll it when they want to get something. But children are children... The situation is much sadder with adults, in most cases women. Their hysterics are a very unpleasant phenomenon and can easily destroy both beginning and fairly long-term and established relationships.

A hysterical wife constantly nags her husband: she is constantly dissatisfied and insults

Hello friends. Today I want to write an article for men. Stop giving advice only to women. Men need them no less. And it's all because of us. Sometimes you hear the cry of a man’s soul that his wife is hysterical, constantly dissatisfied, offended, grumbling, screaming, hysterical, and simply blowing her mind.

I'm always dissatisfied with something. Or rather, not something, but someone, i.e. husband. Life turns into a nightmare, you want to run away, or hide in a corner somewhere and not hear this constant hysteria. How I understand you guys, so I decided to help. Give some practical advice on how to stop this and start living a normal family life. And who else can do this except the woman herself. So delve into female psychology and do as I advise you.

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My hysterical wife freaks out about everything

First, I'll ask you a simple question. Have you ever wondered why girls like to make scandals, get offended, and pick their brains? And in general, for what purpose is all this being done? The answer is very simple - girls love to raise men. After all, these are all factors of education. This is exactly what we will talk about today. And also, I will share with you a trick on how to properly deal with this upbringing on the part of a girl and how not to become a weak man in her eyes.

The truth is that women, from childhood, try in every possible way to educate. First they play with dolls and educate them. Then they beg for a kitten, a dog and raise the animals. And so they grow up and begin to raise men out of habit.

Why are they doing that? Yes, very simple. Because they understand that this is a good way to punish a man for behavior, actions, actions that are not beneficial to her. Or, as an option, to punish a man for not wanting to fulfill one of her next whims, or not wanting to dance to her tune. And of course she begins to educate him for this. The wife is hysterical and is also constantly dissatisfied - this is hell for a man.

Why is a hysterical wife always unhappy with her husband?

The point of all this education is to put psychological pressure on the guy in every possible way and, accordingly, force him to do what she wants. The sad thing here is that if a man is subjected to this kind of upbringing, she gradually begins to consider him weak. That is, she begins to understand, yeah dear, that means I can calmly influence you psychologically, i.e. I can raise you the way I want. That's it, you are no longer a man for me.

A woman will never respect the man she raises. So, man, don't ever let her raise you. And the best option in a situation when you realize that she is starting to take offense at you, starting scandals, and starting to blow your mind.

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Just don’t react to all this, don’t let her drag you into this so-called brain crusher. Because you won’t achieve anything in all this. If you try to prove something to her, convince her of something, persuade her, beg her. All this is definitely a dead option. Anyway, the hysterical wife is constantly unhappy.

Need some advice? Write your story My wife says she doesn't love me! She and I have three children, two daughters and a son. We have been married for 17 years. Our son is 16 years old, the eldest daughter is 14, the youngest is 9 years old. We have our own house, two cars. We both work. Our financial situation can be said to be average, but we don’t deny ourselves anything to our children or ourselves. We periodically go on family vacations. But for the last 8 years, my wife has been throwing tantrums every six months. He says he doesn’t love me and leaves home. She sometimes leaves with the children or without them. Then after 3-7 days she returns and blames me for all the troubles. Although I love and adore her very much! I constantly tell her that I love her, give her gifts, kiss and hug her. But a moment comes and she begins to do the same. And she always experiences this exacerbation in the fall or spring. The last one was two weeks ago. At night we went to bed, I hugged her and were getting ready to fall asleep and then she told me that she didn’t love me and wanted to leave. I tell her, are you sure? She said yes! Since I’m already pretty tired of this, I tell her. Okay, you won’t force yourself to be nice! She decided, so she decided. In the morning she left. She left the children to me. Five days have passed. Writes me an SMS: I'll come home today! I write in response: No, I left, that means I left. Don't torture children. Threats came in response. They say I’ll take your children away from you anyway! I will please her, but through the court. The next day another SMS: let's make peace? I didn't answer anything. I come home and she’s there with the children. That’s how we live again, now until the fall. I don’t even know what she’ll do again. And both my side and hers tell my relatives that I’m kicking her out - that’s also insulting! And they believe her! I myself only drink on holidays; I quit smoking ten years ago. I work, and I also can’t lie on the couch. Together with my son we design something. The last thing they did to him was a homemade ATV. I don’t know what she wants, but the children and I are tired of her antics. Tell me what to do? How to save my family? I’m 39 years old, my wife is 36. I don’t want to start over at that age. After all, I love them all very much! Rate:

A.E.A, age: 39 / 04.27.2015
Responses:
Good afternoon, dear A.E.A.! After carefully reading your story, I realized that your wife did not always behave this way. You yourself write that these scandals and demonstrative departures began 8 years ago. This, it seems to me, is the solution. Remember what happened 8 years ago, that the wife began to practice demonstrative behavior. Please note that this may not be something explicit. For example, your wife could convict you of some kind of sympathy on the side or even come up with something for herself. It’s best, of course, to ask her, but not with pressure, but kindly, with the message that you really want to figure it out and HELP HER (not yourself!), make her happier. I also want to tell you that this behavior is actually some kind of hidden message to you. If your wife really wanted to leave you, she would have done it long ago and quietly, without scandals. And in this case, she is trying to convey something to you, point out something. I repeat, it seems to me that the reason is somewhere at the beginning of these “8 years of performances”. And indeed performances, the purpose of which is for you to find some kind of “double bottom”. It is known that men do not always understand hints. But sometimes it is almost impossible for a wife or girlfriend to tell her person something directly. That’s why such forms of behavior arise, but they still have the same goal - to get through. Knock. Perhaps they will open it for you. To be honest, it seems to me that you have every chance of saving your family. your wife does not show indifference to you - and this is already a big plus. show her that you really want to figure it out and help her, give her warmth - and she will open up. but get ready that the reason may at least surprise you, and then you will have to work with it (the reason). I wish you success in finding the “golden key” to your problem and great family happiness.

Lenochka, age: 25 / 04/27/2015

Helen! The point may be that I stopped going on business trips 8 years ago. I used to work abroad in different countries. And I was away from home for a long time, I came for two weeks once every six months. But I always spent all the holidays with my family. And everything was wonderful with us! But then these departures began. I tried to talk to her several times about this. But she immediately closed herself off and didn’t say anything intelligible. At first I thought that she got into some kind of situation and they were putting pressure on her, but she said, I didn’t end up anywhere. There were two more minor incidents. Money began to disappear from our account. It seems like the amounts are not large, but still. The first time I withdrew 30,000 rubles , then another 50,000 rubles. He asked for what needs you rented them; take the money at home. She never answered to this day. I don’t remind her about this story. We had a similar story with gold in our youth. Gypsies were walking around and under some pretext she let them into the house. Well, they took out all the money and all the jewelry, even my wife’s cosmetics. My wife says that she woke up from some kind of hypnosis only later when there was no trace of the gypsies. And at that time I was on a business trip. Maybe from this story of mine you can help me find out why my wife does this? But as for my affairs, there were none . I’m not a supporter of going on the side, but women still pay attention to me to this day, sometimes they even leave phone numbers and even leave phone numbers for me to call. But I didn’t give any reason for jealousy. It’s not my fault that they do this. And when working with clients you always have to smile.

A.E.A, age: 39 / 04/28/2015

With all my desire, dear A.E.A., for everything to work out for you, I cannot tell from your story what the reason for this behavior of your wife is. I just told you where to start “digging” in order to figure it out. It’s already good that you have identified for yourself the moment after which the hysterics began, and some other strange patterns that occur for you. start “unwinding” this knot with the facts that you have. I repeat, exactly FACTS. But talking about the reason on my part is to denigrate your wife, which I have no right to do. so now a lot depends on you - how you apply that knowledge about the problem and what line of behavior you choose in relation to your spouse. Good luck and male insight!

Lenochka, age: 25 / 04/29/2015

Author, has it ever occurred to you that during your constant business trips, your wife simply got used to “having a sweet time” without you (you yourself went through this in your first marriage)? And that's why he's hysterical now? And even uses tantrums as reasons for leaving home to cheat on you?

Vodopadov, age: 54 / 10/12/2015

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Trust the experience of other men. It’s best if you understand that your beloved is trying to somehow educate you, or is turning you against your mother, do not react to all this. And let yourself understand that now she will go crazy, then maybe she will try to sulk, take offense, put pressure on you. But if she sees that it doesn’t work for you, she will quickly calm down. And remember, she can say that you are not a man, a scumbag and a scoundrel, you are bad, where her eyes looked, she was completely disappointed in you. And similar provocative statements.

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Because women know what to say to simply blow and hook a man. And here is attention, the decisive moment. If you start making excuses to her, explaining yourself, trying to prove something, trying to have some kind of debate with her. Everyone, remember, you lost! And to all these screaming provocative remarks of hers, that you are a scoundrel and a scumbag. Your hysterical wife is constantly dissatisfied with you and will always be so if you do not follow my advice.

My advice to you is to react neutrally. Moreover, while agreeing with her. And you can even be slightly ironic, but not explicitly, this will only diffuse it even more. Here's an example.

- You bastard, how could I contact you! You scoundrel, I'm disappointed in you!

And you say.

- Darling, you are completely right. Nightmare! How could you contact me? Where the hell were your eyes looking? Yes, I am the most terrible person on the planet! In general, I’m the guy that your mother probably told you about when you were a child: do you see him? Don't ever try to mess with him!

How to avoid a quarrel

If you feel that a major scandal is brewing, try your best to avoid it. Psychologists advise using the following methods.

Gingerbread method

Disarm your wife: go up to her, hug her tightly, kiss her, tell her how much you love her and how beautiful she is. Only sincerely! In 90% of cases, the quarrel ends there. For a tougher nut, you will have to choose a sweeter gingerbread: tell her that you are tired of sitting at home - invite her to a cafe. Continue the conversation there. Rarely will anyone swear in public.

Whip method

Has your wife started to get angry? Remember that you urgently (very urgently!) need to iron your shirt. Or you'll starve to death if she doesn't cook something. Load her with physical work - this will distract her from the quarrel.

Alienation method

Before a quarrel begins, you urgently need to distance yourself from each other. But don’t just slam the door and leave the house without saying anything (if you come back after this, it will be even worse). You need to find a logical and plausible explanation for why you need to leave: a friend ran out of gas on the road, he forgot his wallet at work, there is no bread for dinner. Believe me, half an hour is enough for both to calm down and continue the conversation in a calmer tone.

Method of iron self-control

Only the strongest husbands in terms of character can use it. The wife begins to get excited, switch to raised tones and reproaches, and you continue to discuss the problem in a calm voice so that not a single muscle on your face betrays your excitement or resentment at her words. However, you cannot ignore what she says. Answer her questions and objections, but gently and with restraint. Believe me: in 10 minutes, under the influence of your equanimity, she will calm down too.

Pity button

Psychologists do not recommend resorting to this method, but if others do not work, you can try. A little white lie is better than quarrels that lead to divorce. Men, by the way, unconsciously quite often press this button. As soon as a conflict situation arises, their stomach tightens or their head begins to hurt. A win-win option: a loving wife rushes to get pills, compresses, a blanket and forgets about the quarrel during these troubles.

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And you will see how she will be simply in a stupor, she will be in shock. Because all women, when they start to take offense at a man, nag them, accuse them of something and other these situations. They expect that the man will explain, make excuses, prove that he is not like that. And then oops, the man agreed with her. He even began to slander himself even more. Is your wife hysterical and constantly unhappy? Okay, I agree that I don't deserve you.

Well, of course, it’s clear that when you agree with her and start talking about how you are the worst person. She begins to understand that you agreed with her. But even at the same time, you begin to exaggerate her statements to some ridiculous proportions. She understands that this is all simple irony. And in no case should this be confused to mean that girls love bad boys. No, that's not what I'm talking about.

How to treat?

Treatment of hysteria is mainly psychotherapeutic in nature .

You will need to sign up for a session with a psychotherapist who will listen to her, identify the causes of this condition and suggest a treatment method.

Important aspects of treatment also include the harmonization of her relationship with a man and the normalization of her intimate life. To do this, you should go to see a sex therapist .

You may also need to visit a gynecologist who will check your hormones and, if necessary, offer medications to replenish them.

Generally speaking, most often the treatment of female hysteria is aimed at eliminating situations that traumatize her psyche, as well as strengthening the nervous system.

For this purpose, adherence to a sleep schedule, proper rest , a balanced diet, moderate physical activity, relaxation therapy or physiotherapy are prescribed.

Pills

Sometimes treatment for female hysteria includes sedative therapy .

In such cases, drugs are prescribed that have a completely or partially natural composition.

This can be ordinary valerian or motherwort, herbal teas, as well as “Novopassit”, “Corvalol”, “Persen”, “Afobazol” and others.

In more complex and advanced cases of female hysteria, as prescribed by a psychotherapist, inpatient treatment , as well as taking strong drugs such as tranquilizers and antipsychotics, which have a more serious effect.

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Find out the reason for the tantrums

Hysteria is a way of getting what you want. Two types of women regularly throw tantrums:

- spoiled in childhood.

If the parents spent little time raising the girl in childhood, fulfilled her every whim, did not teach her to overcome difficulties and help around the house, then she begins to resort to hysterical fits already at the age of 3, if her parents do not buy her a toy or take her to kindergarten, and with age her selfish antics only intensify.

- patients with neurosis.

If in childhood a girl was calm and obedient, then the manifestation of hysterics with age may be one of the types of neuroses. Some psychologists call hysteria the first degree of insanity, especially if it is accompanied by streams of tears, simulation of fainting, headaches, heart attacks and threats to commit suicide. In this case, when the first symptoms of hysteria appear, you should call a doctor and give a calming injection.

Symptoms

Often hysterical symptoms imitate various deviations of internal systems:

damage to the central nervous system;
vasospasm;
angina pectoris;
infectious diseases;
myocardial infarction.

The main symptoms of hysteria in women include pain in the heart, spine, chest and abdomen. Even under the influence of painkillers, they do not weaken.

Other rare symptoms: twitching of limbs, eyelids, loss of voice, complete loss of speech, stuttering, sometimes blindness or deafness occurs.

The wife is hysterical. Is there a way out? Learn to ignore and remain silent

If you truly care about your wife and you have a child together, then you should try with all your might to save the marriage. To do this, you will have to be patient and persevering. As the saying goes, what a person “absorbed with his mother’s milk” cannot be changed by anyone.

Tantrums are theatrical performances by an “actress” who has no special education. Therefore, the hysterical person is afraid of publicity and throws tantrums only in the presence of the people closest to her. In order for her husband to fulfill her whim, a hysterical wife can bring him to a nervous breakdown, but she herself always controls her behavior and, despite her terrifying appearance, does not feel any shame. She easily calms down and can even ask for forgiveness if her husband gives in to her and she gets the desired result.

Even if you cannot completely ignore the hysteria and go to another room so as not to become a participant in the performance, do not succumb to provocations and do not allow yourself to be manipulated. Don’t let the hysterical person drain your energy, try not to be a participant in the theatrical performance, but remain only a spectator from the sidelines.

Let rude words and insults pass your ears, as if they were directed not at you, but at the theater hero, which fortunately you are not. If the screaming, crying and yelling suddenly turns into death threats or assault, call 911 immediately. This is already a nervous breakdown and your wife needs a sedative.

Why tantrums happen and how to avoid them

Before figuring out how to calm your wife down, you need to understand why her irritation arises and why it so quickly turns into hysterics.

Stress and overwork can be one of the causes of a nervous breakdown. A woman gets tired no less than a man, but she has many more responsibilities and no opportunities for rest. A working woman with small children who simply does not have free time often expresses her fatigue through hysterics.

If the wife is tired at work, and household chores await her at home, then so that she has time to rest, the husband can take on some household responsibilities. For example, any man can entertain children, walk the dog and buy groceries, and in this case a woman will have at least some time for herself.

Diets help maintain an ideal figure, but do not have the best effect on the female psyche. A constantly malnourished hysterical wife begins to literally “eat” her husband’s brain.

When the reason is a passion for dieting and constant malnutrition, then you should convince your wife that she is beautiful and she does not need to lose weight at all, and most often such women really do not have excess weight, they simply blindly follow a fashionable diet.

Dissatisfaction with intimate life, misunderstanding between partners and the resulting lack of intimacy between spouses who constantly live together leads to dissatisfaction with each other, frequent showdowns with tears and hysterics. And if the wife is jealous, then the situation worsens even more.

By paying enough attention to his wife in bed, arranging romantic evenings, giving compliments, admiring and admiring his beloved woman, a man not only strengthens marital relationships, but also creates a comfortable environment in the family.

Improper upbringing and indulgence in whims in childhood lead to problems in adulthood. A girl who is used to getting everything through blackmail and hysteria simply does not know how to live by other rules.

In such a situation, it is better to seek help from a psychologist, he will help correct the behavior of his wife, but this usually takes a lot of time and effort, because the person has always lived this way. Well, if she categorically does not want to change, then in such a situation a man has only two options: reconcile, endure and please, or break off the relationship.

Disorders of the nervous system do not allow a woman to control her emotions; the slightest irritation results in a flurry of discontent. In such a situation, in order to make life easier for both the woman and those around her, professional help from a neurologist, psychotherapist or psychiatrist will be required.

Don't listen to your friends' advice

Husband and wife are one Satan, so no matter how much your friends advise you: “Why are you suffering with her, don’t ruin your life, pick up your feet and run,” do not rush to file for divorce. There are very few modern women who are calm, balanced and hardworking.

Most of them are fixated on external beauty, luxury and wealth. Therefore, it is unknown what your next woman will be like, most likely, she will be the same. After all, only some men, after divorcing their first wife, draw the proper conclusions and work on themselves.

And if he remains with the same outlook on life and low self-esteem, then he will again attract hysterical people who are avoided by men who are confident and successful with women.

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What to do if hysterical fits happen too often

Frequent seizures are a wake-up call. To minimize the hysterics of his beloved wife or completely forget about them, a man should take serious measures and listen to these recommendations.

My wife needs rest . Let him go with his friends to a cafe or cinema. If there are children, then the spouse needs to be given a break from them. In this case, the man should take the children at least a couple of times a month and leave the woman alone at home. Another good option is to go on vacation with the whole family, or even better together, if you have someone to leave the children with.
Division of household duties . Taking out the trash, washing the dishes, putting the kids to bed, or walking the dog is not that difficult. But this will be a huge help for a woman.
Give compliments to your beloved wife more often . No matter how banal it may sound, a woman loves with her ears. Tender words will help get rid of complexes and increase self-esteem.
Romance and regular sex . This is especially important if sex rarely happens and a woman develops “unhealthy” suspicions on this basis.
Ask the woman about her overall health. With some physiological changes in the body, a woman can become overly impressionable and vulnerable. In this case, you should gently advise her to visit a doctor.

If all recommendations are followed, no positive trend is observed. And hysterical attacks become a daily practice, then the man needs to persuade his wife to make an appointment with a psychologist or psychotherapist.

Who are these hysterical women?

They are called women with emotional swings. One moment she is calm, smiles at those around her and looks like a child, but literally a few minutes later she turns into a beast that rushes and rushes for no particular reason. Either a real princess, at whose feet you want to lay the whole world, or a fire-breathing dragon, from which you want to run.

These are real hysterics who have problems with self-esteem. When she is in a suspended emotional state and experiences elation, she should not be praised; when her confidence falls, she turns into a huge bundle of nerves. A woman throws hysterics and scandals with or without cause, but after a while she becomes calm.

There are several signs by which you can understand that your wife is hysterical:

Why even get involved and build a family with such women? It’s easier to get away from the shocks and find a balanced wife. But if a bitchy woman is a beautiful, smart, successful and interesting person, then the man will be very tempted and will not be able to resist the lady. In such cases, a man should know a few rules for taming bitches.

How should a man behave with his hysterical wife?

Rule #1.

A hysterical wife is karma for a man. Let's work it out. Distance in response to capricious behavior and reinforcement of the good If the wife begins to insult and provoke, there is no need to respond in kind, ignore her speeches or silently accept the blow. The response causes outbursts of anger. If you ignore or silently listen to attacks, she will feel powerful and will belittle her husband.

To avoid conflict, you need to keep your distance. As soon as another outburst of anger begins, you just need to get up and leave or end the telephone conversation without explaining anything about it. If you were sitting in a cafe together, then just pay the bills and leave. Of course, such behavior will make the woman even more angry. But she needs time to be with herself to think about what happened and understand her guilt.

In many cases, the lady calms down, the volcano calms down, and she realizes that she acted rudely. She will call and apologize herself. In this case, you should not give her lectures on correct behavior, but simply accept her apology, making it clear that you are not ready to tolerate such an unreasonable attitude towards yourself.

Rule #2.

Do not start arguments or criticize. When building a family with a hysterical wife, it is worth remembering one important rule:

Do not criticize family members and children with her, do not look for shortcomings in the chosen one and flaws in her appearance.

Even if you cannot come to a common opinion and have different points of view, there is no need to argue and furiously prove that you are right and impose your opinion.

You need to calmly speak out, saying that the decision or opinion will remain unchanged. Although the wife will be unhappy, this will cause much more respect than retaliatory attacks, shouting and waving her arms.

Rule #3.

Be able to stay within certain boundaries. As soon as your wife tries to hurt you or prick you, you cannot respond in kind. They are only angels in appearance, but inside they are very vindictive and vindictive. Therefore, once again it is better to refrain from insulting. In a relationship, the main one is the one who has stable self-esteem, who is not offended for any reason and knows how to forgive and not take revenge.

With such a man, she will behave more calmly, and all her attempts to provoke you into a quarrel and emotions will be in vain. A man should behave respectfully and, in case of any provocations, simply step away, and not be offended and take revenge in return. Any bad behavior of a woman is caused by the fact that she has a deeply hidden resentment, so you should not give an extra reason.

Hysterical behavior not only repels men, but also negatively affects women themselves. The psyche is disturbed, control over oneself, one’s thoughts and behavior is lost. With frequent emotional breakdowns, a woman can go beyond what is permitted, without completely understanding what she is doing.

Only balanced, restrained, strong men can get along with such women, who can stop the attacks of their beloved, take control of her, and not respond to her with the same inadequate reaction.

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With which men do women turn hysterical?

Psychologists identify 7 main types of men with whom women lose their minds and control of emotions.

Calm alcoholic

This is not yet the stage when a man goes on a rampage, takes things out of the house and beats his wife. This is an “amateur alcoholic” who drinks a certain amount almost every day, which increases over time. Many women are not ready to put up with this and begin to look for ways to fight. When all attempts have been used, but there is no result, the wife’s psyche is shaken and hysterics arise. In this case, a man should think about his lifestyle and eradicate a bad habit.

Creative personalities

Such people have a different way of thinking and perception of the world, including relationships in marriage. These geniuses are not always recognized by the people. In this case, they are not able to earn a decent income and help their wife with household issues. They are always in search of muse and inspiration. What kind of life tires a woman, and she becomes a bore, always nagging her husband.

Egotist

There are men who think only about themselves. As a rule, they marry calm and flexible girls. At first, wives put up with this behavior of a man and don’t pay much attention. But when a woman realizes that her husband doesn’t love her that much and is busy only with his own life, then her peace of mind begins to be undermined, which leads to quarrels and hysterics. The woman is trying with all her might to attract attention.

Tyrant and dictator

These are men with a cruel character, the behavior of a despot, for whom it costs nothing to hit a woman. If after the first such incident a woman does not leave the man, then she should be prepared for the situation to repeat itself periodically. Life will become real torture. The wife turns into a downtrodden, hysterical person. A similar situation is observed with a man who suppresses his chosen one morally.

Careerist.

It would seem that there is nothing wrong if a man tries to build his career and achieve great success. But such people also have a domineering character, which will manifest itself in relations with their wife. If she is his “blessed with berries,” then they will have a lot in common and fewer problematic situations. But if the wife is lower in status and does not look like the wife of rich people, then the man will not treat her with due respect. What kind of attitude will clearly make your husband nervous? Wives of careerists should look beautiful everywhere: at home, on a walk, in a restaurant and at a party, wear elegant clothes, and have appropriate manners and behavior. In addition, she must develop herself, be able to maintain a conversation on any topic.

Womanizer.

As a rule, a girl understands before marriage whether her future husband is prone to flirting and making advances toward other women. But she hopes that marriage will change him and he will be faithful to her all his life. But expectations are far from reality and self-deception leads to mental disorders. The wife constantly controls her husband, arranges checks, rummages through the phone and social networks, which makes her a jealous hysteric.

Good for all sex.

Men want to be good for everyone: parents, friends, colleagues, but not for their wife. What kind of husband would be happy to have money for friends, give them an expensive gift, shelter friends who have nowhere to stay, forgetting about the interests and well-being of the family. The wife's opinion is not taken into account. It’s surprising that with such behavior a woman turns into a vixen who does not accept her husband’s friends and hides money.

What prayers should I turn to to avoid scandals?

Turning to the Lord will help to cool down a scandalous spouse and smooth out a conflict situation.

Merciful, merciful God, our beloved Father! By Your merciful will, Your Divine Providence, You placed us in a state of holy marriage, so that we would live in it according to Your established order. We are comforted by Your blessing, spoken in Your word, which says: He who has found a wife has found good, and receive a blessing from the Lord. Lord God! Make us live with each other all our lives in Your divine fear, for blessed is the man who fears the Lord, steadfast in His commandments. His seed will be strong on earth, the race of the righteous will be blessed. Make us love Your word most of all, willingly listen and study it, so that we may be like a tree planted by the springs of water, which bears its fruit in its season and whose leaf does not wither; to be like a husband who succeeds in everything he does. Also make sure that we live in peace and harmony, that in our marriage we love chastity and honesty and do not act against them, that peace reigns in our home and that we preserve an honest name.

The opinions of spouses on certain issues do not always coincide. This is not scary if both spouses know how to find compromises and give in. This is the secret of a strong marriage. By being able to come to a common decision and making efforts to solve the problem without resorting to scandals, the spouses set an example for their children.

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It happens that one of the spouses shows dissatisfaction and anger. In such situations, you should try to reconcile as quickly as possible and turn to prayer. You should express your opinion, trying not to offend your spouse, showing that you love him, but do not agree with his position. After all, both spouses are individuals and have the right to their own opinion. And so that anger quickly leaves the hearts of the spouses, it is worth praying at the icon of the Mother of God “Softening Evil Hearts”:

Most Blessed Lady, take my family under Your protection. Instill in the hearts of my husband and our children peace, love and non-questioning of all that is good; Do not allow anyone from my family to experience separation and difficult parting, to premature and sudden death without repentance.
And save our house and all of us living in it from fiery ignition, thieves' attacks, every evil of the situation, various types of insurance and devilish obsession. Yes, we too, collectively and separately, openly and secretly, will glorify Your Holy Name always, now and ever, and forever and ever. Most Holy Theotokos, save us! Amen

An appeal to Ksenia of St. Petersburg with the following prayer will bring peace to the family:

Oh, simple in the way of her life, homeless on earth, but heir to the abodes of the Heavenly Father, blessed wanderer Xenia! Just as we previously fell to your tombstone in illness and sorrow and were filled with consolations, now we too, overwhelmed by pernicious circumstances, resort to you and ask with hope: pray, O good heavenly woman, that our steps may be straightened according to the word of the Lord to do His commandments, and yes The godless atheism that has captivated your city and your country, plunging us many sinners into mortal hatred of our brothers, proud self-indignation and blasphemous despair, will be abolished.

Oh, most blessed one of Christ, who has put to shame the vanity of this age, ask the Creator and Giver of all blessings to grant us humility, meekness and love in the treasure of our hearts, faith in strengthening prayer, hope in repentance, strength in a difficult life, merciful healing of our soul and body , chastity in marriage and caring for our neighbors and sincere ones, renewal of our entire life in the purifying bath of repentance, as we praise your memory with all praise, let us glorify the miracle worker in you, the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, the Trinity Consubstantial and Indivisible forever and ever. Amen

Hysteria in women: how to deal with it. What to do when hysterical and how to calm it down.

Hysteria is one of the most common phenomena that occurs in women. This behavior can cause serious mental disorders, so it should not be ignored. A hysterical wife jeopardizes not only her health, but also the psychological climate in the family. You can help her calm down at home, but it is better to consult a doctor.

Regardless of the reason for the development of hysteria, it is impossible to leave a woman alone with this problem.

The first thing a husband should do is bring his beloved to a conversation and understand the reason for this behavior. Any aggression and denial on the part of the spouse will only aggravate the situation. You should show maximum understanding, listen to your wife to the end, prove that you love her, and are always ready to support her. This approach will defuse the situation and calm the hysterical person a little.

If your wife is hysterical, redirect her attention to something else. Talk to her about the child and his behavior. You can jokingly point out smudged lipstick or mascara. This will distract her from the pressing problem and give her the opportunity to calm down.

If all of the above methods are useless, you can choose a more radical way to calm her down: splash a glass of water on her face. Your wife won’t like this action, but at least it will somehow make her calm down.

Causes of hysteria

There are many causes of female hysteria, the most common of which are:

Wrong upbringing. A family where there were constant fights, scandals, and hysterics. If such behavior was observed on the part of the mother, then the girls adopt the same model of behavior; as adults, they behave in the same way.
Inappropriate behavior of the husband. There is a type of man who gets pleasure from driving his wife into hysterics. All this ends in a serious nervous breakdown and psychosis. A hysterical wife may be in a family where her husband pays little attention to her, leaves home, and provokes jealousy and mistrust.
Increased emotionality. This is due to the psychological characteristics of a woman’s character, for whom it is easier to throw out her emotions rather than keep them inside.
Lack of opportunity for self-realization, constant melancholy, deep depression can cause strong emotional outbursts.
Sexual dissatisfaction, premenstrual syndrome and sudden changes in hormonal levels.
Lack of self-confidence. A woman who is accustomed to always and in everything relying on her husband, with a sudden loss of attention and care from her husband, can experience severe mental distress, which manifests itself in emotional breakdowns.
Development of complexes from childhood. Lack of proper attention and love from parents, sisters and brothers develops a complex of uselessness and fear of always being in the background in family life.
Head injuries and concussions.
Problems at work and in the family.
Chronic alcohol and drug intoxication.

Types of hysterics

Hysterical attack.

The cause of such psychosis can be unpleasant words from a loved one or an unpleasant situation that has arisen at home or at work. Such hysteria is accompanied by tears, screams, stomping feet, sharp gestures, tearing of hair on the head, etc. During this period, the woman’s consciousness turns off and a few minutes after the seizure she may not even remember what happened to her.

There are two ways to stop this psychosis: with cold water or sharp pain. Hysterical attacks can occur regularly, so the woman should be shown to a psychotherapist.

Hysterical behavior.

This hysteria in women manifests itself in a different way. A representative of the fairer sex strives to become an object of admiration, envy and surprise. To achieve this, a woman dresses brightly, has her hair cut and made up, and constantly comes up with some unusual stories to attract the attention of the public. You can notice such a hysterical person by behavior in which there is excessive affectation and theatricality. Both young and old women suffer from such psychosis. Often their appearance and behavior do not correspond to their age and social status.

What psychologists say about hysteria

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Hysteria is a form of neurosis, a mental disorder with vegetative, sensitive, functional and other disorders. People with a weak nervous system are susceptible to this pathology. Most often, hysteria occurs in women and it can be associated with various stressful situations, pregnancy, and hormonal problems.

What happens to a woman during another hysteria is more correctly called hysterical psychopathy. This mental disorder is manifested by violent emotionality, a sharp change in behavior and is always accompanied by tears.

The impact of tantrums on the family. How to live with a hysterical wife

Many men don’t know what to do if their wife is hysterical. Not every representative of the stronger sex is ready to tolerate such emotional outbursts in their family. Most men want a family in which there will be peace, mutual understanding and harmony. Living with a mentally unstable partner is simply unbearable for many. If a girl behaved adequately before marriage, and after marriage began to regularly show hysterics, sooner or later the same outcome awaits her:

The man will immediately leave her.

At first, the husband will try to understand the reason for the hysterics and try to calm his wife down. But even the most patient husband will not be able to withstand such regular shaking, so divorce is inevitable. Only some husbands can tolerate an unhealthy situation in the family and accept a woman for who she is.

A man who really wants to save his marriage should stock up on endurance and patience, since this problem cannot be eliminated quickly.

Prevention of quarrels and misunderstandings

Having mastered the art of family negotiations and found your own way to exchange wishes, you must not forget: problems that arise should be voiced immediately. Don’t keep silent, don’t put it off for later, don’t put up with them. It will only get worse, because discontent tends to accumulate and multiply. Teach your spouse to do the same. Set aside time at least once a week for a calm, constructive conversation.

Living together encourages people to be more flexible and adaptive. It is better to try to find a reasonable compromise than to stubbornly defend your point of view, no matter how absolutely correct it may be for you. In the question: “Do you want to be right or happy?” there is only a grain of joke. In any situation, there are many options for solving the same problem.

Feelings and spark in relationships must be maintained consciously and regularly. The pink season of falling in love inevitably passes. But romance and intimacy can be preserved. Even in the 50th year of marriage, it makes sense to invite your spouse on dates, come up with ways to be interesting to each other, find your own places and routes where you can feed mutual feelings.

Some men may object: why so much effort and trouble? Well, each person must always decide for himself. Your choice: live with an eternally dissatisfied wife, go into the unknown, leaving your beloved family and established life, or take responsibility and initiative to revive general happiness and harmony.

Signs of hysterics

The hysterical wife is extremely selfish, she is driven by increased pride, attention to her person, the desire to be in everyone's sight and the desire to dominate her partner, suppressing his personality.

A characteristic feature of hysterics is the simulation of various illnesses, for example, migraines, in order to attract attention to themselves in any way and force them to fulfill their whims. Often, women show others unusual manifestations of their illness - fainting, seizures and other inhuman suffering.

Such women often start a scandal for no apparent reason, the purpose of which is to get what they want through blackmail and hysterics.

Knowing her husband’s weaknesses, the woman begins to put pressure on what hurts most, trying to make her dream come true. A man should not rush to blame a woman, since in most cases she is a hostage to psychosis and frayed nerves.

An attack of hysteria begins acutely and is expressed in the following symptoms: raising the voice, redness of the skin of the face, crying, sobbing, slurred, chaotic speech. The girl begins to scream, stomp her feet, and theatrically wring her hands. However, these emotions are clearly exaggerated. At these moments, they are characterized by deceit, dramatic behavior, and posturing.

Many women claim that when they are hysterical, they experience clouding of consciousness and do not remember most of what they said.

Symptoms

The symptoms of hysteria vary in their manifestations, but they are easy to recognize:

hysteria always begins at lightning speed;
screaming and raising the voice are the main symptoms of a nervous breakdown accompanied by hysteria;

blush on the cheeks, rosacea of the skin of the face and neck during attacks;
aggression accompanied by breaking dishes, damaging furniture and household appliances;
excessive hand gestures;
foot stamping;
unclear voice, obscene language;
rapid breathing, complaints of heart failure;
inability to take a full breath of air.

How to stop a girl from throwing tantrums

If the wife is hysterical, this is somehow understandable, but the girl is hysterical... You need it in the future. We will still consider this issue. The best way to prevent hysteria is to nip its preconditions in the bud.

Try to talk, find out what is bothering your beloved, and whether you can help her with something. Perhaps earlier you showed tactlessness, uttered words that seemed offensive to her. Hug, kiss, just sit next to your woman, perhaps this is exactly what she needs most at the moment. Reassure the anxious girl, promise that everything will be fine with you, and you will make every effort to achieve this.

Sometimes acting as a vest can be very useful. Give your friend the opportunity to speak out, cry, and let off steam. Let her complain about the people who offended her (boss, girlfriend, neighbor). If she understands that you are her reliable support, protected, strong rear, a real man who can lift the clouds over her head with a confident hand, then she will stop being hysterical.

Let the girl be a little capricious, advise her to describe all her “troubles”, for example, in an online diary. When the bad mood passes and the problems are forgotten, you can laugh together at the far-fetched reasons for the hysteria.

If talking doesn’t help, you can film the girl during the hysterical period on a video camera, and then show the recording. Let him admire how she looks at this moment and draw the appropriate conclusions.

If a girl calls you and is hysterical, under no circumstances speak to her in a raised voice, do not adopt her behavior. Communicate softly, calmly, as much as your endurance allows. Tell her that such serious problems should not be solved over the phone. Advise you to wait until you arrive home, and so that the waiting time is not painful, let him take a bath and sleep. Perhaps this will work, and when you arrive home the lady will be calm and reasonable, and then you can talk.

Stopping hysteria correctly

So, if trouble in the form of hysteria occurs, then you should not “add fuel to the fire” by shouting or reacting emotionally. To reassure his beloved, a man needs to remain calm. Algorithm of actions:

Stay alone . There shouldn't be any extra spectators to the scandal.
Offer a glass of water or a sedative.
Remove all “dangerous” objects - piercing, cutting, sharp, breaking.
Make an attempt to bring your wife to her senses - clap your hands loudly, pinch, splash water in the face.
Switch a woman's attention with an unexpected question.
If a woman cries and screams, she is trembling, then you need to hug her tightly and hold her . It is likely that she will try to escape, hit, or start screaming louder. You can't pay attention to this. You need to speak kind words and hold her tightly. The wife will feel safe and calm.

When none of the above methods help a woman calm down, she needs to call a doctor at home.

Video for men. Lifehack. How to calm down the woman you love if she's upset

To ensure that there are as few scandals with hysterics in the family as possible, a man needs to take preventive measures. Knowing that your wife is very jealous, you should not give her reasons to think about adultery. If a lady is overly emotional, it is better for her husband to protect her from situations that provoke a scandal. And most importantly, a woman will remain calm if she knows that her husband loves her, appreciates her and is always ready to help in any situation.