How to invite a guy to meet so that he does not refuse VKontakte by correspondence, telephone, SMS. Phrases, examples

A tradition has developed according to which the role of initiator of relationships falls on the guy. It is men who usually ask girls to date. However, more and more often this well-established rule fails. Sometimes a guy does not dare to make the first step or simply does not notice a girl who is showing increased interest in him. So what should you do in this case? Wait, reconcile, or perhaps pay attention to someone else? Why not take the initiative into your own hands and ask the guy to date yourself?

When is it appropriate?

Before hinting to a guy about dating, a girl needs to:

make sure your feelings are reciprocated;
show that she is free;
watch your companion on a walk together or when visiting a cafe.

Dating proposals are different for different guys. Their appearance will also depend on what kind of young people the girls already have.

Who is the guy	Method
An accomplished man	It is necessary to appear more serious and drag out the intrigue longer. This way, the chosen one will better trust the girl and appreciate her.
Just a young man I know	Moving to direct action after a casual conversation.
Friend	Accurate influence with light flirting and coquetry.

Successful circumstances for asking a guy to meet are:

holidays;
spending time together on vacation or on vacation;
the moment of success of the chosen one;
evening, after a walk together;
after assistance provided;
after the young man stands up for his companion.

But it’s worth remembering that under no circumstances should you ask a guy to date if he:

severely overloaded with worries or work, since everything else will be of secondary importance to him;
has recently suffered family grief or has been widowed, he needs to be given about 2-3 months to recover;
just got divorced or broke off relations with a former flame; during the period while the chosen one moves away from this, he can be supported in every possible way, but no more than a girlfriend;
is in a bad mood, otherwise a decision made in such a state risks changing as circumstances improve.

If a guy likes a girl, then he will constantly look for a reason to meet her. Also, a strong representative of humanity will try to reduce the distance between himself and his chosen passion. He will look for her all the time if they find themselves in the same company, and will also start a conversation with her on any topic at every opportunity.

If all this is not observed in the guy’s behavior, then this means that he sees the girl only as a friend and nothing more. And from such a category to move into the category of a favorite passion is not at all possible. Therefore, it is so important for a girl to know in advance, before the start of meetings, how the guy treats her.

What phrases to use to ask a man out on a date

Remember, there is no magic phrase for a successful date invitation, and there is no point in learning any texts. It is best to act casually and speak from the heart. Even a simple sentence can work: “Are you busy tonight? Maybe we should go to the cinema?”

In any case, the spoken phrase should be concise and informative. For example: “You and I have so much in common! Maybe we can have a cup of coffee and talk?”

We had such an interesting conversation. Shall we continue it in an informal setting?

I've been invited to a party, but I don't have a date. Shall we go together?

I'm looking for a company for a country trip, are you free?

If a girl is embarrassed to propose in person, you can write one of the listed phrases to a man via SMS, on social networks or instant messengers.

What questions should a girl ask herself first?

Before proposing a relationship to a guy, a girl must answer a number of the following questions:

Does he like her and what does she think about it?
Is she interested in being with him?
Does she have common topics of conversation with him?
Does she often quarrel with him or give reasons for this?
Why exactly does she need this guy?
Does the guy do anything nice or nice for her?
If he does do something for her, is it with serious intentions or not?

In order not to make a mistake when choosing a guy for serious meetings, a girl should collect as much information about him as possible:

from mutual acquaintances and friends;
from social networks;
from the young man’s colleagues or fellow students.

Key points to consider

True, before you start forcing events, you need to analyze the following points :

Freedom for a guy - be sure to find out through mutual friends if your chosen one is currently in a relationship or crush. In this case, it is better to look for another object for your happy future. Moreover, you should not start seducing a guy if he is officially married, even if everything around indicates problems in this marriage. Give him the privilege to deal with your personal life and direct your energy in the right direction - look for your happiness with a free man who can devote all his time and thoughts to you, and not to a showdown with his ex-wife.
Having a friendly relationship - answering an invitation from a girl you know at least a little is much easier for a man than agreeing to a date with a stranger. Therefore, if you are unfamiliar, try to fill this gap by using the help of mutual acquaintances or establishing contact on social networks. Plus, as you get to know each other better, you'll test your feelings and see if this person is worth fighting for their attention.
Risk of Rejection – To avoid being caught off guard by an unexpected rejection, you need to prepare in advance for different options for completing your proposal. Try to imagine what you will experience in such a not very pleasant moment, and think about how you will behave so that in any case you look decent.

Effective ways to hint to a guy about a relationship

It is necessary to propose a relationship to a girl with your companion when it is established that his intentions have not yet reached their certainty. For example, a guy has not yet matured for them and is in thought. Just at this moment, his companion may hint at starting to date.

If it has already become known that the guy is in love with the girl as much as she is in love with him, then she should:

start taking better care of yourself in order to look more well-groomed and beautiful;
try to make yourself known to him often, to attract his gaze; actions should be confident, but not daring;
as if by chance, finding yourself in the same places as the guy, for example, at parties or at college;
add your companion as a friend on social networks and start actively corresponding with him;
joke often using tactile contact;
make fun of your chosen one;
show feminine weakness;
treat the guy with something after his help;
take more interest in his family, for example, asking about their health;
more often support with advice, but not in an instructive tone, but in a narrative one;
talk with him on topics that interest him;
praise and give him compliments;
talk about his positive qualities all the time;
constantly try to be completely selfless.

TOP 5 ways to invite

Now let's move on to direct ways for a girl to invite a guy on a date.

Extra ticket

The most common and even a little banal trick is with a “disappearing” ticket.

"Hello! I have an extra football ticket. I was supposed to go with my brother, but he has an urgent business trip. Won't you keep me company?

Of course, your partner will see through your idea, but you can easily prove your impartiality by having a ticket. At the same time, there are some nuances in this simple option. Firstly, you need to clearly think about which show tickets are worth buying. To do this, it would be a good idea to become familiar with the preferences and hobbies of your chosen one. So for athletes, the best gift and significant temptation will be tickets to the game of their favorite team (football, hockey, basketball, etc.). At the same time, you will also need to prepare in order to be able to confirm your passion for the same sport. And also in order to maintain a conversation when discussing a match, we must at least learn the team players and their main achievements. For a lyrical hero, you can suggest a trip to the theater or an exhibition. For a movie lover, you will need to find out in advance his favorite actors and favorite genre, and then track the appearance of a new film in the cinema, which your chosen one will definitely want to see.

“Do you know that a new film premieres on Friday? I have a friend who works at the cash register. Maybe we can go see it together?”

Secondly, this approach, with a positive response from your chosen one, promises a long pastime. After all, first you will have to watch the game/play/picture together, and then you will have to discuss all this. And this opens up another chance for you to win over the guy. Agree with him, admire his knowledge, participate in the conversation, leaving him the palm. Thirdly, you should carefully select the words of the invitation so that your chosen one does not get the impression that he was called out of hopelessness of the situation. Try in every possible way to emphasize how important it is for you that this particular person will go with you.

“And an exhibition of reproductions of Aivazovsky is coming to us. I really wanted to go with you - you’re so good at painting...”

Correspondence on social networks

If it is difficult for you to express an invitation directly, then you should think about sending an SMS or other message on social networks or instant messengers. This method is also suitable for those who, embarrassed, blush, sweat, or otherwise react differently to difficult situations. You may also get confused in the words, trying to repeat the text of the invitation you memorized at home, and at the same time you will look unconvincing and pathetic. A note or message on social networks is also best used by those who find it easier to express themselves on paper. Only in this case you need to adhere to the appropriate communication style and not be alarmed by spelling errors. You also need to move to active actions on social networks gradually. You cannot immediately send an invitation to a date after the first like on your photo. It’s better if it’s a harmless proposal to take part in some city events together or visit a new establishment. Just casually ask if your chosen one is planning such a vacation and who will keep him company. And after that you can propose your candidacy.

“This weekend there will be a City Day celebration. You will go?" “I would go too, but I don’t want to wander around alone...”

Meeting at the company

For the most timid girls, the best option would be an invitation to relax in a common company.

“Listen, my friends are calling me to go fishing. I know that you are also a good fisherman, would you like to relax with us?”

There, among friends, you will be able to get to know your chosen one better, learn more about his behavior, character, get a chance to prove yourself and interest the guy you like. You will be able to evaluate his attitude towards you and his ability to care and provide attention. In addition, in a large company you can always find a reason to retire - take a tour of the house or site if the party is taking place at one of your friends’ houses, or go picking mushrooms or looking for flowers if it’s an outdoor recreation.

A simple walk

The easiest option for inviting someone on a date is a harmless walk in the park or city. Moreover, it is very easy to do. After all, you can simply offer to go for a walk after work or complain that you haven’t walked in the park for a long time and no one can keep you company.

“I’ve been dreaming of wandering around the park for so long, but it’s somehow scary alone. Aren't you very busy this weekend?

If a guy is interested in you, he will gladly support such an initiative and agree to this type of time together.

Extreme holiday

It is also important to understand that it is necessary to take into account the characteristics of the character and hobbies of the chosen one. If he is looking for adrenaline everywhere, then he will be bored in a cozy cafe or on a bench in the park. Such a guy needs to be offered appropriate entertainment. You can offer a parachute jump or other attractions, arguing that you have long dreamed of such an experience, but you are afraid to dare it yourself. By the guy's reaction, you will immediately understand whether he is interested in you and whether he is ready to share a dangerous adventure with you.

How to make a guy figure it out on his own?

A guy interested in his interlocutor willingly welcomes initiative on her part and then happily intercepts this activity and begins to act himself. For this reason, a girl must always be close to her companion in order to always be at his fingertips. So the guy will more often try to please her with something, and also show his need and strength.

When meeting with a girl, you should not forget about the fleeting touches of your sweetheart. If a guy reacts positively to such signs of attention, then he needs to be supported in such a decision and become necessary and indispensable for his chosen one, temporarily falling out of his sight.

But at the same time, you should endure it yourself until the moment when he finally guesses and decides to take the “first” step.

The following are also considered effective hints to encourage action:

frequent but unobtrusive presence next to a guy;
an original and insignificant gift that a guy will definitely like;
natural and attractive appearance;
flirting and inaccessibility going hand in hand, so igniting the hunting instinct in men;
innocent coquetry;
seemingly random touches and glances;
clearly distinguishing your companion from all others;
genuine and extensive interest in his person.

To further shift the boy’s attention to herself, the girl will have to:

try not to be too annoying;
give up comfortable shoes and clothes and switch to dresses and heels;
be more friendly and smile more often;
arrange seemingly random meetings;
come up with topics for interesting conversations;
actively correspond on the Internet and communicate more in real life with your chosen one;
constantly radiate goodwill and confidence.

Any girl who dreams of a serious relationship can propose to a guy. But an offer of a relationship coming from a girl should not be too aggressive.

What does "meet" mean?

We are talking about romantic relationships. Couples may have been dating since their school years, but this does not always mean that their relationship necessarily has an intimate background. Young people simply spend time together: they go for walks, to the cinema, theaters, to the skating rink, to amusement parks and other interesting places. Also, such relationships imply caring for each other, signs of attention, and support. At the same time, the company of a guy and a girl, as a rule, is aware that they are a couple.

Mostly the initiative for such relationships comes from a young man or a man, but, of course, exceptions often occur.

How to speak openly about your intentions?

If you suddenly come across a very slow-witted or timid guy, then the girl will have to openly declare to him her desires to date.

But for such a serious conversation the following must be suitable:

situation;
the character and mood of the companion;
phrases and words.

A guy needs to voice his intentions very carefully and in a private setting. The proposal should not frighten or alarm you. It’s better to start the conversation from afar, unobtrusively. Both standard phrases and poems can become assistants for him.

Psychologist's advice

Psychologists recommend being bright, free, enjoying the moment and allowing your chosen one to remain the same. Other expert advice:

In a girl, a guy looks for an outlet, comfort, affection. Tired during the day, a person strives to sincerely rest his soul and be inspired. To turn into a muse, you need to become truly positive, kind, and understanding. To do this, you need to think positively about the world, give compliments to others, help people and animals. It touches men and leaves a deeper mark than beauty and flirting. The guy will think with tenderness about his lady and dream of returning to her.

Among the many beauties, men distinguish witty and cheerful intellectuals who can aptly laugh at problems and their own shortcomings. A sense of humor is considered a rare quality in women. Some men enjoy good humor, while others admire “dark” jokes. But you should not make fun of the guy and without aggression. It’s good if the couple has common witticisms and funny words. They unite and become a kind of psychological anchor.
In order for the chosen one to have time to get bored, you need to give him freedom. Sometimes parting brings us closer together. Instead of painful expectations, it is better to devote time to a hobby or work. The independence and freedom of a partner make her especially desirable. An erudite and enthusiastic girl will always be interesting to a man.
You need to develop intimacy slowly, enjoying the process. Total immersion in a turbulent relationship leads to burnout. Partners get bored with each other. What remains is devastation and irritation. Let the rapprochement happen gradually. This makes the connection stronger and deeper. The halves have time to become close, get used to it, but not get bored.

In order for your loved one to dream of meeting, to yearn for him, you need to become a real outlet for him, a soul mate. At the same time, we must not allow ourselves to become fed up with each other. A balance of sincerity, flirtation and play is required.

Offer on VKontakte, by correspondence, telephone, SMS

Sometimes even girls can be scared to ask guys directly to date. In this case, they can do this through the social network VKontakte. For example, girls often start a personal conversation in private correspondence with a guy about what type of female he likes or about the presence or absence of a relationship with the fair sex at the moment.

In messages to your chosen one, you can also write about your own interests.

On VKontakte, a girl can also ask a guy if he is ready to date someone. If he answers positively, then ask if he is considering a joint relationship with her. More courageous girls are advised to directly inform the guy about their desire to date. This saves time and eliminates the need for workarounds.

Using an SMS message, a girl can write to a guy about her liking for him and that she doesn’t mind starting dating him. If such a proposal turns out to be unacceptable to her, then she can ask for a date somewhere, at which she will then communicate her intentions, but in person.

Telephone communication regarding offers of meetings with a guy is considered more effective than an SMS notification. After all, the message may not be immediately noticed. The telephone conversation should be positive and calm. Right away you need to communicate with the guy neutrally, gradually bringing the matter to the point. The beginning of a relationship can be considered the interlocutor’s agreement to meet or date.

Girls who are inclined to adventure can calmly notify guys about their intentions by throwing them anonymous notes with such content that it would be nice to get to know each other better at a designated place. Such a message can not be classified, but can be made completely open by sending it by e-mail.

You can also make a beautiful proposal to a guy with a hint of a relationship:

in poetic form, but this is done only if there is firm confidence in the romantic nature of the young man;
in a cafe or at a concert;
at a disco or party;
with a romantic message addressed to your sweetheart.

My ex suggested dating, should I give him a chance?

There is a saying that “you can’t step into the same river twice,” but many couples who once rekindled their romance are ready to argue with such words. So, is it worth dating a person with whom you already had to break up once?

Arguments against"

You are simply lonely and bored, and have not yet found a more suitable candidate than your ex. The force of habit is also not excluded - you have a common circle of acquaintances, you know all the features of each other.

If you believe that you can come to terms with your ex-boyfriend's shortcomings, then most likely you are deeply mistaken. You may hold back for a while and convince yourself that you are ready to tolerate unreasonable jealousy, detachment, greed, or something like that, but sooner or later your irritation will manifest itself with renewed vigor.

If you previously had serious problems with the young man’s environment (friends or relatives), then they will not disappear anywhere. Yes, these people, at the request of the young man, can pretend for some time that the misunderstanding is a thing of the past, but in the end the true attitude will still make itself felt.

Arguments for"

In this case, there can only be one weighty argument - your feelings for him have not passed. You still love this guy, and you realize that breaking up was a huge mistake.

How to behave with your ex-boyfriend

If you nevertheless decide to give a second chance to your ex-lover, then you have to take into account some nuances.

Don't blame the guy

in what he was doing during the period of your separation. Perhaps during this time he managed to meet other girls, often went out to clubs with friends, and spent a lot of money on some stupid things. Understand that then he was a completely free person, and he had no obligations to you. By reproaching a young man for such things, you will simply lose his trust. Fearing your reaction, he will prefer to hide some details of his life from you.

Don't remember the past.

We are talking specifically about negative aspects. All grievances must remain in those relationships that have already been ended once. Having agreed to date a guy again, you begin to write your love story from scratch, taking into account all previous mistakes.

Examples of successful phrases

To let a guy know about their attitude towards him, girls can use the following phrases:

“Let me stay near you for a little while, because I feel very calm next to you, that I don’t even want to leave you.” This expression is appropriate when a guy does something. If he still does not drive the girl away, then she will be able to continue her conversation on the given topic.

A walk together is a great reason to ask a guy to date.
If suddenly a young man asks for something, then you can answer him, for example, “Anything for you.”
To demonstrate the special distinction of a companion from other men, the following expressions are suitable: “I don’t care about the opinions of others, I’d rather consult with you” or “I respect honesty and good manners in a man. It’s a pity that not everyone has the same qualities as you.”

You can invite a guy to date only when you are sure that he is really interested in his companion and is confident in her reciprocity. Therefore, before starting a relationship, it is necessary to interest the chosen one in every possible way, as well as attract his attention. A guy who is confident that he will not be rejected by a girl is more willing to agree to serious meetings.

Phrases suitable for inviting a guy to a meeting or date:

“I haven’t gone anywhere with someone for a long time, and I really want to go to the cinema or a cafe, but there is no company. Maybe we can go together?”;
“I really want to take a walk in the evening. Maybe you can join me for company? Otherwise I’m scared alone”;
“Let me ruin your weekend plans? I really want to go out of town, but I can’t go without you.”

At the end of the date, you can say to the guy:

“Thank you for a great evening, I really enjoyed it. I hope he's not the last. Maybe we can repeat it again?”;
“I’ve wanted to meet you alone for a very long time, I’ve been thinking for a long time about how to quickly accomplish this. Promise that next time you will think about it the same way”;
“It would be nice if we met more often and spent our free time together!”;
“When you get home, call me so I don’t worry. Till tomorrow".

For a direct message to a guy about your intentions, phrases such as:

“I’ve been tormented for a long time by the question: do you have a passion? Am I not suitable for you as your girlfriend?”;
“I admit that I really like you. Are you okay with us starting to date?”;
“You suit me a lot. How about we date?”;
“Such a guy without a partner! Let me be your girlfriend before they beat me to it?”;
“I'm so tired of beating around the bush! Are you going to date me or not?”;
“Can I ask you directly, saving my time and nerves - are we going to meet?”

How to ask a man out on a date

1. The right moment.

When you propose a romantic meeting to a man, make sure that nothing will distract you from your conversation. This can be done via SMS or VK, or in a personal conversation. Let no one bother you - such a conversation does not need witnesses. Therefore, even if your proposal is made at work or school, you choose a moment when you will be alone with the person you like.

2. Don't be intrusive.

Don't stare at him for hours before you catch a moment when he's alone. You don't need everyone around you to understand that you need something from this guy. There is also no need to first write to him on social networks: “Where are you? I need to talk urgently!” When you are ready, simply approach the man and offer to discuss something, moving away from the team. In VK, wait until he writes to you about some neutral matter, or start your communication with a greeting, only then getting to the point.

3. Plan a date.

It would be stupid to invite a young man to a meeting, hoping that he himself will subsequently think through all its details. Think about what kind of date he would be interested in. Remember what he likes and what he is interested in. Perhaps he would be interested in a bike ride, a movie, a concert or something similar. You can simply visit some cozy cafe that serves delicious burgers or sushi (remember, which is preferable for the guy you like).

4. Be confident.

If you know that today is the day when you decide to ask a guy out, it would be a good idea to pay special attention to your appearance to give yourself more confidence. Exude calm and positivity, do not show your excitement, and especially do not put pressure on the young man. Show him that you would be happy to meet him, but nothing bad will happen if the meeting does not take place.

The young man should have at least a little idea of what arouses your sympathy, and he should not be incredibly surprised by your offer to meet. To make this happen, try to show the guy before that that you are interested in him. This can best be demonstrated through flirting.

5. How to lead to a proposal?

To avoid awkward situations, you must be sure that the young man will be free on the evening or day when you intend to meet him. The easiest way to find out about this is to ask him a direct question: “What are you planning to do in the evening?” If he is busy, he will definitely ask why you asked this question. Surely, he will guess that you want to meet and will offer an alternative option. However, if a guy says that he has things to do and the conversation ends there, then this is not a very good sign - leave him alone for now and do not find out his plans for the next few days.

6. Group date.

If you do not have enough determination to offer your interlocutor a one-on-one meeting, then you can get out of the situation in another way. Say that you were going to a movie or a concert with a couple of friends and you have one extra ticket. If the young man refuses, you will not be so offended, because it cannot be said that you demonstrated obvious personal interest, as was the case with the offer to meet “one-on-one.”

Who to recruit as assistants?

A girl who wants to encourage a guy to meet regularly can take as assistants people from her environment who communicate well with him. Such mutual acquaintances will inform the young lady’s chosen one about her desires and intentions, and will also contribute to their rapid rapprochement.

The assistants will provide the girl with information about the character and lifestyle of the guy she has chosen. This information, analyzed subsequently, will increase the chance of receiving a positive response from the prospective life partner to the proposal to date. To get a clearer picture, the girl can also chat with the guy’s friends.

It is necessary for the girl to invite the guy to date if he does not dare to take this step on his part. She must do this delicately and interestingly, using only hints. Questions are asked directly only to very slow-witted and timid guys.

What do they need emotionally?

Many women complain that they have been unable to arrange their personal lives for years. And it's not just a matter of luck.

Relationships will begin to develop if certain conditions are met:

Support and attention. Every guy wants to feel that he is accepted for who he is. If a girl looks at her chosen one as a person and sees value in him, then there is a high probability that he will want to become the best in the world for her. Then there is a desire to overcome obstacles, improve character, and work on personal qualities. Partner's approval

It is important for a guy that a girl shares his beliefs with him. Shared values and aspirations unite and create a platform for creating suitable conditions for future life together

When a man feels a woman’s consent in everything, he begins to act more boldly. A desire to move mountains appears, and any doubts disappear.

Thus, the psychology of men in love is an interesting thing. Each person behaves differently when in contact with romantic feelings. Sometimes it seems like the world has turned upside down. As a result, values and the habit of looking at the surrounding reality change.

How to avoid rejection?

For a positive response from a guy to proposals for romantic meetings, a girl must be able to present herself correctly, for example:

not be easily accessible;
do not hang yourself on the neck of your chosen one at every opportunity;
maintain mystery, but only in moderation;
represent a person engaged in self-development;
speak beautifully and gently in a gentle voice, avoiding filler words and curse words;
wash your hair frequently and style it attractively;
use discreet makeup;
watch your diet to have an impeccable figure;
prefer stylish accessories and beautiful outfits, especially skirts and dresses.

To avoid being rejected by a guy after trying to start a relationship, you need to follow some rules:

maintain sincerity;
do not make predictions about your relationships;
respect the personal space of the chosen one;
Don’t be too pushy so as not to encounter constant resistance.

If suddenly the object of the girl’s desires has another passion, then it is forbidden to even remember her while spending time together with the guy. It is better to overshadow all attempts to remember her with your own person.

If an admirer begins to give recommendations to a guy about his real girlfriend, then she runs the risk of immediately becoming just a friend for him.

At the beginning of communication, a guy should not be immediately frightened by conversations about the wedding, otherwise the chosen one will think that the girl is interested in getting married quickly. He will also be greatly burdened by long conversations about future relationships with him in marriage. Because of this, a partner can even easily run away from his companion without looking back.

In order not to seem vulgar to a guy, a girl should hold back her attraction to him until the relationship is announced. After all, any man wants to see a well-groomed and exemplary woman next to him as a future life partner.

So it’s better to postpone hints about sex to a girl until there is certainty and stability in the relationship.

To completely win a guy’s heart, a girl must learn to listen to him without interrupting. Representatives of the stronger half of humanity simply cannot stand companions who are inattentive to their statements. Their interlocutors must also be patient and submissive.

Asking a guy to date can be risky, as his decision may not be in favor of the girl. But you shouldn’t be afraid of this, because after finding out everything will become clear whether it’s worth continuing to wait for anything.

FAQ

What if he already has a girlfriend?

Believe me, you don't need a guy like that. You will spend a lot of effort to get him to leave his girlfriend. And in the end, over time, such a guy will be able to do the same towards you. And it’s always nice when a young man himself tries to conquer you, and not vice versa. But if you have already firmly decided, then show the guy your advantages so that he himself wants to leave his passion. Offer to meet so that later that same girl does not become your enemy. Do everything carefully so that she doesn’t guess anything.

What to do next when the guy agreed?

Next is the time to spend more time with each other. Make an appointment with him.

Try not to show your joy about this too much so that the guy doesn’t become arrogant.

What should I do if his friend is not indifferent to me?

In this situation, you need to be quite careful and careful so as not to ruin your relationship with the two guys. If you offend a friend and start dating another boy, it may end badly

Youthful maximalism and inexperience in this matter can lead to the fact that a friend begins to turn your lover against you.

Therefore, in this situation, you should try to explain to your friend that you have already chosen a guy, and you can continue to communicate with him in a friendly way. The main thing here is not to spoil your relationship with both guys and maintain their friendship.

How to get a guy to ask you out?

You just need to interest the young man. Be sure to find common topics and interests. If he goes swimming, then you go too. If you go to the gym or somewhere else, then if possible, try to visit these places. Common interests bring us very close. Don't forget about your appearance. You should always look rested and fresh. When you see that he is interested in you, start flirting and making advances.

You can also try to hint through your friends that you like him. If you are still going to wait for the first step on his part, then there is no point in doing anything else. The main thing is to show that you are also not indifferent to this guy. He must clearly understand this fact. Only in this case the guy will offer to meet first.

A beautiful and original proposal to meet

You already know about poetry. But what to do if there are problems with imagination and eloquence?

A very original way: take a beautiful photo of a relevant topic and write your proposal on it.

Another method is suitable during winter, when snow has already fallen. You can trample your proposal in the snow under the guy’s windows. Then write him an SMS with something like this: “Look out the window.” It's very romantic and beautiful. This can be done on asphalt too. But in this case you need to get paint. Yes, in case of refusal, it will be better if no traces remain. But it's hard to resist.

Who should propose dating first?

It does not matter. It's generally accepted that guys should say things like that. But now it won’t surprise anyone that the girl herself takes her first steps. If you don't want to miss the guy, then you better act first. Otherwise, suddenly there will be another girl who turns out to be more courageous. It’s better to propose first and get an answer, no matter what it turns out to be. But you will immediately find out whether it is worth waiting for his favor and some actions related to the proposal to meet.

Why doesn't the guy offer to date?

There may be several reasons for this:

He's too shy. In this case, you just need to wait. If you see signs of attention from a guy and accept them safely, then soon he will dare and the proposal will come.
Thinks you already have a boyfriend. He may have seen you with other boys too. These could be friends, brothers, and classmates. There are a lot of options, but the guy could come up with something more. Make it clear that you are free.
It seems to him that you are not suitable for each other. This is a more serious reason. If the guy decides so, then it will be difficult to convince him. But it's worth a try. Prove to the boy that you are a good girl.

That's all. At first it may seem that proposing to date is not so difficult and scary, but in fact you have to try to get consent. Have courage, focus and take the first step. Tune in for the best. After all, the subconscious also bears fruit if you program yourself in advance for a favorable outcome. Don’t give up and remember: if one guy refuses, then there will be millions of others in the world who will definitely like you.

How not to lose face if a guy refuses?

When a guy refuses a relationship, a girl should respond:

with complete calm and a sad smile;
without excessive dramatization and aggression;
with gratitude for your attention and frankness.

After this, the girl also needs:

be ready to continue communicating with the guy, but as a girlfriend, especially if there is an assumption that the chosen one will come to his senses and still decide on further meetings;
try to switch your attention to finding a new candidate for a serious relationship as quickly as possible;
avoid discussing the guy with your friends;
by all means refrain from running after a whimsical chosen one;
quickly distract yourself from unhappy love by intensely engaging in sports or creativity;
maintain a friendly and calm attitude towards the guy who refused her, without trying to convince him.

A modern girl needs to try in every possible way to get closer to a guy who is interested in her. By any available and acceptable means, she should encourage him to more regular meetings. Otherwise, you can very easily lose your chosen companion without offering him the opportunity to have a relationship with you in time.

Useful tips

Do you really like a girl, but you have no idea how to get her attention? Use our tips.

Excessive attention is harmful

Try to demonstrate that you don’t care about your beloved. This method works very well. Often girls wait for a young man to take the initiative and take the first step. They want gifts, attention, courtship.

You need to do all this in relation to your beloved. But when she doesn't value feelings, stop going along with it. Better try to concentrate on yourself and start to stand out from other guys in some way.

Then the chosen one will pay attention to you

More humor and jokes

Guys with a good sense of humor rarely go unnoticed. Try to keep your jokes original and relevant. It's great if not only your lover notices your charm, but also other girls and guys from the company.

Is your loved one sad? Figure out how to make her smile. Make up a funny phrase that does not contain vulgarity, remember a funny story.

Nice appearance

Girls prefer young men who take care of their appearance. To impress a beauty, remember a few rules:

Keep your hair and body clean.
Do you have a goatee? Make sure she looks neat.
Iron clothes, wash and shine shoes.

Communication skills

Communicate with girls at ease and try to easily find topics for conversation so that your interlocutor does not get bored. To do this, take an interest in current events, films, and new books.

Your erudition and charisma are perceived by others with a bang, and your beloved girl will admire you.

Erudition

If you want to please girls, then not only build your muscles, but also read. Guys with a rich inner world evoke respect and sympathy. Girls eagerly communicate with such guys. True, you shouldn’t turn into a bore and a nerd. Everything should be in moderation.

With open visor

It also happens: the meeting went perfectly, you agreed to repeat it someday, but definiteness never came. The guy continues to communicate with you as a friend and is in no hurry with romantic confessions. Well. It's time to talk directly. At the very least, this will allow you to get a clear answer to your question and no longer suffer from the unknown.

How to take a relationship out of the friend zone by inviting a friend to start dating?

Decide when the right phrases will sound. It is important that you both feel as comfortable and relaxed as possible. Perhaps you plan a special date that will put both of you in a romantic mood, and at the end of the meeting you confess your feelings.

Seize the moment. Did a man just compliment you? Say something nice back to him and start a conversation about your relationship. In this case, you can use both beautiful heartfelt words and jokes:

“You and I could make a wonderful couple. Don't you find it?

“Or maybe we can take the relationship to a new level? What do you think?"

“We have known you for a long time and, to be honest, you mean more to me than a friend. Shouldn't we try to build a close relationship?"

“I don’t understand how it happened that an attractive man was left without a partner. I am ready to correct this misunderstanding."

It’s better to think through the phrase in advance so as not to stumble over every word with excitement. You can even rehearse your speech in the mirror. Your task is to convey self-confidence and good mood. Otherwise, the voltage you radiate will be transferred to your counterpart, and the risk of failure will increase. Who would want to build a relationship with a person around whom they feel anxious and uncomfortable?

If it’s difficult for you to say such bold words while looking a man in the eyes, make an offer in correspondence. What you choose: romantic poems in an envelope or a VKontakte message flavored with emoticons is up to you.

A significant disadvantage of this method is the inability to see the emotions that will be reflected on a friend’s face after reading your message. In addition, you will deprive yourself of additional means of influencing a man: a pleasant timbre of your voice and hot glances.

What can you write to a guy in an SMS message to make him like you?

In the modern world, one of the main methods of communication remains SMS correspondence, which is carried out in instant messengers such as Viber, Telegram, Whatsapp, etc.

With the help of such messages, you can quite succinctly convey to your interlocutor all the necessary information. In addition, this is very convenient, because during the correspondence the interlocutor cannot hear you, and you can take advantage of this. For example, think carefully about everything you are going to say.

In most cases, women try to behave more restrained, thinking that the man should be the first in everything and he should have the initiative. However, we do not live in the Stone Age and women have long been on the same social level as the male sex, so we need to take matters into our own hands. And any man will be very pleased to see a message from his beloved.

Girls who know how to seduce a man even just with words written in an SMS will be more interesting to men and much more desirable. So if you want to be in first place for your chosen one, you will have to master this technique of seduction and attracting attention to your own person.

New acquaintances and old friends

On social networks we communicate with old friends and make new ones. If you meet with the goal of starting a new relationship, both partners know about it, and everything happens by itself, but it’s difficult to start dating a guy who is your long-time friend.

You can learn to use Photoshop. Download his photo to yourself and make a beautiful picture, for example, where you two are relaxing in beautiful places, and put the photo on your avatar. You can choose beautiful poems, insert his name there and publish a note. If you are embarrassed to show your feelings to everyone, then write your confessions to him. If you are afraid to send, then close your eyes and click on the “Send” button. Your heart will bleed, then immediately get off the Internet. And the next day, check your email and you will find out the answer.

What to write to a stranger to interest him?

Dating on the Internet in our time is already an absolutely normal thing to which we are accustomed. Therefore, this type of dating is used very often and it is very practical.

If you saw the man of your dreams on the Internet and would like to meet him, then it is important to write the first message correctly so that communication can begin.

It is recommended not to use various diminutive expressions, as they can scare off a stranger. If you are afraid of blurting out something unnecessary at the very beginning, then you can simply send him some kind of neutral emoticon. Look at his reaction. If he answers you, you can continue the conversation.

What should I write next? There are two ways here. The first is to simply find out how you are doing, write that the weather outside is beautiful. The second is to give a compliment. For example, write something like this: “Do you think good-looking men can be interesting conversationalists?”

Then it’s time to act according to the situation. You can send him your photo, but without bare areas. Remember the intrigue! At the same time, you can write a message after the photo like “Oh, sorry, I wanted to send it to a friend.” Look at his reaction. Most likely, he will appreciate this move.

And there is a third option. Write directly and clearly about what you want to get to know. Men love openness and sincerity in communication. And it is much easier for them to understand direct speech than various hints. But for some reason girls always forget about this.