Hello!
Many people have this question: “How to behave with your husband?” may cause confusion. It's still so simple!
However, this “simply” of yours makes your relationship far from the most flawless. Or I'm wrong?
...Surely your husband no longer carries you in his arms.
...He doesn’t give gifts just like that, for you, from the heart. And he gives only because it is necessary. For some holiday.
...I’m generally silent about flowers.
...Says few kind words.
…Spends a lot of time watching TV, computer or with friends.
...Or maybe he started staying at work longer than usual?
...Most likely, he himself stopped striving for perfection and stopped developing.
...And in general, he doesn’t talk to you much and is silent about his problems.
...He doesn't listen to you.
…Doesn’t surprise, doesn’t seduce, doesn’t appreciate you the way you want!
...Sex with my husband is not so passionate and animalistic.
...Or maybe he doesn’t want you much at all?
Surely you are familiar with this! I receive a lot of letters like this with similar complaints about husbands. Yes, what letters? I already see everything myself, fortunately, there are a lot of examples of this.
So here it is. If you behave in a standard way, the same way almost all married girls behave, then, accordingly, you get exactly the same problems.
Yes! People are different, but they all behave the same. Everyone has identical problems, and they need to be solved somehow.
And guess what?
The man is responsible for the spoils. He must provide and protect you. He must be strong, powerful, aggressive, cunning, smart and a good provider. Otherwise, this is not a man, but God knows what!
And you must be responsible for the relationship. If you don’t do this, if you want to throw this burden onto a man’s shoulders, then the man will begin to resist one way or another. A man cannot participate in building relationships. This is as unnatural as working for a woman in a hard job.
Therefore, it is you who must steer this process.
If you still think that a man should be involved in relationships, then marry a fagot or a very feminine man. Then you will build relationships together. Only, it’s unlikely that you will love such a weakling.
Now let's look at the reasons for a man's behavior in marriage.
At first everything is great, he tries, surprises, says big words, takes care of himself, develops, stands behind you like a mountain, spends a lot of time with you, communicates, carries you in his arms... And then there is a decline.
Decline comes when he sees that the goal has been achieved. You are already his territory. He won you.
Since a man is essentially a hunter, he has the instinct of a warrior for territory; he simply needs to start conquering something else. At least something. Very necessary!
It is very good if he switches to gaining social status, begins to conquer business, builds a career, and breaks European records in sports. Or simply actively working on himself.
But more often it happens that a man switches to easier prey. These are other women. Fortunately, there are plenty of these territories around, and they just beckon - conquer me! And satisfying the hunter's instinct lasts for a long time. You can “conquer and conquer.” This is getting interesting.
And its own territory begins to be overgrown with grass. He no longer carries you in his arms. Doesn't give YOU gifts... And so on. He's just not interested!
As a result, we get this picture. Or he gives up caring for you and switches to self-development. Or other women.
I would also like to add that this is almost inevitable. It is inevitable that after conquering you, almost 100%, he will switch to other wars. It's just that a real man needs to fight to feel like a real man .
Of course, you can do something very stupid and start rebelling against this. And in the end, you will get that his territory will begin to really strain you, and it will be easier to start staying at work longer than usual or spending time with someone else. Well, or, if you rush to the edge, you will start to drink alcohol and degenerate in front of the TV.
But you’re not like that, are you? You want a successful relationship, right?
Then don't do what the majority does.
I will tell you how to behave with your husband and build a happy relationship far and long. I will make you very ideal for my man. )))
Remember! ALL! DEPENDS! ONLY! FROM YOU!
You must understand that you will have to get involved in a fight. But this is the struggle that all women whose relationships have faded dream about. And you will receive pleasant emotions constantly!
So. You are his territory. And he must fight for her! I want to emphasize - he must fight FOR YOU!
When a man fails to win a girl quickly, he gets involved in a fight. Tries different methods, tricks and tricks. Trying. He gets angry, comes up with something, is happy when he wins, gets upset when he loses. This game must not end!
The struggle can continue forever, and then give a chance, then take it away.
The trick is that by fighting with his territory, a man becomes attached to it. She becomes his goal, his meaning of life.
Let's look at specific actions. How should you proceed? How to behave with your husband?
You must be unavailable often.
He shouldn't tell himself - that's it! She's mine now! He should always have the feeling that you are far from him, that you are slightly cold with your husband.
For example, when you are sitting with your husband in an embrace and watching a movie, then get up and sit separately from him. Say it's more convenient for you. If he comes up to you, then ask him not to interfere with watching the movie. The film is more important than him at this point!
Make it so that he wakes up and you are not there. You sleep in another room. If he asks why you went to another room, then say that you just wanted to.
Rarely pick up the phone when he or you are at work. You're busy, period.
Why should you fulfill your marital duty? The best thing you can do is turn him on, excite him, and don't let him. Let him come up with a reason himself.
I want to say that you need to do this periodically so that he has doubts about your feelings for him.
Fight properly
In life, especially family life, it is impossible to do without quarrels. But it is important in the heat of the moment not to say too much, not to offend, not to humiliate a person.
To prevent this from happening, follow the basic rules of a quarrel :
- don't insult;
- sort things out immediately without accumulating resentment;
- do not quarrel or make harsh remarks in public;
- try to resolve the conflict before you go to bed, and in the same bed.
From this video you will learn about five mistakes that women make when quarreling with their loved ones:
He should always doubt your feelings.
Therefore, stop talking about them. Don't tell him you love him, don't tell him you want him.
If he offended you, then squeeze out a smile. He shouldn't know that he can play on your feelings. He will somehow provoke you into emotions, you need not to react to it. Let feelings boil in your soul - don’t show them!
Then he will make an effort and begin to try to unbalance you. Give more expensive gifts, perform stronger actions.
After sex with your husband, don’t say that you had a good time.
Make it smarter. Praise. Say - TODAY you are great, and hide in the bathroom. Next time don't say anything. If he asks if you had a good time, then say it was better last time.
Take care of yourself
Never neglect your appearance. Give her special attention. Remember, you should always be the most beautiful woman for your man. Don't be afraid to change. Surprise a man with your beauty. He should always consider you the most irresistible and attractive. Marriage is not a reason to forget about your appearance. Some women forget about themselves after they get married, mistakenly believing that they have achieved the most important thing.
Remember, a man will be afraid of losing you if he sees that you are a self-sufficient and attractive woman. Do not think about unquestioningly fulfilling all his wishes and forgetting about yourself. If there is peace and harmony in your home, a man will never want to leave such a house. Know that everything is in your hands.
You must provoke him to emotions.
An emotionless life is boring. If we compare the emotional coefficient and the intellectual one, then the first is ten times stronger than the second. This means that a person is guided in life mainly by emotions.
If there is not enough emotion in family life, then the man will begin to look for it somewhere else. Can you guess where?
I want to focus on anger. A whole article could be written about this, but I will still write briefly about it in this article so that it is much more significant.
I want to show you a very subtle point. When a man gets angry, he is filled with power that women don’t know what to do with. And the man splashes it onto a foreign object. Breaks something or punches a wall.
You need to make sure that his anger grows into passion. Into animal and passionate sex!
As soon as you feel that your husband is beginning to grow cold towards you, or he is already acting quite coldly, then arouse anger in him and direct this energy into a sexual direction.
This can be done in different ways. You can get angry yourself and provoke a quarrel. You can simply provoke anger. In principle, it is not difficult to cause anger, but it is much more difficult to manage it.
As soon as you see that your husband is “seething” and is ready to throw out his energy, immediately provoke him to have sex. He will start up on his own and have a blast. You can provoke him with the words “Come on, fuck me harder”, “Is this all you can do?”, “Fuck me like a whore”, etc.
This will blow your mind both of you! And he will become addicted to you like a drug, because you give him emotions!
“No” to overprotection and control
A man needs personal space. Time that he can devote to communicating with friends, hobbies, or simply wanting to be alone with his thoughts. One. Without a wife.
And at such moments a woman feels abandoned, offended, unwanted and unloved.
What to do? Option two:
- by hook or by crook, leave your husband at home or go to a meeting with him, risking causing irritation on his part (yes, he will stay at home so as not to offend you, but mentally he will be where he was going);
- let go of your loved one with a light heart, and go about your own business.
There are many options: meeting with a friend, watching a movie, handicrafts, shopping, cafes, theater, beauty salon.
Isn't there any joy when your husband is not around? But this is already a problem, but not his, but your personal one, since no man is capable of being alone with his wife all the time - and this is normal.
And the fact that you dissolved in him is not very good. Try to step back, because the world has not come down like a wedge on your husband and his needs - there are many interesting areas of life in which you can realize yourself.
Think, shake yourself up - the solution will appear on the surface.
The other extreme would be endless calls and SMS messages, for example: “What are you doing?”, “When will you be?”, “Are you coming soon?”, “Have you eaten?”, “Why aren’t you answering?/You’re not picking up the phone,” etc. .
And this irritates men. Especially if it is repeated every five minutes.
At first he will answer normally, a little later - with nervousness, in the end, he may simply turn off the phone, plunging his wife into wild horror called “Something happened to him!”
Slow down. After all, he already has a mother, and he had enough control in childhood . Of course, you shouldn’t completely neglect calls, but you need to do this in moderation to make your husband want to call you himself.
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Be hard to get sometimes.
Often wives can walk around the house naked, change clothes in front of their husbands and calmly allow themselves to be touched.
This immediately indicates that the territory is under control. You need to be hard to get. Ideally, he shouldn’t see you naked outside of bed at all.
If he gets into your panties, then remove your hand and be embarrassed.
If he starts kissing your neck, push him away slightly and change the subject.
He shouldn't touch you wherever he wants and whenever he wants. Imagine that you don’t know each other well, and behave with your husband as if you were a stranger. This state will be transmitted to him, and it will start to turn him on. He will get involved in the fight. He's in the game!
Appearance
Often, a husband leaves because of his wife's sloppy appearance. How to behave in this case? Men love with their eyes and always evaluate the appearance of their spouse. Why do you need to preen yourself on the street, but for your loved one you can look anyhow?
You should always take care of yourself, but housewives especially often neglect this rule. What should you do if you notice something like this?
- Throw out stretched T-shirts and worn-out sweatpants from your home wardrobe so that you are not tempted to wear them.
- Buy beautiful home suits, slippers, sexy lingerie and pajamas.
- Take care of your hair even at home. At least just wash them in a timely manner and comb them.
- Apply a small amount of makeup before your husband arrives. The so-called makeup without makeup, it is invisible to men, but at the same time the woman begins to look fresh and young.
Mistake #8: Limiting communication with friends
Football, sauna, outings with friends. If all this was in your husband’s life before you, there is no need to deprive him of such pleasures after marriage. Just like you shouldn’t throw tantrums about your spouse’s interactions with people you don’t like. Believe me, the husband himself will figure out who to maintain a relationship with and what to do with friends, he is not ten years old. And if you really look at things, no matter how much you want, you will not be able to protect your spouse from either “bad boys” or “bad girls.” If your man wants to cheat, he doesn’t have to go to the bathhouse with friends; you can find a woman for one night at a business lunch in a restaurant.
Mistake No. 7. Preventing your husband from communicating with children from a previous marriage
Of course, a lot here depends on the man’s upbringing. Some quite easily part with children from previous marriages. But there are also those for whom such things become a real tragedy. And in such a situation, you should not force your husband to worry and be torn between you and the children, because this will inevitably lead to chronic conflicts. If you have already married a divorced man, be kind enough to treat his “baggage” from his past life with understanding.
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What do the experts say?
If a husband does not love his wife, the psychologist’s advice boils down to one thing - to analyze the relationship and future prospects. It is important to understand that all couples feel cooling at some point in time. As the cold drags on, the woman begins to realize that perhaps her husband has stopped loving her. It seems that he lives his own life in which she has no place.
Each family may have its own reasons why it seems that the husband does not love his wife. The signs need to be considered only as a whole. Psychologists believe that most often feelings cool down due to the fact that there was not enough emotional intimacy between spouses. Misunderstanding leads to the fact that the couple cannot find a compromise and come to an agreement. Problems grow, irritation accumulates, and quarrels do not die down.
Cheap manipulation
On the Internet you can find mind-blowing recommendations for regaining the attention and respect of a “cold husband.” They are associated with trips to fortune tellers, techniques for inciting jealousy and, in essence, are cheap manipulations over the will of another person.
A manipulator is a flawed, neurotic person who achieves his goals with flattery, helpfulness, the desire to cause jealousy, vigilant control, power suppression, in a word, anything but patience and respect for the feelings of another person.
It is much more honest, although more difficult, to talk about everything honestly and, if necessary, distance yourself for a while.
Celebrity couples who managed to keep their family together after cheating
Cheating on her beloved husband always hurts a woman very much. It pains her to realize that her husband has betrayed her. The situation gets worse if there are children in the family. They inevitably find themselves drawn into conflict and worry even more than their parents. Many women can never forgive betrayal under any circumstances. And others, on the contrary, are ready to leave their husband’s mistakes in the past and let him into their lives again.
- Matthew Broderick and Sarah Jessica Parker
The actress received a lot of caustic remarks about her extraordinary appearance. She was even awarded the “title” of the most unsexy modern star (on the pages of Maxim magazine in 2007). And how did her husband, actor Matthew Broderick, behave in this situation? He began to cheat on his wife with a young waitress. However, Sarah Jessica Parker is a strong woman from the big city. She managed to forgive everything, the couple got back together and became even closer after the birth (by a surrogate mother) of twin girls Tabitha and Marion.
- Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel
We can say that at the beginning of her relationship with Justin Timberlake, his girlfriend, Jessica Biel, had a very difficult time. He was a real go-getter, and he became an exemplary family man and father much later. It would seem that Justin never got caught in the “hot”, but gossip constantly appeared both in the press and on the Internet about his affairs with various partners. The actress's patience ran out in 2010, and Jessica broke up with Justin. Note that it didn’t take him too much time to set priorities and offer his hand and heart to his beloved girl. They merried.
- Hillary Clinton and Bill Clinton
The history of this relationship was very loud and instructive. The whole world was watching her. US President Bill Clinton had to resign from office due to scandalous allegations related to his intern Monica Lewinsky. He was accused of using his official position to force her into sexual relations. When all the circumstances of this story became public, Hillary took her husband’s side and stated in an interview that her husband was the victim of a conspiracy. Clinton's guilt was proven; moreover, he confirmed everything with his confessions. However, Hillary did not even hint about divorce, because even in the most difficult times, family remains first.
Thank you for reading this article to the end.
Hello, my name is Yaroslav Samoilov. I am an expert in the psychology of relationships and over the years of practice I have helped more than 10,000 girls meet worthy soul mates, build harmonious relationships and return love and understanding to families that were on the verge of divorce.
More than anything, I am inspired by the happy eyes of students who meet the people of their dreams and enjoy a truly vibrant life.
My goal is to show women a way to develop relationships that will help them create a synergy of success and happiness!
