A 2013 study found that up to 65 percent of divorcees reported adultery as the reason for separation. In addition, every second Russian and every third Russian woman has experience of facing betrayal. Interestingly, the majority - more than three quarters - believe that cheating is unacceptable! How to take revenge for betrayal? These people develop their own ways. A destroyed car or computer is not all that a person is capable of!
Cold revenge
A devoted partner is capable of literally anything. After days, weeks and even months of despair, someone comes up with the idea of sweet revenge. Women don't forgive. An example of this is the case when a girl hid a bowl of shrimp and caviar in a house that was being renovated. My ex-husband moved there with new furniture and a new girlfriend.
Over time, the house began to stink. They tried everything! They washed and searched the entire house. We made sure there were no dead mice in the ventilation and cleaned the carpets. An air freshener was hung in every corner. Nothing worked. Eventually, in desperation, they had to move out. The house was hard to sell.
Turn on your mind with peace of mind
When a husband finds out about his wife’s infidelity, the first thing that comes to his mind is to punish the unfaithful woman. In a state of emotional shock, you can do irreparable things, for which you will later be ashamed.
First of all, you need to calm down. It's difficult, so try to control your emotions. When the first shock passes, sit down and think about why your wife did this. Usually, when everything is perfect in the family, wives rarely go out on the side. Think about how you lived lately. Most likely, there has been discord in the family for a long time. Betrayal is only the first warning signal, indicating serious problems of a general nature.
When your head starts to work, you can calmly decide what to do next, how to take revenge on the girl for betraying her. A reasonable solution includes the following points:
- no physical coercion with violence;
- discard everything that goes beyond the law immediately;
- You can punish morally - you can also take revenge. But force cannot be used.
Sound reasoning comes to a cool head. Therefore, if you decide to take revenge, answer yourself the question - what do you want to get as a result? If you continue to love a traitor and are going to continue living with her, then be careful, know when to stop. Otherwise, the girl will leave you completely.
In another case, when being next to an unfaithful wife brings only pain - take revenge, forget.
Hit the weak spot2
Women increasingly want to teach a painful lesson to their ex-boyfriends or husbands. They strive to exploit all their weak points. Some women destroy their partners' favorite objects - a computer, a car.
Some consider the worst possible option for a traitor to be a relationship with his best friend or brother. Women will do everything to try to finish off the traitor. Someone arranges everything so that the ex sees ambiguous photos of the girl he just broke up with with his brother on social networks.
Some people believe that nothing works as well as rumors. When someone asks them why they broke up with their boyfriend, they answer in despair that he wasn't very good in bed, that he couldn't do much, that he was impotent.
Advice from psychologists: think about the future
At first, because of anger and resentment towards your wife, you may become completely immersed in thoughts of revenge. But in the heat of the moment you can make a lot of mistakes, so psychologists recommend taking a break.
Find a way to live separately so as not to see the traitor. Ask a friend to visit you, go to your parents, or, as a last resort, rent a hotel room. Only alone with yourself can you figure it out and understand what you want.
Understand what you want: save your family or get a divorce.
Before taking active steps, you need to decide: are you going to continue living with your spouse or are you planning to get a divorce? At first the answer seems obvious, but the next morning doubts may arise. Not everyone is ready to part with their beloved wife, deprive their child of their family and erase ten years of marriage because of one mistake.
Return to thoughts of revenge only when you have made your final decision and cooled down a little.
How it happens3
As a rule, the betrayed party has no choice but to swallow the bitterness of defeat and move on with life. Such surrender is not in the nature of all women. Some decide on much more radical decisions. They will not rest until they experience the sweet taste of revenge.
And although it doesn't have too much to do with common sense, it's not rational thinking at all, they do it. The only thing they think about is how to hit as hard as possible.
In fact, the sweetest revenge is one's own development. A feeling of bitterness and loss for the one who betrayed. It is much more difficult to lose a good person than one who exposes his own baseness. It is much harder to see how much this person has surpassed the traitor after breaking up with him.
How happy he is now with someone else and doesn’t need his ex at all and doesn’t even remember him. And you need to do this not for the sake of an external picture, not for the sake of him seeing and feeling sorry for, but for your own sake. Exes come back one day, so growth and a sense of power is the best revenge.
Someone tries to annoy their partner, but at the same moment loses respect for themselves. Revenge is a road to nowhere. But someone continues to do it.
An effective way to punish a girl
How to punish a girl so that she realizes her mistake? If a girl repeatedly commits an act that you consider unacceptable (after you have clearly explained to her why she is wrong and why it should not be done), the best way to punish her is to ignore her. Let her know that if she continues to behave this way, she will lose you. If a girl shows that she is ready to change, forgive her. After this, your relationship will improve. If she insists on her way, then this is not your girlfriend. You failed to interest her. The best course of action in this case is to find your other half.
Punishment
- a universal tool that helps achieve correct behavior.
This applies not only to children, but also to adults. Some even punish themselves - to develop will, kill laziness, overcome fears. What can we say about such foolish creatures as girls? Knowing how to punish a girl, you will correct her behavior
the way you need.
This is a powerful tool. It is effective when used correctly and destructive in the hands of someone who doesn't know what they are doing. Punish her the wrong way and she will stop respecting you and then lose interest in you.
But everything is learned by comparison, so in this article I will show you clearly how to punish a girl in order to achieve your own goals and strengthen your union. We will look at the most common situations when a girl cannot be left unpunished, and I will tell you what “preventive measure” should be chosen so that this does not happen again
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Step by step guide4
It is difficult to find a greater disgusting behavior than retaliatory betrayal with the person closest to the former partner. Not only because they respond to betrayal with betrayal. Male friendship is a special bond in which the main thing is loyalty.
This decision leads to disaster - the ex-boyfriend will still remain the same, and, in addition, he will lose one of the closest people. A friend also becomes unhappy, who may think that the girl really cares about him, but in fact she wants to use him.
The second strongest feeling in a man's world is love for a brother. In this system, there is an unspoken rule that no one is interested in a relative's girlfriend. Not at the same time, much less when one becomes an ex. It would no doubt hurt and ruin their relationship forever. This will affect his entire family, but girls who survive betrayal are harmful, aren’t they?
Another simple scenario - having caught a guy cheating, pretend for a while that he has been forgiven. Pretend to be in love, and at the right moment do something dirty in front of everyone, air out his dirty laundry about him for everyone to see.
Flowers every day
All the girls say that it is better to give a rose every day than 365 roses once a year. OK. Let's forget about wholesale discounts and get started. Give her a small rose every day for a month.
It doesn’t matter that she loves daisies: we are men, we follow instructions. In just a week, all the vases in the house will be occupied
In ten days she will sense something is wrong. By the end of the month, all the dishes will be occupied, including beer mugs (sigh), tall glasses, tea cups and even a porcelain teapot. Roses will be on all surfaces, including the washing machine and desk. Sweetheart will inevitably become sad, and between attacks of these “microorgasms” she will begin to beg you to stop. Here you need to make innocent round eyes and say: well, you love flowers, right?
Men's revenge6
Men regularly invent their own methods of avenging betrayal. If he works together with a former partner, there is nothing better than a “harmless” tip from the manager. However, you need to be careful not to overdo it if you don't want your ex to lose her job.
An innocent lie is enough that a girl paints her toenails or watches pornographic films during working hours. Such gossip will not provoke serious consequences, but, of course, it will cause blush and suspicion.
A point that is worth mentioning is necessary, but, of course, no one calls for its use - this is the height of meanness, and, by the way, it is illegal. However, men continue to often resort to it in attempts to annoy a woman. At a certain stage of a relationship, almost every partner takes “these” photographs with their loved ones.
Unfortunately, obscene images often become a means of cruel revenge. Even if the ex-girlfriend is Miss City and has something to brag about, publishing obscene photos is a radical invasion of the sphere of intimacy. You really shouldn't do this - even if it hurts a lot.
If the unfaithful wife has a sister, men try to check whether they have any chance of hurting the once beloved woman in this way. Biology shows that pheromones act in a similar way between members of the same family. Roughly speaking, there is a good chance that if you manage to seduce Miss X, you will be able to seduce her sister.
The task may be more difficult than for a friend, because in family matters issues of loyalty come to the fore. If your ex-lover's sister has ever shown interest in a man's personality, he can take advantage of it. Remembering only that he would destroy an innocent person.
Things to remember
No matter how you plan to take revenge on your wife for infidelity and betrayal, do not forget about administrative and criminal liability. Under no circumstances should you harm the health of either your wife or her lover, who might not even be aware of the woman’s marriage. The fact that your wife cheated on you will not exonerate you in court for the crime you committed.
What not to do:
- spoil expensive things;
- destroy important documents;
- delete important computer files;
- cause harm to health (for example, mixing medications and chemicals into food);
- spread false piquant rumors about your wife (slander);
- causing bodily harm to a spouse or her lover.
When choosing a method of revenge, you need to take into account the severity of the consequences, both for your partner and for yourself. Then you may regret and be ashamed of your actions.
If there are children
When their minor children become witnesses to a showdown between a husband and wife, this is one of the biggest and unforgivable mistakes of parents. For any child, mom and dad are role models, and the destruction of ideals is perceived painfully and can lead to irreparable consequences.
Do not sort things out in front of children.
The worst thing a father can do is tell his children how bad their mother is. Having become involved in the adult problems of his parents, the child is deeply worried, and it is difficult for him to come to terms with the discord in the family. In many cases, he even begins to blame himself for the parents’ quarrel, which should under no circumstances be allowed.
Even if emotions run high, you must resolve the unpleasant issue with your wife in such a way that the child does not guess anything - peacefully and quietly, without screaming.
Beautiful body3
After breaking up with a girl, a man has a lot of free time, which he can spend only on himself. It's time to join the gym and get in shape. If you previously carried a couple of kilograms of fat under your T-shirt, it’s time to get rid of it and get a toned body. Stop wasting energy on regrets and mourning the abandonment. Forward to an ideal torso and excellent well-being. Now imagine how surprised your ex will be and, perhaps, bite her elbows when she sees you so athletic and pleased with yourself.
Why jealousy occurs
What is jealousy and how to cope with it?
This feeling always arises when a couple lacks trust in each other. It accumulates like a snowball and eventually results in a major scandal. Of course, problems in the family need to be solved; without trust it is impossible to build strong and harmonious relationships. Often it is the fear of losing a loved one that makes us jealous of our other half. It is difficult to meet a woman who would dream of being her husband’s second wife - if your husband is friends with his ex-wife, then you should always keep your finger on the pulse. Friendship between a man and a woman is extremely rare, especially if they previously had a love relationship.
By its nature, the feeling of jealousy is destructive. If you are not happy with something in your relationship with your spouse, you should talk about it and find out whether he has a craving for a past love.
Understatement, lack of attention to each other, internal complexes - this is an incomplete list of reasons that provoke jealousy. Only a confident person almost never gets jealous.
But is it possible to feel confident if your husband’s ex-wife is constantly present on the horizon? How to behave with your opponent?
Brilliant revenge on her husband for betrayal - principles and rules of punishment
After a woman finds out about her husband’s infidelity, emotions such as resentment, anger, and thirst for revenge come.
In order not to cause irreparable harm to a man and to yourself, to try to save relationships and marriage, you need to follow the following principles: After finding out the reason for the betrayal, you need to choose the best method of punishment.
You should choose it based on logic and intuition. There are many options for revenge. The most humane punishments include the following: Show indifference, refuse sex and sleep together. For many, indifference is worse than anger. This method is good if you have a common child and want to save the marriage.
This applies to men who have a conscience. Having cheated on her with a woman of any social status and even having feelings for her, he will stop doing this.
Tell him directly that you are aware of his love affairs.
