Not everything is so simple in the world of men. They live with us, love us, but they play by their own rules. And we girls need to know these rules in order to understand what game to play and how to win. The more competently you show yourself in your relationship with your lover, the more points you will earn in the eyes of your chosen one as his girlfriend, wife and mother of future children.
Not a step back, or Rule One
All people make mistakes, but men never do. Statistics from the “School of Hunting” (sample of five thousand men) happily informs us that the likelihood of a man admitting his mistake tends to zero. This is especially true if the woman turns out to be right. A man, of course, can apologize, but with what pleasure he will blame everything on circumstances. He will say that he was forced: “I didn’t want to, but it happened that way.” The most surprising thing is that, most likely, he is telling the truth, and the most difficult thing is to look at this truth through a man’s eyes. I warn you right away that the culprits in his story will be his colleagues, his superiors, the situation, but not himself.
The only intention he has at this moment is a desperate desire to remain a good guy for you. After all, it is when a man does not live up to your expectations that he is most afraid of being bad. He himself understands perfectly well that he is to blame. When a woman constantly points out to a man his mistakes and recalls old sins, sooner or later he will begin to live up to your worst expectations.
As soon as a man is wrong and you are right, you inevitably face a choice: to be right and continue to defend your point of view, or to be happy and look at the situation through the eyes of a man. And you will choose the second if you value your relationship. As long as you accept his truth, while you look at him with faith and admiration in your eyes, he will strive to match his reflection in the eyes of the woman he loves.
How to understand that a guy is playing on feelings?
How to understand that a guy is playing with you.
5 ways to tell if a guy is playing on a woman's feelings:
1.he knows that you love him;
2.and constantly makes you jealous;
3.resorts to manipulation, even to the point of ignoring.
4. plays to the fullest, forgetting, even reaching the point of cruelty, bringing a woman to tears and hysterics, just to get his way, and sometimes not in order to get his way, but in order to please his pride, to exalt himself at the expense of the weak women, humiliating her.
in my opinion, if a man plays with a woman’s feelings, then he thereby humiliates her and spits into her soul;
5. The woman (girl) in this relationship constantly experiences suffering, mental pain, because he torments her. This is the main sign that the guy is playing with you, although I wrote it as the last point.
Beware, girls, players!
Appear more often with your boyfriend among acquaintances and friends. Playing on feelings may be invisible to the girl herself, but from the outside everything is obvious (a good friend will find her and open her eyes to the truth). It will be much more difficult for a guy to lie in front of others. The insincerity must be felt. When a guy is dishonest, there is always some kind of understatement, tension in the relationship and uncertainty.
A few more signs: the guy is indifferent to the girl’s interests; he is careless with her; is late for meetings or cancels them altogether at the last minute; may prefer meeting with friends to a date; does not want to introduce the girl to his friends and relatives at all; there are no attempts to please with small surprises.
In fact, it is possible to determine that a guy is not serious about a girl only intuitively. If there is no love on his part, this can be understood without any signs, you just don’t have to deceive yourself and justify his disrespectful attitude.
10 signs that a guy is playing on a girl's feelings:
1.Fickle. Today he is in love, and tomorrow he is indifferent.
2.Resorts to manipulation. Today he is free all day, tomorrow too, and then disappears for a week in an unknown direction.
3. Blackmails: “If you don’t be mine, you’ll never see me again.”
4. Puts the bed first: “If not, then you don’t love me.”
5.Absolutely unpunctual. We agreed to meet at 5, then he calls and moves the date to 6, or even cancels it altogether.
6. Lax in relationships. May prefer gatherings with friends and beer.
7. "Forgetful." Either he won’t congratulate you on March 8th, or he will forget about the New Year.
8. Avoids talking about love.
9. Avoids talking about the future.
10.Unpredictable in all respects and parameters.
I can say that it is difficult to determine, as they say, “you don’t know a person until you eat a pound of salt with him,” at least in my case it was like that. At first, the guy pretended to be caring and decent, and then, when unforeseen situations appeared in life, he simply turned into a scoundrel: he began to insult and humiliate me, and began to play on feelings. My advice to you is to try to find out more about the guy’s past, not just about the girls he had or didn’t have, but just what kind of family he has, what he did before he met you and how others think about him.
This is where I made a mistake, since my boyfriend and I lived in different cities, it was difficult for me to control him. And if you know more about him, it will be easier for you to determine what he is like and, if you care about how you will live with him in the future, then you will draw a conclusion for yourself - is he playing on your feelings and will learn a lot more new things and that’s it decide for yourself. Good luck!
Unfortunately, women are more susceptible than men, who often take advantage of this. To understand whether a man is sincere or not, try to become indifferent and withdrawn for a while, only for a while. You will immediately notice the changes that will happen to it. If he starts looking for a reason not to meet, it means his feelings are faked. But if he tries to console or cheer you up in any way, then most likely his feelings are pure, but you should not miss the moment when a man can play a role, as women usually do. In such a situation, you should tell him that you are pregnant, and then look at his reaction. But there are a lot of exceptions in life, so outside advice can sometimes do more harm than good. The choice is yours.
love is needed and often a man, understanding this, can really play
on feelings or heartstrings. Words (they are manipulated) can be played,
causing great feelings, pity, sometimes wants to cause jealousy,
flirting in front of someone else and looking at the reaction (the last of me in general
repulsive and I even feel disgusted to communicate with such a person that
shows such disrespect). Many men seeing a woman's feelings
They think that they will get away with everything and everything will be forgiven. Various women
There is . It happens that a man “painfully pulls a string of soul”, that patience and
love fades away. Men call women insidious, but male behavior
and psychology in general are sometimes strange. Confessing great love and pursuing,
running after a woman can suddenly cool off towards her. They can play skillfully with hearts
simple-minded women, considering them stupid, but if they meet a woman with
intelligence and no less cunning (with a core), which will not allow itself to be
resentment, they may love, admire, or consider her bitchy.
A man who really loves, he tolerates all the whims of his beloved, loves her in different ways, in curlers, and without makeup, and when she is sick and wears funny slippers and a robe. If a man is just playing, then he simply won’t be able to withstand the above things for long. such men usually pursue some goal, either it’s sex, then the relationship develops in an active inclination towards it, or it’s to show off to others, then the curlers with slippers won’t stand it. It’s very easy to check a man’s attitude, to show off a little to the woman, to be capricious, to wear less makeup, or just to ask directly; if a man really loves, he will not make verbose excuses and prove, he will calmly answer, or even be offended by such questions.
Yes, not all guys are angels, and many of them play acting roles in life, both good and bad. Probably the most important thing for a girl should be how the guy looks at you. After all, they say that the eyes are the mirror of the soul. The behavior of a person who plays with feelings does not look natural. Guys can be both good actors and not so good ones. But as for the prettier guy, the girls don’t notice that they are the best actors. Watch the guys' lips, because when a person cheats and sees that it succeeds, his smile never leaves him.
If you feel that a guy is starting to play on feelings, then you can only check his feelings in the same way - play on his feelings, do something that he doesn’t like. If he starts freaking out, saying nasty things or blackmailing you that you will break up, just don’t pay attention. If a guy is not ready to respect you now, then when in difficult moments, he will simply fade away.
The guy is acting insincerely! A boy who plays with feelings behaves completely differently! He tries more to attract attention to himself, but he doesn’t always pay attention to the girl, because there are no real feelings, everything is fake!
Genuine interest and attention A man in love will look for meetings with you, constantly call your phone and write messages on social media. networks or ICQ. Experiencing a feeling of falling in love, he needs constant communication and spiritual rapprochement with the one he likes. A man in love will be interested in: your well-being, mood, or how you spent the evening. He is interested in everything that happens in your life, plans and goals. How to understand the seriousness of a man's intentions by his eyes?
IF THIS IS A GAME, THEN A man regularly criticizes your appearance and gives advice about your appearance. Remembers only the first digits of your phone number. After the date, he sends him home in a taxi and wishes him good night. He constantly talks about the disadvantages of the family life of married friends and complains about their unhappy fate. He is in no hurry to introduce you to his friends, although he spends the entire weekend only with them.
Just watch him and the conclusion will be obvious. Listen to your heart, rely on your intuition and feel the true attitude towards you. Trust yourself and be happy!
Dust in the eyes, or Rule Three
All men brag, but everyone does it in their own way: some with a beautiful wife, some with a new car, and some with the number of books they have read.
When a woman admires a man, he feels special. And at this moment a miracle happens: a simple guy suddenly grows wings behind his back. Now he is Superman and is ready to kill the villain, in the sense of coping with any problem.
Therefore, admiration is what every representative of the strong half of humanity subconsciously expects and dreams of. The thirst and need for admiration manifests itself in competition with friends, in the desire to show off women's eyes. He boasts himself and subconsciously waits for approval from the outside. As in childhood. After all, if he’s “wow” how wonderful, they should definitely notice it.
When you hear any revelations from a man, do not stop him, do not try to dispel his illusion of omnipotence. Fantasy, even if it is far from reality, can become reality if you allow yourself to believe in it.
Confession of a womanizer
I was a womanizer for a long time, so I know which men are loving and which are exemplary family men. It is not difficult to identify a womanizer by external signs and manners. If, of course, you are very knowledgeable about the qualities of loving men.
A loving person is a person who desires to love or loves many other people.
In our case, a lover is a man who loves many women and wants to take possession of them.
Many women ask the question: “What kind of person is this loving?” With that in mind, here are my best tips for single women about identifying and interacting with men like me.
Brevity is the sister of talent, or the Fourth Rule
Communication plays a different role in the life of a man and a woman. For girls, the process of communication in itself is a pleasure. For guys, it’s just a way to get information. And everything they hear is perceived as it is. Ornate phrases and indirect requests do not find a response in the male soul. The simpler the sentence is, the more likely it is that you will be understood correctly.
A girl who is in a relationship with a young man sincerely believes that her lover should read her thoughts or at least guess about her desires. But the more veiled the request, the more hints, the more difficult it is for a man to guess what they want from him. In this mutual misunderstanding lies the cause of women's disappointment. And the man has a counter reaction - irritation. He feels that they are dissatisfied with him, but cannot understand what he is doing wrong and why he can’t just say what is required of him?
It just so happens that a man is a logical and sympathetic creature, but he is used to speaking briefly and clearly, receiving specific answers to his questions, and simply does not know how to do it any other way. By explaining your needs as clearly as possible, you make his task easier and get what you need: a new iPhone, a trip to the cinema, or a sweet goodnight text.
"The Iron Mask", or Rule Five
In the harsh world of men, it is not customary to show emotions. A real hero always wears a mask: no one should see his face. The ability to “keep a mark” and hide experiences is a distinctive feature of the strongest half of humanity. A man who has troubles at work is the most withdrawn, taciturn and gloomy creature in the world. All he wants when he is going through a difficult period in his life is for his household, along with the woman he loves, to leave him alone.
At this moment, various bad thoughts enter the woman’s head, and she begins to think about them. Having gone through the worst options for the development of the relationship, the girl becomes offended and withdraws into herself, and then the young man has one more headache. Or he begins to interrogate his loved one with passion about what plunged him into world sorrow. In order for a man to cope with something - to survive betrayal, resentment or solve a difficult problem - he needs to digest it within himself.
And we have to be patient. After all, after a man solves his problems in his head, we will receive a well-deserved reward: he will return in a wonderful mood and ready to communicate.
Qualities that women value
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No matter how much women are told that there are no ideal men, they continue to look for them. What are the most important qualities that the man “hero of her novel” should have? What does a woman need from a man to be completely happy?
Presence of an internal rod
A man with an inner core is a man with charisma. He has his own clear worldview and does not depend on the opinions of others. Makes wise and consistent decisions, and is always an authority for his loved ones. A woman sees strength and attractiveness in him.
Devotion and responsibility
Such men are devoted to their chosen business. They take responsibility for their wife and children. They will not leave friends in difficult times. They will defend their home and country if necessary. Being “behind a stone wall” is about them.
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Courage and determination
These qualities are necessary for a man. They give a woman a feeling of security. It is pleasant and natural for her to be weak, or at least to appear so. Such men want to give in, give their love and tenderness, and not show their superiority.
Physical attractiveness and emotional tone
A lethargic, lazy and dejected man will never be interesting to the opposite sex. Cheerful, strong, with a light springy gait and a sense of humor - women value such men at any age, be they 25 or 75 years old.
Sex appeal
This does not mean that a man should be rude and go ahead or have “oblique fathoms” in his shoulders. Sexy is, first of all, a confident man. He looks at a woman with a special look and has no doubt that he has the right to do so. His smile is meant only for her. He has powerful and sensual gestures. He touches a woman and she wants to submit to him.
Enterprise
These men don't wait for weather by the sea. They are proactive and ahead of others. They have healthy ambitions and passion for life. They always manage the situation and do it wisely. They do not hope for initiative from a woman, imposing a male role on her, but they themselves propose and initiate. It’s always interesting to be with them; they are creators by nature.
Calm and self-possessed character
No woman needs a “hysterical woman in her pants.” Her man must show calm and balance in all circumstances. He doesn't insult or scream. He can explain everything calmly and clearly if the woman is wrong.
Positive thinking
Such men live with pleasure. They do not look for those to blame and believe only in themselves and their strengths. Resilient in stressful situations. They inspire women and loved ones, looking for positive aspects in everything. They give energy, not take it away. It’s easy and pleasant to go through life with such men.
Herd instinct, or the Sixth rule
The herd instinct is not a relic of the past; it still drives modern representatives of the strongest half of humanity and is manifested in the male desire to unite in companies. There are three signs by which men join groups.
The first is by age. People of the same age have something to remember, because their childhood passed at the same time and the culture of this period will always be close to them.
The second is based on interests. The direction of men's interests can lie in any area.
The third is based on the presence of a common enemy. These groups have the highest levels of adrenaline and testosterone and the most intolerant attitude towards life, often coupled with a heightened sense of justice.
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In each men's group, there are topics in which our boys show the most reverent interest. Sex, sports and/or politics are what occupy the heated minds of men when we are not around.
If you are not happy that a young man spends too much time in company, you can either enter his environment and become part of the group, or accept frequent absences from friends as personal space and calmly go about your business. You can enter the closest circle of your loved one by adopting the following settings:
- The first is that your man has great company.
- Second, you like the place where they gather.
- Third, we talk about the desire to meet and chat with his friends. If we get a refusal, we return to point three in a couple of days or weeks.
- Fourth - his friends are your friends!
How to recognize a manipulator
No matter how skillfully the manipulator controls a woman, it is possible to recognize the player’s intentions. He is revealed by certain character traits that alarm attentive and discerning ladies.
- Constant control. Initially, it may seem that this is how attention and care are shown. In fact, this is a successful attempt to get closer to the “victim”, to find out his strengths and weaknesses. Interested in every detail: with whom the girl spends her free time, hobbies, plans for life. At the most inopportune moment, the man will trump with the information he has learned, putting the lady in an awkward position.
- Frequent criticism of ex-girlfriends. Talking about past relationships on a negative note is unacceptable for well-mannered men. When breaking up, both are to blame, but the manipulator is convinced of the opposite. And no compelling arguments will force you to change your chosen position.
- Limiting your social circle. Less frequent communication with strangers means more opportunities to control the situation. The manipulator skillfully hints that his girlfriends are envious, his male acquaintances want closer relationships, and his relatives hang like a dead weight around his neck and do not allow him to live in peace.
- Customizes for yourself. For the sake of his own convenience, he tries to change the habits and lifestyle of his beloved girl, assuring that this will be better for both of them.
- Doesn't keep promises. The words of a manipulator rarely coincide with their actions. Having spoken a lot of beautiful words and predicted a heavenly life without worries and hassle, he conquers the girl and successfully forgets about his promises.
- Playing with feelings. To make a woman dependent, a man begins to behave strangely. First he confesses his love, says that he cannot live without you, then he behaves coldly and distantly, and then he disappears completely for several days and remember as you knew.
- Excessive jealousy. Due to the constant fear of losing an easily controlled object of desire, pathological jealousy develops in the manipulator, and uncertainty is formed, which has to be carefully hidden from outsiders.
"The Dying Swan", or the Seventh Rule
There is no more defenseless and attention-hungry creature than a sick man. After all, even in conscious infancy (the age of three or more years), your boy was taught that if he is sick, he is the center of the Universe. Now you don’t have to do much, everyone walks on tiptoe and speaks in a whisper. It’s so nice when someone takes care of you, and your illness gives you complete carte blanche for this.
So at this moment you have the opportunity to show your best side. With your own hands, prepare chicken broth, which is so useful in his “near-death” state, spoon-feed him, straighten the blanket and play his favorite movies on DVD. And if you want to breathe life into your “dying swan” to the maximum, then you can do all this in a nurse’s robe from a sex shop.
Men and women have different psychology, and this can cause disagreement in relationships. But everything is in your hands: write the script of your life yourself, become the director and main character of the story of your own happiness.
